We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
My boyfriend of 3yrs (have been friends for 18yrs) has a sexual hang-up. He needs pictures, from magazines, from mail-order videos xxxrated)and watches mpegs on x-rated web sites. But we never seem to have sex! He never wants to touch me. I have asked him if he is still attracted to me he of course said "Yes!!!" He, however, does not know just how much I know! I was cleaning our bed room one day and found videos for the camcorder under his dresser, I of course thinking they're just home videos, put them in the VCR, much to my surprise, they were of 2 of my neighbors!!! Not knowing they were being filmed. Also of my boyfriend pleasuring himself. I did ask him discreetly so as not to get caught, if he would ever or did he ever sleep with Miss. R. He said that it was gross of me to even ask him that and he was never nor could he ever be attracted to Miss. R. I don't know what to do since his little secret does affect our sex life. If I tell him all that I know, all his reply would be "what are you doing going through my things for?" His birthday is October 26,1961 @ 8:19 a.m. and mine is October 17, 1961, at 3:01 AM. Please help if you can!!!!
Sex Starved
Dear Sex Starved
Wow, quite the dilemma. One of the things that stood out loud and clear in your comparison was that his natal Venus really didn't hook up to your chart. That is usually an indication that problems can develop. However, the fact that he does have his natal Moon adversely aspected to his natal Pluto can result in problems that stem from his relationship with females (mother, sister and so on) when he was growing up. He does have his natal Moon aspecting his natal Venus in a favorable way so we know that he does like to have sex. He also has his natal Sun, Mars and Neptune in Scorpio (rules the sexual organs) in an area of his chart that deals with secrets so I'm not surprised that he has kept his fetishes out of sight. I must tell you however that many men and women enjoy looking at pictures, etc., that part isn't uncommon but to not want to have sex with you or touch you is a problem. If you really want to try to make this relationship work at a physical level, open and honest communication regarding one another's sexual likes and dislikes will have to be addressed. Your chart indicates that you have a healthy sexual appetite, therefore I suggest that you will have to begin by making suggestions or buying items that will turn him on. Read him a sexy short story out of an ex-rated magazine when you go to bed or show interest in watching some soft porn videos together. In order to get to the root of his needs and desires you will have to enter his private world. Give it a shot, after all I know that you're attracted to him by the way your natal Venus hooks up to his chart. Be creative in the bedroom and don't be afraid to have a little fun with the one you love.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I realize you are swamped with letters, however I am going through a divorce after 291/2-years. I was born 3-31-48 at 11:27pm in Chicago, IL. My husband was born 8-28-50 at 11:13am in Gary, Indiana. Everyone thought we were the perfect couple! We have one daughter age 27 that dearly loves us both. My husband had an affair with his 25-year old secretary. I found out in Feb. of this year and he did not give her up after all my attempts to make the marriage work. I finally realized I am better off without him. But, God it hurts and I am scared to death. We came to a divorce agreement on Friday and the papers are being drawn up for us to sign. How do I get my self-confidence back after being knocked down for so many years? Last week I saw my first loves identical twin brother and we definitely have a connection (I think) he was born 3-1-41.
I am looking for advice on how to go on with my life and not hurt so much. I loved my husband so much but didn't like what he turned into. Please help me-I am hurting so bad.
Aries
Dear Aries
You have a pretty good chart. Some high cycles are approaching in different areas of life. Romance and relationships look promising between October and February and it will be important that you get out and join in the fun in order to hook up with someone who can take your mind off your cheating husband. You do match up quite nicely to your first loves brother and I wouldn't hesitate to follow through with your connection to him. You also match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Cancer, Virgo, Capricorn and Pisces. Regarding your comparison with your ex, surprisingly enough it was just adequate. I must stress that it is important that you take care of any legal matters. Make sure that you get your share of whatever the two of you accumulated over the years. It's one thing to be hurt and another to be hurt and financially in the poorhouse. Once you know that your financial situation is okay you will feel much better about yourself and your future. You should be considering what you want to do with the rest of your life. The area of your chart that deals with work and money is moving into favorable times and you should consider all the things that you used to dream about doing. Your chart indicates that you do have ability in areas that deal with communications, travel, hospitality industry and sales. Don't be afraid to try new things. You will find out how capable you are very quickly if you take control and make the effort.
Eugenia
Dear Miss Last,
This is my first time writing to an advice column and I feel funny. But I'd really appreciate some advice. There's someone I met about a yearback. She's funny, sweet, and seems genuinely nice. I was falling for her in a big way then she told me that she was actually attached with a married guy. Needless to say, I backed off real fast and tried to cool off everything. Eventually she broke off with this other guy. Well, I really like her as a friend but she came on too strong. We parted for a while, but at a chance meeting, we felt the sparks between us and got back together. Our relationship went on for a while. Sexually, we're very compatible, she's fantastic. I guess we connect really well. She's very nice, always doing things for me, but she's erratic, compulsive, obsessiveand has this irritating habit of interrupting. And I find myself keep looking out for other women because I don't find stability with her. Late last year, she told me she's pregnant. After questioning her, it turned out that she's lying. I felt cheated. This sweet naive girl who never told lies, told me a big one so convincingly. I didn't intend to see her again. Then as it turned out, she got pregnant for real. Because of her lies, we didn't take precaution. I felt trapped and cheated. What's worse, she promised to keep it mum between us but ended up telling most of our friends. Well, we went together for the abortion. After that, I felt so stressed by all the questioning from our friends, I took some time out. Instead of understanding, she became so demanding and unreasonable, she'd call me every 10mins or so. When I ignored her, she attempted to commit suicide. This freaked me out. Anyway, during this time, I got to know another gal better, and she has been very supportive over the whole incident. And she made me happy. Though my ex and I are no longer together, I feeling uncomfortable when I see her scantily dressed flirting with other guys at the pub. She lost quite a bit of weight and has taken to wearing sexy clothing. I thought that she was leading a new life and is happy. But recently, she buys me an expensive wallet and through our friends, I found out that she is still in love with me. I don't think we can be together again because she has hurt me badly twice, and I will not let her hurt me a third time. But she has started calling me on and off again, even getting her friends to call me as well. It's affecting my work and my life. I'm so afraid of her that I've even avoided our usual haunts and pubs. Help! How do I resolve this situation? She's born on December 19, 1974, somewhere around midnight. I was born August 9, 1971, at 9:53 AM.
Cornered Leo
Dear Cornered Leo
The comparison was adequate with your Sagittarius girlfriend but you did have plenty of obstacles to overcome. Problems with emotional mind games and dishonesty were prevalent as were issues that dealt with every day life. I fear that you aren't over her yet or you probably would have mentioned your latest girlfriends birth date. My first suggestion would be to run like the wind, don't look back and avoid at all costs this so called innocent, na?ve, sweet girl. I found your description somewhat strange. Her chart indicates that she is the type of person who will take drastic measures in order to get what she wants. That she will overreact and that she isn't likely to settle down or commit completely to anyone. She doesn't have a bad chart however it is one that could be described as the chart of a playgirl. I fear she has been toying with you and it's time for you to completely put a stop to it. Get on with your life. You are moving into a high cycle where love and romance are concerned and although someone from your past could try to come back into your life you are best to look for new partners instead. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Leo, Libra and Aquarius.
E
May 13th 2026
Happy Birthday: Look for opportunities, and they will sprout. A lifestyle change will have a greater impact on you than you expect. Do the groundwork, fill out applications, talk to experts, and put your budget and plan in place. This is a year of quiet change that slowly eliminates all the little upsets in your life, causing stress. Revamp, reclaim, and rejuvenate, and doors that were closed will open and welcome you. Your numbers are 5, 12, 22, 29, 33, 37, 48.
