We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I'm am so lost in knowing what love is I'm always making the wrong choices where love is concerned I was born June 26, 1959, at 10:26 PM. I'm in my second marriage and we constantly fight all the time. I got married 6yrs ago after I lost my son who was murdered. I still have such a void and it's still painful to bear. I got married a year later in 1994 on my son's birthday. I thought this guy was the one but I found out things about his life style that bothers me. He was so wrong to hide such a thing from me. I still believe he is hiding more than he has already let out of the closet. He is a Capricorn born Jan 19th 1960.I cannot deal with his lifestyle. He says he is not gay he just likes to wear women's clothes. Back in May of this year I left him because I feel like such a fool to have trusted him. I believed he loved me and now I'm sorry that I was so vulnerable. In 93 when I lost my boy and I was looking for love and comfort I made a huge bad choice. I'm still married to him but things are not right anymore. I care about him because he took care of my daughter and I when I needed someone, but we fight constantly over him wearing women's clothes. I did not get married for this reason. I am so hurt by all this and have been trying to keep it together but I'm emotionally tired. I've been deceived, lied to and hurt. Yes I'm a big fool for getting married after I lost my son. Now I don't know what real love is, who to trust, or what to do. I'm getting so withdrawn my family says you made a vow before GOD when you got married so honor it. Yes I did and had I of known this before I would not be married to him. Please help I don't know what to do.
There is this guy who likes me at work and I told him to get away from me I didn't mean to hurt him he was born February 1st Aquarius man. He knows I'm married and I believe he wants to be more then friends. He is so shy kind and he make me happy to be around him but I didn't tell him that most of the time when he is near me I tremble. I can feel how his heart beats or when something is bothering him I'd love to be friends but its too hard right now. I don't trust to many people right now and I don't want to hurt anyone. Sorry this is so long. I just don't know what to do or who to believe and most of all it hurts not being able to be friends with this guy at work. It has to be this way. He has three wonderful kids but I'm sorry to not be able to help him with advice or anything because I have enough to deal with myself. Can you tell me if the man I'm married to is withholding more secrets I would be appreciative. I'm so afraid to try again but then again I'm married forever so what difference does it make. If Mr. right is still out there he's gonna pass me by. Do you have any help for me?
Desperately Lost
Dear Desperately Lost
The comparison with your husband is not bad. Yes there is some deception in an area regarding his and your beliefs and ethics but that doesn't mean that it can't work. You need to be supportive, talk to him about the way you feel and ask him to go to counseling with you. Regarding your friend at work, you did not mention his year of birth making it difficult for me to assess your comparison however he does fall in an area of your chart that deals with work, secret affairs and probable difficulties that could easily result in you losing your job. I would be extremely careful with your Aquarius friend. If you become intimate with him while you are both still in your present marriages you are never going to be able to trust one another in the future. For now you should be putting more effort into making your marriage work and less into worrying about the man at work.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I am very concerned about my relationship with my daughter born on June 12, 1987 at 8:00 am. I was born on Sept 26, 1964 at 9:20 am. My daughter has been continually endangering herself for the past year and I am greatly concerned about her future, her relationship with me, her siblings and her estranged father. She has runaway from home repeatedly and her education is already jeopardized.Will we maintain the right direction for family life, getting her back to school and enjoying her childhood or must I be resigned to her making such drastic choices so early in her short life? My daughter and I are beginning to open up the doors to a strong bonding relationship but is it enough too late. Should I consider letting her be placed with family relatives or fight, as I have been to keep us together? I want my daughter to be strong where these shady characters don't play an influence in any further decisions she makes for herself but if a major part of the problem is me then I will do what is best for all of us. I realize you don't have a crystal ball but is there something in our charts that may help us understand, allow me to focus on some positive direction.
Out the door with negative
Dear Out the door with negative
The problem isn't you. You actually have quite a nice connection to your daughter but that isn't always enough. You can't be with her every waking moment and unfortunately she is making some poor choices for herself that I fear will get worse before they get better. The influences around her that you are referring to will continue over the better part of the next couple of years. She is very sensitive and can be swayed easily. Her chart also indicates moodiness as well and this can spark all sorts of stupid decisions. I don't know that moving her out will do the trick either. She will attract poor company no matter where she's living. Your best bet is probably to build as close a bond as possible with her and hope that you can instill some of your wisdom in her so that she can attempt to make better choices for herself. Sending her to a different school might help. An all girls private school may be the answer if there is one in your area.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I'm not sure if this message qualifies for submission, but here is my question. My boyfriend is a Capricorn and I am an Aries, which do not match according to Zodiac signs. But when I complete the romance compatibility we match 99%. So which is right? My birthday is 4/8/70 2pm, His is 1/8/65 don't know time. We don't suffer from the problems stated under a Zodiac match, Aries spending too much and Capricorn being frugal, in fact it is opposite for us. I just want to understand how the zodiac and charts differ so much.
Thank you
confused Aries
Dear Confused Aries
I'm not the least bit surprised that you match up to your Capricorn partner nor that you have some role reversals regarding frugality. Your chart denotes that you only have your natal Sun in Aries and natal Moon, Mercury, Venus, Mars and Saturn in the frugal sign Taurus. Your boyfriend only has his natal Sun in the sign Capricorn with his Mercury and Venus in the more easy-going, spend if you want, sign Sagittarius. The fact that your partner also has his Moon and Saturn in the sign Pisces, his Mars, Uranus and Pluto in Virgo with his Jupiter in Taurus and Neptune in Scorpio gives him just enough down to earth qualities to make your relationship sparkle. Most people don't understand the difference between Sun Sign astrology (entertainment and fun) and real time astrology which is more like a fingerprint of a persons character and life. For anyone who really wants to find out how compatible they are to someone else the best way to do so is to use our compatibility feature that will take an in-depth look at each planet in both charts and accurately determine how good you are for one another.
Eugenia
