We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: No Permanent Plague

Dear Eugenia

How come every time I meet someone, it always has a bad ending...I have been seeing a lot of different people up until now, but it is always me who gets hurt, not me hurting others...And a lot of them were not very nice to me. I was always nice to them...maybe that's why everything has always gone this way.. Now it is not easy to see someone again... Thus, I'm afraid of hanging out with a guy even though he is nice...I'm afraid of the endings being bad...Why is this? When can I meet the right person? I was born on Oct 27, 1978, at 5:30-6:00 PM...Is this too common story?

Want to be loved

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Dear Want to be loved

I'm not surprised that you have experienced some difficult love situations over the past several years considering your chart has and does show confusion, deception and having trouble choosing the right partners. This will continue to plague you a while longer however that doesn't mean that you can't go out and meet potential partners. My suggestion is that you only look for friendship at first and that you develop your relationship with the next partner slowly. There is much to be said about being friends before you become lovers. As we move into the final quarter of next year and throughout 2002 you will be in a high cycle for love, romance and marriage and this is when you can move toward becoming more than just friends. What this means is that between now and that time you should go out socially with friends, meet new people and discover what qualities you really want your life long partner to have. Your chart indicates that you match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces.

Eugenia

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Article: Brains and Brawn

Dear Eugenia,

I am a 49-year-old woman who has sworn off men for the past six years; mostly to avoid a weakness I had four bad relationships with big blue-eyed country boys. Four months ago one walked into my house for a volunteer project and I'm losing it because this one also happens to be SMART. Problem is, he's a whole bunch younger and apparently pretty naive about women and sex in general. The compatibility thermometer gave us a 99%, and I'm pretty sure he's attracted to me--he's here all the time and we can talk away the night. But now I want to move it up to the next level, and I don't know how or when, or whether it's a good idea to ruin an almost perfect friendship.I'm born 3/3/52, 2:45 am, and he's born 5/31/65, 2:30 a.m. any advice on timing, or whether this is a good idea?

Perplexed

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Dear Perplexed

You do have an amazing comparison with your Gemini friend. I would however take it nice and slow and let him make the moves. I don't have a problem with the age difference however at some point it may cause a problem with friends, family as well as with one another. I am basing this on your charts, not on your chronological age difference. It will depend on his maturity however I do believe that he has a strong sense of who he is and what he wants out of life. The only other question that might arise will be regarding children. That could be with children that either one of you already have or the fact that he may want a child and you may not be able to reciprocate. As for now however I believe that you should let things unfold naturally and try not to get too caught up in long term for now.

Eugenia

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Article: Emotional Deception

Dear Eugenia,

Thank you for taking time to read my letter, despite your busy schedule. I really think it is wonderful that you are taking time out to help other people.

The reason I am writing this letter, is due to the fact that I am extremely frustrated with my love life (among other things), because I have not had any "real" relationships in my life, and I am on the verge of giving up hope. I did meet one man (born January 8, 1980- (don't know his birth time) who is friendly and kind. He is a really nice person, yet I can't tell if he is just being nice, or if he will return my affections if I tell him that I am interested in him. I used the Romance Compatibility feature and it says that we have a good comparison, yet nothing has happened for the past 6 months. Will he ever feel the same as me? Or should I move on? I did write to you once before, and unfortunately I didn't receive a response- hopefully this time you will be able to respond. I was born March 24, 1980 at 6:36pm.

Unlucky in Love

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Dear Unlucky in Love

The comparison was okay however there was an element of emotional deception that could cause problems for you regarding family, friends and communicating with one another. This doesn't have to be a problem but if either one of you refrains from talking about the way you feel it isn't likely that the relationship will get off the ground. You are being too hard on yourself. You are young and have your whole life ahead of you to find love and settle down. As for now you should be focusing on education, career and following your dreams. I believe that at this stage of your life your Capricorn friend falls in an area that is conducive to being friends, socializing with one another and basically building a solid base for what could eventually turn into a long-term relationship. As for now, be open and honest but don't move too fast or you may just frighten the young man off.

Eugenia

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