We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I am a 43-year-old woman born February 24, 1957, at 3:45 AM, and my parent's are still trying to tell me how to run my life. They broke up my last marriage of 13 years, Now I am remarried again, and they don't like the husband I have now. They have a lot of money they inherited, and they hang this over my head all the time. Saying if you don't do what we say we will take you out of our will. I think they are being so foolish, they act like children. I am very happy with the marriage I have now, but afraid they will try to break us up also. Why do they act this way? Should I stay away from them? Why do they want so much control? They have never helped me in anyway I have always taken care of my children and myself. So what's the deal?
Controlling Parents
Dear Controlling Parents
You didn't submit your parents or your husbands birth data so I will have to base my answer on your chart alone. From what I can see you are an independent person who should not be in this position. Others can only control you if you allow it to happen. Tell your parents that you don't care about the money, instead you care about your immediate family and you wish that they would accept you and your loved ones for who you are. Unfortunately, it is not up to you to make the adjustment so you will have to leave it in their hands to do so. Until that time keep your distance.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
Pleeeaaassse help me!
I just moved into a new place with my boyfriend but I'm not sure he's the one. Some days I convince myself that everything is okay then other days I wonder if I can handle all the issues he has with his ex wife, children and him not wanting anymore kids. (his b-day is: Jan 11/62 at 3am and mine August 26, 1964, at 6 am). We have been arguing so much more ever since we moved in and I'm ready to walk. Should I stay and give it a chance or is it best to leave now?
Thanks,
Torn!
Hi Torn!
You and your partner match up very well astrologically. It's times like these that you discover how strong your character is as well as his. His chart indicates that he has difficult transits regarding divorce settlement, legal matters, financial agreements and so forth but this will continue to haunt him for the next two years and like it or not he does have to be responsible to his first family regardless of how his ex is responding. All that being said he should probably try to put a stop to any harassment that he may be subject to by coming to a suitable arrangement that both he his ex and his children stick to. Once that is done things at least have a chance to settle down. Your chart indicates that you are moving into a period of uncertainty and you must try to curb any desire to overreact or to make changes suddenly that you might regret later on. Regarding having children of your own you will be feeling the urge especially over the course of the next year and I do believe that the chance of getting pregnant is likely however it may not be the best thing to do when your relationship is going through so much turmoil. I have seen many comparisons that are good where the end result was separation. Right now your timing is bad and it likely that you will get fed up. You are both going through a fair amount of stress over the course of the next 18 months. To add to that if you should get pregnant, fly off the handle or get upset about things that are out of your control will not help matters. This is a relationship worth nurturing but with the transits you both are experiencing I have my doubts that you will make it. Should you decide to walk, and you probably will, I believe that you will meet someone new before year-end. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces. Without having your partner's ex-wife's date of birth as well as his children's birth data I can't be sure what he will do should you walk but his chart indicates that he could very easily return to his family should that be the case.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
I am currently going through a divorce and I feel that the financial burden being imposed on me is unfair. Also, I fear that my wife will leave the state with my children making it even more difficult for me to see them. My question is two fold. Will I be able to financially afford what she is asking for and still have a place of my own to take the kids? And, do you believe she will move the kids out of state?
Gemini
HI Gemini
You didn't submit your wife or children's birth information making it difficult for me to know what she will do. What I can tell you is that your financial limitations are still present between now and the summer of next year however after that time it is evident that you should be able to swing whatever settlement or agreement you make with her. I believe there is a law that does not allow one parent to take the children more than X amount of miles away from the other parent if you have joint custody however this may change from state to state. Your chart indicates that you should be focusing on your professional goals and that if you are diligent about getting ahead you can be successful over the next four years. I do believe that your wife will try to restrict your visitation rights between now and the end of the summer of next year. You must fight this and do whatever is necessary to be as much a part of your children's lives as you can. If you live close to one another it isn't uncommon these days to have the children with you half the time and with her the other half. In that case you should not have to pay support because you are both equally raising your children. There are many routes to take however if she has left you because of infidelity or other damaging or cruel reasons you will end up paying dearly so get working towards professional advancement now so that you can cover the costs. Don't let the uncertainty or depression regarding your failing marriage deter you from getting involved with new partners or develop new friendships. It is important for you to get on with your life.
Eugenia
