We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I was born in Boston, MA at 3:06am on March 6, 1975. My career is going no where. I keep running into dead ends. Every time I find a job I end up wanting to quit within 1-4 months. You can imagine what my resume looks like. I do try to commit, but always find the situation unbearable. Right now, I'm at 4 months and barely hanging on. I always want to quit because of office politics. I once heard someone say "don't be a part of office politics, but do be aware it." "mind your own business, and do your work." I have done both of these. And at every job I am constantly the "butt" of office gossip. I am aware that for me to be quiet and do my work will seem threatening to some. But why am I treated so meanly even if I am nice to everyone? I have had co-workers ruin my projects or take credit for my work. I have had plenty say negative untrue things about me and people actually believe them! Talking to managers doesn't work either. I've tried and have been put down by them or simply laughed at or ignored. I've even been fired for not being able to get along with a co-worker even though it was the co-worker who did all the "mean things". And at my current job, I am afraid this may happen again. I feel like I get the brunt of it more than anyone else. And I am sure I am not being paranoid or overly sensitive. I am professional and mature as possible and as I can be. So what's wrong with me? I am seeking therapy, however, what do you see in all this? Please tell me anything you can. Please help me. I am deeply worried, concerned, & afraid for my work/career situations. Thank you for your time and consideration.
Job Jumping
Dear Job Jumping
Your sensitivity regarding work and money is and has been a little out of control over the course of the past couple of years and although you are not quite over the hump as of yet relief is on the way. Your chart indicates that you should be working in a field that is a little unusual, that you need to be creative, nurturing and inventive. The area of your chart that deals with higher education is in a high cycle for the next few months and that means that an apprenticeship or picking up skills that could help you change your vocation may be the answer. You might want to consider starting your own business as well. You need to be doing something that you feel is going to give you something back at some point. Over the course of the past two years you also had transiting Neptune hitting your chart in such a way that it was causing deception, disillusionment and misunderstandings with colleagues and employers. Take three steps back and decide what it is you want to do and start to move in that direction. It's never to late to make a career change especially if it will lead to doing something that you can enjoy.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I am desperately in need of your help.? I was in a relationship with a Leo born August 08, 1966.? We were together for 7 years and he ended the relationship approximately 9 months ago and immediately started a relationship with another Leo born August 9, 1956.? I still care for him deeply even though I think he is a loser.? Recently (One month ago) he came back into my life and wants to have a relationship based on his terms (sexual) while still seeing this other person.? Do you see us having any sort of a future together based on compatibility.? I was born March 8, 1957 at 1 AM. He claims that sex was never an issue between us.
?We never really fought over anything when we were together.? I just got tired of his leaning on me financially and think he is now in financial trouble.? I think that is the only reason he wants to be with me.? Please advise as he is the only person who has ever made me truly happy in the past with his sense of humor.?? I need to know whether I should just let go and move on so I am desperate for a reply.? The other woman knows about our previous relationship but she is unaware that he has since cheated on her with me.
R
Dear R
Your Leo man matches up to both you and his Leo partner in similar ways. I believe that he was probably already seeing her when he was still with you. He has been dishonest and emotionally deceptive with both of you. The comparison he has with her shows sorrow as well. I believe that he wants his cake and eat it to. You must walk away from this situation swiftly. It?s time for you to move on ? meet new people and start a new relationship. Your chart indicates that travel or moving a distance may be a good move on your part if possible. This man is a loser and you deserve someone better. He falls in an area of your chart that deals with dead end projects and that is usually an indication that it won?t last. Don?t let this guy use you sexually - you really don?t know how many other people he is intimate with. Serious consequences are likely. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio and Capricorn.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I know I've met my soul mate, but we keep having conflicts that end with me not wanting to deal with him. He's a Taurus born May 4, 1971 and I'm a Cancer born June 25, 1962. Nine months ago he came back into my life after a 5-year separation, and I believed he wanted a second chance and that he truly loved me. His actions say otherwise when it comes to my feelings. I've gone out of my way, once again, to make sure he is happy, comfortable, and to give all the support he needs. He's done nothing for me and he makes me feel that he has taken advantage of me again and only cares about himself.
I've just recently asked him to leave, because he had hurt my feelings again and that was the last straw for me. I miss him desperately, but I don't know if it's my self-destructive behavior that won't completely let go! I don't want to go through this back and forth emotional roller coaster with him forever. Am I lying to myself? My Cancer logic is slipping away...
Destined
Dear Destined
The comparison does lack some qualities that I would like to see and deception and disillusionment are present in areas of your chart that deal with the home and chores that you share with one another. The unfortunate thing is that once you do too much for someone it is hard to back off and stop doing without causing problems in the relationship. This person is taking advantage of you but you have allowed it to happen. Your chart indicates that you do have problems when it comes to relationships. Your natal Saturn opposite your natal Venus both adversely aspected by your natal Neptune can make it difficult for you to choose properly. It is important for you to have an astrological comparison done before you give your heart to someone. You are in a high cycle for romance right now and will also be during the first half of next year. It is important for you to move on and free yourself of this man who has little to offer you but grief. Keep in mind that as long as he is in your life it will be difficult to take advantage of the opportunities you have for meeting someone new. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Libra, Sagittarius and Aquarius.
Eugenia
July 24th 2026
Happy Birthday: Let go of negativity and focus on the possibilities. Life is about living, not hanging on to the past. Separate the good from the bad, learn your lessons as you go, and make progress through positive thought and reinforcement. Be the bright light in the room, the one who offers positive alternatives, and become the go-to person. Give credit where credit is due, and the returns will be bountiful. Your numbers are 3, 16, 19, 27, 31, 35, 44.
