We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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I have decided to put more time and energy into my research. It’s been a pleasure to answer your emails and to help you through some of life’s tough journeys. Everyone who has participated in my Dear Eugenia column has enriched my life and I hope I have improved yours as well.
For those of you who wish to contribute birth data to my research, please enter your information to my medical astrology research listed on my home page. This research is explicitly dealing with cancer and mental health – addiction illness. The focus is on early diagnosis and preventative medicine.
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Hi Eugenia,
When I check out romance compatibility with my ex-husband it reads 91%. When I check out other possibilities, it reads only 52%. As I said the 91% was my (thankfully) Ex-husband. I am wondering why or how such decisions are arrived at. My birth info as above is Aug 10,1949 actually at the dot of Midnight, which I guess is 11:00 p.m. for your timing purposes. My Ex's birth info is Mar. 24, 1941. I don't know exact time but his mother had thought it might have been early a.m. I suspect he's got Aries rising. Another example of dates of only 50's % are Feb. 14,1968 and June 27,1946. Thanks for your interest. Thanks for the web-site and for being on The Erin Davis show. Oh, and I certainly enjoyed the Forum last summer.
Questioning
Dear Questioning
The comparison with your Aries EX was high because it was relatively well matched up mentally, physically and emotionally. Unfortunately you both went through difficult transits at the same time and that probably made you move on. Your charts indicate that you are both moving toward a huge period of mental growth over the course of the next four years and that this will be good for both of you. Although you may both experience some let downs during the process the end result will be quite good. Regarding the other two gents in your life, the Aquarius just didn't have enough planets in his natal chart that aspected your natal chart plus his natal Neptune adversely aspected your natal Mercury and this usually is an indication of deception, denial etc. It was a connection that suddenly began and ended just as suddenly. Your Cancers natal chart lacked planetary connections to your chart. He actually would have made a better brother. You know one that you don't see that often. Compatibility is the result of natal planets in both people's charts being at favorable angles to one another.
Eugenia
Hi! Eugenia
I have been having problems with my husband for the past three years (the amount of time we have been married). My husband is financially irresponsible and has a substance abuse problem he doesn't want to admit too. I get so frustrated when he's using drugs. I have even hit him a couple of times (which I have never done before) I get so upset to see him that way and wonder why I am with a person like him. I also just had a baby (not planned but overjoyed!). My baby has become the focus of my life and I want to give him everything. I am fed up with my husband and want to leave him but it has been really hard. He will not leave. I feel like my life is in pause because I can't achieve any of my goals. I am the sole provider of the house. He doesn't help with the bills. Will things change? I really want a better life for me & my baby. What should I do?
I was born July 26, 1973, at 7:41 PM.
Fed Up
Dear Fed Up
The fact that you didn't even mention when your husband was born leads me to believe that you have fallen out of love with this man. It's hard to get that love back when too much has gone wrong. I believe that you are asking me to make a decision for you which I can not do however I can tell you that you are going through your first Saturn return and this is a period where you reevaluate your life and make decisions to stagnate or turn things around. Your husband has a problem and unless he is willing to recognize this and do something about it there is no point wasting your time or subjecting your baby and yourself to his abuse. You must give him an ultimatum to get help and if he doesn't oblige it will be time for you to leave. If you own your house jointly and he won't leave or sign the papers to put the house up for sale you must take legal action. If you rent take your baby and get out. The little bit of cash you lose is not worth putting up with his irresponsibility. On making these comments I do however wish that you had provided me with both your husbands and your babies birth data so that I could get a total view of your situation and if your husband has the capacity to turn his life around for the sake of his family. If you believe in your heart that he doesn't than take the baby and run.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I know it's the third time I'm writing this letter and I hope I really don't disturb you but I want to know if the relationship I have with a good friend of mine is going to last. His birthday is 6 December 1981, 15:30 pm and mine is October 9, 1980, at 11:50 am. We have been friends since we were 6 years old and lately, he showed me that he wants something more than friendship. I wasn't in love with him but I had very strong feelings for him and so we had a relationship for a year. I am sad because it didn't work since I couldn't open up to him; I felt he didn't let me. Now he holds grudges because I asked him to break up because I thought that that was better for him and for me. I want to make things work again because I think that if we both want it we can make it work although it seems difficult and we hurt each other sometimes. I really don't want to lose him and I'm ready to fight for our relationship. So do you think it will work? Is it worth trying for? Please tell me because it's really very important to me.
Libra
Dear Libra
The comparison with your Sagittarius friend was really quite good. I believe however that you both need more time. You obviously hurt his feelings and he is definitely a very proud man. You must get your friendship back on track first and then let nature take it's coarse. You will both be in a better position to readdress your relationship in 2004/2005. Considering you've known each other since you were kids you should be able to talk things through and get your priorities straight regarding the way you feel about one another at that time. Physically and mentally you match up well but emotionally there are some problems. Your inability to open up especially regarding the way you feel about being intimate with him must be dealt with and the only way that will happen is if you communicate. I do believe however that the timing has not been right for this relationship as of yet and that if you wait for another year you will both be in a much better frame of mind to deal with the problems that you face.
Eugenia
June 2nd 2026
Happy Birthday: Focus on what is possible and avoid wasting time on no-win situations. Trust your instincts, help those who appreciate you, and walk away from those who don't. Your goal is to declutter your life and to set yourself up to move on to what and who brings you joy. Challenge yourself to be and do your best, and you won't be disappointed. Lower your overhead and stop paying for other people's mistakes. Your numbers are 8, 19, 24, 32, 35, 41, 46.
