We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
My boyfriend of 3yrs (have been friends for 18yrs) has a sexual hang-up. He needs pictures, from magazines, from mail-order videos xxxrated)and watches mpegs on x-rated web sites. But we never seem to have sex! He never wants to touch me. I have asked him if he is still attracted to me he of course said "Yes!!!" He, however, does not know just how much I know! I was cleaning our bed room one day and found videos for the camcorder under his dresser, I of course thinking they're just home videos, put them in the VCR, much to my surprise, they were of 2 of my neighbors!!! Not knowing they were being filmed. Also of my boyfriend pleasuring himself. I did ask him discreetly so as not to get caught, if he would ever or did he ever sleep with Miss. R. He said that it was gross of me to even ask him that and he was never nor could he ever be attracted to Miss. R. I don't know what to do since his little secret does affect our sex life. If I tell him all that I know, all his reply would be "what are you doing going through my things for?" His birthday is October 26,1961 @ 8:19 a.m. and mine is October 17, 1961, at 3:01 AM. Please help if you can!!!!
Sex Starved
Dear Sex Starved
Wow, quite the dilemma. One of the things that stood out loud and clear in your comparison was that his natal Venus really didn't hook up to your chart. That is usually an indication that problems can develop. However, the fact that he does have his natal Moon adversely aspected to his natal Pluto can result in problems that stem from his relationship with females (mother, sister and so on) when he was growing up. He does have his natal Moon aspecting his natal Venus in a favorable way so we know that he does like to have sex. He also has his natal Sun, Mars and Neptune in Scorpio (rules the sexual organs) in an area of his chart that deals with secrets so I'm not surprised that he has kept his fetishes out of sight. I must tell you however that many men and women enjoy looking at pictures, etc., that part isn't uncommon but to not want to have sex with you or touch you is a problem. If you really want to try to make this relationship work at a physical level, open and honest communication regarding one another's sexual likes and dislikes will have to be addressed. Your chart indicates that you have a healthy sexual appetite, therefore I suggest that you will have to begin by making suggestions or buying items that will turn him on. Read him a sexy short story out of an ex-rated magazine when you go to bed or show interest in watching some soft porn videos together. In order to get to the root of his needs and desires you will have to enter his private world. Give it a shot, after all I know that you're attracted to him by the way your natal Venus hooks up to his chart. Be creative in the bedroom and don't be afraid to have a little fun with the one you love.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
You may have had these type of letters before but I really am stuck.. My heart is broken.
Approximately two years ago I fell in love with a Gemini - born on 11th June 1978 at 12pm. (I am a Cancer born on 3rd July 1979 at 6:05pm). Because I thought we were not compatible - he was too intense for me I broke it off last year. Since then he has met someone else and is now in a serious relationship with her (I don't know her statistics). Now I don't know if we were meant to be. Do Cancer and Gemini usually match. I miss him with all my heart and I always think I have made the wrong decision because I feel he is my soul mate. Is there any way you can tell? How do I re-attract a Gemini?
At Odds
Dear At Odds
You do match up well to your Gemini friend however the comparison did indicate that you probably weren't all that forthright with the way you felt about one another. He may be a Gemini but he does have his natal Venus in the sign Cancer and that means that he is sensitive, clingy and yes intense when it comes to love. You on the other hand have your natal Venus in Gemini making you far more aloof and laid back regarding such matters. One thing that often occurs with Venus in Gemini is the overwhelming feeling of wanting what you think you can't have. Please be sure before you tamper with your ex's heart again. His chart indicates that the relationship he is in currently is probably not running as smoothly as he would like. You are best to try to win back his friendship first. You are however in a high cycle regarding love and having past lovers come back into your life between late February and mid July. This can also be a good time to find a new love that can help you forget about the one you gave away. You do match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Libra, Sagittarius and Aquarius.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I usually watch this web site for your advice. Your advice is always true. I am already married, but I don't want to have baby. I still cannot trust him. Maybe I am emotional but I certainly cannot believe him. I'm very tired. He always says "you should trust me'. But I wonder if he still loves me or not. I think we do not suit each other. Should we stay together? My husband was born in September 26, 1969,around 11:00p.m. I was born April 1, 1971, at 11:35 AM.
Actually, I had another boy friend before I got married. I hoped to marry this boyfriend. He was born in Jan 16,1971. Unfortunately we couldn't get married at the end. Finally, I left him. He is living in another country now.
I'd like to know would it better to divorce my husband before we have baby? If not, can I trust my husband someday in the future? I want to see the light of hope as soon as possible. Please give me advice.
Daydreamer
Dear Daydreamer
Your husband can be a player when it comes to love and romance. He can be a real charmer when he wants to be. His chart indicates that he will always be a bachelor at heart. Now that doesn't mean that he will leave you but it doesn't mean that he will be completely loyal either. Your comparison, although workable if he is willing to try harder, does show the major sign of sorrow in an area that deals with friends, relatives, communication, sexual needs, money and legal matters. This covers a lot of territory and you have to question if you have made the right choice in marriage. Regarding your past love, sorrow shows in that comparison as well and I feel that the only reason you are even thinking about him is because you are unhappy with the person you are with. Your chart looks favorable for love and romance next summer. Therefore I suggest that you make your move out of your current situation before that time. If however you decide to stay with your husband I believe that you could end up being pregnant and feeling even less secure in your relationship over the next few years.
Eugenia
April 25th 2026
Happy Birthday: Express yourself. If you don’t share your feelings or talk about what you want, nothing will change. Speak from the heart and be the spokesperson who can turn your dreams into a reality. Don’t sit back and wait for someone to come to your rescue. It’s your turn to rise and to force issues, to join in, and participate, to stop complaining and bring about the changes your happiness depends on. Your numbers are 5, 16, 21, 29, 32, 37, 43.
