We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
The year 2000 came with fireworks, just not the fireworks I was expecting. After 5 years in a relationship with the same man, two and half of which we were married, he indicated January 2,2000 that he was not sure if he was "in love" with me. This was perhaps not a surprise to me, as we had been having conflicts over the last year due to my attending grad school and we had attended counseling, per my request. After much debating, I decided to leave our house on Jan 8, 2000 and allow him some "time to think." It was during that time that I found out that there was another woman with whom he was involved. I have always been very naive, too naive I suppose! He was my first boyfriend and, therefore, my only experience. Since my discovery, I have endured many unpleasant moments, which I would rather not retell. A month after we were separated, I decided that I could not continue with a relationship which was based on a lie, and so I filed for divorce. And so here I stand, filled with anger and pain. Feeling guilty as perhaps the reason why he ended up involving himself with someone else was my fault or my dedication to my career...I don't know whether that is a question that you may be able to answer, but, for my own peace I would like to know. I was born April 4, 1975, at 8:15 a.m. sun sign: Aries; rising sign: Taurus/ He was born November 3, 1971 (unfortunately, don't know what time).
Thank you...
Standing Alone
Dear Standing Alone
Your comparison indicates that you are well suited to one another in most ways. There is however two things that would cause problems in your relationship. The first being deception and the second being an element of anger that appears to be present regarding position and status in society. He may have felt some insecurity regarding your direction professionally, however that is no excuse for him to be with someone else. Especially while you were still together. He should have talked to you about the way he felt long before the situation got out of hand. I doubt however that it would have made much of a difference in the outcome because I feel strongly that your educational pursuits are very important to you, and so they should be. He is approaching his Saturn return and this is making him re-evaluate his past as well as pushing him to make the changes necessary to move forward in a way that he sees most suitable. Unfortunately even if he does want to make amends I feel that you are best to move forward yourself. You should be continuing your studies and pushing to be the best that you can be. There will be other partners in the future who will treat you properly so don't feel so alone. Focus on your educational pursuits because that is what you should be doing right now and when the time is right the white knight will rock your world. You do match up well to the sign Scorpio so don't rule out getting involved with another one.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia!
Your site is great - so interesting. I thought the celebrity scopes were so insightful! I am asking mainly about creativity, career and money. I am pretty good at both creative writing and photography, but have never had the focus or confidence to follow through with either as a career - my parents and brother are all scientific based and I can still hear them say to just keep creativity as a hobby and get a real job. I have a degree, but having started work in the dead end world of retail, whilst trying to write a novel, this is now the only real experience I have. As a result I have no confidence in looking at a job that requires my qualifications as I imagine that the employer would wonder why I haven't been in this type of work for the ten years since I graduated! I am also concerned that even in the retail sector, where I do have the experience and thus the confidence, I shy away from applying for leader roles, or more interesting roles with higher wages!!!
I have been working on a book off and on for the last eight years, and although I have produced a considerable amount of quality work, it has turned into a nightmare project. It never seems to be good enough! Although a lot of friends have loved the writing and have urged me to finish it I have got to the point where I don't even know what it is about anymore. I have never sent anything off to a publisher. My creative writing teacher told me last year that my writing was breath-taking...still nothing. At the back of my mind I almost feel that the book has to contain the meaning of life or else it won't be worthwhile! aaaah!
Recently I put this project to one side and started thinking along totally different lines. I started plotting out a very lighthearted book and everything came together very well in the plan, but I found the actual writing hard to start. Am I on the right track with this? Does my chart indicate that I will never succeed!!!? Am I doomed to retail etc forever?
One last thing. My luck seems strongest with houses: I always find fantastic places to live in a very short time. I also move a lot. I was wondering if the creative stuff really is a non-starter, should I re-train in real estate? I was born December 7, 1970 at 9:30 PM.
Thank you so much for your time!
Kind regards
Carina
Hi Carina
Surprise surprise - I do not see you in retail that is for sure and don't know how you have survived in this position for so many years. I do however see you in several different areas, real estate being one, interior decorating another along with working for yourself out of your home in the creative field as well as teaching in order to help subsidize your bankbook while you get things off the ground.
It is unfortunate that both school counselors and parents stifle creative children to such a degree that they lack the confidence required to follow a dream. Fear of failure is embedded into children's brains at such a young age that it is a wonder we have any successful creative people on the planet at all.
If you don't follow your dream you will never find happiness. After all happiness is the prerequisite of doing what's right for you not to fulfill your parent's dreams. Do you have talent and the ability to be published - yes you do but not without the usual sacrifices and hard work required to pull it off. You should be sending your work out immediately as the area of your chart that deals with publishing is in a high cycle for the next couple of months. Yes the area of your chart that deals with publishing will periodically move through a high cycle throughout your life but as for the one you are currently experiencing it began at the end of last year and as you can see you only have a little time left to utilize it. You should have already sent work out. Stop procrastinating and at least send a synopsis of all the
Dear Eugenia
Until last January I had been in a yearlong relationship with a man who was born 1/16/66. Then out of the blue he stops calling or writing me. After two months of avoiding me, I made him admit that he had met a woman who slept with him on the second date. Needless to say I was devastated and fell into a depression that I had to seek treatment for. My question is, will I ever hear from this man again. We have never slept together and I suppose that was one of the reasons that the relationship didn't work. I didn't feel it was right to sleep with a man who wouldn't ever come down and pick me up at my home or invite me out with his friends. He went from having dinner and movies 2 or 3 times a week to him completely ignoring me.
How can I avoid this in the future? I was born on March 1, 1968 at 5:30 PM. What happened with him and his feelings for me?
Lonely Pisces
Dear Lonely Pisces
You should hope that your Capricorn friend doesn't call again. The comparison really wasn't that great and you do have to question a man who won't come to your house to fetch you. You have a different set of values and standards and you should not compromise yours for the sake of pleasing him. You are moving into a high cycle where love and romance are concerned and you should be getting out and meeting people who have similar interests. If you join groups or clubs, you will expand your circle of friends and you will meet someone special. You match up well to those born under the signs Gemini, Leo, Libra and Sagittarius.
Eugenia
