We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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I have decided to put more time and energy into my research. It’s been a pleasure to answer your emails and to help you through some of life’s tough journeys. Everyone who has participated in my Dear Eugenia column has enriched my life and I hope I have improved yours as well.

For those of you who wish to contribute birth data to my research, please enter your information to my medical astrology research listed on my home page. This research is explicitly dealing with cancer and mental health – addiction illness. The focus is on early diagnosis and preventative medicine.

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Somewhere In Space

Dear Eugenia-

I am a (almost) 16 year old girl sag born December 14, 1984, at 12:23 AM. Both my moon and my ascendant are in Virgo, I have heard that Virgo's are pretty down to earth and grounded individuals. I am NOT either of those. On the contrary, I spend most of my time day dreaming and thinking about the future instead of the present. I am more interested in thinking up future projects than doing present ones.

I am also constantly in a dream world. I like to spend my time in my head, thinking about places that don't exist. This type of thinking has put more pressure on me to do well in school and I am falling behind. Could you tell me what part of my natal chart and any transits that are causing this behavior, and how to combat it. It's really getting in the way of my studies and I would like to try and stay in the real world.

-day dreamer

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Dear -day dreamer

Your ascendant is very late Virgo therefore you have a far stronger Libra influence in your first house. As for your Virgo Moon it is hidden in your 12th house making it less obvious. The fact that you do have your Moon in Virgo however coupled with your Sun, Mercury and Uranus in another mutable sign (Sagittarius) is contributing to your daydreaming right now because transiting Jupiter is moving through Gemini. Now this doesn't have to be a bad thing. It does mean that you want to learn and discover and expand your horizons however if what they are trying to teach you doesn't interest you it can cause you to wonder off mentally to things that capture your imagination. This transit and your planets in Sagittarius run across the 3rd and 9th houses in your chart which represent lower and higher education therefore the problem is affecting your schoolwork. This transit will pass but not until May/June of next year so buckle down and force yourself to work a little harder. If need be get extra help, talk to your teachers, or do whatever you can to get through this hard to focus period. You are also moving through a period that is favorable for socializing but don't be lead astray by friends. With transiting Neptune sitting on your Venus in your 5th house you could easily end up in a sorrowful situation. The best outlet for you during this period is one that is creative.

Eugenia

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Article: What's the Harm in a Freindly Threesome?

Dear Eugenia

First of all, THANK YOU for the opportunity to receive advice based upon astrological information. My birth date is 4/22/61 @ 11:05pm, mysignificance's is 1/3/63 @ 2:05am, we are planning to marry on 9/9/00 but, we are having some communication problems. He is shutting me out, instead of dealing with disagreements. We have very few disagreements but one in particular seems to surface regularly, his female friend, with extenuated circumstances. We had been together about a year when she was introduced to our relationship as an old friend. With this "old Friend" came a revelation from my husband to be that he had participated in threesomes (news to me) & wanted to "be a friend to his lonely friend" & have sex with me involved also. This didn't go over really well, look at my chart! Anyway, it's been about 8 months since that event & she has not been present in our life until last weekend. I am still extremely uncomfortable when this woman is around. When he feels this uneasiness in me, he reacts negatively & shuts me out & pouts or whatever. This only creates more negativity & makes me feel that her friendship is more important than our relationship. Which in turn allows me to create more resentment & anger towards her. I am not going to be happy around a woman my husband to be has already stated he's attracted to, why feed that temptation? It's very hard to smile & be friendly when he's reaching out for her in our own home with me right beside him. Although I have no idea when her birth date is maybe something within our synastry could shed some light on how to deal with this situation. I really hate struggling within my relationship because of a bitch. Thank you again for this opportunity.

Lisa

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Dear Lisa

Your synastry was okay however it does indicate that your relationship will take considerable work as well as open and honest communication. I feel that you do have some serious issues to resolve before you can consider moving forward toward your marriage vows. Your husband to be does not appear to be ready to commit to you if he continues to long for his female friend. It is obvious that you will be starting your marriage off on the wrong foot if you don't back up now and decide what you both want out of a partnership and a marriage. You are not likely to agree to get involved in a threesome and if you do you will regret it. Your chart is one that shows a certain amount of jealousy and anger regarding such going's on and I don't feel you will ever want to share your partner with another. Therefore, you are best to find out what your future husband really wants out of a relationship. It is apparent that he is being deceptive with you, this other lady that he wants to have sex with, as well as with himself. If he is willing to take a chance to lose you over this issue you have to consider whether or not he is the right one for you. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Sagittarius.

Eugenia

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Article: From In Need of Help

Hi Eugenia

First, I enjoy your website and read the daily scope every day. I am married for the second time to a Sagittarius [12/5/1946] who is incapable of returning my love. As we approach retirement, I find that I am unable to look forward to any happiness while I am with this person. He is at the same time, dependent on me financially, ignores me in public, blocks all emotion and has an addiction to alcohol and he refuses to deal with it. I am wondering if I were to cut the ties, let him go, will he be able to recover? He is so good at hiding his emotions, I am not sure whether he has them or not. Additionally, I have not had a fortunate family life, either as a child, or as an adult. If I were to divorce this man, is there any hope of finding happiness with anyone else? I look to you to let me know. I was born November 13, 1950 at 11:23 pm. Thanks,

In Need of Help

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Hi In Need of Help

The comparison was not that great however there were signs that when you originally got together there was some passion and good times. Your husband does not have an addictive chart in the sense that he can't recover but he does have some strong psychological problems that I believe will require serious counseling. This is probably why he is drowning his sorrows or poor me syndrome in alcohol. Unfortunately for him this is his problem and he is the only one who can solve it. I suggest that you get out and do so now. Make sure that you cover yourself legally and don't be afraid to use the word abusive relationship when you go to your lawyer. Your husband has been abusive by ignoring you to the point that you don't have a loving or even caring relationship. This is a lonely situation to end up in. You will be in a high cycle regarding love next year so I suggest that you get yourself out of this situation as soon as possible so that you have time to reorganize your life, discover what like to do, who you are as a single person and what you want in a partner. You match up to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio and Capricorn. Get moving and good luck.

Eugenia

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