We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Getting Harder To Get Up

Dear Eugenia:

I sincerely hope that you can find some order in my swirling mass of chaotic emotions. I am a Taurus woman (born May 6, 1971 at 1:36 p.m.) that was deeply hurt last year by a Cancer (July 10, 1968) whom I thought I was going to marry, and then by a Capricorn (January 14, 1971) who lied to me, yet still shows up in my life now and then and tells me how much he misses me (and he has a girlfriend now too - a Pisces). I don't mean to sound bitter, but I feel that my relationships are always doomed to failure, and every time I get knocked down (figuratively speaking, of course), it gets a little harder to stand back up again. I'm starting to feel a little better about myself, but I am still wounded by the fact that Mr. Cancer didn't want to marry me because of my medical condition (I'm diabetic), and it was his parents that forced him to break up with me. I want to feel good about myself again, and I don't want to be lonely anymore: I feel that I am ready to start a relationship - one that would hopefully lead to a future marriage. My question is this: should I actively pursue relationships at this time, or do I need a little more time to concentrate on myself and my well-being? If you could give me some insight into the next six months (if possible), you could help ease my troubled mind a little so I can focus on a positive direction in my life.

Thank you ever so much
Eternally grateful

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Dear Eternally grateful

You are best to get the Cancer out of your mind. If he wasn't strong enough to stand up for you when his family discouraged him you have to know that he wasn't right for you. The Capricorn was really someone who was meant to be a social acquaintance. As for the signs best suited to you consider a Taurus, Virgo, Scorpio or Pisces. You are in a high cycle for meeting someone new right now however that transit will only be with you until late May. After that I suggest that you focus on yourself, your career and your home. You will be in another high cycle from mid July on for the next couple of years.

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Article: First Half-Life Saturn

Dear Eugenia

I'm not trying to complain about my life but I really don't know what to do.

My unemployed dad drinks everyday and my poor mom is working as a domestic maid. I hate my dad. I am not studying well and always get poor results. I don't want to do anything. I think everyone dislikes me but I don't know why. I don't want to go out. Eugenia, will my life be going like this forever? I want to have some changes. How can I change my life? I was born January 16, 1986, at 12:45 PM.

Thanks for your advice...
Need to Know

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Dear Need to Know

You are currently going through what astrologers refer to as your first half-life Saturn. This can be a depressing period for you. It is important that you take the time to decide what would really help you turn things around. You should talk to your mother and let her know how you feel. Ask her how she feels about your dad and if she is willing to get outside help through counseling. Chances are good that she isn't any happier then you are about your father's bad habits right now and perhaps if she goes for help he will as well. Regarding your education you should find it easier to focus on your work next year, for now you should ask your teachers for additional help if needed. You are bright and there is no reason why you can't turn things around if you want to. The most important thing to remember is that it is up to you to make the effort as well as the changes. Although you are experiencing uncertainties regarding your future it is apparent that with hard work and determination you will be able to succeed. You didn't mention when your mother and father were born so I am not able to tell you if either one of them are strong enough to do what's necessary in order to turn things around. Your best bet as I mentioned is to discuss your concerns with your mother and suggest that she try to get some help from a professional or even from relatives who may be able to talk some sense into your father.

Eugenia

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Article: Brains and Brawn

Dear Eugenia,

I am a 49-year-old woman who has sworn off men for the past six years; mostly to avoid a weakness I had four bad relationships with big blue-eyed country boys. Four months ago one walked into my house for a volunteer project and I'm losing it because this one also happens to be SMART. Problem is, he's a whole bunch younger and apparently pretty naive about women and sex in general. The compatibility thermometer gave us a 99%, and I'm pretty sure he's attracted to me--he's here all the time and we can talk away the night. But now I want to move it up to the next level, and I don't know how or when, or whether it's a good idea to ruin an almost perfect friendship.I'm born 3/3/52, 2:45 am, and he's born 5/31/65, 2:30 a.m. any advice on timing, or whether this is a good idea?

Perplexed

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Dear Perplexed

You do have an amazing comparison with your Gemini friend. I would however take it nice and slow and let him make the moves. I don't have a problem with the age difference however at some point it may cause a problem with friends, family as well as with one another. I am basing this on your charts, not on your chronological age difference. It will depend on his maturity however I do believe that he has a strong sense of who he is and what he wants out of life. The only other question that might arise will be regarding children. That could be with children that either one of you already have or the fact that he may want a child and you may not be able to reciprocate. As for now however I believe that you should let things unfold naturally and try not to get too caught up in long term for now.

Eugenia

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