We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I was born Feb. 24, 1984, at 12:23 PM. I am worried about my health. I am almost convinced that I have cancer. I am only 16 years old and I'm in very good shape. I was on the track team, and I participated in a 5-day outward bound trip. I lift weights from time to time, and eat a relatively smart and healthy diet. But I know all that doesn't stand a chance against the silent killer, that I believe grows inside me.I am too afraid to see a doctor because (I'm sorry, I don't want to sound too vulgar or reveal too much but) I think the kind of cancer I have is testicular cancer, and I don't want my parents to know about it.
The way they stop or cure this form of cancer is by removing the infected testicle, and then you are to under go 6 months of radiation or chemotherapy, plus a follow up 6 months if you go into remission. You still have one testicle that should function properly, but by the time your through with your radiation therapy your remaining gonad would be probably be sterol.
I want to get married, and have children when I grow up. I've never been with a girl before. I've never even really kissed a girl before, (I go to an all boys, school girls are hard to find) and to be honest I'm a pretty good-looking guy. I am so afraid of losing something that is so important to me, it's like a woman who has breast or ovarian cancer, they are afraid of losing those body parts and not feeling like a womananymore. I'm afraid of not feeling like a man anymore.
I've been planning to go to the Marines after college as an officer. Iwant to join the Marine Force Recon's Chemical Biological Initial Response Force. After the Marines I want to go to medical school to work with poor children, maybe open up a free medical clinic. Either that or get my PhD in Parapsychology, and prove the existence of the "soul" or human spirit. If I get cancer I won't be able to become a Marine, and there would go many of my dreams for the future. I know that you can't cure my cancer, if I have cancer, but I guess all I really need is someone to hear what I've been feeling for so long. The fear and anxiety is beginning to get to me, and my time is ticking. For two months I've lived with this. I guess what I would like to know is whether or not I will marry, I will be in the military, and whether or not I will be a professional in the fields of science and medicine, and of course most importantly whether or not I have cancer.
Thank you so much for listening, just knowing someone else out there knows about my dilemma helps to ease my fears.
Sincerely,
Too Young For Death
Dear Too Young For Death
Your chart does indicate that you can be prone to having minor problems with your sexual organs and that you are probably experiencing difficulties currently that are extremely frightening. You must however have these matters tended to regardless of your fears. You must tell your mother that you need to make an appointment. It is important to get to the bottom of your problem for more reasons than one. You are worrying yourself sick over something that you are probably able to deal with quite easily right now. If however you decide to leave things until a later date it may be more difficult a healing process. Please do not waste any more time. Get checked out and get on with your life.
Regarding your future prospects for marriage, your chart indicates that you are not one to commit easily and that you should take your time until the right person comes along. If you marry too young you are likely to have trouble keeping the marriage together for one reason or another.
Your direction in life could go either way. I can see that the military would be of satisfying, however long term I feel that your chart shows greater interest in medicine. You would do extremely well in neurological or psychological studies.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I know I've met my soul mate, but we keep having conflicts that end with me not wanting to deal with him. He's a Taurus born May 4, 1971 and I'm a Cancer born June 25, 1962. Nine months ago he came back into my life after a 5-year separation, and I believed he wanted a second chance and that he truly loved me. His actions say otherwise when it comes to my feelings. I've gone out of my way, once again, to make sure he is happy, comfortable, and to give all the support he needs. He's done nothing for me and he makes me feel that he has taken advantage of me again and only cares about himself.
I've just recently asked him to leave, because he had hurt my feelings again and that was the last straw for me. I miss him desperately, but I don't know if it's my self-destructive behavior that won't completely let go! I don't want to go through this back and forth emotional roller coaster with him forever. Am I lying to myself? My Cancer logic is slipping away...
Destined
Dear Destined
The comparison does lack some qualities that I would like to see and deception and disillusionment are present in areas of your chart that deal with the home and chores that you share with one another. The unfortunate thing is that once you do too much for someone it is hard to back off and stop doing without causing problems in the relationship. This person is taking advantage of you but you have allowed it to happen. Your chart indicates that you do have problems when it comes to relationships. Your natal Saturn opposite your natal Venus both adversely aspected by your natal Neptune can make it difficult for you to choose properly. It is important for you to have an astrological comparison done before you give your heart to someone. You are in a high cycle for romance right now and will also be during the first half of next year. It is important for you to move on and free yourself of this man who has little to offer you but grief. Keep in mind that as long as he is in your life it will be difficult to take advantage of the opportunities you have for meeting someone new. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Libra, Sagittarius and Aquarius.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
I met a very special person (February 4, 1969) 4 years ago after having met her at work. Once we talked, we realized we had a lot in common between us and it was amazing how closely the pattern of each of our lives seemed so much alike from our childhood to the present. We knew from the beginning that we could be very good for each other and therefore, we became very close friends almost instantly as though we had known each other all of our lives. I discovered that I could open up to her, like no other person in my life, and tell some of my most intimate feelings and hidden fears that I had carried inside all of my life as she did with me. Ironically, I have always seemed to have the problem of letting myself get too close to people even though I have many friends, they are not intimate friends. As we became closer throughout the 4 years, I have felt myself becoming very scared of getting too close, being hurt and even left behind, without reason, so I in turn distanced myself from her more and more without an explanation. She became less interested in our friendship and it began to unravel for both of us due to the stress of it all. Since December of last year, we have not spoken at all and it has really been a very devastating experience for me. It has changed me as a person in so many ways. I wish very much that I could rekindle our friendship that I miss dearly, but I don't know what would be the right words to say or if we would be better to put this behind and both move on with our lives apart. I was born December 15, 1958 at 8:30 am. Thank you for guidance.
Sagittarius
Dear Sagittarius
I believe that friendship is the operative word here. The comparison showed nothing more than that. It also revealed that there certainly is some mistrust, disillusionment or possible deception as well. Now that could have to do with the fact that you didn't even give her an explanation when you backed away. I fell that you have two choices and they are to move on and prepare to meet someone else who matches up to you much better physically and mentally or phone her up, be honest about your feelings and ask to resume the friendship. When I say friendship I mean just that. I believe that anything more would lead to trouble. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. If she isn't interested at least you'll know and can move on. You tend to match up to those born under the signs Aries, Cancer, Libra and Aquarius (she is not a very strong Aquarius). It is apparent that you do much better with people who are much older or much younger than yourself. You will be in a high cycle regarding love next year so don't waste too much of your time trying to turn what you have with your Aquarian friend into anything more than a friendship at this point.
Eugenia
