We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
I have been separated and divorced from my Capricorn ex-husband (January 12, 1953, 10:23 a.m.) for seven years. We have two daughters together, one nineteen (September 13, 11.22 a.m. living with him and one (Feb 10, 1985, 10:53 a.m.) living with me. It has been a difficult divorce and caused much pain for all of us. Not my idea. I have been on my own ever since. I have dated occasionally but never got past the first date. I recently gave up the house and moved into a small apartment so my daughter could be nearer her father and sister. She is much happier, has a boyfriend and I rarely see her. Two weeks ago I went to an English Country Dance and was approached by an older gentleman (January 1, 1934, 12:15 a.m.) who has been courting me ever since. He takes me dancing and for dinner. He is an ex drama and English teacher, and an actor. Teaching drama and English is the profession I have just completed training for, and I have a background in acting and film. He loves to travel as do I. He has been separated from his wife of 18 years for one year. My concern is that he is another Capricorn, and I am a Cancer (July 14, 1943, 6:05 p.m.) I have Saturn in Gemini opposition Moon in the seventh house and that means difficulty in relationships. I think I may get myself into trouble again in a relationship with another Capricorn. He is sweet and kind and generous and seems to like me a lot. I have been alone for seven years, putting my daughter and my education first. Is this a father thing? Does it have a chance? Should I just enjoy it for the time being and not expect anything? I am used to a younger man, but nobody that age is interested in a fifty-seven year old woman with a teenaged daughter. I look much younger. Should I accept this graciously, or keep looking. Do you see another major relationship for me, or just casual dating? Is this the one?
At Odds
Dear At Odds
Your Capricorn friend only has his natal Sun in that sign. He has a strong Aquarius influence with his Mercury in the youthful playboy sign Sagittarius. Keep in mind as well that most Capricorn's are old when they are young and young when they are old. This is not an ordinary man and you do match up quite well to him. I feel that there is some deception in this relationship, however I believe that it is within you not him. You are coming into a high cycle regarding love and relationships in May and June of next year. Until that time I suggest you let this relationship develop and see how you feel at that time. If you feel that you can't get past the age difference I suggest that you move on, as new possibilities are likely at that time. However, if you realize that you are falling in love with this man it will be the perfect time to take this connection to the next level.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I hope I get lucky this time and you can answer my mail! I am sorry I cannot afford the confidential consultation right now. I'll try to make this as simple as possible given the world of questions I want to ask. Basically, I have been "in disgrace with fortune" all my life: I lost my childhood to anorexia, have been bullied very cruelly forever throughout my adolescence, and have always felt achingly alone. I have a very low self-esteem, which has led me to undertake breast augmentation surgery last year. Unluckily enough, I've developed capsular contracture (painful and deforming) on one breast, and have also contracted herpes (ironically enough, being a virgin). All this has kept me awake at night, seemingly a cascade coming from a destructive relationship I had last year with a boy (May 25, 1977, birth time unknown), my first "boyfriend" who? only used me and then treated me like nothing. I had never felt -and can never explain- such emptiness and desolation before, and given my timid, self-deprecating character, this shattered me. Will the stars ever shine on me one day Eugenia? I'm tired of trying to love myself and prove myself to others. By the way, as of now, there are two significant men on the horizon, one a Taurus (5.20.74), another Virgo (9.16.-, around 20 years older than me). And of course, the absence of He who hurt me so lingers ever present. Also, what do you see regarding my career? I work very hard. My dream has always been to be an artist - be it in the field of painting or writing.? I would appreciate it from the depth of my soul if you answered me Eugenia, and would think of your answer as one of the sweet miracles I often pray for. I was born March 6, 1982, at 1:18 pm.
Yours, Annabel
Dear Annabel
Let?s start with career and prospects in that area of your life first. Your chart indicates that you should be focusing on learning, developing, picking up skills and definitely being creative in whatever you pursue. All that being said you may have to pick up a sales job or temp work in order to buy yourself some time to pursue whatever art you are drawn to. I have to say that music or lyrics also show up prominently.
Regarding your down and out attitude ? transiting Saturn has been largely responsible for that. It has been moving through a crucial area of your chart the past several years. First it affected your health and well being leaving you confused and feeling reclusive and then it moved on to an area of your chart causing depression especially when dealing with your personal life, the way you view yourself and dealing with relationships. Although this will continue to move through your chart over the upcoming year it is apparent that you should be handling matters a little better come the fall. Late September and October you will be in a high cycle regarding love, relationships and being with someone who understands you. Now this can also bring someone from your past back into your life so if you feel that you have unfinished business with your Gemini friend you may want to readdress that situation even if it is only to close the book, but don?t waste too much time on him because I believe you can do better. Now that is not to say that you didn?t match up to him but the comparison was a little iffy when it came to honesty. He has a lot of growing up to do and unfortunately I believe that he may never do so. He is erratic, fickle and probably a bed bouncer. The unfortunate thing is that he also captured your heart. Your Taurus friend matches up nicely however there is also a lack of honesty especially with regard to your philosophy, beliefs and values. He too is quick to change his mind and I believe he may have a hidden agenda that you are not aware of. You did not mention your Virgo friends exact year of birth so I can?t set up a chart or compare him to you but you can check out how well you match u
Dear Eugenia
This is my third attempt to connect with you. I think this is a wonderful feature that you offer, and your generosity is so very much appreciated!! I have been having some intense problems with my lover of almost 2 years. We are both passionate people, and fell in love with each other over night. We've been together ever since we met (Sept. 9th, 1999). Neither of us has ever experienced love like this before. BUT, I have never experienced such emotionally "brutal" fights in my life. This man that I love can also be cruel, merciless, and manipulative. I need to know what his chart says about this streak in him (I know it has to do with Scorpio) because I am now trying to be very realistic about what I am getting myself into over long term. You have said before that Scorpio men hate any sign of weakness....well, that is a tall order, seeing that every woman or man has their weaknesses. Piscean's tend to show their weaknesses even more so...or at least they appear weak to many people.
I am one of these Piscean's. I have had a very hard life, and in my 27 years have come a very long way from how I was raised. People often see me as angelic, youthful, darling, blessed, and sheltered. It is so ironic, because my background was one of deep sadness, nightmares, and abuse!! Many things happened, but one that I can say just a few words about and gain some understanding is that my mother went into a mental institution when I was six, came out shortly after, and raised me, herself an unmedicated paranoid schizophrenic until I was 11. I lived in a very different world until other adults got involved and took me out of that situation. Obviously this has a tremendous affect on my ability to relate to my peers. My father begrudgingly took me in to live with he and his new wife. They threw me into school (I had not been to elementary school in two years) and punished me for not doing well. My Dad and stepmother treated me like a leper (my stepmother was a very jealous young woman) for years. They made a great income, but did not buy me clothes unless they were from the goodwill or Salvation Army. I always felt like I should ask them to forgive me for imposing on their life. Truly.
Well, I never got past the ninth grade. I worked, starting at 14, in restaurants. I had great dreams of traveling the world, escaping my sadness, becoming something extraordinary. The idealistic dreams of youth always seem to elude us all. I just kept struggling, trying to go back to school and dropping out. It was awful, and by this time, my beloved mother was a homeless woman. Anyway (I am writing much more than I intended) I am now working in a high tech job. My personality is what got me in the door, plus some white lies on my resume. Looking at my current life, my job included, no one who would meet me now would ever even imagine where I came from. I think this is pretty good. I am sad that I have not gone to see the world yet. I would like to write books. I love to write, but self-discipline is very hard for me.
Ok, so my current love belittles me and says that I am weak (I do cry a lot) and that he does not want a weak woman. Other times he tells me I am the best thing that has ever happened to him. He is going to Europe (leaving tomorrow) for 3 months without me. I am incredibly hurt by this. Please tell me what our charts say about our ability to work through things. He is: December 22, 1967, 4:56 AM. I am: March 5th, 1974, 7:16 AM.
Pisces
Dear Pisces
You are actually only a Pisces by Sun sign having your natal Mercury, Venus and Jupiter in Aquarius, your natal Mars and Saturn in Gemini and your natal Uranus and Pluto in Libra. This gives you a strong air influence in your chart. To top it off the other remaining influences are definitely fire with your natal Moon in Leo and your natal Neptune in Sagittarius with Aries r
