We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Secretly Sex Starved

Dear Eugenia

My boyfriend of 3yrs (have been friends for 18yrs) has a sexual hang-up. He needs pictures, from magazines, from mail-order videos xxxrated)and watches mpegs on x-rated web sites. But we never seem to have sex! He never wants to touch me. I have asked him if he is still attracted to me he of course said "Yes!!!" He, however, does not know just how much I know! I was cleaning our bed room one day and found videos for the camcorder under his dresser, I of course thinking they're just home videos, put them in the VCR, much to my surprise, they were of 2 of my neighbors!!! Not knowing they were being filmed. Also of my boyfriend pleasuring himself. I did ask him discreetly so as not to get caught, if he would ever or did he ever sleep with Miss. R. He said that it was gross of me to even ask him that and he was never nor could he ever be attracted to Miss. R. I don't know what to do since his little secret does affect our sex life. If I tell him all that I know, all his reply would be "what are you doing going through my things for?" His birthday is October 26,1961 @ 8:19 a.m. and mine is October 17, 1961, at 3:01 AM. Please help if you can!!!!

Sex Starved

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Dear Sex Starved

Wow, quite the dilemma. One of the things that stood out loud and clear in your comparison was that his natal Venus really didn't hook up to your chart. That is usually an indication that problems can develop. However, the fact that he does have his natal Moon adversely aspected to his natal Pluto can result in problems that stem from his relationship with females (mother, sister and so on) when he was growing up. He does have his natal Moon aspecting his natal Venus in a favorable way so we know that he does like to have sex. He also has his natal Sun, Mars and Neptune in Scorpio (rules the sexual organs) in an area of his chart that deals with secrets so I'm not surprised that he has kept his fetishes out of sight. I must tell you however that many men and women enjoy looking at pictures, etc., that part isn't uncommon but to not want to have sex with you or touch you is a problem. If you really want to try to make this relationship work at a physical level, open and honest communication regarding one another's sexual likes and dislikes will have to be addressed. Your chart indicates that you have a healthy sexual appetite, therefore I suggest that you will have to begin by making suggestions or buying items that will turn him on. Read him a sexy short story out of an ex-rated magazine when you go to bed or show interest in watching some soft porn videos together. In order to get to the root of his needs and desires you will have to enter his private world. Give it a shot, after all I know that you're attracted to him by the way your natal Venus hooks up to his chart. Be creative in the bedroom and don't be afraid to have a little fun with the one you love.

Eugenia

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Article: A Major Problem

Dear Eugenia,

You must be busy replying to so many letters to those people who need your help.

My life condition at the moment is really hectic. I'm a 25 year old male born May 25, 1976, at 11:40 PM, who just broke up with his girlfriend, and very sad about it. Meanwhile, I am also confused about my future. I've been thinking I have been lucky throughout my life. However, as I get older, so many bad things continuously happen. For example, condition at home is not stable. I'd like to continue my studying but I don't put enough into it. I'd like to transfer to a better university. Then I will try my best. I don't know what kind of job will suit me nor do I know what I want to major in. These days, I don't feel like living. I'd like to make a success so that I can help my parents'...will I get accepted?? What kind of major should I take? I'd like to hear your advice Eugenia ...any suggestion will do.

Lost

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Dear Lost

I understand your quandary however your chart indicates that you will continue to be confused regarding your educational pursuits. You have had transiting Neptune adversely aspected to your natal Moon, Mars, Saturn and Uranus in an area that deals with education for some time now and unfortunately it will remain there until the end of 2001. This can also be what has caused your lack of trying to do well scholastically. Now this doesn?t mean that you should forget about trying or that you should quit school. What it does mean is that you may change your mind several times throughout this period regarding your future direction. My suggestion is that you do one of two things. Continue to study general courses that will leave you as much maneuverability as possible so that when you do decide what you want to major in you will not have to back track. Or, you may want to take some time out and get a job. That way you can help your parents financially and get a better idea regarding what direction in life you would eventually like to pursue. According to your chart you show abilities where communications, teaching, horticulture, sales and the travel industry are concerned. Regarding love you are in a high cycle the rest of this year and into next so don?t despair. You will be back in love before you know it. You match up well to those born under the signs Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces.

Eugenia

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Article: From Gemini

Hi Eugenia

MY HUSBAND HAS HAD AN AFFAIR. I need to know if it is over. I need to know if he plans to stay around, and if so, for how long. Is he just pacifying me till things blow-over. I need to know what else he is hiding. He is a Pisces born Feb 22 1957 and I am a Gemini born May 23 1957 at 1:30 am. I do not know his time of birth. I also need to know if I will be winning any money in the next three months. Will this money be enough to keep me going through an impending divorce?

Gemini

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Hi Gemini

I do not know how many years the two of you have managed to stay together but I must admit the comparison is not very good especially from a physical aspect. Although your husband is capable of having an affair and he is probably still is in the midst of it he doesn't have the type of chart that is any more inclined to do so than yours. You are both in a high cycle between now and the end of the summer of next year regarding love, relationships etc. This can mean that you will both find new partners or that you will try to get the relationship you have with one another back on track. I have seen plenty of couples that don't match up all that well astrologically have a long and lasting union so if you feel you have any love left for on another consider giving it one last try between now and the spring of next year. If it still isn't working move on. I suggest that you talk to your lawyer and gather all the information you require regarding your husbands assets so that you are prepared to win a good settlement. Your husband does keep secrets from you regarding what he is up to, how he feels and how much he is worth or makes. Your chart indicates that you do have some high cycles coming up during the later part of next year regarding coming into money however that could be a divorce settlement, insurance It's most likely that it will be one of the first five possibilities. Your chart does indicate that the dynamic of the situation in your home is changing this year and that your husband will be emotionally uncertain as to what he should do. The turn of the year will be particularly explosive for him. He does appear to show some abusive tendencies and you should not put yourself in harms way.

Eugenia

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