We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: A Stifling Scorpio

Dear Eugenia,

I am suffering from a relationship and I feel the pain deep in my heart. I beg you, help me and give me advice.I was born on March 7, 1961 -A Pisces. He was born in November 21, 1952, a Scorpio.

We have known each other for one year. I moved to his apartment two months ago. He is divorced and has two children. He quit his job four years ago after the divorce. He is conservative and closed. I always take the initiative to talk to him and comfort him. Until recently, I could not tolerate it any more. I am an energetic, fun loving and an open person. His unpredictable nature almost drives me crazy. He lacks security when it comes to women. He doesn't want me to participate in general business events and sometimes shouts at me because I want to attend these activities.

I think that he should go out and get a job because a job will help him to live a more balanced life both mentally and physically. This is also a way to get him out of his present situation. We love each other but are also hurting each other. I would like to know, is he to be my life-long partner? Will I meet someone who is more suitable to me? I am not young and do not want to search for partner here and there! I am very tired!

Thanks in advance.
Puzzled

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Dear Puzzled

I believe that our Scorpio partner is quite controlling and that he is also going through a very uncertain period in his life. It appears that he is afraid of losing you and therefore he is not willing to let you take part in the events that you would like to enjoy. He does match up to you both mentally and physically however emotionally I have to question how good this relationship is for you. The major sign of sorrow is present and I believe that the problem does stem from the fact that he is not working or contributing as much as he should to the financial aspect of your relationship. If you can convince him to go back to work it may help however I believe that he may have other problems to overcome first. He is emotionally unstable and this makes it difficult for him to feel confident enough to move forward with his professional life. Your chart indicates that you should be getting out and doing things that you enjoy and if he doesn't want to join you or let you go that you may have to walk away. You are moving into a high cycle where love and romance is concerned and if you stay where you are you may miss the opportunities that are available to you. You match up well to those born under the sign Taurus, Cancer, Virgo and Pisces. The sign Scorpio falls in an area of your chart that deals with dead end projects therefore it isn't likely that he is to be your life long partner.

Eugenia

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Article: From Stay or Leave

Hi Eugenia

My husband has a drinking problem. He has been able to control this problem for the past 5-6 years. Recently he has begun drinking again and there is starting to be the same kind of mental abuse as he displayed in the past. I am at the age where I do not feel I can repeat and repeat this sort of abuse and lifestyle. Money is also becoming an issue as he continues to drink. He continues to threaten to leave and I am at the point where if not for my financial position, I would put the entire relationship behind me and move on alone. Is this a good idea?.......Please help, he is born July 10, 1951 at 6:30 a.m. and I April 25, 1944, at 10 a.m.

Stay or Leave

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Dear Stay or Leave

I believe that your husband will become worse before he becomes better. The next year and a half will be filled with all sorts of limitations for him regarding health, authority figures, dealing with institutions and so forth. I feel that the past couple of years you have taken the brunt of his obvious lack of control and abuse and now is the time to give him an ultimatum. Should he leave he will go down hill over the course of the next couple of years. Should he seek help it will take him the next couple of years to reform. As for you I feel that the time for change is fast approaching. That you should be seeking help from women's groups and co-dependent organizations in order to get back on your feet and away from him. Your comparison did indicate that there has been love in the past with this man but that was probably a long time ago. There is also sorrow especially where substance abuse is concerned and because of this I feel that even if he does seek help that there will always be the potential for him to slip over and over again. I do not believe that you will ever be able to fully put his abuse behind you and that your reason for staying with this man has more to do with fear of being alone and lack of funds. Your chart indicates that you are youthful and entertaining and that you will be okay if you can only get yourself out of this situation. By all means - if he wants to leave let him go.

Eugenia

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Article: Destined to be Here?

Hi Eugenia,

My story is very similar to the earlier soul mate story. I was told by astrologers/tarot readers that I would meet a man who will have a link with Mexico and Kingston. He would be dark with dark eyes and be a fantastic cook. I was also informed that I would meet him in my late 20's and it would be love at first sight across a crowded bar. This was not only one person that told me this but four in different locations within the UK. I set my heart on meeting this man and this was my destiny. One Thursday, I was asked to go out for a drink by some friends. I was not in the mood, however, I picked myself up and went out. I felt very intuitive that day and excited knowing something was going to happen. In the pub, I met up with many friends old and new. As I turned to walk towards the bar I could see out of the corner of my eye a man looking at me. I melted! Why me, I thought. He came over to me and looked into my eyes. I knew it was him before we had spoken to each other as immediately we had recognized each other. We sat and talked infatuated by each other for the rest of the evening. He then told me he was working in Kingston and had worked in the armed forces in Mexico for 3 years. Also, he wanted to cook for me! We started to see each other for which I can say this was the best time of my life. He was charming, fun and very exciting. After 2 months of seeing each other he told me that he had to work away and that he needed time. I was devastated, as I had set my heart on traveling with him around the world.Since our conversation, we never spoke again. I have seen him in different pubs and we still keep appearing in the same places at the same time. Maybe I am looking too deeply into this, but I would really appreciate a response to this letter as I feel I have poured my heart out and I am in desperate need for advice. I was born on the 14th August 1973 and he was born on the 28th April 1966. Please help!

Leo/Taurus

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Dear Leo/Taurus

This could be your dream man. Regarding your mental, physical and emotional connection you match up nicely however where anger and energy are concerned problems are evident with this man. You are coming into a period later this month and throughout June that will be conducive to love and romance flourishing so don't rule him out or anyone else who approaches you during this time. Your chart also indicates that you are best to marry later in life as opposed to earlier. The period of time that was being referred to by other astrologers was when you go through your Saturn return and that is just about to begin during the second half of July. If this man hasn't come to you by this time consider approaching him. If he doesn't respond carry on because you will be in a hot cycle for meeting someone that is even better for you. You match up well to those born under the sign Taurus, Cancer and Scorpio.

Eugenia

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