We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I hope very much that you can help me. I was born on 26 December 1963 at 3.35 AM and my ex-boyfriend was born 10 January 1967. We have been together for four or so years and he has just told me that we are finished. He has always been a 'closed book' as far as feelings go or showing them at least. He told me that while he misses me and 90% of the time he is happy with me, there are certain characteristics of mine that he cannot stand. The main being, and I admit this - I tend to overindulge in alcohol on occasions. He feels that I have a problem with this and will not tolerate it any longer.
We don't live together and I have always felt that I was the one giving a lot more than him. We live in a small country town where gossip is rife and unfortunately a lot of people have nothing more to do than embellish.My childhood was odd and I have recently lost my brother and I feel that these things influence my behavior at times.
I asked him if I had lost him forever and he replied that we both had a lot of thinking do.
Please help me. I am so lost and sad and while I believe in taking responsibility for my actions - is there any chance for us?
EllyMM
Dear EllyMM
Your comparison was certainly good enough to make it work however I worry that too much has happened for him to turn back. Your chart indicates that you are and have been going through a period of over indulgence that does need to be stopped. I believe that he is truly concerned for you and just can't take how you react when under the influence. It's time to pull your act together and hope that it's not too late to win him back. You do have a transit moving through your chart until the Spring of next year that indicates that people from your past are likely to come back into your life but you will have to work hard for it to be him. He will be experiencing a similar transit so the possibility if you take all the right steps is present. I suggest that you stop indulging all together in order to save yourself a lot of grief in the future.
Eugenia
Dear Ms. Last
I am almost embarrassed to ask for advice. Since I don't like to tell too much information about myself, I hope I can phrase the question right. I have a hard time in terms of my relationship with men. On one hand I want to love and be loved very deeply. It is a very spiritual connection that I crave. On the other hand, as soon as I am in a relationship, I feel suffocated, like the type of relationship society deems proper does not fit my personality. Is it possible for me to find someone who can give me the emotional intensity that I crave with the physical freedom I feel I need? Or are these two things so opposite that I must choose one way to be? I really need to know if I must make a choice, or if I should keep on looking. I am interested in someone right now mainly due to his personal integrity. I don't think he knows that he has caught my attention just yet and I am reluctant to pursue anything right now due to my conflicting needs in a relationship. I wouldn't want to hurt anyone. I was born 10/26/68 at 11:22 pm and he was born 05/06/61 at 4:15 am.
Embarrassed
Dear Embarrassed
There are lots of people who want to have their cake and eat it too. The main concern is honesty. The comparison with your Taurus friend was quite favorable and it didn't really show any major sign of sorrow therefore I see no reason not to pursue him unless of course you are also working with him professionally. I suggest that should you decide to move forward that you are right up front about your desires and needs so that you give him the choice to bow out if he can't handle the freedom you require. I don't believe that you can turn off a switch and become totally monogamous if that isn't the way you are. Therefore you are best to search openly and honestly for someone who shares your values and sexual needs. Don't be embarrassed; lots of people feel the same way you do. You are in a high cycle regarding love however I must stress that you should not mix business with pleasure.
EugeniaDear Eugenia,
I am now in a love triangle. I tried to commit suicide but that didn't solve the problem. Please help me. You will be saving a life.
I had a happy family. Things changed when I met another man. He was single at that time and we fell in love quickly. Since I had a husband, I couldn't promise to marry him. One day, he told me that he had married a girl living in China. He went to China to meet this girl after seeing her photo and they got married. I was not informed until he came back to Taiwan. He apologized and explained that he did it for his family because he needed to pass on the generations. He cried and begged me to forgive him and asked me to wait for him for three years. He said that after their first child was born, no matter boy or girl, he would leave her. I promised and separated with my husband. After I have divorced, his daughter was born. But he said that his wife wanted to try for a boy. His attitude becomes cooler and cooler. He seldom contacts me. I discovered that he was tender and gentle to his wife. If I ask him, he will be rude to me. I beg him but he doesn't care for me any more.
May I ask you a few questions:
1. Is he in love with his wife?
2. Who match him better? Me or his wife?
3. Will he be divorced in 2003 as he promised?
4. Will they have another baby?
5. I think they will be divorced in 2005-2006, do you think so?
6. Will we get together after his divorce?
7. Will we break up this year?
My dob: Aug 13, 1956 at 10:30am.
His dob: January 2, 1955 at 6:03pm.
His wife's dob: January 16, 1966 at 12 -13:00.
Please tell me the truth.
Desperate
Dear Desperate
I believe what has happened here is that your Capricorn man fully intended to do what he planned but didn't expect to fall in love with his wife in the process. Although you do match up to him well he does match up to his wife even better. In answer to your questions.
1. Yes he does love his wife
2. She matches up better
3. I do not believe that he will divorce her
4. Yes I believe that they will have another baby
5. I do not think so
6. I do not believe so
7. I think that you have probably are already broken up in his mind
Now back to you and what you should be doing. You are in a high cycle regarding love and romance over the course of the next year. I believe that you should be out meeting new people and getting on with your life. He may make an attempt to come back to you should he see that you are falling in love with someone else but even if he does he will not stay. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Cancer, Leo, Libra, Capricorn and Pisces. Please don't sit around and wait for this man. You are a victim of circumstance and you must move on.
Eugenia
