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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Another Capricorn

Dear Eugenia

I have been separated and divorced from my Capricorn ex-husband (January 12, 1953, 10:23 a.m.) for seven years. We have two daughters together, one nineteen (September 13, 11.22 a.m. living with him and one (Feb 10, 1985, 10:53 a.m.) living with me. It has been a difficult divorce and caused much pain for all of us. Not my idea. I have been on my own ever since. I have dated occasionally but never got past the first date. I recently gave up the house and moved into a small apartment so my daughter could be nearer her father and sister. She is much happier, has a boyfriend and I rarely see her. Two weeks ago I went to an English Country Dance and was approached by an older gentleman (January 1, 1934, 12:15 a.m.) who has been courting me ever since. He takes me dancing and for dinner. He is an ex drama and English teacher, and an actor. Teaching drama and English is the profession I have just completed training for, and I have a background in acting and film. He loves to travel as do I. He has been separated from his wife of 18 years for one year. My concern is that he is another Capricorn, and I am a Cancer (July 14, 1943, 6:05 p.m.) I have Saturn in Gemini opposition Moon in the seventh house and that means difficulty in relationships. I think I may get myself into trouble again in a relationship with another Capricorn. He is sweet and kind and generous and seems to like me a lot. I have been alone for seven years, putting my daughter and my education first. Is this a father thing? Does it have a chance? Should I just enjoy it for the time being and not expect anything? I am used to a younger man, but nobody that age is interested in a fifty-seven year old woman with a teenaged daughter. I look much younger. Should I accept this graciously, or keep looking. Do you see another major relationship for me, or just casual dating? Is this the one?

At Odds

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Dear At Odds

Your Capricorn friend only has his natal Sun in that sign. He has a strong Aquarius influence with his Mercury in the youthful playboy sign Sagittarius. Keep in mind as well that most Capricorn's are old when they are young and young when they are old. This is not an ordinary man and you do match up quite well to him. I feel that there is some deception in this relationship, however I believe that it is within you not him. You are coming into a high cycle regarding love and relationships in May and June of next year. Until that time I suggest you let this relationship develop and see how you feel at that time. If you feel that you can't get past the age difference I suggest that you move on, as new possibilities are likely at that time. However, if you realize that you are falling in love with this man it will be the perfect time to take this connection to the next level.

Eugenia

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Article: The Cycle of Fertility

Dear Eugenia,

Greetings and Blessings, My name is Jennifer and I'm new to Astro Advice. While surfing around on the wonderful web site I came across the "Dear Eugenia" link. I was curious as to what wonders it might hold and so, here I am. The reason for me writing to you is because of a very depressing and unfruitful matter in my life right now. You see, my other half and I have been trying to conceive for almost two years now and to our amazement no results have prevailed. This is often a very saddening experience month after month and we are at the point now where we just feel we should give up. We have tried every option under the sun that has been recommended to us such as; me lying in bed for up to 30 minutes after sex, taking baby asprin to thin out my blood and promote better circulation, taking 2 tbsp. of Robitussin Cough Syrup to thin out cervical mucus, drinking red-raspberry tea and various others. Everything has left us down right exhausted. I'm beginning to lose all hope in this matter and I feel as though I'm not meant to have children. It appears as though God doesn't want me to give the gift of life and bring a child into this world. At several times I thought I was pregnant but, a false- positive pregnancy test proved wrong. To be truthful... this issue is starting to take it's toll on the relationship the more and more the months go by. It appears that these troubles are causing me to push away from my other half and he in turn is beginning to get more and more frustrated and depressed as well. My birth date is December 11, 1978---- 9:00 AM and my other half's is March 17,1980---- unfortunately I am unsure of his time of birth. Please... anything you can tell me would be greatly appreciated and respected. I thank you for your time.

Babyless

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Dear Babyless

Both you and your partner are born under mutable signs (Sagittarius and Pisces) These signs often go through difficulties with getting pregnant, having children, dealing with children and so on but that doesn't mean that it won't happen. In your particular case opportunities for prenancy will be in affect for the next couple of years. You are still young and you shouldn't be putting so much pressure on yourself. I have worked out your fertility cycles for the next twelve months so that you can try to optimize the most auspicious times to conceive. July 9 at 5 PM until July 13 at 5 PM, Aug. 8 at 11 AM until Aug. 12 at 11 AM, Sept. 7 at 3 AM until Sept. 11 at 3 AM, Oct. 6 at 9 PM until Oct. 10 at 9 PM, Nov. 5 at 1 PM until Nov. 9 at 1 PM, Dec. 5 at 1 AM until Dec. 9 at 1 AM, Jan. 3 at 5 PM until Jan. 7 at 5 PM, Feb. 2 at 1 AM until Feb. 6 at 1 AM, Mar. 3 at 11 AM until Mar. 7 at 11 AM, Apr. 2 at 7 PM until Apr. 5 at 7 PM, May 1 at 3 AM until May 5 at 3 AM, May 31 at 11 AM until June 2 at 11 AM, June 28 at 12 AM until July 2 at 12 AM.

Eugenia

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Article: From Virgo

Dear Eugenia,

I am going through a breakup in my marriage of 15 years. It has been a very rocky marriage with control and mistrust on my part, and dishonesty and no loyalty on her part, and we haven't been friends in a long time, to name the most major problems. We were in turmoil for 4 weeks before we had an argument and then have been separated for 5 weeks now and have really had some nasty times. Some of the things she has said are very hurtful, and I don't know what is true and what is not. I think that most men would not stick around to hear the things she has been saying, but for some reason I can't seem to stop loving her and wanting her to come back to build on what we have or had. I have heard that she hasn't been in love with me in years- she was just "settling" or "getting by". I do now recognize some signs of her feeling this way, but I have a hard time seeing it being as much as she says. When we weren't mad at each other, there was always holding hands, cuddling, kissing, that type thing that after 15 years a lot of partners don't do as much as we did. I have really come to the realization that my mistrust and controlling manners have to change no matter what- and we're very misplaced with her. Basically, I realize that she came home to me every night, and now she doesn't- that's all that matters to me now. She wants some space to figure out who she is and has sometimes said things that give me hope (false hope is how she words it). She has also said several times that it is over and she just wants to move on. I can't seem to get my head into "moving on" as every one tells me to. I also can't seem to leave her alone and give her space. I am obsessed with trying to talk to her to start becoming friends- but it just makes her angrier and turns into a nasty fight sometimes. I don't know how to control my urge to not leave her alone because my whole life seems to be just falling apart without her beside me.

Can you guide me into a more secure or comfortable place?

Sorry I don't know the time of her or my birth. Her day was May 2/60 and mine is Sept. 11/66.

Virgo

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Dear Virgo

The comparison does indicate trouble. There is a lack of trust and communication along with deception and anger. Uncertainty will always be a problem between the two of you regardless of whether you stay together or not. You need to let go. You have a good chart and if you can only realize that you were totally mismatched regarding your values and hers you might be able to move on. You match up to people born under the signs Taurus (not her - I'll explain later), Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces. She may be a Taurus but only by Sun sign. She has her natal Mercury and Venus in the sign Aries and this sign does not match up to you at all. Mercury and Venus represent the way she thinks and communicates along with her morals, ethics and Venus represent the way she loves etc. What actually drew you together was the fact that you both have your Moon in the sign Cancer but that isn't enough to make a relationship work. She is erratic and can change her mind very rapidly. She wants to have fun and she needs freedom to come and go as she pleases. You need companionship, trust and someone who wants to be with you all the time. This connection just won't work that way. We are who we are and as much as either one of you may want to change I fear that the same problems will continually surface. You are headed toward lots of changes and you have to wrap your head around that and accept the inevitable. Should she even entertain the thought of getting back together it wouldn't be long before she would want to move on again. Let go and start anew. I believe that she has decided to do just that. The only time I see a possible reconciliation is this fall however as I mentioned before - should you get back together it would only be for a short period of time be

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