We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Missed Opportunities

Dear Ms. Last:

Although I have a million questions, this one is purely selfish but I have been searching for guidance and maybe a few answers for so long. I am 41 yrs. old. An Aries born March 24, 1959, at 3:30 AM. Thankfully happily married with a husband (Virgo) who loves me and two (arggh) pre-teen daughters. I am very independent in some ways which is great since I married a trucker who is gone most of the time. I have always wanted desperately to travel, meet people, to understand differences and learn from them. And yet I did not go into anything that would take me anywhere. My quest for adventure is aggravating and frustrating. I've often had the feeling that I am supposed to be doing SOMETHING and yet either ignore the signs or am deaf to them. I had two Aunts that were Rosacrucians who one Christmas told me about their lives and said that although I wouldn't understand then, I would use their information in the future. ( I contacted the Rosacrucians and they asked for $$$) I look at those who have obvious gifts and sometimes wonder IF I have missed the boat. There is something very important in my life that is missing and I need just a nudge if you could oblige. Spirituality has always been very important in my life. I find myself questioning old beliefs and some days I'm so sure of the answers and other days totally at odds with them. This I realize can be attributed to getting older etc but the same questions remain now as they did when I was young. Why this ongoing need to travel around the world I would give my eye teeth to give my children an international education)and my need for adventure so intense yet seemingly so unattainable. Have I been given any gifts in life that should enable me to find my path? This is not just an age thing but something that has plagued me most of my lifetime. I just feel like I am running around in circles. I do know that if I could find some answers as to why I was put onto this earth then maybe I would be much more content. Other than this aspect of my life...I have been given many other gifts of which I am thankful. Just one more thing that is going to sound sooooo stupid but over the years I have come to some tenuous conclusions in my life and in a nutshell this would be it. I was a black Jew who traveled extensively, Married not for love but for ?????, was very educated and learned and treated those without it unkindly and have always felt that If I ever got to the "British Isles" that I would be finally going home. It would take far too long to explain my reasons and I am babbling now. Thank you for any insight you may have to give me. I have asked others before and been shattered to find a price tag on spiritual matters can be very costly. Have a wonderful day in the life.

Searching for more

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Dear Searching for more

You have a well-rounded chart. Full of spirit and depth. Your desire to travel and expand your knowledge, mind and soul is obvious and with the transits you have ascending on you I'm not surprised that you are hankering to get moving. There are a couple of ways to handle your problem depending on your financial position, (no I'm not asking for money, this is a FREE site). You can talk your husband and children into selling what you own, taking the girls out of school and embarking on that worldly education that you would love to experience with your family. You can make a move from one place to another and experience what it is like to be in a different location. (by the way your chart is hot for buying and selling real estate this year) You can get involved in cultural groups in your community that will help open your eyes to the traditions and beliefs of those from different backgrounds. You can put your children in boarding school and do your own whirlwind tour. You can take your family and move to the British Isles and see how you like it. The list goes on and on, however

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Article: Feelings of Guilt

Dear Eugenia,

I (6 July 69, 2.40am) am the last of many siblings to leave home. I was 28 years old and realized I had to create some kind of independent life for myself. Though I love my mother (19 Dec 25) very much, we do not get along well for long periods, I've endured a lot of very hurtful criticism from her, but never retaliating out of respect. I left partly because I just couldn't take it anymore. I feel a lot of guilt and shame in even admitting this because your mother should be on a pedestal. I have a lot of problems trusting because I feel that if the closest person to me can wound me so much, then strangers may be even worse! Though I have stable platonic relationships, my romantic ones have been very sporadic and short lived (9 months is the longest). My past boyfriends either tried to treat me like their mother (23 Oct 66) or like a child (12 Dec 59). I got out cause I felt the walls were closing in and I couldn't be myself. My one true love (6 May 61) is now married to someone else. Is there any luck for me in the next few years and what signs should I look out for?

lover in a rut

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Dear lover in a rut

It's a good thing that you are finally moving on and out of your parental home. Once you are away from the negativity you will begin to have more confidence in yourself and in others. You were born with Venus opposite Neptune in your natal chart and this can cause some sorrow or difficulties for you where relationships are concerned. You should be checking out the compatibility astrologically between yourself and whomever you fancy before you become too intimate. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio and Pisces. Your chart indicates that you do not have a hard time meeting potential partners but you do make it difficult for the people you meet to get too close to you. Once you learn to open up a little you will find yourself enjoying the company of others. If you don't allow your partner to treat you like a child or a mother it will be hard for him to do so. Be strong, take control and most of all check every potential lover out through my compatibility feature.

Eugenia

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Article: Better to Step Out

Dear Eugenia:I have been a good friend to a male, born -----------------. for a number of years. There are no romantic feelings between the two of us, but we do enjoy talking to each other. In the past two years he has been dating a young woman, born ----------------- Since they began dating, his behavior has become erratic. He lies, or tells people just what they want to hear, doesn't keep appointments, ignores his family and friends, and obsesses about being with her. Now they are engaged, and those of us who know them want to feel happy for them, but there isn't anyone in his circle of family or friends that is happy. She is very aloof, and tends to control him and everyone else around her. Can you give us some guidance? Their behavior, together and separate, is making life miserable on a lot of people and messing up events and gatherings to the point that no one wants them around any more. If possible, I would appreciate discretion when answering these questions. Thank you for your help, Eugenia.

Faithful Reader

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Dear Faithful Reader

Although the two in question just have a so so comparison it is workable. The biggest problem appears to be when dealing with friends and relatives. I'm not saying that the marriage or relationship will last, but I am saying that there is nothing that you or anyone else can do about it. Your Libra friend has fallen in love and if you fight it he will not be your friend. He is in a high cycle where love and marriage is concerned therefore this has come into his life at the right moment for him. In her case, she is somewhat erratic and probably not quite as sure about her future with him as he is with his future with her. You are best to let him follow his course of action and support his decision. If you and his other friends feel so strongly that you are willing to lose the connection with him I suggest that you tell him your true feelings about this girl and let him decide what he will do. Maybe if you understand what it is that she does for him you will be able to accept her.

Eugenia

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