We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I'm am so lost in knowing what love is I'm always making the wrong choices where love is concerned I was born June 26, 1959, at 10:26 PM. I'm in my second marriage and we constantly fight all the time. I got married 6yrs ago after I lost my son who was murdered. I still have such a void and it's still painful to bear. I got married a year later in 1994 on my son's birthday. I thought this guy was the one but I found out things about his life style that bothers me. He was so wrong to hide such a thing from me. I still believe he is hiding more than he has already let out of the closet. He is a Capricorn born Jan 19th 1960.I cannot deal with his lifestyle. He says he is not gay he just likes to wear women's clothes. Back in May of this year I left him because I feel like such a fool to have trusted him. I believed he loved me and now I'm sorry that I was so vulnerable. In 93 when I lost my boy and I was looking for love and comfort I made a huge bad choice. I'm still married to him but things are not right anymore. I care about him because he took care of my daughter and I when I needed someone, but we fight constantly over him wearing women's clothes. I did not get married for this reason. I am so hurt by all this and have been trying to keep it together but I'm emotionally tired. I've been deceived, lied to and hurt. Yes I'm a big fool for getting married after I lost my son. Now I don't know what real love is, who to trust, or what to do. I'm getting so withdrawn my family says you made a vow before GOD when you got married so honor it. Yes I did and had I of known this before I would not be married to him. Please help I don't know what to do.
There is this guy who likes me at work and I told him to get away from me I didn't mean to hurt him he was born February 1st Aquarius man. He knows I'm married and I believe he wants to be more then friends. He is so shy kind and he make me happy to be around him but I didn't tell him that most of the time when he is near me I tremble. I can feel how his heart beats or when something is bothering him I'd love to be friends but its too hard right now. I don't trust to many people right now and I don't want to hurt anyone. Sorry this is so long. I just don't know what to do or who to believe and most of all it hurts not being able to be friends with this guy at work. It has to be this way. He has three wonderful kids but I'm sorry to not be able to help him with advice or anything because I have enough to deal with myself. Can you tell me if the man I'm married to is withholding more secrets I would be appreciative. I'm so afraid to try again but then again I'm married forever so what difference does it make. If Mr. right is still out there he's gonna pass me by. Do you have any help for me?
Desperately Lost
Dear Desperately Lost
The comparison with your husband is not bad. Yes there is some deception in an area regarding his and your beliefs and ethics but that doesn't mean that it can't work. You need to be supportive, talk to him about the way you feel and ask him to go to counseling with you. Regarding your friend at work, you did not mention his year of birth making it difficult for me to assess your comparison however he does fall in an area of your chart that deals with work, secret affairs and probable difficulties that could easily result in you losing your job. I would be extremely careful with your Aquarius friend. If you become intimate with him while you are both still in your present marriages you are never going to be able to trust one another in the future. For now you should be putting more effort into making your marriage work and less into worrying about the man at work.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I need your advice. My girlfriend left me ten months ago and I have been trying my best since to recover. We were together for about two years. I have been trying to work for personal goals in order to better my life: counseling and I am in the process of applying to law school. I am unable to get over her. I have respected her wishes and left the situation alone but I keep hoping for a second chance. I am constantly plagues by self-doubt. Aside from the heartbreak, I am studying for law school and I am uncertain about what school will accept me and whether to stay in New York City because it constantly reminds me of the past. Am I waiting and hoping in vain for my ex-girlfriend. If you have any advice or insight into the relationship or school please help. Thank you.
Sincerely,
Anthony
Dear Anthony
You didn't mention your ex-girlfriend's date of birth so I can't run a comparison between the two of you or even tell you what she might be thinking but I can tell you that you have been going through a very depressing time with transiting Saturn crossing over your ascendant and this has probably accounted for some of the trouble you are having letting go. Although this transit is still plaguing you there are good things that it can be used for. Education, self-improvement and in general feeling better about you are just a few ways to use up the energy that Saturn brings with it. It is apparent that you are trying to do all of these things and so I feel confident that you will get through it. With your natal Venus in the sign Capricorn well aspected to both your natal Mars and Jupiter I can not imagine you remaining single once the Saturn transit passes as a matter of fact there is evidence that you will probably meet someone through a friend, work, school, while traveling or even over the internet so don't give up. I must tell you however that between now and the summer of next year I really feel that you are best to put your time and effort into your educational pursuits and leave the whole relationship thing until later next year when you will have a better handle on what you really want in a partner. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio and Capricorn. This is not the time to look back or to live in the past and although transiting Saturn can have a tendency to make you do just that it is important that you look forward and work toward your goals. You actually do best with partners who are either a bit older or a bit younger. The partners your own age can be a problem. Regarding making a move - it isn't a bad time to do so but do it for the right reason. Sometimes facing your past is exactly what you need to do in order to get over it and move forward.
Eugenia
Dear Ms. Last:
Although I have a million questions, this one is purely selfish but I have been searching for guidance and maybe a few answers for so long. I am 41 yrs. old. An Aries born March 24, 1959, at 3:30 AM. Thankfully happily married with a husband (Virgo) who loves me and two (arggh) pre-teen daughters. I am very independent in some ways which is great since I married a trucker who is gone most of the time. I have always wanted desperately to travel, meet people, to understand differences and learn from them. And yet I did not go into anything that would take me anywhere. My quest for adventure is aggravating and frustrating. I've often had the feeling that I am supposed to be doing SOMETHING and yet either ignore the signs or am deaf to them. I had two Aunts that were Rosacrucians who one Christmas told me about their lives and said that although I wouldn't understand then, I would use their information in the future. ( I contacted the Rosacrucians and they asked for $$$) I look at those who have obvious gifts and sometimes wonder IF I have missed the boat. There is something very important in my life that is missing and I need just a nudge if you could oblige. Spirituality has always been very important in my life. I find myself questioning old beliefs and some days I'm so sure of the answers and other days totally at odds with them. This I realize can be attributed to getting older etc but the same questions remain now as they did when I was young. Why this ongoing need to travel around the world I would give my eye teeth to give my children an international education)and my need for adventure so intense yet seemingly so unattainable. Have I been given any gifts in life that should enable me to find my path? This is not just an age thing but something that has plagued me most of my lifetime. I just feel like I am running around in circles. I do know that if I could find some answers as to why I was put onto this earth then maybe I would be much more content. Other than this aspect of my life...I have been given many other gifts of which I am thankful. Just one more thing that is going to sound sooooo stupid but over the years I have come to some tenuous conclusions in my life and in a nutshell this would be it. I was a black Jew who traveled extensively, Married not for love but for ?????, was very educated and learned and treated those without it unkindly and have always felt that If I ever got to the "British Isles" that I would be finally going home. It would take far too long to explain my reasons and I am babbling now. Thank you for any insight you may have to give me. I have asked others before and been shattered to find a price tag on spiritual matters can be very costly. Have a wonderful day in the life.
Searching for more
Dear Searching for more
You have a well-rounded chart. Full of spirit and depth. Your desire to travel and expand your knowledge, mind and soul is obvious and with the transits you have ascending on you I'm not surprised that you are hankering to get moving. There are a couple of ways to handle your problem depending on your financial position, (no I'm not asking for money, this is a FREE site). You can talk your husband and children into selling what you own, taking the girls out of school and embarking on that worldly education that you would love to experience with your family. You can make a move from one place to another and experience what it is like to be in a different location. (by the way your chart is hot for buying and selling real estate this year) You can get involved in cultural groups in your community that will help open your eyes to the traditions and beliefs of those from different backgrounds. You can put your children in boarding school and do your own whirlwind tour. You can take your family and move to the British Isles and see how you like it. The list goes on and on, however
