We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I'm am so lost in knowing what love is I'm always making the wrong choices where love is concerned I was born June 26, 1959, at 10:26 PM. I'm in my second marriage and we constantly fight all the time. I got married 6yrs ago after I lost my son who was murdered. I still have such a void and it's still painful to bear. I got married a year later in 1994 on my son's birthday. I thought this guy was the one but I found out things about his life style that bothers me. He was so wrong to hide such a thing from me. I still believe he is hiding more than he has already let out of the closet. He is a Capricorn born Jan 19th 1960.I cannot deal with his lifestyle. He says he is not gay he just likes to wear women's clothes. Back in May of this year I left him because I feel like such a fool to have trusted him. I believed he loved me and now I'm sorry that I was so vulnerable. In 93 when I lost my boy and I was looking for love and comfort I made a huge bad choice. I'm still married to him but things are not right anymore. I care about him because he took care of my daughter and I when I needed someone, but we fight constantly over him wearing women's clothes. I did not get married for this reason. I am so hurt by all this and have been trying to keep it together but I'm emotionally tired. I've been deceived, lied to and hurt. Yes I'm a big fool for getting married after I lost my son. Now I don't know what real love is, who to trust, or what to do. I'm getting so withdrawn my family says you made a vow before GOD when you got married so honor it. Yes I did and had I of known this before I would not be married to him. Please help I don't know what to do.
There is this guy who likes me at work and I told him to get away from me I didn't mean to hurt him he was born February 1st Aquarius man. He knows I'm married and I believe he wants to be more then friends. He is so shy kind and he make me happy to be around him but I didn't tell him that most of the time when he is near me I tremble. I can feel how his heart beats or when something is bothering him I'd love to be friends but its too hard right now. I don't trust to many people right now and I don't want to hurt anyone. Sorry this is so long. I just don't know what to do or who to believe and most of all it hurts not being able to be friends with this guy at work. It has to be this way. He has three wonderful kids but I'm sorry to not be able to help him with advice or anything because I have enough to deal with myself. Can you tell me if the man I'm married to is withholding more secrets I would be appreciative. I'm so afraid to try again but then again I'm married forever so what difference does it make. If Mr. right is still out there he's gonna pass me by. Do you have any help for me?
Desperately Lost
Dear Desperately Lost
The comparison with your husband is not bad. Yes there is some deception in an area regarding his and your beliefs and ethics but that doesn't mean that it can't work. You need to be supportive, talk to him about the way you feel and ask him to go to counseling with you. Regarding your friend at work, you did not mention his year of birth making it difficult for me to assess your comparison however he does fall in an area of your chart that deals with work, secret affairs and probable difficulties that could easily result in you losing your job. I would be extremely careful with your Aquarius friend. If you become intimate with him while you are both still in your present marriages you are never going to be able to trust one another in the future. For now you should be putting more effort into making your marriage work and less into worrying about the man at work.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
I participated in the Seoul Forum. It was great to see you in Seoul Forum but it was a pity that I couldn't talk to you personally. I had a lot to ask that night, about astrology and most of all, about my personal problems. That's why I'm writing to you. Please listen to my problem. I don't know whether our distance is too far away. Please help me.
I was born on Aug 17, 1976 at 4:45 am. What I'd mostly like to know is about love. I recently broke up with my boyfriend whom I had been going out for 5 years. You had implied that we would split up in my horoscope but I wasn't ready to do so but it happened anyway. However, the problem is that I want to know if this is my fate, should I let him go. I thought I could get over him but my heart says no. Are we really over? What can I do to get him back? What should I do if I have to forget him? Please help me. I don't have the confidence to live alone, without him. I can't imagine him being happy without me. I even have thought about death.
Please tell me what I should do. If there is a way, how long do I have to wait and what should I do? Please tell me how I can see him again. Or at least the way I can make him think of me. If our fate is over,...no ...you know I don't want that. Please give me advice..... Wish you happiness and hope you give can give me some hope. It is a blessing that you have the ability to help others. I'll pray for you while I wait your reply.
Upset and Emotional
Dear Upset and Emotional
It would have helped me considerably if you had mentioned your boyfriends birth date. Looking at your chart I can tell you however that there is a lot of deception, disillusionment and uncertainty moving through an area of your chart that deals with your personal relationship. I believe that it is possible between now and the middle of next summer to rekindle the flame with your ex if that is what you want to do. I would first however ask you to run a compatibility check on my astroeast.com web site in order to be sure that he is the one for you. If your comparison is not great I suggest that you get out and start meeting new partners that will be better for you. Over the course of the next ten months you will be in a high cycle for love and romance and if you stay at home crying over this man you will miss the opportunity to meet someone who you could potentially love even more. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra Sagittarius and Aquarius.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
My Daughter, December,14th,1986, and? my son, August,20th,1988, are tearing me up inside.? We have had a very busy year, confusing and some-what unsettling. Now that a few of my accomplishments have been met, they are no longer apart of my daily life.? They are both so young, and they both need to grow up so fast. I am really hurting inside I cry, when I am alone, which is quite often the past few weeks. I do not see why this is happening to us. They rebel against my rules, but go live with others and abide by their stricter rules!! What is going on? Where is this all going to lead? Eugenia, you helped me before, I need you again. I need to know what I am doing so wrong. It really is killing me inside; help me to understand these challenges, and obstacles. Why can't they grow and prosper in my care? I was born April 20, 1970, at 2 am.
Rejected Mom
Hi Rejected Mom
You have a good chart and a very capable chart in so many ways however where children are concerned (having them, raising them) you have a Neptune Mars opposition that stands in your way. This causes uncertainty, confusion, and anger and it unfortunately hooks up to the Moon in both your children?s charts negatively. This means that there is emotional deception and disillusionment when it comes to the way they relate to you and you to them.
Your chart denotes that right now you should be focusing on career and moving in a direction that will help you grow and prosper financially and professionally. Your home environment continues to show weakness, deception and plenty of confusion until the spring of 2009. This may make it difficult for you to do the job necessary in order to raise your children. Your children do have a rebellious nature and if someone else can make the difference or help to get them through their growing years without too many incidence it will be a blessing. Consider yourself lucky that you have someone who can handle your children. As for you ? I know it must hurt but you have to do what?s best for all of you and in this situation I believe that as long as you can let your children know that you love them and you work hard in order to build financially so that you can provide extra?s for them that you will be accomplishing the best that you can.
Eugenia
