We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia:
I am a Taurus (May 6, 1971: 1:36pm), and I fell in love with a Capricorn (January 14, 1971 - don't know his birth time). He is perfect for me in every way, and is everything I have ever asked for in a man. However, we had to break up because of a very important obligation that he has in his life; he told me this because he doesn't want to complicate my life, and I realized that, due to his unique situation, we don't have a future together, even though we are both in love with each other and continue to see each other. My question is this: I have a feeling that he's trying to get out of his obligation (of which he's wanted out way before he met me) because he wants to be with me so badly. I don't know if I can love anyone like I love him, so I'm having a very hard time. Do I wait a little longer, or do I continue "playing the field," hoping to find a love that will rival or even surpass the one I have with Mr. Capricorn? Hopefully, you will have some positive words to guide my heart and soul, because, right now, I'm not sure as to what I should do.
Thank you -
Emotionally Ravaged
Dear Emotionally Ravaged
The comparison isn't bad but there is an element of emotional deception, limitation and restriction that's apparent. I believe that under normal circumstances this relationship could work but that is not the case so move on. You need to get out and have fun. Join clubs or organizations that you have an interest in and you will meet like-minded people. You are coming into a high cycle where love is concerned so don't miss out because you are waiting for your Capricorn to get his act together. The fact that you move on may push him to deal with the pending problems that face him. You match up well to those born under the signs Leo and Aquarius.
Eugenia
Dear Miss Last,
This is my first time writing to an advice column and I feel funny. But I'd really appreciate some advice. There's someone I met about a yearback. She's funny, sweet, and seems genuinely nice. I was falling for her in a big way then she told me that she was actually attached with a married guy. Needless to say, I backed off real fast and tried to cool off everything. Eventually she broke off with this other guy. Well, I really like her as a friend but she came on too strong. We parted for a while, but at a chance meeting, we felt the sparks between us and got back together. Our relationship went on for a while. Sexually, we're very compatible, she's fantastic. I guess we connect really well. She's very nice, always doing things for me, but she's erratic, compulsive, obsessiveand has this irritating habit of interrupting. And I find myself keep looking out for other women because I don't find stability with her. Late last year, she told me she's pregnant. After questioning her, it turned out that she's lying. I felt cheated. This sweet naive girl who never told lies, told me a big one so convincingly. I didn't intend to see her again. Then as it turned out, she got pregnant for real. Because of her lies, we didn't take precaution. I felt trapped and cheated. What's worse, she promised to keep it mum between us but ended up telling most of our friends. Well, we went together for the abortion. After that, I felt so stressed by all the questioning from our friends, I took some time out. Instead of understanding, she became so demanding and unreasonable, she'd call me every 10mins or so. When I ignored her, she attempted to commit suicide. This freaked me out. Anyway, during this time, I got to know another gal better, and she has been very supportive over the whole incident. And she made me happy. Though my ex and I are no longer together, I feeling uncomfortable when I see her scantily dressed flirting with other guys at the pub. She lost quite a bit of weight and has taken to wearing sexy clothing. I thought that she was leading a new life and is happy. But recently, she buys me an expensive wallet and through our friends, I found out that she is still in love with me. I don't think we can be together again because she has hurt me badly twice, and I will not let her hurt me a third time. But she has started calling me on and off again, even getting her friends to call me as well. It's affecting my work and my life. I'm so afraid of her that I've even avoided our usual haunts and pubs. Help! How do I resolve this situation? She's born on December 19, 1974, somewhere around midnight. I was born August 9, 1971, at 9:53 AM.
Cornered Leo
Dear Cornered Leo
The comparison was adequate with your Sagittarius girlfriend but you did have plenty of obstacles to overcome. Problems with emotional mind games and dishonesty were prevalent as were issues that dealt with every day life. I fear that you aren't over her yet or you probably would have mentioned your latest girlfriends birth date. My first suggestion would be to run like the wind, don't look back and avoid at all costs this so called innocent, na?ve, sweet girl. I found your description somewhat strange. Her chart indicates that she is the type of person who will take drastic measures in order to get what she wants. That she will overreact and that she isn't likely to settle down or commit completely to anyone. She doesn't have a bad chart however it is one that could be described as the chart of a playgirl. I fear she has been toying with you and it's time for you to completely put a stop to it. Get on with your life. You are moving into a high cycle where love and romance are concerned and although someone from your past could try to come back into your life you are best to look for new partners instead. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Leo, Libra and Aquarius.
E
Dear Eugenia
I recently broke up with my boyfriend of five years. I broke up with him mainly because he was not doing much with his life and my waiting around for him caused me to lose interest (in all aspects). At the same time that I broke up with him a really close friend from the past (who had disappeared for five years) showed up out of the blue. Feelings that I had once felt for my friend have also appeared. I feel in my heart that I made the correct decision in leaving my boyfriend, but at times feel a doubt. Was my decision a mistake? Also, it seems that my friend and I picked up right where we left off five years ago. We share all the same qualities, interests and personality traits, topic starters, etc. My feelings for him grow stronger everyday, but I feel as if there is something he is not telling me. Should I question his motives or trust the things he tells me? What is his reason for coming back into my life after 5 years? My ex-boyfriend's birth date is: 10/27/81 and my friend's birth date is: 11/25/81. My birth date is 7/27/82 at 11:55 PM. Please help!
Leo
Dear Leo
No you did not make a mistake regarding your ex. You simply don't match up well and nothing is going to change that. You have different values. You are more of a doer than he will ever be. He may be born under the sign Scorpio but his chart is definitely more Libra. He is willing to coast along and that is just the way he is and always will be.
On the other hand you don't match up any better to your old friend so I believe he is telling you what you want to hear and being who he thinks you want him to be. He falls in an area of your chart that deals with dead ends therefore not likely to go the distance. However if he helped you make your decision not to get back together with your ex he has filled his purpose so it's time for you to move on to bigger and better relationships.
This year you should be focusing on getting your life back on track. Securing your position and setting your finances in order - even considering purchasing a house if at all possible or at least making a move that is more conducive to saving or getting ahead financially.
You will be in a much better cycle regarding love as the year comes to a close and throughout the first half of next year. That doesn't mean you won't meet someone before that time but I suggest that you take your time, socialize and get to know potential partners better before getting involved in another intimate long term union.
Eugenia
