We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

This service is no longer available.

I have decided to put more time and energy into my research. It’s been a pleasure to answer your emails and to help you through some of life’s tough journeys. Everyone who has participated in my Dear Eugenia column has enriched my life and I hope I have improved yours as well.

For those of you who wish to contribute birth data to my research, please enter your information to my medical astrology research listed on my home page. This research is explicitly dealing with cancer and mental health – addiction illness. The focus is on early diagnosis and preventative medicine.

I want to stress how important it is to submit complete and accurate birth data – the time and place of birth.

The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: The Love Thermometer

Hi Eugenia,

When I check out romance compatibility with my ex-husband it reads 91%. When I check out other possibilities, it reads only 52%. As I said the 91% was my (thankfully) Ex-husband. I am wondering why or how such decisions are arrived at. My birth info as above is Aug 10,1949 actually at the dot of Midnight, which I guess is 11:00 p.m. for your timing purposes. My Ex's birth info is Mar. 24, 1941. I don't know exact time but his mother had thought it might have been early a.m. I suspect he's got Aries rising. Another example of dates of only 50's % are Feb. 14,1968 and June 27,1946. Thanks for your interest. Thanks for the web-site and for being on The Erin Davis show. Oh, and I certainly enjoyed the Forum last summer.

Questioning

---

Dear Questioning

The comparison with your Aries EX was high because it was relatively well matched up mentally, physically and emotionally. Unfortunately you both went through difficult transits at the same time and that probably made you move on. Your charts indicate that you are both moving toward a huge period of mental growth over the course of the next four years and that this will be good for both of you. Although you may both experience some let downs during the process the end result will be quite good. Regarding the other two gents in your life, the Aquarius just didn't have enough planets in his natal chart that aspected your natal chart plus his natal Neptune adversely aspected your natal Mercury and this usually is an indication of deception, denial etc. It was a connection that suddenly began and ended just as suddenly. Your Cancers natal chart lacked planetary connections to your chart. He actually would have made a better brother. You know one that you don't see that often. Compatibility is the result of natal planets in both people's charts being at favorable angles to one another.

Eugenia

---

Article: Feelings of Guilt

Dear Eugenia,

I (6 July 69, 2.40am) am the last of many siblings to leave home. I was 28 years old and realized I had to create some kind of independent life for myself. Though I love my mother (19 Dec 25) very much, we do not get along well for long periods, I've endured a lot of very hurtful criticism from her, but never retaliating out of respect. I left partly because I just couldn't take it anymore. I feel a lot of guilt and shame in even admitting this because your mother should be on a pedestal. I have a lot of problems trusting because I feel that if the closest person to me can wound me so much, then strangers may be even worse! Though I have stable platonic relationships, my romantic ones have been very sporadic and short lived (9 months is the longest). My past boyfriends either tried to treat me like their mother (23 Oct 66) or like a child (12 Dec 59). I got out cause I felt the walls were closing in and I couldn't be myself. My one true love (6 May 61) is now married to someone else. Is there any luck for me in the next few years and what signs should I look out for?

lover in a rut

---

Dear lover in a rut

It's a good thing that you are finally moving on and out of your parental home. Once you are away from the negativity you will begin to have more confidence in yourself and in others. You were born with Venus opposite Neptune in your natal chart and this can cause some sorrow or difficulties for you where relationships are concerned. You should be checking out the compatibility astrologically between yourself and whomever you fancy before you become too intimate. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio and Pisces. Your chart indicates that you do not have a hard time meeting potential partners but you do make it difficult for the people you meet to get too close to you. Once you learn to open up a little you will find yourself enjoying the company of others. If you don't allow your partner to treat you like a child or a mother it will be hard for him to do so. Be strong, take control and most of all check every potential lover out through my compatibility feature.

Eugenia

---

Article: The Skills to Pay the Bills

Dear Eugenia

I have a problem... my mom is falling apart. My older brother is making my mom's life hell. I try to comfort her but she is in great pain. I am leaving in 5 days, to live with my boyfriend. I don't want to leave my mom. But I am 20 years old and it's time for me to move on with my life, and grow to be a stronger person. I can't protect her from him and I am scared what he will do to her when I am not there for her. I love my mom very much and what my brother is doing to her is killing me inside and out.

I know that this letter is not very spiritual, but I was hoping for a little advice on what I could do for my mom. My mom was born December 13,1957. I was born April 19,1980, at 4 AM. All I want is help!

Mother Love

---

Dear Mother Love

Without your brothers birth data it's hard for me to know what he is capable of doing. Regarding your mother she has to be the one to say no to him, not you. Until your mother is ready to practice tough love nothing will change. If he continually does things to hurt her she should not allow him access to her home. She must protect herself; you can't do that for her. You have to make your own choices and follow your own dreams. Your chart indicates that a move is apparent however you may be able to entice your mother to follow suit and move closer to you sometime next year. Your chart indicates that you should be able to do well in the work force. You have lots of good ideas and certainly the energy to reach your goals. You didn't submit your boyfriend's chart so I can't really make a comment on how well you'll do together. You must not let him stand in the way of your goals. It will be important that you learn the skills necessary if you want to advance professionally. Don't sell yourself short. You are bright, have social skills and can do very well given the right background. Your versatility and charm will help you get ahead.

Eugenia

---

Birthday / Numbers

---