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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Lost in Love

Dear Eugenia,

I'm am so lost in knowing what love is I'm always making the wrong choices where love is concerned I was born June 26, 1959, at 10:26 PM. I'm in my second marriage and we constantly fight all the time. I got married 6yrs ago after I lost my son who was murdered. I still have such a void and it's still painful to bear. I got married a year later in 1994 on my son's birthday. I thought this guy was the one but I found out things about his life style that bothers me. He was so wrong to hide such a thing from me. I still believe he is hiding more than he has already let out of the closet. He is a Capricorn born Jan 19th 1960.I cannot deal with his lifestyle. He says he is not gay he just likes to wear women's clothes. Back in May of this year I left him because I feel like such a fool to have trusted him. I believed he loved me and now I'm sorry that I was so vulnerable. In 93 when I lost my boy and I was looking for love and comfort I made a huge bad choice. I'm still married to him but things are not right anymore. I care about him because he took care of my daughter and I when I needed someone, but we fight constantly over him wearing women's clothes. I did not get married for this reason. I am so hurt by all this and have been trying to keep it together but I'm emotionally tired. I've been deceived, lied to and hurt. Yes I'm a big fool for getting married after I lost my son. Now I don't know what real love is, who to trust, or what to do. I'm getting so withdrawn my family says you made a vow before GOD when you got married so honor it. Yes I did and had I of known this before I would not be married to him. Please help I don't know what to do.

There is this guy who likes me at work and I told him to get away from me I didn't mean to hurt him he was born February 1st Aquarius man. He knows I'm married and I believe he wants to be more then friends. He is so shy kind and he make me happy to be around him but I didn't tell him that most of the time when he is near me I tremble. I can feel how his heart beats or when something is bothering him I'd love to be friends but its too hard right now. I don't trust to many people right now and I don't want to hurt anyone. Sorry this is so long. I just don't know what to do or who to believe and most of all it hurts not being able to be friends with this guy at work. It has to be this way. He has three wonderful kids but I'm sorry to not be able to help him with advice or anything because I have enough to deal with myself. Can you tell me if the man I'm married to is withholding more secrets I would be appreciative. I'm so afraid to try again but then again I'm married forever so what difference does it make. If Mr. right is still out there he's gonna pass me by. Do you have any help for me?

Desperately Lost

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Dear Desperately Lost

The comparison with your husband is not bad. Yes there is some deception in an area regarding his and your beliefs and ethics but that doesn't mean that it can't work. You need to be supportive, talk to him about the way you feel and ask him to go to counseling with you. Regarding your friend at work, you did not mention his year of birth making it difficult for me to assess your comparison however he does fall in an area of your chart that deals with work, secret affairs and probable difficulties that could easily result in you losing your job. I would be extremely careful with your Aquarius friend. If you become intimate with him while you are both still in your present marriages you are never going to be able to trust one another in the future. For now you should be putting more effort into making your marriage work and less into worrying about the man at work.

Eugenia

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Article: Confused Scorpio

Dear Eugenia,

I was born Nov. 10 1971 at 6:18pm. My husband born Nov. 1 1960 at 8 am. Our son born Oct. 26 1996 at 3:12 am. 3 Scorps under one roof! I met my husband at 17 and have been with him since. We have been married for 6 yrs. I have gone through many changes in the past few yrs. I believe my Saturn in return at this time. I am questioning my relationship and feel unfulfilled. However I have built a life with this man and we are raising our son together. I am older now and more aware of what I need in a relationship. I honestly feel if I had met my husband now, I would have not wanted to start a relationship with him. We have gone through many tough times and I do care about him. We make an excellent team at times but we disagree a lot and it ends up being a heated debate. From how we should raise our son and our personal goals. My husband has problems with chemical abuse. He quit drinking at the beginning of our relationship but never gave up smoking pot. At times I feel pulled down by him and do things I feel are no good for me. I am completely faithful to my husband but feel guilt by the strong attraction I have to other men. I have been getting crushes, and I feel uncertain regarding my marriage. My cynical scorpion side takes over and I find myself picking my husband apart. He tends to exaggerate stories and embarrasses me when we go out on occasion. By offending someone with being physically crude or saying an off color joke etc. We have built a life together and financially we would have to sell our home if we broke up. He is a good father and my son adores him. I feel like I would mess up everyone's life if I chose to end the marriage. I work with a man and there has been an instant attraction from day one. His birthday is July 10 1974. This guy has a live-in girlfriend. I feel something very intense when I am around him and it seems like it is a mutual feeling. I do not intend to pursue anything outside my marriage, however the changes in me are causing me to reevaluate my life. I would like it if you could tell me what the charts say with the birth data I have given you.

Best Regards,

Confused Scorpio

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Dear Confused Scorpio

Your comparison with your husband was lacking but workable. I never really mind same sign relationships however in your case although you were born under the sign Scorpio you have Mercury, Venus, Jupiter and Neptune in Sagittarius, Uranus and Pluto in Libra, Moon in Virgo, Mars in Pisces and Saturn in Gemini with Gemini rising. Now that doesn't make for a very strong Scorpio. With transiting Saturn sitting on your natal Saturn you are going through your Saturn return and this can cause you to reevaluate your life up to this point. It is a turning point that can be depressing, insightful and hurtful. You can either make the necessary changes that will in turn make your life better or you can settle and leave things the way they are. If you are going to leave your husband I believe that it will be over the course of the next year. However, do not leave him for your Cancer attraction. This man does match up to you but the sign of sorrow is present and it isn't likely that this relationship will be lasting even if you do get it off the ground. I believe that your attraction to him and to other men is due to your dissatisfaction with your own life and with your husband. It's time to start communicating with your husband. Consider seeing a marriage counselor. Both you and your husband have the planet Venus in the sign Sagittarius in your natal charts and this is usually indicative of someone who is a bachelor at heart. Your husband may be feeling the same way that you are.

Eugenia

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Article: From Pained Pisces

Dear Eugenia,

I'm a Pisces born on an Arian cusp on March 19, 1987 at 10:30pm. I'm facing several issues but they all tie in with one main thing, that being my life as a whole. I'm only eighteen years old but I feel like I'm stuck in a rut. I exude no confidence, I lack friends because I'm incapable of trusting people to the fullest extent, I can't keep a job because none of them interest me whatsoever, I can't even manage to repeat my final year in school because I find it difficult to even get up in the morning. I don't know what's going on anymore, I never used to be like this, I had so many friends in the past, and even enjoyed high school at one point but I fail to find happiness in anything I do that doesn't require me being at home, alone, doing solitary things. My past lover and I broke up around five months ago, I thought my feelings for him were going away but lately my feelings for him have come back somewhat. He's a Capricorn born on January 14, 1988, I'm unsure of his birth time. As far as I can tell his interests are directed upon another female, who lives in a different state. Unfortunately I'm unsure of her birth date. A few nights ago I dreamt he died, and it scared me beyond belief. I woke up crying and even went as far as checking the obituaries in the morning. I still have some feeling that there may be a chance for us but I'm unsure. My dreams have been scaring me in general as well. I dream bizarre, disturbing things that make no sense and consequently awake me in the middle of the night feeling uneasy. I don't know if I'm dreaming these things because of my current outlook and feelings in life or not, but either way I just don't know what to expect or look forward to from life anymore. I crave to be happy, to be happy with someone, namely my ex, but I don't know what would happen in that situation. Is there any explanation for this ongoing distress or is it all just in my head?

Thank you for your time & help.

Yours sincerely,
Pained Pisces

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Dear Pained Pisces

You have been and are still going through some emotional deception that appears to be playing with your subconscious mind. This is due to transiting Neptune however it is all in the way you handle this transit as to how it manifests itself. In your case you are letting it take over result being bad dreams, lack of confidence, looking back instead of forward and so forth. It also has played havoc where educational pursuits are concerned making you confused as to what you want to do with your life in the future. You don't have a bad chart but you are letting a difficult transit take over and this has to stop. This transit can also be highly creative if put to proper use. Your chart indicates that you should be focusing on your future and that you should be socializing not hiding at home. Your Capricorn ex didn't match up to your chart very well and I have my doubts as to whether that relationship was really any good for you. It could be the reason you have lost your confidence and are feeling so depressed and reclusive. You are in a high cycle until the fall of this year regarding love and romance however this very same transit can also bring a past partner back into your life. I strongly suggest that you look for someone new instead of wasting your time trying to reunite with your Goat. You should be trying to finish your high school if possible between now and the fall by taking night courses or whatever it takes to get the credits you need. College or an apprenticeship should be your goal for the fall if possible or early next year. Your chart is favorable regarding getting out and meeting people and potential lovers. It is vital that you get involved in groups or activities that interest you so that you will meet someone with similar interests. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra, Sagittarius and Aquarius.

Eug

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