We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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I have decided to put more time and energy into my research. It’s been a pleasure to answer your emails and to help you through some of life’s tough journeys. Everyone who has participated in my Dear Eugenia column has enriched my life and I hope I have improved yours as well.
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
First of all, THANK YOU for the opportunity to receive advice based upon astrological information. My birth date is 4/22/61 @ 11:05pm, mysignificance's is 1/3/63 @ 2:05am, we are planning to marry on 9/9/00 but, we are having some communication problems. He is shutting me out, instead of dealing with disagreements. We have very few disagreements but one in particular seems to surface regularly, his female friend, with extenuated circumstances. We had been together about a year when she was introduced to our relationship as an old friend. With this "old Friend" came a revelation from my husband to be that he had participated in threesomes (news to me) & wanted to "be a friend to his lonely friend" & have sex with me involved also. This didn't go over really well, look at my chart! Anyway, it's been about 8 months since that event & she has not been present in our life until last weekend. I am still extremely uncomfortable when this woman is around. When he feels this uneasiness in me, he reacts negatively & shuts me out & pouts or whatever. This only creates more negativity & makes me feel that her friendship is more important than our relationship. Which in turn allows me to create more resentment & anger towards her. I am not going to be happy around a woman my husband to be has already stated he's attracted to, why feed that temptation? It's very hard to smile & be friendly when he's reaching out for her in our own home with me right beside him. Although I have no idea when her birth date is maybe something within our synastry could shed some light on how to deal with this situation. I really hate struggling within my relationship because of a bitch. Thank you again for this opportunity.
Lisa
Dear Lisa
Your synastry was okay however it does indicate that your relationship will take considerable work as well as open and honest communication. I feel that you do have some serious issues to resolve before you can consider moving forward toward your marriage vows. Your husband to be does not appear to be ready to commit to you if he continues to long for his female friend. It is obvious that you will be starting your marriage off on the wrong foot if you don't back up now and decide what you both want out of a partnership and a marriage. You are not likely to agree to get involved in a threesome and if you do you will regret it. Your chart is one that shows a certain amount of jealousy and anger regarding such going's on and I don't feel you will ever want to share your partner with another. Therefore, you are best to find out what your future husband really wants out of a relationship. It is apparent that he is being deceptive with you, this other lady that he wants to have sex with, as well as with himself. If he is willing to take a chance to lose you over this issue you have to consider whether or not he is the right one for you. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Sagittarius.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I have this huge problem regarding my sexuality. I think I'm a gay as I like watching handsome guys. This has happened for years and I'm really ashamed. I have no one to talk to. I am really worried about my future and my marriage later. Am I truly a gay? Or is it just a phase. I have tried to build relationships with girls but I keep failing. Please tell me what to do. I'm really confused and tired of struggling all the time. Is this some kind of punishment because I hate my father? For your information, I have never been close to my father since my childhood. I have read magazines that this could make someone a gay. Please help me because I think you're the only person who can help me. I was born August 19, 1981, at 2:00 AM. Thank you very much.
Swimming both ways
Dear Swimming both ways
Your chart does indicate that many of your problems stem from your relationship with your father as well as other factors that were present in your upbringing. You do have your natal Venus, Saturn and Jupiter opposite your natal Moon and this can be extremely confusing regarding your emotions as well as your sexuality. I feel at this point that you are just a late bloomer and that you will change your mind regarding your sexuality many times over the course of the next few years. You are coming into a high cycle regarding love and therefore the opportunity to experiment a little should help you move in the direction that is best suited to you. I do feel however that the right partner will help you determine that you are straight not gay.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
I am very involved in a long distance relationship. We talk every day, but, of course, see each other infrequently. We have 3 visits of 2 weeks each planned for this year.?We have started to think about relocating to be together. The question is...which one of us moves?? Also, when should the move be planned for?? We are both in the same business and would work together too, although his business is more established than mine, so it would be easier for me to work into his.? But my family is here, and I love where I live.? Only love could make me leave it.? One more wrinkle...he is recently separated, and I feel he needs some time on his own...to be single...before making a long term commitment. With that in mind, I do fear the thoughts of losing him. My question for you Eugenia is this:? does it make sense for me to think about planning for a future of living and working with this man? Or should I just enjoy what we have now, knowing that it is short term?
I really appreciate any insight you can give me in this situation.? Dealing with a long distance relationship can be wonderful....or dreadful.? I hate the thoughts of setting myself up for getting hurt.? Thank you so much for your help Eugenia....you are wonderful! Please do not include our birth data.
Leo
Hi Leo
I don?t have a concern with the age difference however there was one problem that the astrological comparison did reveal. His natal Sun is opposite your natal Neptune and this can cause some deception or difficulties in an area of his chart that deals with communication and travel or the distance that you have between you. In your chart it deals with a work area which could eventually create problems because you are in the same vocation or work for the same company. I do not however feel that this is something that should stop you from pursuing you intention to eventually make a move to be together. His chart indicates that he is more inclined to make a short distance move over the next year. In other words he buys a house and moves from where he is living now to a nearby neighborhood. In your case the move appears to be a distant move from one state or province to another over the upcoming year.
There are no guarantees when it comes to love and even though your comparison is good a relationship takes work. If you feel that you will miss your friends and family you may want to consider your option to move very slowly with this relationship. Where he resides it is certainly not the same climate physically or mentally and the adjustment will be difficult. I suggest that you spend as much time visiting him as possible to get a better feel for the area. He falls in an area of your chart that deals with relationships which is good and you fall in the offshoot of that area in his chart which also brings favorable results. My only concern is that you are very family oriented and it will be difficult for you to leave the people you love behind should you make the move. If he were to make the move to your local it would have to be in the fall of 2005. Before that time would probably be a mistake or lead to some problems. If you feel that you want to take that amount of time before you are together I would suggest that you do so.
Eugenia
