We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: The Return of Saturn

Dear Eugenia,

Thank you for the wonderful site. I truly appreciate what is offered here and your photos...this may sound strange, but knowing one's face is so important for me to have trust.

I have decide to write to you because you are the only one I can trust among many astrologers who offer similar services on line.

I am 27 year old and have never been in a serious relationship...this is very difficult for me to tell anyone about, since I am afraid of being considered as "not normal".

You must have heard so many times "guys who are interested in me aren't interesting to me" and vice versa. It has been the same story with me for too long and my inexperience makes me feel so incomplete. I don't think I am too selective, but such a long period of loneliness makes me wonder if I shouldn't choose at all. I really am not sure if waiting is such a good idea when lack of experience seriously hurts my self-esteem. I know it's up to me to decide, but if you could tell me what my chart says about love/romance, it'd be a great help.Any insight you could give me would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you so much in advance. I was born April 21, 1973, at 12:52 PM.

Lonely

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Dear Lonely

There is nothing wrong with taking your time. I honestly believe that to become too serious about love before you reach your Saturn return at around the age of 29 is too soon. You are just heading into your Saturn return next year and you should be starting to reevaluate your life up to this point and deciding to make whatever changes are necessary in order to move forward in a positive manner. Regarding relationships you have been careful and that has been exactly what you needed to do. Your chart indicates that you are in a high cycle for meeting potential partners this year and next but you must get out and join organizations that you believe in and do things that will help you expand your circle of friends. You match up well to those born under the signs Gemini, Libra, Sagittarius, Aquarius and Pisces.

Eugenia

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Article: Nothing to Lose and Everything to Gain

Dear Eugenia,

Sometime during the first half of February 1995 I met this man. His birth date is 4.4.1967. He was my supervisor; I was a phone sales associate. When I first saw him I disliked the way he looked and assumed I wouldn't care whatever his personality was, either. It turned out that he was a wonderful mentor, a really good boss and just naturally inclined at helping people out. I did very well on that job due to his excellent guidance, and I'm sure a lot of the people there, even though they didn't say anything to my face, thought that he was playing favorites. I didn't mind because I wanted to achieve much and get along with everybody at the same time, so my stance was basically a neutral one, which they had loved to call "being professional".

My confusion started when he began acting as if we were really close. In that place where men out number women in selling and dealing with auto parts, I didn't have difficulty eventually becoming one of the guys where handshakes, arm linking hugs, back pats (or slaps) and even shoulder holding were just normal, friendly ways of interacting so it wasn't an issue of unwanted advances or sexual harassment. What bothered me was that we couldn't seem to talk about ourselves except when it had to do with work. He was starting to grow on me, and during those times when he seemed to be making passes at me, I was delighted with it but didn't want to take him up on it, until he leveled with me on what his intentions were. I just couldn't allow it to sweep me off my feet because it didn't feel honest, and one thing I've always wanted more than anything else was to be in an equal relationship. We went on like this until he left the company to pursue other opportunities. Even though nothing officially intimate happened between us, I still felt really sad, as though a lover had left. I was depressed for a while, all the time thinking I was crazy and totally out of my head, that I didn't initiate things. What did it matter if you love a person yet you're both engaging in some sort of power play where it seemed like the affection was with held by omission?

The definite upside on the whole thing was that it prompted me to look for answers instead of letting it eat at me by becoming bitter. A lot of interesting things came up during my self-studies, but somehow I couldn't accept that it would've worked out nicely if only one of us had been up front to the other. Clearly he could've seen that I was focused on my work yet everybody had found me easy to talk to, to relate to, to connect to. It just didn't make any sense, partly because there were a lot of things that I didn't know about him, even though his actions spoke louder than words. It was strange too, that judging from what pathetic little I knew about him, I could feel that he was very familiar to me I couldn't help but think that past lives might be a valid concept. The chemistry and "magic" were all certainly there, but then again, I didn't want to think that his actions were spurred by those factors alone.

I know solidly now at this point that I'd throw caution to the winds and tell him what I feel about him if I was lucky enough to be given another chance at seeing him again. But since I'm not sure about it happening, I'm faced again with the task of finding an answer as to how to make my peace with the whole thing. Through sheer will I tried hard not to let it affect me so much as to disrupt the normal goings on in my life, and I'm proud to say I succeeded in doing so. I've talked to some people about it, but somehow I get the feeling that they don't really understand, and I don't blame them.

Astrology was one subject that really helped me make sense of it on my own. However, I've never gotten any insights from astrologers, except from interpretations I read in books. I was born March 24, 1973, at 4:04 PM. I hope my letter will be interesting enough to merit your attention and consideration. T

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Article: Biting the Bullet

Dear Eugenia,

I must say that after reading through many people's questions and all your responses, you are one busy woman. Thanks for taking all that time to help people who need answers. I am a Leo, born August 16, 1978 at 5:55 a.m. Two years ago I enrolled in a college program that I knew was meant for me. My hard work and dedication paid off this summer because I was able to get a job in the industry I want to pursue. I know that I still have one year left to complete the program, but this job means a lot to me. Two partners own the business and I am the only employee. The problem is because one of the partners arrived at the company a couple of months ago and it was evident from the start that we did not get along. I'm sorry I don't know when her birthday is, but I can tell you that she is impatient, demeaning and at times can act hurtful. I know that the experience I'm getting here will help me when I graduate, but some days it's really hard to go to work and spend an entire day dealing with her attitude and her mood swings. I feel like I'm walking on eggshells and don't really want to confront her because I couldn't imagine her reaction. Can you give me any advice? What's more important: getting the experience or my self-esteem for a few more months? Thank you for looking my letter over.

The Lion

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Dear Lion

You?ve got a promising chart and someday you will probably run your own business. For now, bite the bullet and put up with your boss?s bad attitude. Be thankful that you only have to work there for a short while and look at it as the experience you need to get you where you want to go. A clean slate and a good reference will be worth its weight in gold. I think that most people when starting in the work force meet one or two individuals who are impossible to work for. You have to feel sorry for these individuals who are so moody and hard to please. It?s obvious that they don?t lead very happy lives. As for you, your chart indicates that you may be over-reacting just a little and that you can be too sensitive with those you work with and for. You are born to lead and therefore it makes it difficult for you to take orders. Work hard now and you will be the boss later. You have what it takes to do well and you can make an excellent employer in the future. It?s too bad that you didn?t have her birth date, I may have been able to give you a couple of hints as to how you could handle her better and what she might be going through to cause such horrible mood swings.

Eugenia

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