We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I hope very much that you can help me. I was born on 26 December 1963 at 3.35 AM and my ex-boyfriend was born 10 January 1967. We have been together for four or so years and he has just told me that we are finished. He has always been a 'closed book' as far as feelings go or showing them at least. He told me that while he misses me and 90% of the time he is happy with me, there are certain characteristics of mine that he cannot stand. The main being, and I admit this - I tend to overindulge in alcohol on occasions. He feels that I have a problem with this and will not tolerate it any longer.
We don't live together and I have always felt that I was the one giving a lot more than him. We live in a small country town where gossip is rife and unfortunately a lot of people have nothing more to do than embellish.My childhood was odd and I have recently lost my brother and I feel that these things influence my behavior at times.
I asked him if I had lost him forever and he replied that we both had a lot of thinking do.
Please help me. I am so lost and sad and while I believe in taking responsibility for my actions - is there any chance for us?
EllyMM
Dear EllyMM
Your comparison was certainly good enough to make it work however I worry that too much has happened for him to turn back. Your chart indicates that you are and have been going through a period of over indulgence that does need to be stopped. I believe that he is truly concerned for you and just can't take how you react when under the influence. It's time to pull your act together and hope that it's not too late to win him back. You do have a transit moving through your chart until the Spring of next year that indicates that people from your past are likely to come back into your life but you will have to work hard for it to be him. He will be experiencing a similar transit so the possibility if you take all the right steps is present. I suggest that you stop indulging all together in order to save yourself a lot of grief in the future.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
My sun sign is in Cancer, I was born July 7, 1979, at 12:15 AM, and I've read enough on astrology to know that I should be compatible with both Virgo and Pisces. My past two relationships were with each, and although lengthy, they proved difficult.I think it may have something to do with my Aries rising. I'm afraid the aggressive nature so common in the ram is a bit intimidating, especially when the aggressor is female. My last fling was with an Aries male, and although at first there were sparks, it quickly diminished. I realize that other aspects affect astrological matchmaking, but I'd like to get your opinion on the matter. What male sign can handle both the Aries stubbornness, and the crab's ultra-sensitivity? My moon is in Sagittarius.
Thank you.
Aggressive Crab
Dear Aggressive Crab
Actually in your particular case the Sun sign match up doesn't work all that well. Normally you should get along well with both Virgo and Scorpio. However, the sign Scorpio falls in an area of your chart that deals with dead end projects so it's unlikely to work. To add to this your natal Jupiter and Mercury are in the sign Leo adversely aspected to the sign Scorpio. The sign Virgo falls in an area that deals with work not personal matters such as relationships plus you have your natal Mars in Gemini and your natal Neptune in Sagittarius and that would clearly play havoc with a strong Virgo. Having your natal Sun in the 4th house adversely aspected to your natal Pluto in the 7th leads me to believe that you will have difficulty with relationships. Now that doesn't mean that you can't have a happy union. Especially with your natal Moon, Neptune, Jupiter and Mercury well aspected to the Pluto in your 7th but it does mean that you will have to choose your partner wisely and realize that relationships don't just happen, they require work, dedication, devotion and perseverance. You match up well to those born under the signs, Cancer, Libra, Capricorn and Aquarius. I suggest that you always run a comparison before you decide to get serious and intimate with someone. Although a person can be born under one of these signs it does not mean that they will have a lot of their natal planets in that sign and this could result in difficulties once again.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I have known this boy which I will call J for about 2 years. I knew him from the time I accidentally knocked him down with my bicycle and sent him to the hospital. We have been dating since. However, everyone despises him because he has a scar on his forehead. My father (my mum's passed away) is sure that he was once a gangster and declared that he would not let me be with a gangster. The problem is, I know he is not a gangster and that he got the scar when he was 6 years old through an unfortunate incident but there is no way my father or anyone will change their views about him, despite the fact he's a polite and helpful man. J likes me a lot and vice versa. I could tell his sex drive is great because he always seems to be looking at me in a 'weird sort of way' but he respects my decision to remain a virgin till marriage. Recently, he suggested that we elope because my father is putting too much pressure on us which I admit but I'm still not sure. For one thing, I cannot leave my father behind just like that. But I love J a lot and would like to be with him forever. I really don't know what to do now. His birthday is 21 November, 12.01 AM and I'm a Virgo born on 19 September, 1982, at 4:37 AM. What should I do, Eugenia?
Desperate Virgo
Dear Desperate Virgo
You didn?t specify your boyfriend?s year of birth and that can make my assessment difficult. However, I can tell you that honesty is the best policy and that you should sit down and talk to your father. Let him know how strongly you feel and how much it means to you that he make an effort to get to know your Scorpio friend better. You have an interesting chart that shows great promise in an area that deals with your career. The next few years it will be crucial that you spend time focusing on what you want to be, and do, with the rest of your life. Educational pursuits should be your focus right now followed by a good paying job that you enjoy.
You may be a Virgo but you have a strong Libra influence and that is usually an indicator that you will be much happier throughout life if you have balance, harmony and monetary satisfaction. Without your Scorpio?s year of birth I can not tell you if he will satisfy your needs. I can tell you that he falls in an area of your chart that does denote a strong friendship. If you continue to build your friendship slowly you may eventually gain your fathers confidence in your relationship. You might also consider listening to why your father?s negativity regarding your boyfriend?s background is so strong. Maybe he knows something that you don?t.
Eugenia
March 5th 2026
Happy Birthday: Redirect your energy to protect your rights, assets, and your health. You have plenty to gain this year if you stick to your plans and timeline. Conversations, gathering knowledge, and presenting a well-informed dialogue will encourage success and support. Abide by the rules and regulations, but don’t follow the norm when it comes to competitive situations. Think outside the box and give whatever you do a unique twist. Your numbers are 4, 15, 19, 27, 34, 39, 48.
