We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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I have decided to put more time and energy into my research. It’s been a pleasure to answer your emails and to help you through some of life’s tough journeys. Everyone who has participated in my Dear Eugenia column has enriched my life and I hope I have improved yours as well.

For those of you who wish to contribute birth data to my research, please enter your information to my medical astrology research listed on my home page. This research is explicitly dealing with cancer and mental health – addiction illness. The focus is on early diagnosis and preventative medicine.

I want to stress how important it is to submit complete and accurate birth data – the time and place of birth.

The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Going Through Some Rocky Times

Dear Eugenia,

First of all I would like to say thank you. Astro Advice has gotten me through some real bad times. Your insight into the problems in life based on sound scientific principles has helped me weather some real stormy situations, recently. Yet I still have some unanswered questions concerning my relationship. My wife was born on April 1954; I am not sure what time. I was born on March 8 1949, at 3:43 a.m. I know that we have some real problems understanding each other's philosophies some times, and that some times I don't understand how to be sensitive to her emotionally and vice versa. Why is this? She is a Taurus and I am a Pisces, shouldn't we get along a lot better. By the way we have been married 21 years, so all is not lost. What I want to know is, I mean can you tell me where our weak points are and can these problems be fixed or because she has her Saturn in Gemini and I have my Saturn in Virgo we can never get closer, doomed to live out our lives in this intolerable state of affairs. Please help me find an answer in astrological terms, because I am sort of disillusioned by the information that I find in the "ROMANCE COMPATABILITY" section of "ASTRO ADVICE". Almost everyday it tells me that I should seriously consider the why I am in this relationship. The "LOVE THERMOMETER" states that I love my wife 83% and she only loves me 72% please clarify. Thanks for your time and consideration.

Kindest Regards,
Concerned Husband

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Dear Concerned Husband

Wish you thought to give me your wife's complete birth data. It's kind of hard to give you a well-rounded answer with only half the equation. Based on your chart however I can tell you this. You have been going through personal changes regarding love, partnerships, your home environment and your position in society. Now you might say, not really and that's where your wife's data would have helped me to clarify what is at the route of the problem. Often I find that when these types of transits are going through someone chart they don't always see things clearly. In other words, your wife may not be content and she may feel as if she is talking to a brick wall. Fact of the matter is that she may be the one who should be reevaluating the relationship if you haven't been giving her what she needs emotionally. In your case however, I doubt that is the case. I feel that the percentages that the love thermometer indicates the problem is probably more an issue that relates more to remembering the reason you and your wife fell in love with one another in the first place and trying to rekindle the flame that once burnt so passionately.

Eugenia

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Article: A Marriage Push

Dear Eugenia

I will be marrying a German guy this September. His birthday is August 28, 1970, at 6:20 pm. My date of birth is May 5, 1975, at 3:00 PM. Our wedding is scheduled for Sept 23, Sunday. We've been going out for 1 yr and 2 months and overcome our language barriers. We finally decided to get married. However, what I'd like to know is...should I marry him?

When I first met him, I was attracted to him. He spoke to me first in poor English and that's how he took my heart away. He's tall and good-looking. He's always nice to women so I'm always worried. Also, he doesn't tell me what he thinks. We have been living together for about one year. Since both of us are working, when we get home, he just stays in his computer room. About sex, I always have to ask him because he doesn't take initiative. We have sex about 4 to 5 times a month. Sometimes, I want to have it but it seems that he doesn't care. I feel like I'm asking too much. And I'm worried...

However, I saw him browsing through porn sites several times. Plus, when we need to make a decision, he always lets me do everything. It doesn't matter whether he likes it or not. In the beginning, I thought that he was nice so he let me do whatever I want. But now, I'm sick of this... When he said that he had to go to workshops for his company, I'm always worried too. He always says that I'm pretty but he doesn't take initiative for sex, I 'm afraid that some other beautiful women might ask him out. Sometimes, I can't sleep because of this but it seems he doesn't realize my situation. Our wedding day is coming soon but I'm still worried. I don't want to lose him, but I'm afraid that I may give up because I'm too tired. If possible, please give me some advice.

At Odds

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Dear At Odds

I don't know why either one of you is pushing to get married. It is apparent that you have issues to resolve before you decide to step into matrimony. The comparison does indicate a lack of sexual attraction. His chart denotes sexual confusion at an emotional level with his natal Moon square his natal Jupiter in his eighth house. With his natal Venus in his eighth house as well sextile to his natal Mars I would imagine that he definitely has sexual desires. The question is how they manifest themselves with his natal Saturn and his natal Neptune squaring his natal Mars. He needs to determine what turns him on and whether or not you can provide him with what he desires and vise versa. I suggest that you get into sexual counseling as a couple before you take the next step. Communication is required in order to sort through your problems. It doesn't mean that your relationship can't work but like any other relationship nothing is perfect and it's best to sort out what you can before you decide to make a life long commitment to one another.

Eugenia

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Article: Loving Yourself

Dear Eugenia

I have been a member of astroadvice for a while. I do not check my horoscope that often because I like using Tarot Cards more. But since I am amazed about your work. I have to ask you a very personal question: I am, unfortunately, a homosexual. I do have a crush on someone. He is a homo-phobic person.I did use the romance compatibility on him and. It is sort of accurate. His birth date is 10/29/83, mine is 11/18/83, at 10:46 AM. I have never sunk so low in my life. I never loved anyone this much. It's killing me writing this letter because this is not a cool look. But this is how much I like him and I do want to know what is going on? Even if he doesn't want me, I just don't want to just get on with my life and forget that he ever existed. We like the same type of things, he likes to draw, we both like video games, we both like same type of movies. And we both (if survived) will obviously walk along the same path after High School. I think I'm going to stop. I was just telling you myproblem, I didn't really know what to ask. But after telling you my situation may be you can clarify something for me. It would be a biggest favor for me if you reply to this letter. If you want to post the answer on the website please do not give out my name. And if it is not ok, or disturb you in anyway about me being homosexual or that I should change myself (which I can't), Please tell me.

In Love

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Dear In Love

You do have a great deal in common with your Scorpio friend however I feel that the best thing that you can do is to form a long and lasting friendship with him. Keep in mind that lovers come and go and friends are there forever. You are still very young and although you want more I?m afraid that it will ruin the current relationship that you have right now. You will be coming into a high cycle regarding between August and the end of the year. During this time you would have a better chance of taking your friendship to the next level if that is possible. If it isn?t, I suggest that you are open and receptive to more likely partners. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo and Aquarius. By the way some of my best clients and dearest friends are gay. You started out your letter stating that it was unfortunate that you were homosexual. You need to love yourself and who and what you are before you can expect anyone to love you as much in return. You have an interesting chart and you certainly have a lot to offer anyone you get into a relationship with. So don?t sell yourself short. Believe in yourself, be fun to be with and you will find what you are looking for.

Eugenia

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