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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
I have been separated and divorced from my Capricorn ex-husband (January 12, 1953, 10:23 a.m.) for seven years. We have two daughters together, one nineteen (September 13, 11.22 a.m. living with him and one (Feb 10, 1985, 10:53 a.m.) living with me. It has been a difficult divorce and caused much pain for all of us. Not my idea. I have been on my own ever since. I have dated occasionally but never got past the first date. I recently gave up the house and moved into a small apartment so my daughter could be nearer her father and sister. She is much happier, has a boyfriend and I rarely see her. Two weeks ago I went to an English Country Dance and was approached by an older gentleman (January 1, 1934, 12:15 a.m.) who has been courting me ever since. He takes me dancing and for dinner. He is an ex drama and English teacher, and an actor. Teaching drama and English is the profession I have just completed training for, and I have a background in acting and film. He loves to travel as do I. He has been separated from his wife of 18 years for one year. My concern is that he is another Capricorn, and I am a Cancer (July 14, 1943, 6:05 p.m.) I have Saturn in Gemini opposition Moon in the seventh house and that means difficulty in relationships. I think I may get myself into trouble again in a relationship with another Capricorn. He is sweet and kind and generous and seems to like me a lot. I have been alone for seven years, putting my daughter and my education first. Is this a father thing? Does it have a chance? Should I just enjoy it for the time being and not expect anything? I am used to a younger man, but nobody that age is interested in a fifty-seven year old woman with a teenaged daughter. I look much younger. Should I accept this graciously, or keep looking. Do you see another major relationship for me, or just casual dating? Is this the one?
At Odds
Dear At Odds
Your Capricorn friend only has his natal Sun in that sign. He has a strong Aquarius influence with his Mercury in the youthful playboy sign Sagittarius. Keep in mind as well that most Capricorn's are old when they are young and young when they are old. This is not an ordinary man and you do match up quite well to him. I feel that there is some deception in this relationship, however I believe that it is within you not him. You are coming into a high cycle regarding love and relationships in May and June of next year. Until that time I suggest you let this relationship develop and see how you feel at that time. If you feel that you can't get past the age difference I suggest that you move on, as new possibilities are likely at that time. However, if you realize that you are falling in love with this man it will be the perfect time to take this connection to the next level.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I have a question regarding a love interest. I am in an abusive relationship with my alcoholic husband and I am trying to get my life in order to leave him. In the meantime I met someone else that I have deep feeling for. I have been seeing him for over 3 months now but I have known him for 30 years. I just wonder if you can see what lies in my future. I am so confused as what to do. I know I need to get away from the abusive relationship and work on my self-esteem. My birthday is 12/23/59 at 2:30pm; my love interest birthday is 1/11/58. I do not know birth time. Any insight would be greatly appreciated, as I am very confused right now.
Need Help
Dear Need Help
In most cases I would strongly suggest that you get out on your own for a while until you really know what you want and you have a chance to work on your own problems. However, in your case I have a feeling that you will make the adjustment quickly. The comparison with your Capricorn friend is so good that I don't believe that you should hesitate to have him in your life. He has plenty to offer you and he will help to rebuild your confidence. There is a tiny element of sorrow that does appear in this comparison however it falls in an area of your chart that isn't to negative unless perhaps you work with one another. Should this be the case you may want to consider changing jobs. You probably should have made your move away from your husband a year ago but it's never too late so get yourself packed and out of there. No one should put up with an abusive spouse who isn't dedicated to getting help.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I have had the same best friend for almost 6 years. She, born March 10, 1989, has been recently acting like she does not what be friends with me. She has made some new friends since we have entered Junior High School and has only been hanging around them. In the beginning of 8th grade one of her new friends asked her out and they began dating. She began ignoring me and our other friends more and more to hang out with him and his friends. When I confronted her, she said she didn't realize she had been acting differently and she told me she would try to stop. She hung out with me for about a week until she was back to canceling things that we had planned to do together because her boyfriend would be mad at her. She broke up with him awhile later and came to me to cry on my shoulder. For two weeks my other friends and I did things to make her feel better like go to the mall and stuff. After about two weeks her ex asked out someone else and his best friend asked out mine. She said yes and it started all over again. I told her how I felt yet again. Yesterday she broke up with her boyfriend. She hasn't come to me to be consoled. Instead she goes to her other friends. It hurts to see someone that you have shared a great friendship with snub you. I was wondering what I should do. She doesn't listen to me when I talk to her and she makes me feel selfish that I want her to start hanging out again. Is it selfish? She also gets embarrassed when she is seen with me by any of her new friends. Her friends are nice, but not the type that I hang out with. I thought that if I tried to make friends with them, than she might accept me more, but she just gets embarrassed when I am around. I was born May 12, 1989, at 5:25 pm. Help me please.
~Best Friendless
Dear ~Best Friendless
Your girlfriend has been going through a lot of changes since the spring of last year especially regarding her friendships, school and secret or behind the scenes activity. Her ideas concerning what she likes and does not like are changing and she is becoming more and more attracted to different types of people. As for you - you can't be whom she wants you to be in order to maintain the friendship. It just doesn't work that way. You must however protect yourself so that she doesn't use you whenever she feels insecure with her newfound friends. She may make a reversal by late summer or early fall of this year however don't be too willing to trust that she will not yo-yo you around again. As for you the fall indicates a far better time where friendships and school are concerned so look to expanding your own circle of friends but not at the expense of letting your grades drop. You have a lot going for you and you should focus on yourself your direction in life and spending time with friends who have the same interests as you.
Eugenia
