We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
First of all, THANK YOU for the opportunity to receive advice based upon astrological information. My birth date is 4/22/61 @ 11:05pm, mysignificance's is 1/3/63 @ 2:05am, we are planning to marry on 9/9/00 but, we are having some communication problems. He is shutting me out, instead of dealing with disagreements. We have very few disagreements but one in particular seems to surface regularly, his female friend, with extenuated circumstances. We had been together about a year when she was introduced to our relationship as an old friend. With this "old Friend" came a revelation from my husband to be that he had participated in threesomes (news to me) & wanted to "be a friend to his lonely friend" & have sex with me involved also. This didn't go over really well, look at my chart! Anyway, it's been about 8 months since that event & she has not been present in our life until last weekend. I am still extremely uncomfortable when this woman is around. When he feels this uneasiness in me, he reacts negatively & shuts me out & pouts or whatever. This only creates more negativity & makes me feel that her friendship is more important than our relationship. Which in turn allows me to create more resentment & anger towards her. I am not going to be happy around a woman my husband to be has already stated he's attracted to, why feed that temptation? It's very hard to smile & be friendly when he's reaching out for her in our own home with me right beside him. Although I have no idea when her birth date is maybe something within our synastry could shed some light on how to deal with this situation. I really hate struggling within my relationship because of a bitch. Thank you again for this opportunity.
Lisa
Dear Lisa
Your synastry was okay however it does indicate that your relationship will take considerable work as well as open and honest communication. I feel that you do have some serious issues to resolve before you can consider moving forward toward your marriage vows. Your husband to be does not appear to be ready to commit to you if he continues to long for his female friend. It is obvious that you will be starting your marriage off on the wrong foot if you don't back up now and decide what you both want out of a partnership and a marriage. You are not likely to agree to get involved in a threesome and if you do you will regret it. Your chart is one that shows a certain amount of jealousy and anger regarding such going's on and I don't feel you will ever want to share your partner with another. Therefore, you are best to find out what your future husband really wants out of a relationship. It is apparent that he is being deceptive with you, this other lady that he wants to have sex with, as well as with himself. If he is willing to take a chance to lose you over this issue you have to consider whether or not he is the right one for you. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Sagittarius.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I am not sure if you will answer this question, but I will try anyway. I was born February 24, 1963, at 12:07 PM. I hope this will help you come to a conclusion. I recently lost my loving husband of 35 years of age to liver cancer, we were only married one year and 3 months before his death. At this time, I don't know which way my life is heading; I am lost, and very lonely. I miss him with all my heart; he truly was my soul mate. I was married before for 17 years to a Scorpion, this man is now back in my life. He says that he has changed, some things yes, he has others, no he hasn't. My question is, should I try and make this past relationship with my ex husband work, or move on? We have three wonderful children together, and he has helped me through some of the emotional problems I have had to deal with since my husband's death. I am confused about him, and don't feel the attraction as I once did. Will I ever find that loving man again in this lifetime, that I had with my great loss. My late husband, taught me many things about how a women should be treated, do I need to settle for less? I don't want to be alone the rest of my life. I also am worried about my late husbands father. This man lost his only son, and I care about him deeply, will he be ok? He says that I am the only thing he has left in this life, who was a part of his son's life. So, I do feel worried and concerned. As for my late husbands mother, she blames his father and me, for his death. Never did she come to see him in the hospital to the very last few days of his life. I was by his bedside 24-7, I was his nurse and his loving wife, until he took his last breath. So, why is she blaming me? This causes me great heartache also. No one can cause someone to get cancer. I don't understand why I had to loose the only man that I loved so deeply. Your time is greatly appreciated.
Thank you,
Lost Love
Dear Lost Love
You are going through a very confusing period in your life and you need some time and space to sort out your feelings. You don't have to settle for anything or anyone until you are good and ready. I believe that if you ask your ex-husband to be your friend, not your lover that you will feel much better about the connection. As for a new love, you will be in a much better frame of mind and you will also be in a high cycle regarding love and romance next year. You actually match up well to those born under the signs Cancer, Virgo and Capricorn. As for right now you should put your time and effort into travel, learning and your beliefs and opinions regarding your philosophy of life, love and future intentions. You are sensitive and you need to nurture yourself for the time being.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I realize you are swamped with letters, however I am going through a divorce after 291/2-years. I was born 3-31-48 at 11:27pm in Chicago, IL. My husband was born 8-28-50 at 11:13am in Gary, Indiana. Everyone thought we were the perfect couple! We have one daughter age 27 that dearly loves us both. My husband had an affair with his 25-year old secretary. I found out in Feb. of this year and he did not give her up after all my attempts to make the marriage work. I finally realized I am better off without him. But, God it hurts and I am scared to death. We came to a divorce agreement on Friday and the papers are being drawn up for us to sign. How do I get my self-confidence back after being knocked down for so many years? Last week I saw my first loves identical twin brother and we definitely have a connection (I think) he was born 3-1-41.
I am looking for advice on how to go on with my life and not hurt so much. I loved my husband so much but didn't like what he turned into. Please help me-I am hurting so bad.
Aries
Dear Aries
You have a pretty good chart. Some high cycles are approaching in different areas of life. Romance and relationships look promising between October and February and it will be important that you get out and join in the fun in order to hook up with someone who can take your mind off your cheating husband. You do match up quite nicely to your first loves brother and I wouldn't hesitate to follow through with your connection to him. You also match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Cancer, Virgo, Capricorn and Pisces. Regarding your comparison with your ex, surprisingly enough it was just adequate. I must stress that it is important that you take care of any legal matters. Make sure that you get your share of whatever the two of you accumulated over the years. It's one thing to be hurt and another to be hurt and financially in the poorhouse. Once you know that your financial situation is okay you will feel much better about yourself and your future. You should be considering what you want to do with the rest of your life. The area of your chart that deals with work and money is moving into favorable times and you should consider all the things that you used to dream about doing. Your chart indicates that you do have ability in areas that deal with communications, travel, hospitality industry and sales. Don't be afraid to try new things. You will find out how capable you are very quickly if you take control and make the effort.
Eugenia
