We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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I have decided to put more time and energy into my research. It’s been a pleasure to answer your emails and to help you through some of life’s tough journeys. Everyone who has participated in my Dear Eugenia column has enriched my life and I hope I have improved yours as well.
For those of you who wish to contribute birth data to my research, please enter your information to my medical astrology research listed on my home page. This research is explicitly dealing with cancer and mental health – addiction illness. The focus is on early diagnosis and preventative medicine.
I want to stress how important it is to submit complete and accurate birth data – the time and place of birth.
The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I have written to you a few times. I hope you can tell me what to do. I lost my mom on Nov. 13, 2000. I am very lost and lonely. I don't want to do anything but sleep. I have lived with my 3 year-olds father for 4 years. We don't get along very well. He is drinking a lot and also thinks I should be over the death of my mom already. He has two healthy parents, so he doesn't know what it is like. My dad was only given 1 to 3 months to live last week, because of cancer. My boyfriend (if that is what you call him) says I can pull myself out of this or die right along with them. He is no support to me. I know he is seeing someone else, but at this point I don't care. I just need some advice on what to do with the way I feel about life. I was born May 26, 1963, at 12 PM.
LOST AND LONELY IN DEPUE!
Dear LOST AND LONELY IN DEPUE!
I can tell by the transits moving through your personal houses in your chart that you are at a turning point in your life regarding your partner. I feel that it is time to start thinking about the best way to make yours and your child's life better. You did not submit the birth data of either your child or the man you're living with therefore I can not explain his lack of support. My guess is that he can't face death himself therefore he is not able to justify the kind of loss that you are experiencing. It hasn't been very long since your mother died and with your father in the shape that he is in it must be extremely painful for you. You do however for the sake of your child have to handle your situation bravely. You should probably consider making a move in a positive direction (possibly away from your boyfriend) late spring or you should start talking to him about his insensitivity and telling him you need greater support and love if he expects you and your child to stay with him. Your depression and grieving you are experiencing will end but for now it is what you need in order to get through this most difficult period in your life. You were born with your natal Moon in the sign Cancer and this makes it very hard for you to let go when it comes to family members who are so dear to you.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia:
I had watched your show about a woman with cancer making preparations for her family. You said her illness was not going to go into a remission that she needed to prepare.
I hope you may be able to better enable me and my family in the passing of my father.Recently he has been diagnosed with an aggressive cancer and it is terminal. Radiation has been given to him to help him in quality of life and to slow the inevitable. I fear he doesn't have long. His birth date is Feb 13 1936.I don't live close to my father and have financial struggles. I was able to fly out for a week. We shared happy memories and also said our good byes. He has just had a "step down" in his health and response to his pain medications. This happened while my brothers were here for a visit. They immediately flew back home (they live in the same city), to be with Dad. I too want to go to him, but I must time my visit and budget. I also have three small children, ages 10 months, 2 years and 6years. I need to make sure they are taken care of.
I guess my question is, when should I go...or how long does my Dad have? When should I go?
As I mentioned, I do need to know rather quickly as I don't think he has very long.
Dad's birth date is Feb 13 1936, 2:00 pm
My birthday is Oct 16th 1970
My brothers are April 19 1963 and July 7 1965
My children are Sept 8 2002, Feb 2 2001, July 7 1997
Thank you for helping us through the last chapter of a great man's life. He will be missed greatly.
Daddy's little Libra
Dear Daddy's little Libra
It is the time you spend with him while he is still coherent that counts my dear so what are you waiting for. Once he's gone there is nothing you can do for him it will only be to comfort yourself and other family members. The quality time however is now while you can bring him joy by sharing fond memories and make him feel more comfortable by taking his mind off his deterioration. It is difficult to tell you when he might pass - only God has the answer to that question. According to his chart however the possibility of living another year and a half is present but it certainly would not be a great quality of life and for his sake and that of the family some of the transits he is experiencing between now and the end of the year could be enough to take him which would probably be a blessing. It is never easy to lose someone you love but having experienced that love and the obvious connection that the two of you had will allow him to live on through you. You matched up well with your Sun signs being at a precise trine to one another. Your chart indicates that you should be going to see him in August/September of this year. It will do you both a lot of good to have this time together. Without the rest of your families birth times it is hard for me to be more specific regarding his passing but it is apparent that the aftermath will hit you and your Cancer brother first and your Aries brother later on. Hold together as a family and take time to share the different memories that each one of you has with your dad so that you can all understand the dynamics of your family and your roots much better. With this your father will be remembered in a much deeper way by all of you.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
I met a very special person (February 4, 1969) 4 years ago after having met her at work. Once we talked, we realized we had a lot in common between us and it was amazing how closely the pattern of each of our lives seemed so much alike from our childhood to the present. We knew from the beginning that we could be very good for each other and therefore, we became very close friends almost instantly as though we had known each other all of our lives. I discovered that I could open up to her, like no other person in my life, and tell some of my most intimate feelings and hidden fears that I had carried inside all of my life as she did with me. Ironically, I have always seemed to have the problem of letting myself get too close to people even though I have many friends, they are not intimate friends. As we became closer throughout the 4 years, I have felt myself becoming very scared of getting too close, being hurt and even left behind, without reason, so I in turn distanced myself from her more and more without an explanation. She became less interested in our friendship and it began to unravel for both of us due to the stress of it all. Since December of last year, we have not spoken at all and it has really been a very devastating experience for me. It has changed me as a person in so many ways. I wish very much that I could rekindle our friendship that I miss dearly, but I don't know what would be the right words to say or if we would be better to put this behind and both move on with our lives apart. I was born December 15, 1958 at 8:30 am. Thank you for guidance.
Sagittarius
Dear Sagittarius
I believe that friendship is the operative word here. The comparison showed nothing more than that. It also revealed that there certainly is some mistrust, disillusionment or possible deception as well. Now that could have to do with the fact that you didn't even give her an explanation when you backed away. I fell that you have two choices and they are to move on and prepare to meet someone else who matches up to you much better physically and mentally or phone her up, be honest about your feelings and ask to resume the friendship. When I say friendship I mean just that. I believe that anything more would lead to trouble. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. If she isn't interested at least you'll know and can move on. You tend to match up to those born under the signs Aries, Cancer, Libra and Aquarius (she is not a very strong Aquarius). It is apparent that you do much better with people who are much older or much younger than yourself. You will be in a high cycle regarding love next year so don't waste too much of your time trying to turn what you have with your Aquarian friend into anything more than a friendship at this point.
Eugenia
September 16th 2026
Happy Birthday: How you use your energy will make a difference in what transpires. You can ignore what’s unfolding, or you can do your best to have a positive influence on others by setting a good example. You have plenty to gain if you are proactive and import your suggestions and expertise back into your community. Be a leader, do your part, and have a say and a seat at the table. Your numbers are 9, 13, 22, 26, 34, 41, 45.
