We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I really need your help. I just celebrated my birthday and I could ask for little more than a response to brighten my day. I was recently proposed to by a wonderful man whom I used to date in high school. (November 4th, 2000)We have very much kept in touch. He told me not too long ago that he has been in love with me for a year. He was born on February 3rd, 1981 at 4:39am. He currently resides in Turkey, where he is stationed until next month. Then he will be back home in New Mexico on his base. I was born at 7:04am on November 15th, 1981. I am 97% sure that I will say yes, but I suppose that other 3% is waiting on a sign. I can think of no better sign than a response from you. I have heard speeches from every possible angle about how I should enjoy being young and that I shouldn't get serious. The thing is, I enjoy being serious. Its one of my goals in life to marry a loving husband, and he is in front of my eyes. I would greatly appreciate a response from you that would help me in either direction. I would love to see what the stars have lined up for us. I will be anxiously awaiting your response.
Thank you. Sincerely,
"Waiting for a sign"
Dear "Waiting for a sign"
You are a serious person and I can see by your chart that you want to be in love, get married, have a family and live happily ever after. I do believe however that although the comparison is good that uncertainties are also present and the fact that you are looking for a sign to tell you to go for it means that as sure as you think you are you do have some reservations. I believe that you will accept his proposal and that you will marry your Aquarius partner but I also believe that for as much as you have in common there will be some obstacles along the way. Those could perhaps be his constant traveling about or being stationed somewhere that is potentially dangerous. Your comparison does indicate that mentally, physically and emotionally you do match quite nicely and that you are going through a period that is favorable for settling down and making a commitment. Please keep in mind that marriage vows are sacred and that forever is a long long time. I wish you all the best and a happy future.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
Where to start. First of all I guess that I should tell you that I met my husband and I have been with my husband for 20 years. Married for 17. Beautiful children. I have been very unhappy for a longtime. My husband is verbally, mentally, and worst of all physically abusive. I live everyday in fear, and am always trying to make everything happy and peaceful. I am always living planning the next step of the day out to make sure that it is going to make him happy. I am the bread winner in the family, I have to take care of all of the other responsibilities to, cooking, cleaning, bills, children, laundry, and even making his phone calls for his job etc for him. I should mention that he does work as well, but that is his only responsibility. I feel like an awful person for what I am about to tell you, but I have gotten to the point of being desperate for an answer. About 9 years ago, I met our now best friend. He has always been so nice to me. He is a very patient kind person. He is also in a relationship (not married, but do live together) and has wonderful children. His partner is a very angry person and yells constantly at her children it is so sad. I am very close with his children and love them very much. I have always had feelings for him, however never had said anything. We have always sat up and talked for hours on end when he has come over. About 2 1/2 years ago we were sitting and talking and it came out that we both had feelings for each other. I have never been so shocked, I never would have guessed. He told me at the time that he didn't know what to do, as he couldn't imagine waking up and not being in the same house as his children, that they were his life, and I think that is wonderful. We seem to go in spurts of calling each other, and then periods of not calling each other. However, neither one of us seem to be able to talk about our feelings. We have kissed, and it has been truly wonderful. But I do feel very guilty. I cannot stop thinking about him, I think of him when I wake up, through the day, when I go to bed. It's driving me crazy. I wonder if you can tell me what he is thinking. What he feels for me? My birthday is October 9, 1971, his is April 18, 1977, and my husband's is September 7, 1970. If you could please offer me any insight I would be truly grateful.
Libra
Dear Libra
First of all I want to deal with your relationship with your husband. You don't have one, nor do you need him in your life. You are only teaching your children that it is okay for a man to be abusive to a woman and that in it self is wrong and should have been enough for you to move on with your kids long ago.
It appears to me the only reason you are considering doing so now is because you have someone else in your life but that is not the way to start off a good relationship. I understand why you are attracted to your friend but the comparison although superior to the one with your husband it still isn't great. It is apparent that the connection with your friend is Karmic and I believe his debt is to help you remove yourself and your children from the miserable situation you have put up with for too long however after that it will be time for you to move on and start over.
You do not need your husband so cut your losses and get on with your life. You've already wasted too much time and the damage that the kids have endured watching you being abused are probably insurmountable at this point.
Your chart indicates that you probably should have made your move last year but it's still not too late if you take action immediately. As for your love life - it will pick up during the second half of this year once you have rid yourself of the dead weight you've been living with for so many years. What were you thinking when you married this man - it is seldom I see two people stay together as long as the two of you have when you
Hi, Eugenia
I e-mailed you, back in January, and you answered me, with quite accurate answers. My question right now is, what the heck is going on with my health, and money or to better phrase Andre` and my money. First, I'll tell you about my health. First of all in mid-May my bottom tooth became loose, and fell out. Then on April 26, I broke my collar from working out, with weights, and all the tone I had built up were gone after 3 weeks. Andre' and had been saving for our first holiday in 2 yrs. All of sudden every thing started going wrong with our car, eating up our savings. Then I started feeling really sick, so Andre' said let's just stay home, and I'll use the rest of our savings, stay home and I'll take care of you. I don't mean to flit back and forth, but in the mean time I was going from doctor to emergency here in Kingston. I'm sorry to take so much of your time, but it's a weird time for us. Finally on the 24th of July, I ended up in emergency again and was sent home with Gravol. I spent the 2 days in bed, desperately ill. Andre' wanted to stay home, I wanted to visit our family, both come from the same place, and there were 2 hospitals there, (about 40 miles in difference). When we arrived near his parents home I had to "pee", I saw myself in the bathroom mirror and knew immediately " I had to go to the Hospital". I was examined and stayed over night, then was sent to another hospital, by ambulance, 40 miles away for emergency surgery. I had an abscess on my bowels, perforated intestines, and to many other things that would take too long to explain, in the already "too long" e-mail that I'm taking much of your time with? Finally, Eugenia, I flat lined, at hospital and am very glad to be here. I would like to know if you see in my health area any more serious problems, or was that enough for a while. My next question won't take so long. Andre' has asked me to marry him, in 2004, if you answer Yes, what month and time should it be? If your answer No, please let me know why. My birth date is January 31,1949, birth time 1:31 a.m. his birth date is May 09,1955, 5:30 a.m.
Aquarius
Hi Aquarius
Your chart does show some evidence of chronic health problems that were set off this past year however they appear to have cleared up mid summer. Should you continue to have problems there is another area in your chart that could result in continuing troubles especially where blood disorders, allergies, skin, bones and teeth problems are concerned. All these little irritations can end up causing problems with work. The other scenarios that can happen with the type of transits you are experiencing are a series of job changes, a change in your status (marriage) and a change of residence. All in all however I do feel that your chart is not bad and that with proper care, diet and exercise you should be able to build your strength back up and continue to live a normal life again.
You match up to your Taurus man rather well and I would consider getting married May 1st, June 12th or July 17th. I really didn't see any red flags in the comparison and in felt that emotionally, and physically you were quite in synch. Mentally you won't always feel the same way about things but I have yet to see a comparison that indicates that the couple will agree on everything.
Eugenia
