We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I really need your help. I just celebrated my birthday and I could ask for little more than a response to brighten my day. I was recently proposed to by a wonderful man whom I used to date in high school. (November 4th, 2000)We have very much kept in touch. He told me not too long ago that he has been in love with me for a year. He was born on February 3rd, 1981 at 4:39am. He currently resides in Turkey, where he is stationed until next month. Then he will be back home in New Mexico on his base. I was born at 7:04am on November 15th, 1981. I am 97% sure that I will say yes, but I suppose that other 3% is waiting on a sign. I can think of no better sign than a response from you. I have heard speeches from every possible angle about how I should enjoy being young and that I shouldn't get serious. The thing is, I enjoy being serious. Its one of my goals in life to marry a loving husband, and he is in front of my eyes. I would greatly appreciate a response from you that would help me in either direction. I would love to see what the stars have lined up for us. I will be anxiously awaiting your response.
Thank you. Sincerely,
"Waiting for a sign"
Dear "Waiting for a sign"
You are a serious person and I can see by your chart that you want to be in love, get married, have a family and live happily ever after. I do believe however that although the comparison is good that uncertainties are also present and the fact that you are looking for a sign to tell you to go for it means that as sure as you think you are you do have some reservations. I believe that you will accept his proposal and that you will marry your Aquarius partner but I also believe that for as much as you have in common there will be some obstacles along the way. Those could perhaps be his constant traveling about or being stationed somewhere that is potentially dangerous. Your comparison does indicate that mentally, physically and emotionally you do match quite nicely and that you are going through a period that is favorable for settling down and making a commitment. Please keep in mind that marriage vows are sacred and that forever is a long long time. I wish you all the best and a happy future.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I am dating one guy, and I have feelings for my best friend. My best friend recently confessed his feelings for me. But my boyfriend and I have a decent relationship. Also I feel me and my boyfriend may be drifting apart just a little. I came to this conclusion because we use to just sit and talk for hours on end but now we rarely talk about anything. I need help on what I should do in this situation. Oh I also forgot to mention I have had feelings for my best friend since I met him 12 years ago, and that he is in the military and he confessed his feelings for me after he came back from overseas saying how he realized that he " has a great person who cares for him right in front of him." Thank you for your time and help! By the way my boyfriends birth data is: Nov 21, 1984 I am not sure of the time or the birthplace though. And my friends birth data is August10, 1984 I am also not sure of the birth time or place for him either. I was born September 25, 1983 at 11:25 AM.
Libra
Dear Libra
Quite the dilemma - you actually match up astrologically to both men. Your best friend a little bit better. Your best friend falls in an area of your chart that deals with your status, position in society and choice of friends. I've always believed that the best relationships are those that start out as a friendship and build. Your current boyfriend falls in an area of your chart that deals with hidden matters, secret affairs etc so I'm sort of wondering how you managed to turn this one into a long term relationship when it was probably meant to be a short but sweet love connection.
Your chart indicates that you are going through a period of change. Especially the way you view your relationships with others. This started to hit your chart at the end of last year and has probably left you somewhat confused. I don't know that you will ever feel totally satisfied in your current relationship especially now that you know that your best friend feels the same way you do.
Your chart indicates that you are moving through a period of change. That it may be time to take a break from your current relationship so that you can sort out your thoughts and discover what it is you really need when it comes to a one-on-one relationship. Don't feel bad but don't live a lie either. If you truly want to find out if your relationship with your best friend can be more you are best to end the relationship you are in first. I feel that given time your friendship with your Leo man will turn into a long-lasting relationship.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I'm a Pisces born February 22, 1964 at 4:30 am, 40 years old and never married and I just met a wonderful man who wants to have children, and might I add, right away. He says we don't have much time since we are both older. He is a Capricorn born in the Philippines Dec 29, 1964 and I admire the way he takes charge, but I was actually leaning towards not having children. The whole concept frightens me, and I am getting older and I am such a Pisces, flitting from thing to thing and never really accomplishing any one concrete direction, fairly successful in my own right, but wonder how I ever am, since I tend to overextend myself and do way too many things at once. I long for someone to help me take charge of my life, simplify it, and make it more relaxed, but I wonder if I am drawn towards him for his steadiness and clarity of direction, his responsibility, his success, and if I choose to be with him, I may end up in a worse situation (overextended, more complicated, less peace and less focus). At 40 I still don't feel I have any clear direction. But if I had to say what I really wanted to do with myself, it would be get up late, jog around the lake, work for a few hours, drive around, read a book, chat with some friends, and walk by the beach. I don't know if having a family would be high on that list, and I think it would just be to satisfy his desire to have a family. But then again, if I don't have a child I wonder if I would regret it when I am older, and maybe it might be nice to choose a successful responsible man and start a family instead of drifting around with the romantic irresponsible men I normally am drawn towards. What do you think?
Pisces
Dear Pisces
I believe you are over-reacting. Having a baby shouldn't make or break a relationship if you truly love one another. The comparison between you and your Capricorn man was okay but it did show some signs of deception and confusion. I believe you need to communicate more about what you both want out of life. Honesty reigns supreme so you had better start talking and if you both aren't on the same page move on. You are in a high cycle regarding love and meeting potential partners or having someone you used to care about come back into your life. You owe it to yourself to get to the bottom of whether or not you want to settle down with your Capricorn friend or set both of you free so that you can meet new people.
Where work and how you earn your living are concerned you are coming into a much higher cycle beginning the last quarter of this year and throughout next year and it is important that you position yourself so that you can take advantage of the opportunities that come along. Your chart indicates that you are confused. Much of your confusion is due to the fact that you were born with your natal Mercury adversely positioned to your natal Neptune. This causes self-deception especially when it comes to your personal likes and dislikes, how well you can do in society and professionally as well as how you relate to both business and emotional partners.
It may be time to reevaluate who you are, what you want and where you see yourself in ten years. If it isn't taking care of the kids and a husband - move on now.
Eugenia
