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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Hi Eugenia,
When I check out romance compatibility with my ex-husband it reads 91%. When I check out other possibilities, it reads only 52%. As I said the 91% was my (thankfully) Ex-husband. I am wondering why or how such decisions are arrived at. My birth info as above is Aug 10,1949 actually at the dot of Midnight, which I guess is 11:00 p.m. for your timing purposes. My Ex's birth info is Mar. 24, 1941. I don't know exact time but his mother had thought it might have been early a.m. I suspect he's got Aries rising. Another example of dates of only 50's % are Feb. 14,1968 and June 27,1946. Thanks for your interest. Thanks for the web-site and for being on The Erin Davis show. Oh, and I certainly enjoyed the Forum last summer.
Questioning
Dear Questioning
The comparison with your Aries EX was high because it was relatively well matched up mentally, physically and emotionally. Unfortunately you both went through difficult transits at the same time and that probably made you move on. Your charts indicate that you are both moving toward a huge period of mental growth over the course of the next four years and that this will be good for both of you. Although you may both experience some let downs during the process the end result will be quite good. Regarding the other two gents in your life, the Aquarius just didn't have enough planets in his natal chart that aspected your natal chart plus his natal Neptune adversely aspected your natal Mercury and this usually is an indication of deception, denial etc. It was a connection that suddenly began and ended just as suddenly. Your Cancers natal chart lacked planetary connections to your chart. He actually would have made a better brother. You know one that you don't see that often. Compatibility is the result of natal planets in both people's charts being at favorable angles to one another.
Eugenia
Hi,?
I'm not sure where to start.? I was born January 29, 1967 at 3:20 am and my ex husband (Dec 10, 1967, sorry do not know the time) and I have been divorced for 5 years.? For the past year we have been battling back and forth over child support, which a court has ruled, but my ex won't follow it.? The court has made an order for him to pay a set amount, but he only has paid 1/2 that said amount.? He constantly tries to manipulate me into doing what he wants by using fear. And he's good at it.? I've given in to him many times because of the fear.? I see that now, and am trying to change that and not let him push me around anymore. I have a great lawyer who was at the right place at the right time so I've retained her; she also represented me in my divorce.? Anyway, I am now starting to not give in to his scare tactics and standing firm in what I feel is right and going forward with court.? But, my ex just won't give up. Every time he sees me, or calls me, he's got to get in a sharp word to upset me. It's almost as if he's trying everything in the book to get me to back down and let the child support arrears go before our next court hearing in July.? I am getting emotionally worn out but I find the more I keep moving forward, the stronger I get.? Will he EVER leave me alone and let me move on with my life?? He's getting married in July, so I don't understand why the constant harassment.? I do have a great support system in my boss, friends, and my lawyer (who are all Taurus's) and they keep me focused.? I'm just wondering if my ex will ever leave me alone and accept that the law is the law or will we be fighting over "money" for ever?? My other question is I have a friend, (May 16, 1949...sorry, no time of birth) who is very interested in me, and I in him.? We both are taking this "friendship/relationship" slow but want it to develop into a committed relationship.? Will it?? He's wonderful to me, very caring, and giving and loving.? He's very supportive and even protective when it comes to my ex. He does have his "quirks", but we all do and I find that communication works really well when something isn't "right".?? I just wanted to know if this would be a good relationship or a waste of time. I wonder when it will be my turn to be in a loving relationship, and hope this one will develop and work out.? There haven't been many "admirers" knocking on my door since my divorce and it's getting depressing.? Thank you for reading my letter and I hope you have time to respond to it.
Kali
Hi Kali
You can?t back down and you will win. Even though your ex will always try to get away with not paying you must stand firm. If he is abusive and using fear tactics you will have to have your lawyer intervene with a court order forbidding him to talk to you directly. That way the law will deal with him not you. You did not have a good comparison with him but it was a karmic connection that you had to endure. The worst is over and I believe that you can and will get on with your life. You will be coming into a much higher cycle regarding love beginning in the fall of 2005 but that doesn?t mean that the man you are currently seeing won?t be the one. He does match up to you well however as you said he does have his quirks. The comparison did show some signs of him being over protective at times and this can be a problem if you don?t control it from day one. Other than that you have a terrific comparison. My only concern is that you are settling for someone because you are insecure and afraid you won?t get another chance to find love. Please move slowly, in the fall of 2005 you will know whether he is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with or someone else will steel your heart at that time. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Gemini, Virgo, Libra, Capricorn, Aquarius and Pisces.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I am in a perplexing situation. I was born on February 27, 1958 at 12:01 p.m. My husband of 24 years was born on January 31, 1957. He is a good man and a good supporter. We have had our share of problems in the past. We have 3 great children. My problem is that I am wondering if my hubby is keeping a "secret" from me. He is self-employed, and buys and sells cars. He has a pager and is always being paged even on Sundays. I once looked at his pager and there were numbers entered after the phone numbers and when I asked him about it, he said he never saw them. Now when I look, there is no longer any numbers added. He also loves to gamble, and when I ask how much he spent, or won, there is great hesitation before he answers. It is like I am prying or something. I have a great "gut" feeling that something is off, but I do not know what or why. This is driving me nutty. Any feeling on this subject?
Sincerely,
Confused wife
Dear Confused wife
I believe you are on to something however it will be important that you handle this situation with kid gloves. Your comparison does indicate some sorrow revolving around gambling, children, investments, business, overspending, excessive behavior and so on. I believe that he has been going through temptations and a difficult period for the past few years while transiting Neptune has adversely hit his chart. If you try to get him to talk about what's in fact going on he is likely to shut down getting you nowhere fast. You may find it easier to approach him after the middle of July when he will be in a better position to deal with these matters. I wouldn't be too worried however, it is apparent by his chart that he usually lands on his feet.
Eugenia
August 6th 2026
Happy Birthday: Stifle your emotions around people who can use what you do and say against you. Focus on learning, exercise your strengths, and control outcomes. Choose what and who are meaningful to you. It’s up to you to change what you don’t like and to ensure your safety and happiness. Don’t put your life in someone else’s hands. Be original, create your story by writing the rules and living life your way. Your numbers are 5, 16, 22, 24, 35, 39, 44.
