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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
I have separated from my husband after 14 years of marriage and I have been seeing another man for 15 months now. My ex was very jealous and controlling and his selfishness killed all the love I had for him. He was born on November 5 1955.
My present lover was a longtime acquaintance and we got together as my marriage was ending. He was born on September 26 1966.
I have always had a strong attraction to this man from the first time I saw him and my ex could see it somehow and it caused a lot of frictions in our marriage. Nothing ever happened between the other man and me until I became desperately unhappy and sought him in the last months of my marriage. He brought back laughter and joy into my life and I feel happy in his company. He is divorced and has a teenage daughter. We have a very discreet relationship for many reasons but now I wish we could take it to another level.
Could you please tell me if this relationship will lead to a commitment or if there is another man for me in my future? I am very careful whom I mingle with because I have two children that I want to keep safe. My present boyfriend has known them from birth and has been good and caring towards them.
Hoping to hear from you soon.
Thank you.
Marie
Dear Marie
Firstly, kudos to you for having the strength and courage to move on and getting away from a controlling and unloving marriage and for thinking of your children first.
The comparison with your ex showed signs of both mental and physical abuse that you and your children shouldn't be subjected to. His possessive obsession at an emotional level is something he was born with and shows clearly in his chart. In short he needs professional help to overcome this problem however he is the personality type that probably would never agree to that sort of therapy.
Your current relationship is not the best or most suitable match up for you long-term and is probably much better kept as a family friend. Unfortunately according to your astrological comparison with him there is evidence that he has the potential to be emotionally deceptive with you. I do believe that you have some karma with this man however and that it is likely he has served his purpose. Your chart indicates that you are in a high cycle regarding love this year and that it is important for you to get out and meet new people, however if you are tied up too tightly with your Libra man you aren't likely to experiment with potential partners. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Leo, Virgo, Libra and Aquarius. Should you want to give this relationship more time your next favorable cycle for love and romance will begin late next year and continue through the first three quarters of 2009.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia:
First of all let me say that I think you are wonderful to provide the services that you do. I love being able to check on things for myself every day. I know there are many people out there that need your advice so if my letter doesn't get chosen I thank you anyway. I could really use your help though. I am a 43yr old Pisces born 2/23/57 @10:33pm in St. Petersburg FL and I have fallen head over heels for a fellow Pisces born 3/15/50 in Fayetteville NC. We get along great most of the time, but occasionally we really rub each other the wrong way. My man makes it clear that he doesn't want a serious relationship. He has been through some really horrible past as have I which tends to make both of us rather skittish of emotions. We have been involved for the last 7 months(although if you ask him he'd tell you he's not involved with anyone). He has always been a real Romeo, but hasn't been with anyone but me since this all started. Sorry to ramble so, I just want you to understand it all.
He and I had a falling out last week and I haven't heard from him since then. I have seen him a couple of times because he showed up at the same places where I was out with friends. I just need to know will we get past this rough spot? I really feel that I have finally found my soul mate, but he has such deep seated issues from his past relationships I don't know how to get through to him sometimes. I really care for this man and only want what's best for him. Of course I have to admit I think that's me. How do I get through to him? Will we get past this recent falling out? Should I make overtures to make things better or am I just fooling myself? Everything I have checked out on your site says we are compatible, but I am really at a loss as to how to proceed. I could really use your advice. I'm not asking if you think we should continue. I know we should. It's just how to get there and overcome these obstacles that I need help on. Thanks for reading all of this. I truly appreciate it.
Yours truly,
Pisces in a Pickle
Dear Pisces in a Pickle
I hate to backtrack but the comparison between you and your Pisces friend is only adequate. Now this does not mean that it can't work but it will take plenty of effort on both your part and his. You are both sensitive and tend to back away from issues that you don't feel comfortable discussing. I suggest that you rectify your problems quickly by talking it through before it gets blown out of proportion. It's obvious that he still cares or he wouldn't show up in places that you are likely to be. Your chart indicates that you are going through a make it or break it period in your relationship. It is important to decide if you want to be with him or not and make it so. Your chart also denotes that you will be in a high cycle for love and relationships next year so don't feel that this is your last chance for love. You have plenty to offer and will match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo and Capricorn as well as another Pisces. I must caution however that with the planets Jupiter and Saturn slowly moving into the sign Gemini over the next year you may find it difficult for you and your Pisces friend to agree.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia:
I have recently become engaged and have a February wedding planned. My birth date is 4/24/47 and his is 11/13/46. We have a lot in common, enjoy each other's company, are sexually very compatible but my problem is he analyzes everything I say and do to the extreme and often becomes upset, broods for hours and I don't have a clue as to what's bothering him at the time. It's usually over something so insignificant that when we finally get around to discussing what's wrong, I'm amazed at the source of his distress. I seem to be ruled by my emotions and he is a very logical thinker. We both have very strong personalities that often conflict. When things are good, they're wonderful, but when they're bad, it is so stressful I wonder if it's worth continuing the relationship. I've often thought about canceling the wedding but the love I feel for this man is so strong (like no other I've ever experienced), that it makes me physically sick when I consider it. Your advice?
Undecided
Dear Undecided
The comparison was excellent. The one problem that I can see is that one or both of you is not communicating openly and honestly about your feelings. This can easily be rectified by having open discussions. I believe that you are overreacting to this situation right now due to transiting Jupiter and that he is a little erratic because of it. Try to relax and enjoy what you have. If you don't feel that you can handle the situation consider going for counseling because this is truly too good a connection to throw away.
Eugenia
