We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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I have decided to put more time and energy into my research. It’s been a pleasure to answer your emails and to help you through some of life’s tough journeys. Everyone who has participated in my Dear Eugenia column has enriched my life and I hope I have improved yours as well.

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: For The Children

Hi Eugenia

AAAARRGG! Not another relationship question?!

I've written a few times without receiving a reply but persist out of dire need. I'm at my wit's end about what to do.I am in the 20th year of marriage to a man I wonder if I ever truly loved. We have three children. Over the past 5 or 6 years, I feel I have changed a great deal. I no longer want the same things, nor am I happy to settle for a mediocre relationship "for the sake of the children". I know I should listen to my heart and question my mind but I feel like I've turned it over and over until I can't seem to decide. Am I destined to go through life biding my time or am I waiting for the time to be right? I sometimes feel like I don't know anything anymore and am just letting life drag me along. What do the stars say? My birthday is March 28, 1961. My husband's is October 17, 1945.

Signed,
Need to Know

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Need to Know,

I understand your dilemma, however there are a lot of variables involved in your case. You didn't mention how old your children are, therefore it is hard to know what your responsibilities at this time are. Your comparison with your Libra husband is mediocre. I do believe that at one time you did have a passionate connection but that was long ago. I feel that you have both been very limiting for one another and that maybe the best thing to do is to discuss your options. Your husband does have his natal Sun squaring his natal Mars and this can cause him to have a temper if it falls in a certain area of his chart however without his time of birth I can't tell how this aspect will manifest itself. If he hasn't shown this trait I believe that you should be able to make some decisions as a couple that will allow you both greater freedom to come and go as you please or to actually get on with your lives. The children however should be your first concern, so whatever is best for them at this time is the bottom line.

Eugenia

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Article: From Marie

Dear Eugenia

I have separated from my husband after 14 years of marriage and I have been seeing another man for 15 months now. My ex was very jealous and controlling and his selfishness killed all the love I had for him. He was born on November 5 1955.

My present lover was a longtime acquaintance and we got together as my marriage was ending. He was born on September 26 1966.

I have always had a strong attraction to this man from the first time I saw him and my ex could see it somehow and it caused a lot of frictions in our marriage. Nothing ever happened between the other man and me until I became desperately unhappy and sought him in the last months of my marriage. He brought back laughter and joy into my life and I feel happy in his company. He is divorced and has a teenage daughter. We have a very discreet relationship for many reasons but now I wish we could take it to another level.

Could you please tell me if this relationship will lead to a commitment or if there is another man for me in my future? I am very careful whom I mingle with because I have two children that I want to keep safe. My present boyfriend has known them from birth and has been good and caring towards them.

Hoping to hear from you soon.
Thank you.
Marie

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Dear Marie

Firstly, kudos to you for having the strength and courage to move on and getting away from a controlling and unloving marriage and for thinking of your children first.

The comparison with your ex showed signs of both mental and physical abuse that you and your children shouldn't be subjected to. His possessive obsession at an emotional level is something he was born with and shows clearly in his chart. In short he needs professional help to overcome this problem however he is the personality type that probably would never agree to that sort of therapy.

Your current relationship is not the best or most suitable match up for you long-term and is probably much better kept as a family friend. Unfortunately according to your astrological comparison with him there is evidence that he has the potential to be emotionally deceptive with you. I do believe that you have some karma with this man however and that it is likely he has served his purpose. Your chart indicates that you are in a high cycle regarding love this year and that it is important for you to get out and meet new people, however if you are tied up too tightly with your Libra man you aren't likely to experiment with potential partners. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Leo, Virgo, Libra and Aquarius. Should you want to give this relationship more time your next favorable cycle for love and romance will begin late next year and continue through the first three quarters of 2009.

Eugenia

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Article: Zodiac Signs And Fate

Dear Eugenia

I was born on April 4, 1986, at 8:30 AM. I have a great interest in astrology so I have been surfing all the related astrology sites, checking personality, romance, career, etc. However, it never matches with me. My star is Aries and it says people with Aries have leadership and they are passionate. Some of the readings are correct and similar but some of them are not. Therefore, What I like mostly to know is, does one's fate vary according to when he/she is born and zodiac signs? If yes, I'd like to know how it varies...Please will you answer my question?

Curious Aries

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Dear Curious Aries

A chart is as unique and personal as your fingerprint. It is based on your day, month, year, time and place of birth. Your natal chart is derived from where the planets were situated in the sky at the precise moment and place that you were born. In your case you were born under the Sun sign Aries. However, only your natal Sun is positioned in that sign. Therefore, although you will have some characteristics of that sign they will not be strong and will probably be more recognizable in areas of your life that deal with your dreams, hopes and wishes and when you are working or contributing to worthwhile causes or dealing with acquaintances. You have Gemini rising and this will influence the way you view things. With your natal Moon in Aquarius you will be less passionate and with your Mercury and Jupiter in Pisces probably not so much a leader but more inclined to the unusual and or doing your own thing. With your natal Venus in the sign Taurus well aspected to your natal Neptune and Mars in Capricorn you will be creative but practical and will also have a greater desire to reach monetary goals. Wise investing will be a key to your future success. You have your natal Uranus and Saturn in Sagittarius in an area that deals with your partnerships both business and emotional and that means that you aren't likely to want to commit at a young age. If you do it will have to be in a relationship that does not constrict or confine you in any way if it is going to last. Your natal Pluto is in the sign Scorpio in an area of your chart that deals with work and how you will get along with your colleagues as well as matters pertaining to minor health. It is well aspected therefore you will probably do just fine as long as you enjoy what you are doing for a living. I hope this helps you understand a little bit more about how astrology works. So many times people get locked into the whole Sun Sign aspect of the subject and therefore disregard the benefits that it can offer you.

Eugenia

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