
We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
I am very confused and concerned about my current relationship. I was born 11-30-77 at 11:38am and my boyfriend was born 12-14-75 at 1:08pm. We have a very strong physical attraction for one another, but our fights are often and our comments are brutal. He has a very quick and explosive temper, but treats me very well otherwise. He is not jealous or controlling, but very sensitive. What type of connection do we have that makes us so inseparable? We cannot spend more than two days without one another, almost as if we are the same person. We are both becoming very dependent on each other and neither of us have ever had that type of personality. We both were "bachelors" of the zodiac breaking hearts left and right and partying all the time until we met each other. Is this relationship healthy? What is it about our signs that have made us completely different people enthralled by each other? But almost TOO passionate?
Two Archers
I like same sign relationships. I believe however that you are both going through the rush of love and that the physical connection is so powerful that neither one of you can get past it at the moment. The rest of the comparison isn't too bad. I feel that you both tend to evade issues and neglect to be completely honest with one another. The fact that you fight a lot doesn't surprise me either. It isn't unusual for people to point a finger at their partner especially if they themselves are guilty of similar things. Your Sagittarius partner, like yourself, will always be a bachelor even if you live together, get married and so on. Over the course of the next two years you will both experience a need to settle down and this could help the relationship progress positively. Keep in mind however that it is impossible to curtail, confine or restrict an Archer without causing problems. Your Sagittarius partner does have a temper and that should concern you. I believe that he is intense and that you can bring out the worst in him when it comes to arguments. The combination between the two of you can become quite volatile at times. Take your time and try to build a closer friendship if you really want this union to last.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
First of all, THANK YOU for the opportunity to receive advice based upon astrological information. My birth date is 4/22/61 @ 11:05pm, mysignificance's is 1/3/63 @ 2:05am, we are planning to marry on 9/9/00 but, we are having some communication problems. He is shutting me out, instead of dealing with disagreements. We have very few disagreements but one in particular seems to surface regularly, his female friend, with extenuated circumstances. We had been together about a year when she was introduced to our relationship as an old friend. With this "old Friend" came a revelation from my husband to be that he had participated in threesomes (news to me) & wanted to "be a friend to his lonely friend" & have sex with me involved also. This didn't go over really well, look at my chart! Anyway, it's been about 8 months since that event & she has not been present in our life until last weekend. I am still extremely uncomfortable when this woman is around. When he feels this uneasiness in me, he reacts negatively & shuts me out & pouts or whatever. This only creates more negativity & makes me feel that her friendship is more important than our relationship. Which in turn allows me to create more resentment & anger towards her. I am not going to be happy around a woman my husband to be has already stated he's attracted to, why feed that temptation? It's very hard to smile & be friendly when he's reaching out for her in our own home with me right beside him. Although I have no idea when her birth date is maybe something within our synastry could shed some light on how to deal with this situation. I really hate struggling within my relationship because of a bitch. Thank you again for this opportunity.
Lisa
Dear Lisa
Your synastry was okay however it does indicate that your relationship will take considerable work as well as open and honest communication. I feel that you do have some serious issues to resolve before you can consider moving forward toward your marriage vows. Your husband to be does not appear to be ready to commit to you if he continues to long for his female friend. It is obvious that you will be starting your marriage off on the wrong foot if you don't back up now and decide what you both want out of a partnership and a marriage. You are not likely to agree to get involved in a threesome and if you do you will regret it. Your chart is one that shows a certain amount of jealousy and anger regarding such going's on and I don't feel you will ever want to share your partner with another. Therefore, you are best to find out what your future husband really wants out of a relationship. It is apparent that he is being deceptive with you, this other lady that he wants to have sex with, as well as with himself. If he is willing to take a chance to lose you over this issue you have to consider whether or not he is the right one for you. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Sagittarius.
Eugenia
Eugenia hi,
I am currently on a complete roller coaster ride with a guy that I am dating and am not sure which way to go with it, ie, should I keep 'riding' in hopes of a commitment or walk away and not look back. My intentions weren't to get involved with a man 10 years younger than me but I absolutely adore him and care for him. I have friends who are happily married to men who were 'difficult' in the beginning and they are in complete bliss now. Does this person look as though he could be a 'long term' or do our charts state otherwise. Any input would be a HUGE help.
Little Leo
Dear Little Leo
The comparison with your Cancer man was adequate but did show signs of sorrow in an area of your chart that deals with friends, family, work associates and communication. This can result in some deception and dishonesty about true feelings and what else is going on when he isn't with you. There are a lot of uncertainties that are going through your chart right now with regards to continuing this relationship. You are at a place in your life where you want to settle down. He is going through some major turmoil regarding taking that step. He was born with his natal Neptune opposite his natal Venus and that usually means that he can be a bit of a player, especially with his Venus being in the sign Gemini and his Neptune in Sagittarius. Without his time of birth I cannot tell you exactly how this will manifest itself in his chart but in yours I believe that he could eventually cheat. I usually like younger men older women relationships or the other way around, but in this case I do believe that you should not put up with anything that he dishes out and that you should keep your door open for a possible new love connection because your chart indicates that you are in a high cycle where meeting new partners or having someone you cared about from your past coming back into your life. If you are tied up with your Cancer friend you aren't likely to be in a position to move onto someone who will treat you better. Regarding your friends who are happily married to difficult men - you'd have to be a fly on the wall to really know how good or bad their relationships are. The grass always looks greener on the other side. You match up better to those born under the signs Aries, Leo, Libra and Aquarius.
Eugenia
April 11th 2026
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