We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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I have decided to put more time and energy into my research. It’s been a pleasure to answer your emails and to help you through some of life’s tough journeys. Everyone who has participated in my Dear Eugenia column has enriched my life and I hope I have improved yours as well.

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Counselling Confused

Dear Eugenia

There is so much going on in my life that I don't know where to start. I can not believe that I have chosen to write this letter, but I guess I am hoping for confirmation that I am correct. My life has never felt more confused and not my own then it does right now. I want to focus my attention on my education and let go of all the other things in my life that I feel are holding me back. I am being pulled in all different directions. I am trying to fight the distractions and need to find a way to balance my life in order for me to achieve the things I want (have) to achieve on this earth. I have been searching for a counselor that can shed some light and provide the reassurance of love. I have only encountered counselors with no energy resembling that love.

I feel as if the only way I can accomplish my goals is to have some solace. I feel like I need to take a break from the energy I create and turn into myself so that I may become more confident in my energy and use it for what it is intended. I am ready to use it for whatever purposes are intended, but I do not know which way to go to achieve this goal.

I am looking for someone who understands, and someone who will be able to make me understand. I think the person who is really able to understand me will be able to communicate their energy to me. I don't need anyone to tell me how to run my life; I would just like confirmation that I'm on the right path. I was born on June 21, 1961, at 12 AM.

Confused

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Dear Confused

You are on the path that you have to follow right now and even if it doesn't necessarily take you where you think you want to go much will be gained from the experiences and challenges you encounter. It is apparent that there are some issues that have arisen over the course of the past year and a half that have left you questioning what is right for you. From what I can establish by your chart in order to make the most of your transits you should be resolving issues concerning a parent or close friend. Difficulties in areas that deal with communication and secrets have clouded the perspective of yourself as well as of others. Many changes are apparent regarding your home and family and these can be favorable if you follow your heart and do what's best for you this time. The educational area of your chart has been and still is being negatively transited and this can cause problems when it comes to accomplishing your goals. This problem is lifting this month and although you may continue to have some issues with faculty or your educational choices you should find it easier to push ahead. You are very hard on yourself you know and it's time you cut yourself a little slack. Rome wasn't built in a day; you will accomplish your goals. You have the determination, stamina and dedication that will enable you to reach the success that you are looking for.

Eugenia

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Article: Single for So Long

Dear Eugenia,

I am in a long distance relationship with a man 5 hours from me (Oct. 24, 1979) and I am wondering how we can make it work or if it really could work since I don't have the time (nor money) to waste on unworthy causes.

I feel very strongly about him. We've met twice & the first time we were both out of sorts. Last time we had a great time! I've never had an online relationship but I do understand that a lot of work is involved. Commitment, sacrifices & compromising are the top 3 things I can think of. I'm afraid that I won't be able to provide my part of the bargain as well as he could. I'm afraid that after some time we'll be too tired to continue this relationship & feel that we have -really- wasted our time & money. I haven't been able to find someone as compatible with me as he in my own town. I've been single for over a year now. I'm afraid I might only be interested in him because he's interested in me too, just because I've been single for so long (I don't think that's very truthful though).

The only way that an online relationship can work is if both partners plan on being together down the line. We're not dating yet but we both want to move back to BC in the near future. I have so many fears. What about my education? My career? What if we're only compatible with distance between us, & then we rip each other to shreds once we're together-together? ARGH!!

Could you offer me a bit of astrological advice? I do know that all but 2 of his & my astro houses are located under the same sign. Any words of wisdom would be really appreciated!

Wrapped up

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Dear Wrapped up

The comparison was okay. Keep in mind that in order to have a relationship work it takes work. People always think that if they fall in love that's all it takes but unfortunately a relationship probably takes more time, effort and work then anything else you do in life. I believe that he is someone who can help you achieve some of your dreams, hopes and wishes, however that doesn't mean that you will end up together forever. More so than having a long term or everlasting union a relationship should be based on how much you learn from one another, enjoy one another and compliment one another. You have time to kill right now as the next time you are in a really high cycle for love is next year. As for now you should be enjoying whatever time you do get to spend with one another. Just because you live a distance doesn't mean that you can't do things on the cheap. You'd probably spend just as much cash staying at home as you would staying at his place or vise versa. If you really enjoy one another's company you'll find ways to spend more time together while you discover each other's likes, dislikes, needs and desires. Don't be impatient love and relationships take time.

Eugenia

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Article: From Torn Soul

Hello Eugenia

My wife of 11 years passed away this past September 10th, 2002 born 7/4/1954 named Yolanda. A beautiful Cancerian that touched my life in ways that I still ache for. She was a liver transplant patient that did not take so we had her for an additional year since the operation. It was the most painful experience of my life to say the least. I have since regained my strength to move on and follow the path set for me by the stars. At times I find myself disoriented. I guess it's that I see all that is around me and everyone so differently now that it throws me off.

I try to see other women and find that I look for the qualities or even passion that Yolanda had with me. I look for it in their eyes and their way of being. We had so so much in common music you can name it. We met as performers and fell in love a love like no other for me. I find myself analyzing everything that I do with a different purpose, Job, Friends, Hobbies, etc. It is so hard to not have her in my life. It is the equivalent of living in the dark without the sun and we all need the sun. But my will gets me past to see the next day. Will I see or feel relief from what I am going through. I was born November 19, 1958, at 8:38 am.

Torn Soul

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Dear Torn Soul

You had a wonderful comparison with Yolanda and a very special connection, and you should be thankful for that, but you should also realize that each connection that we make in life is unique and that you can and will meet someone who will touch your heart deeply but the time is not right just yet. You still need to grieve and for now friendships and social acquaintances is all that you should expect. This is a time that you must get busy doing things to benefit others. You should be joining an organization you believe in that may even have something to do with fundraising for the live transplant society. You have so much to deal with regarding your loss that you can't expect to not be looking for Yolanda in everyone you meet and that's not fair to the women you date. A good friendship will help you get through your troubled times and helping or donating your time to a worthy cause will lead you out of the dark. By this time next year you will be in a much better position to find love. Move slowly and give yourself some time to heal. Yolanda fell in an area of your chart that deals with dead-end projects and this usually stops a relationship one way or another, you will not get along which wasn't the case with you and Yolanda or the love of your life is taken from you early, which it was. In time you will be able to separate your deep love for Yolanda from the relationship that will be in your future but you cannot replace what you had. Once you realize that you will be able to move forward. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Taurus, Gemini, Scorpio and Pisces.

Eugenia

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