We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I am suffering from a relationship and I feel the pain deep in my heart. I beg you, help me and give me advice.I was born on March 7, 1961 -A Pisces. He was born in November 21, 1952, a Scorpio.
We have known each other for one year. I moved to his apartment two months ago. He is divorced and has two children. He quit his job four years ago after the divorce. He is conservative and closed. I always take the initiative to talk to him and comfort him. Until recently, I could not tolerate it any more. I am an energetic, fun loving and an open person. His unpredictable nature almost drives me crazy. He lacks security when it comes to women. He doesn't want me to participate in general business events and sometimes shouts at me because I want to attend these activities.
I think that he should go out and get a job because a job will help him to live a more balanced life both mentally and physically. This is also a way to get him out of his present situation. We love each other but are also hurting each other. I would like to know, is he to be my life-long partner? Will I meet someone who is more suitable to me? I am not young and do not want to search for partner here and there! I am very tired!
Thanks in advance.
Puzzled
Dear Puzzled
I believe that our Scorpio partner is quite controlling and that he is also going through a very uncertain period in his life. It appears that he is afraid of losing you and therefore he is not willing to let you take part in the events that you would like to enjoy. He does match up to you both mentally and physically however emotionally I have to question how good this relationship is for you. The major sign of sorrow is present and I believe that the problem does stem from the fact that he is not working or contributing as much as he should to the financial aspect of your relationship. If you can convince him to go back to work it may help however I believe that he may have other problems to overcome first. He is emotionally unstable and this makes it difficult for him to feel confident enough to move forward with his professional life. Your chart indicates that you should be getting out and doing things that you enjoy and if he doesn't want to join you or let you go that you may have to walk away. You are moving into a high cycle where love and romance is concerned and if you stay where you are you may miss the opportunities that are available to you. You match up well to those born under the sign Taurus, Cancer, Virgo and Pisces. The sign Scorpio falls in an area of your chart that deals with dead end projects therefore it isn't likely that he is to be your life long partner.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I have had the same best friend for almost 6 years. She, born March 10, 1989, has been recently acting like she does not what be friends with me. She has made some new friends since we have entered Junior High School and has only been hanging around them. In the beginning of 8th grade one of her new friends asked her out and they began dating. She began ignoring me and our other friends more and more to hang out with him and his friends. When I confronted her, she said she didn't realize she had been acting differently and she told me she would try to stop. She hung out with me for about a week until she was back to canceling things that we had planned to do together because her boyfriend would be mad at her. She broke up with him awhile later and came to me to cry on my shoulder. For two weeks my other friends and I did things to make her feel better like go to the mall and stuff. After about two weeks her ex asked out someone else and his best friend asked out mine. She said yes and it started all over again. I told her how I felt yet again. Yesterday she broke up with her boyfriend. She hasn't come to me to be consoled. Instead she goes to her other friends. It hurts to see someone that you have shared a great friendship with snub you. I was wondering what I should do. She doesn't listen to me when I talk to her and she makes me feel selfish that I want her to start hanging out again. Is it selfish? She also gets embarrassed when she is seen with me by any of her new friends. Her friends are nice, but not the type that I hang out with. I thought that if I tried to make friends with them, than she might accept me more, but she just gets embarrassed when I am around. I was born May 12, 1989, at 5:25 pm. Help me please.
~Best Friendless
Dear ~Best Friendless
Your girlfriend has been going through a lot of changes since the spring of last year especially regarding her friendships, school and secret or behind the scenes activity. Her ideas concerning what she likes and does not like are changing and she is becoming more and more attracted to different types of people. As for you - you can't be whom she wants you to be in order to maintain the friendship. It just doesn't work that way. You must however protect yourself so that she doesn't use you whenever she feels insecure with her newfound friends. She may make a reversal by late summer or early fall of this year however don't be too willing to trust that she will not yo-yo you around again. As for you the fall indicates a far better time where friendships and school are concerned so look to expanding your own circle of friends but not at the expense of letting your grades drop. You have a lot going for you and you should focus on yourself your direction in life and spending time with friends who have the same interests as you.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia:
My life is a mess. I really hope that you will choose my letter as I really don't know what to do anymore. I know that you can't give me all the answers but maybe you can give me some direction.
I was born April 11, 1964 1:07AM, and I currently live abroad. I have been involved in a relationship since 1989 and last March I was told it was over. My fianc?e was born July 3, 1965 1:45PM. I have spent over 1 year trying to work things out with her but she maintains that it is over. I believe that she is the one for me and that is why I have tried so hard to work things out.
I am now at the point where I feel like giving up. If I do, I don't feel that I can stay here anymore. It would hurt too much. I have been here so long that I really don't have a home anywhere. Where I grew up, no longer feels like home.Therefore my question really comes down to whether or not I should keep trying to work things out and if not should I return to my birthplace or go somewhere else?
Up in the Air
Dear Up in the Air
The comparison was quite good however I believe that it is possible that too much has happened during the ten years you were together such as not committing one hundred percent through marriage. Her chart indicates that she may have found some outside interest early last year that made her realize that she wasn't happy with you. That may sound harsh but I feel that it's reality. Your chart indicates that you are coming into a period that could bring someone from your past back into your life between now and October. This could be her or someone from back home perhaps. My suggestion to you is that you take a month and travel back to your routes just to see what's happening. You may meet someone who urges you to move home. The other scenario might be that if your Cancer fianc?e feels that she may lose you forever she might be inclined to change her mind. Your charts indicate that you have been going through a make it or break it period for a few years and it was only natural that something had to give. I believe she truly loves/loved you but that you probably frustrated her regarding marriage and children for a number of years and now you are paying the consequences.
Eugenia
