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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
My boyfriend of 3yrs (have been friends for 18yrs) has a sexual hang-up. He needs pictures, from magazines, from mail-order videos xxxrated)and watches mpegs on x-rated web sites. But we never seem to have sex! He never wants to touch me. I have asked him if he is still attracted to me he of course said "Yes!!!" He, however, does not know just how much I know! I was cleaning our bed room one day and found videos for the camcorder under his dresser, I of course thinking they're just home videos, put them in the VCR, much to my surprise, they were of 2 of my neighbors!!! Not knowing they were being filmed. Also of my boyfriend pleasuring himself. I did ask him discreetly so as not to get caught, if he would ever or did he ever sleep with Miss. R. He said that it was gross of me to even ask him that and he was never nor could he ever be attracted to Miss. R. I don't know what to do since his little secret does affect our sex life. If I tell him all that I know, all his reply would be "what are you doing going through my things for?" His birthday is October 26,1961 @ 8:19 a.m. and mine is October 17, 1961, at 3:01 AM. Please help if you can!!!!
Sex Starved
Dear Sex Starved
Wow, quite the dilemma. One of the things that stood out loud and clear in your comparison was that his natal Venus really didn't hook up to your chart. That is usually an indication that problems can develop. However, the fact that he does have his natal Moon adversely aspected to his natal Pluto can result in problems that stem from his relationship with females (mother, sister and so on) when he was growing up. He does have his natal Moon aspecting his natal Venus in a favorable way so we know that he does like to have sex. He also has his natal Sun, Mars and Neptune in Scorpio (rules the sexual organs) in an area of his chart that deals with secrets so I'm not surprised that he has kept his fetishes out of sight. I must tell you however that many men and women enjoy looking at pictures, etc., that part isn't uncommon but to not want to have sex with you or touch you is a problem. If you really want to try to make this relationship work at a physical level, open and honest communication regarding one another's sexual likes and dislikes will have to be addressed. Your chart indicates that you have a healthy sexual appetite, therefore I suggest that you will have to begin by making suggestions or buying items that will turn him on. Read him a sexy short story out of an ex-rated magazine when you go to bed or show interest in watching some soft porn videos together. In order to get to the root of his needs and desires you will have to enter his private world. Give it a shot, after all I know that you're attracted to him by the way your natal Venus hooks up to his chart. Be creative in the bedroom and don't be afraid to have a little fun with the one you love.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I was born on May 7 1967 at 3.30pm.
I am 35 years old and have been a working single parent of 4 children for the past 18 months. I have come to the stage in my life where I now have to work out what to do in terms of either re-educating or trying to get a new job which will provide a better income for the children and I.My gut feeling is to move away from the district we are living in and to either go to Tech or find a new job. I know my children will be alright but do I have the courage and will I cope financially if I go with my instincts. I normally feel very positive but at the moment I feel swamped with all sorts of negative energy!!! Also if I move will happiness come and maybe a secure relationship? thank you for your time.
Yours faithfully.
Lisa
Dear Lisa
Your chart indicates that opportunities for both learning and changing jobs look quite good over the course of the next year. If you could get a job that offered an apprenticeship that would work as well, or one that would send you on courses that would enable you to raise your skills as well as your earning potential. Regarding a move I really don't see that as being all that easy before the summer of next year. For now I believe that if you do move it will be difficult. If you are planning to go back to school and must move in order to do so that is probably why it your chart indicates that the year ahead will be a tedious time for you. I would suggest that you try to pick up additional skills through night school or the other options I suggested so that you can continue to hold down a job and support your family. As for a relationship I believe you may meet someone if you move, travel or through educational pursuits. Keep your eyes opened as there are potential partners in the offing.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia,
I'm asking you a favor. I don't know how I should start. I have someone whom I really love. I have been going out with him for more than a year. We live in different cities. I'm not going to write a long story. What I'd like to know is whether I can keep this relation or not. My parents hate him. They haven't even seen him but they heard his voice on the phone. They say his voice is too hoarse, it make him sound like he is a triad. Well, he was once in a gang but not now. He quit long time ago and now he is working in a fabric related company. We are secretly seeing each other and I like him. What should I do? His birthday is July 5, 1976 (Lunar month) and I'm not sure about his time of birth. I was born April 9, 1980, at 2:15 AM. I'll be waiting for your reply.
In Love
Dear In Love
Lovers come and go but family is with you forever. The comparison with your Cancer man wasn't bad however sorrow does appear when it comes to dealing with your family and the possibility that he can become physical aggressiveness with you is evident as well. It is important for you to be honest with your family and ask them to at least meet this man and not judge him by his voice. If your family still feels strongly that he is not the one for you consider that they might be picking up on the fact that he does have some traits that might not be too favorable. You may be blind to his defects because you are in love with him. Keep in mind that right now he is on his best behavior but at some point he will show his true colors and when he does his aggressive side may not be as nice. His chart does indicate that he is very sensitive and extremely bright however there is also an element of unpredictability. I believe that you do have a connection to one another however without your families blessing I feel that it would eventually cause a problem in your relationship.
Eugenia
