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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: No Need for Guilt

Dear Eugenia,

The year 2000 came with fireworks, just not the fireworks I was expecting. After 5 years in a relationship with the same man, two and half of which we were married, he indicated January 2,2000 that he was not sure if he was "in love" with me. This was perhaps not a surprise to me, as we had been having conflicts over the last year due to my attending grad school and we had attended counseling, per my request. After much debating, I decided to leave our house on Jan 8, 2000 and allow him some "time to think." It was during that time that I found out that there was another woman with whom he was involved. I have always been very naive, too naive I suppose! He was my first boyfriend and, therefore, my only experience. Since my discovery, I have endured many unpleasant moments, which I would rather not retell. A month after we were separated, I decided that I could not continue with a relationship which was based on a lie, and so I filed for divorce. And so here I stand, filled with anger and pain. Feeling guilty as perhaps the reason why he ended up involving himself with someone else was my fault or my dedication to my career...I don't know whether that is a question that you may be able to answer, but, for my own peace I would like to know. I was born April 4, 1975, at 8:15 a.m. sun sign: Aries; rising sign: Taurus/ He was born November 3, 1971 (unfortunately, don't know what time).

Thank you...
Standing Alone

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Dear Standing Alone

Your comparison indicates that you are well suited to one another in most ways. There is however two things that would cause problems in your relationship. The first being deception and the second being an element of anger that appears to be present regarding position and status in society. He may have felt some insecurity regarding your direction professionally, however that is no excuse for him to be with someone else. Especially while you were still together. He should have talked to you about the way he felt long before the situation got out of hand. I doubt however that it would have made much of a difference in the outcome because I feel strongly that your educational pursuits are very important to you, and so they should be. He is approaching his Saturn return and this is making him re-evaluate his past as well as pushing him to make the changes necessary to move forward in a way that he sees most suitable. Unfortunately even if he does want to make amends I feel that you are best to move forward yourself. You should be continuing your studies and pushing to be the best that you can be. There will be other partners in the future who will treat you properly so don't feel so alone. Focus on your educational pursuits because that is what you should be doing right now and when the time is right the white knight will rock your world. You do match up well to the sign Scorpio so don't rule out getting involved with another one.

Eugenia

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Article: From Torn

Hi Eugenia

Pleeeaaassse help me!

I just moved into a new place with my boyfriend but I'm not sure he's the one. Some days I convince myself that everything is okay then other days I wonder if I can handle all the issues he has with his ex wife, children and him not wanting anymore kids. (his b-day is: Jan 11/62 at 3am and mine August 26, 1964, at 6 am). We have been arguing so much more ever since we moved in and I'm ready to walk. Should I stay and give it a chance or is it best to leave now?

Thanks,
Torn!

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Hi Torn!

You and your partner match up very well astrologically. It's times like these that you discover how strong your character is as well as his. His chart indicates that he has difficult transits regarding divorce settlement, legal matters, financial agreements and so forth but this will continue to haunt him for the next two years and like it or not he does have to be responsible to his first family regardless of how his ex is responding. All that being said he should probably try to put a stop to any harassment that he may be subject to by coming to a suitable arrangement that both he his ex and his children stick to. Once that is done things at least have a chance to settle down. Your chart indicates that you are moving into a period of uncertainty and you must try to curb any desire to overreact or to make changes suddenly that you might regret later on. Regarding having children of your own you will be feeling the urge especially over the course of the next year and I do believe that the chance of getting pregnant is likely however it may not be the best thing to do when your relationship is going through so much turmoil. I have seen many comparisons that are good where the end result was separation. Right now your timing is bad and it likely that you will get fed up. You are both going through a fair amount of stress over the course of the next 18 months. To add to that if you should get pregnant, fly off the handle or get upset about things that are out of your control will not help matters. This is a relationship worth nurturing but with the transits you both are experiencing I have my doubts that you will make it. Should you decide to walk, and you probably will, I believe that you will meet someone new before year-end. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces. Without having your partner's ex-wife's date of birth as well as his children's birth data I can't be sure what he will do should you walk but his chart indicates that he could very easily return to his family should that be the case.

Eugenia

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Article: Continual Grief

Dear Eugenia,

I was born on Aug. 13 1980 11:45am and I've been dating Michael (Aug. 1 1977 6:52am) for 8 months. Throughout our whole relationship, we have been lacking trust and even cheated on each other on several occasions. I feel a deep hostility and some competition between us, but I love and care for him so much that I agreed for him to stay at my place for 4 months. I broke up with him a month ago because I couldn't bear the lack of trust/jealousy any longer. I miss him a lot and I believe he does too... we haven't discussed our emotions or feelings for each other since we broke up but he calls me almost everyday to see how I'm doing. We both know we have tension between us but we deny it and try to avoid bringing up any issue that will cause emotional stress. I just want to know if there is any hope for us in the future and whether or not "any" type of relationship will work out between us.

Tug of War

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Dear Tug of War

Communication is what makes a relationship work and from what I can see he isn't likely to tell you the truth even if he does talk to you. I believe that this relationship shows signs of sorrow that will continually cause you grief. He has the chart of a playboy who will never face emotional problems honestly and who obviously has plenty of opportunity when it comes to picking up women. Please do yourself a favor and move on, you deserve better. Although you did cheat on him as well I do believe that you can and will be honest and loyal if you are with the right partner. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces.

Eugenia

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