We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
My boyfriend of 3yrs (have been friends for 18yrs) has a sexual hang-up. He needs pictures, from magazines, from mail-order videos xxxrated)and watches mpegs on x-rated web sites. But we never seem to have sex! He never wants to touch me. I have asked him if he is still attracted to me he of course said "Yes!!!" He, however, does not know just how much I know! I was cleaning our bed room one day and found videos for the camcorder under his dresser, I of course thinking they're just home videos, put them in the VCR, much to my surprise, they were of 2 of my neighbors!!! Not knowing they were being filmed. Also of my boyfriend pleasuring himself. I did ask him discreetly so as not to get caught, if he would ever or did he ever sleep with Miss. R. He said that it was gross of me to even ask him that and he was never nor could he ever be attracted to Miss. R. I don't know what to do since his little secret does affect our sex life. If I tell him all that I know, all his reply would be "what are you doing going through my things for?" His birthday is October 26,1961 @ 8:19 a.m. and mine is October 17, 1961, at 3:01 AM. Please help if you can!!!!
Sex Starved
Dear Sex Starved
Wow, quite the dilemma. One of the things that stood out loud and clear in your comparison was that his natal Venus really didn't hook up to your chart. That is usually an indication that problems can develop. However, the fact that he does have his natal Moon adversely aspected to his natal Pluto can result in problems that stem from his relationship with females (mother, sister and so on) when he was growing up. He does have his natal Moon aspecting his natal Venus in a favorable way so we know that he does like to have sex. He also has his natal Sun, Mars and Neptune in Scorpio (rules the sexual organs) in an area of his chart that deals with secrets so I'm not surprised that he has kept his fetishes out of sight. I must tell you however that many men and women enjoy looking at pictures, etc., that part isn't uncommon but to not want to have sex with you or touch you is a problem. If you really want to try to make this relationship work at a physical level, open and honest communication regarding one another's sexual likes and dislikes will have to be addressed. Your chart indicates that you have a healthy sexual appetite, therefore I suggest that you will have to begin by making suggestions or buying items that will turn him on. Read him a sexy short story out of an ex-rated magazine when you go to bed or show interest in watching some soft porn videos together. In order to get to the root of his needs and desires you will have to enter his private world. Give it a shot, after all I know that you're attracted to him by the way your natal Venus hooks up to his chart. Be creative in the bedroom and don't be afraid to have a little fun with the one you love.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I have been reading your advice for many years now and I need your help. I have been working at a job in relatively the same field now for over 20 yrs. I have many fears about leaving and going back to school to study because I don't feel it's the right thing. I keep thinking that I should be my own boss and start a sewing/designing company. I was born June 2,1963 @5:35am. My spouse was born Aug.8, 1962 @7:36pm. I feel he is there to support me most of the time but feel he's secretly jealous of anything I may accomplish beyond what I have so far. I really need to get some clear advise, I know if I have your astrological blessing in whatever I choose, I will succeed beyond my dreams. I was raised in a very strict household where boys were treated with more importance and the girls were expected to learn how to be good, quiet housewives, marry someone that would take care of them. I am not that person, but am still held back by my upbringing. I have so many self-doubts, and feel that I am too old or can't learn. I also don't have the finances to just leave my job and go to school. I just need some guidance. Please help me.
Audrey
Dear Audrey
Your chart indicates that you should have signed up for higher education already. Favorable transits will be with you until next summer so if you need to pick up skills in order to pursue your dream get busy. See if you can get the courses you need at night school or through correspondence. That way you can keep your job and you won't feel the financial crunch. Starting your own business is not a bad idea during the last quarter of next year however keep in mind that it is important to support your addiction to whatever your art or dream might be so prepare to work double duty by continuing to hold down your day job while you build your own business on the side. I know this may appear to be overwhelming but that is how most successful people get ahead - by working overtime for a few years. In that way it will be less of a risk. The comparison with your husband is okay and certainly workable. I do not feel so much that he is jealous of your accomplishments but really feeling vulnerable that you may outgrow him if you keep moving up in the world. You must make sure that on top of the heavy workload that you are about to take on that you do not neglect him and that you make him feel as if he is a part of it. My suggestions may sound like a tall order but believe me they can be accomplished. I know first hand because I worked in an unrelated field for seven years as I built up my business. So please don't be daunted by my suggestions - instead embrace them.Your chart does show some problems with health so don't let yourself get rundown just because you are stretched to the limit you still have to eat, sleep and exercise in order to stay strong enough to follow and complete your goals.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia,
I have sent a message before but I had no response. I am writing again as I have been talking with some astrologers on www.astroadvice.com - they have been very kind and helpful. What I am curious is if you can see me having children sometime next year? I am having surgery in the new year, and that should correct my infertility problem, I realize that is a crazy thing to ask of you, but if you have any insights please let me know. Hope to hear from you and your reply will be greatly appreciated. DOB June 20 1971 around 5:30 pm (not positive about the time).
Thank You,
Jody
Hi Jody
Actually you are in a high cycle next year for pregnancy however you also have a chart that consists primarily of mutable signs and this is often an indication that there will be problems with getting pregnant the pregnancy itself or the children you have. With that in mind I must also mention that according to the time you were born luckily the Venus in your chart doesn't fall in an area that represent health however your natal Sun and Mercury do and they are not well aspected so chronic problems are likely to prevail. I believe however that these problems will have more to do with respiratory ailments, allergies, and blood etc - not pregnancy unless toxemia happens during pregnancy. As I mentioned earlier your chart is looking positive for pregnancy between April and August of next year. Your astrological fertility cycles are as follows.
Dec. 5/2005 at 11 PM until Dec. 9/2005 at 11 PM, Jan. 4/05 at 11 AM until Jan. 8/05 11 AM. Feb. 2/05 at 7 PM until Feb. 6/05 at 7 PM, Mar. 2/05 at 9 AM until Mar. 6/05 at 9 AM, Apr. 2/05 at 5 PM until Apr. 6/05 at 5 PM, May 2/05 at 9 AM until May 6/05 at 9 AM, June 1/05 at 3 AM until June 5/05 at 3 AM, July 1/05 at 1 AM until July 5/05 at 1 AM, July 30/05 at 7 PM until Aug. 3/05 at 7 PM, Aug. 29/05 at 3 PM until Sept. 2/05 at 3 PM, Sept. 28/05 at 11 AM until Oct. 2/05 at 11 AM, Oct. 28/05 at 11 AM until Nov. 1/05 at 11 AM, Nov. 27/05 at 5 PM until Dec. 1/05 at 5 PM.
You will be most fertile at the mid point of each time period but if you want to get the most out of these periods I suggest you and your husband book this time to make mad passionate love. A four-day party for two will certainly help you bond your relationship on several different levels. The most fertile months are May, June and August next year.
Eugenia
