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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I expect you won't be able to answer this letter, but the worst that can happen is silence. I was born September 20, 1973 @ 5:15 p.m. Three years ago, I lost my grandmother and then a year later, I lost my Mom. I started University, two months after my Mother passed away and I am afraid that my scholastic career has thus far been less than spectacular. Although, the long depression that I suffered through has dissipated somewhat I now realize that I may have dug a hole for myself so bad I will never be able to save myself from it. I am still somewhat confused about how I should proceed. Should I try to finish school now, while I am here or wander in the real world for a couple of years so I won't waste any more time?
I haven't had a serious relationship in quite some time. The thought of putting myself forward has been rather frightening. Is it a bad idea to even think about finding Mr. Right now?
I really don't know which is worse the depression or the confusion. Either way I feel so buried, I don't know which way is up or down.
Ready to Hide Under My Bed
Dear Ready to Hide Under My Bed
You are coming into a much higher cycle and it is important that you prepare to continue your education in some capacity. That could mean doing an apprenticeship, or going back full time. Where love and romance are concerned your chart picks up during the second half of next year and if you are involved in social groups or organizations you should meet someone you are attracted to. You should also be considering investing whatever money you have during the first half of next year. It will also be a favorable time to make residential changes or moves as well. Things are picking up for you and for now you shouldn't be too hard on yourself. You've been through a lot over the past three years and you need time to heal. If you want to work and take a little time off school due so now with the intent of going back during the second half of next year. You can also put your efforts into work and study part time for now. Next summer you should consider taking a trip. It will turn out to be a valuable experience as well as introduce you to some interesting people, places and things. You are coming into a growth period and you will begin to expand your circle of friends as well as your horizons. The most important thing to remember for the time being is to be open and receptive to.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I have been with the same man for 22 years, married for 13. So there is no need to tell you how much it hurt when he left me for another woman. It was totally unexpected, as I love my husband very much. I was born in Montreal, March 15, 1961 between 1:15 and 1:30 PM and he on February 13, 1961. The woman he left the children and me for was born June 10th, 1967 and let me tell you that she is quite the number. She contacted me a few times and she is very nasty.
What is in store for me in 2003? Is it divorce or reconciliation? I have a feeling my husband does not see everything that he is losing by leaving the family and engaging in a relationship where one of the parties seems to be after money. Please tell me that my children and myself will be OK.
MARCHALAMOR
Dear MARCHALAMOR
I understand your grief, it is always hard to be put in the position that your husband has put you in. If it's any consolation you do match up better to him then she does in most aspects however physically he matches up better to her. I do feel however that once the physical subsides that trouble will brew between them. Sorrow is present in the comparison between them and will probably surface over the next couple of years should they last that long. Even should they not last I do feel that you must be made aware of the fact that your husband is probably a bed bouncer. He can be smooth, erratic and usually gets away with things. Personally I believe that you should be the one moving on. You are coming into a high cycle regarding love over the summer months (especially August) now this can mean that he will waltz back into your life or you will meet someone worthy of your sincerity, love and affection. If your ex sees you moving on I'm afraid he will start to realize what he has given up and quite frankly you can do better. You do match up to his sign but the natal Sun in his chart does fall in an area of your chart that deals with dead end projects. If you pick another Aquarius choose one born early in the sign like late January early February for best results. You also match up to those born under the signs Taurus, Leo, Virgo, Scorpio and Capricorn.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I feel very, very lost. I work in the hospitality industry, which does not suit me at all. I make a decent living but hate my job and am thinking to go back to school to get certified to teach. Do you think that is a good choice? I fear it a little bit because I am very emotional and very unhappy. Although most of the time I can hide it well sometimes it comes to the surface and I find myself almost dysfunctional with grief. My mother (Nov 17) may be dying. She has been married to my father for nearly 60 years and she had a heart attack in December, which led to a stroke, which led to her lying in a hospital bed trying to learn to move and speak again. My father (Oct 22) sits at her side all day every day holding her hand and telling her everything is going to be okay. They are my models of what a marriage should be. I have been married for four years and separated for 2 and a half-he started walking out on me after our first anniversary. I finally went to a lawyer to draw up divorce papers and get my freedom and my husband (Nov 17, 76) is now trying to stop it. I feel that he has used me and deceived me numerous times although he says he loves me. If he loved me wouldn't he want to let me go and be happy rather than using our marriage one more time for his own ends? I had been celibate for one year after a failed 8-month relationship with a man who just wanted to be "friends" (Sept 11, 70). Then I ill advisedly got into a relationship with a very confused man (Oct 1, 77) for about two months that left me crying when he went back to his jealous Virgo ex-girlfriend earlier this week. Does my life sound like a soap opera? I feel like I have had my life on hold for several years and now everything has fallen on me at once and I can hardly bear it anymore. Family is the most important thing to me and I thought at 31 years old I would have a man as faithful and loving as my father at least if not children as well. I have not lost hope but it is running thin and I am so incredibly sad. Please, help give me direction and tell me what to look for and what you see in my chart - I was born January 6, 1976 at 10:02 AM.
Thank you,
Capricorn
Dear Capricorn
The comparison with your ex Scorpio is actually quite good. Yes there is emotional deception present but it appears to show up in an area of both charts that deals with the way you view one another as well as yourself leading me to believe that neither one of you may have tried hard enough to make it work. Marriage isn't easy and although I do believe with where his planets fall in your chart that you aren't like to forgive, forget and try again.
I think that you moved on emotionally when you let your heart be captured by your Libra friend. At that point you lost the ability to reconcile with your Capricorn husband. I do not feel that your Libra friend is right for you either. His inability to make up his mind will always be a problem plus he falls in an area of your chart that deals with dead ends. In other words it isn't likely to last even if you did get together again and marry.
I think teaching is a good thing for you to pursue however you should have started taking the course you required at least a year ago. The transits for educational pursuits are fast running out therefore your timing is off. Now that doesn't mean that you can't proceed but it will require more work on your part. The areas of your chart that deal with work and money are however in a high cycle until early next year so you may want to switch jobs this year. You can also excel in the travel industry, real estate, sales, your own business or something that involves physical activity of some sort.
Without your parents year of birth I cannot tell you much about them, however according to your chart your mother appears to be undergoing limitations and health issues for the next