We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: For The Children

Hi Eugenia

AAAARRGG! Not another relationship question?!

I've written a few times without receiving a reply but persist out of dire need. I'm at my wit's end about what to do.I am in the 20th year of marriage to a man I wonder if I ever truly loved. We have three children. Over the past 5 or 6 years, I feel I have changed a great deal. I no longer want the same things, nor am I happy to settle for a mediocre relationship "for the sake of the children". I know I should listen to my heart and question my mind but I feel like I've turned it over and over until I can't seem to decide. Am I destined to go through life biding my time or am I waiting for the time to be right? I sometimes feel like I don't know anything anymore and am just letting life drag me along. What do the stars say? My birthday is March 28, 1961. My husband's is October 17, 1945.

Signed,
Need to Know

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Need to Know,

I understand your dilemma, however there are a lot of variables involved in your case. You didn't mention how old your children are, therefore it is hard to know what your responsibilities at this time are. Your comparison with your Libra husband is mediocre. I do believe that at one time you did have a passionate connection but that was long ago. I feel that you have both been very limiting for one another and that maybe the best thing to do is to discuss your options. Your husband does have his natal Sun squaring his natal Mars and this can cause him to have a temper if it falls in a certain area of his chart however without his time of birth I can't tell how this aspect will manifest itself. If he hasn't shown this trait I believe that you should be able to make some decisions as a couple that will allow you both greater freedom to come and go as you please or to actually get on with your lives. The children however should be your first concern, so whatever is best for them at this time is the bottom line.

Eugenia

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Article: Hang on to Your Scruples

Dear Eugenia

Until last January I had been in a yearlong relationship with a man who was born 1/16/66. Then out of the blue he stops calling or writing me. After two months of avoiding me, I made him admit that he had met a woman who slept with him on the second date. Needless to say I was devastated and fell into a depression that I had to seek treatment for. My question is, will I ever hear from this man again. We have never slept together and I suppose that was one of the reasons that the relationship didn't work. I didn't feel it was right to sleep with a man who wouldn't ever come down and pick me up at my home or invite me out with his friends. He went from having dinner and movies 2 or 3 times a week to him completely ignoring me.

How can I avoid this in the future? I was born on March 1, 1968 at 5:30 PM. What happened with him and his feelings for me?

Lonely Pisces

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Dear Lonely Pisces

You should hope that your Capricorn friend doesn't call again. The comparison really wasn't that great and you do have to question a man who won't come to your house to fetch you. You have a different set of values and standards and you should not compromise yours for the sake of pleasing him. You are moving into a high cycle where love and romance are concerned and you should be getting out and meeting people who have similar interests. If you join groups or clubs, you will expand your circle of friends and you will meet someone special. You match up well to those born under the signs Gemini, Leo, Libra and Sagittarius.

Eugenia

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Article: Family Problem

Dear Eugenia,

I am writing to you about a family problem. My sister and I are the primary caretakers of our mother. My mother is disabled and has a variety of health problems. Her birthday is 8/30/1941 @ 4:30 p.m.

My problem is that ever since I was a young child we have had severe disagreements, fighting, etc. My birthday is 8/5/1975 @ 11:30 p.m. I try to be patient and understanding but our bad feelings have just grown worse with time. The pain and hurt is just getting to be too much. Please give me some advice on how I can deal with her more effectively and what I should keep in mind to have any kind of good relationship at all.

Thanx

Leo

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Dear Leo

Although there is a small problem that shows up in your comparison that deals with honest communication regarding the way you both feel the overall picture doesn't appear to be that horrid. Yes you can argue and yes you are very different from one another but that doesn't mean that you can't get along. Your mother needs a bit of a wakeup call. She is a very strong Virgo and I believe that she can be a perfectionist. If that is the case nothing you ever do will be good enough or right. You must sit her down and tell her that you cannot live with or under those conditions. That you are trying to help her and if she won't allow you the decency to carry on as you please that you and your sister will have to find someone else to take care of her. Your mother is going through a very debilitating period over the course of the next two years and I believe that she is severely depressed. She recently experienced her second Saturn return and I believe that she has reevaluated her life and has decided that she isn't too happy with the way it unfolded. The fact that she is lashing out at you because of her own regrets is a shame but she is your mother and what she needs is honesty, love and to be put in her place.

Eugenia

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