We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I am in a long distance relationship with a man 5 hours from me (Oct. 24, 1979) and I am wondering how we can make it work or if it really could work since I don't have the time (nor money) to waste on unworthy causes.
I feel very strongly about him. We've met twice & the first time we were both out of sorts. Last time we had a great time! I've never had an online relationship but I do understand that a lot of work is involved. Commitment, sacrifices & compromising are the top 3 things I can think of. I'm afraid that I won't be able to provide my part of the bargain as well as he could. I'm afraid that after some time we'll be too tired to continue this relationship & feel that we have -really- wasted our time & money. I haven't been able to find someone as compatible with me as he in my own town. I've been single for over a year now. I'm afraid I might only be interested in him because he's interested in me too, just because I've been single for so long (I don't think that's very truthful though).
The only way that an online relationship can work is if both partners plan on being together down the line. We're not dating yet but we both want to move back to BC in the near future. I have so many fears. What about my education? My career? What if we're only compatible with distance between us, & then we rip each other to shreds once we're together-together? ARGH!!
Could you offer me a bit of astrological advice? I do know that all but 2 of his & my astro houses are located under the same sign. Any words of wisdom would be really appreciated!
Wrapped up
Dear Wrapped up
The comparison was okay. Keep in mind that in order to have a relationship work it takes work. People always think that if they fall in love that's all it takes but unfortunately a relationship probably takes more time, effort and work then anything else you do in life. I believe that he is someone who can help you achieve some of your dreams, hopes and wishes, however that doesn't mean that you will end up together forever. More so than having a long term or everlasting union a relationship should be based on how much you learn from one another, enjoy one another and compliment one another. You have time to kill right now as the next time you are in a really high cycle for love is next year. As for now you should be enjoying whatever time you do get to spend with one another. Just because you live a distance doesn't mean that you can't do things on the cheap. You'd probably spend just as much cash staying at home as you would staying at his place or vise versa. If you really enjoy one another's company you'll find ways to spend more time together while you discover each other's likes, dislikes, needs and desires. Don't be impatient love and relationships take time.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I was born Feb. 24, 1984, at 12:23 PM. I am worried about my health. I am almost convinced that I have cancer. I am only 16 years old and I'm in very good shape. I was on the track team, and I participated in a 5-day outward bound trip. I lift weights from time to time, and eat a relatively smart and healthy diet. But I know all that doesn't stand a chance against the silent killer, that I believe grows inside me.I am too afraid to see a doctor because (I'm sorry, I don't want to sound too vulgar or reveal too much but) I think the kind of cancer I have is testicular cancer, and I don't want my parents to know about it.
The way they stop or cure this form of cancer is by removing the infected testicle, and then you are to under go 6 months of radiation or chemotherapy, plus a follow up 6 months if you go into remission. You still have one testicle that should function properly, but by the time your through with your radiation therapy your remaining gonad would be probably be sterol.
I want to get married, and have children when I grow up. I've never been with a girl before. I've never even really kissed a girl before, (I go to an all boys, school girls are hard to find) and to be honest I'm a pretty good-looking guy. I am so afraid of losing something that is so important to me, it's like a woman who has breast or ovarian cancer, they are afraid of losing those body parts and not feeling like a womananymore. I'm afraid of not feeling like a man anymore.
I've been planning to go to the Marines after college as an officer. Iwant to join the Marine Force Recon's Chemical Biological Initial Response Force. After the Marines I want to go to medical school to work with poor children, maybe open up a free medical clinic. Either that or get my PhD in Parapsychology, and prove the existence of the "soul" or human spirit. If I get cancer I won't be able to become a Marine, and there would go many of my dreams for the future. I know that you can't cure my cancer, if I have cancer, but I guess all I really need is someone to hear what I've been feeling for so long. The fear and anxiety is beginning to get to me, and my time is ticking. For two months I've lived with this. I guess what I would like to know is whether or not I will marry, I will be in the military, and whether or not I will be a professional in the fields of science and medicine, and of course most importantly whether or not I have cancer.
Thank you so much for listening, just knowing someone else out there knows about my dilemma helps to ease my fears.
Sincerely,
Too Young For Death
Dear Too Young For Death
Your chart does indicate that you can be prone to having minor problems with your sexual organs and that you are probably experiencing difficulties currently that are extremely frightening. You must however have these matters tended to regardless of your fears. You must tell your mother that you need to make an appointment. It is important to get to the bottom of your problem for more reasons than one. You are worrying yourself sick over something that you are probably able to deal with quite easily right now. If however you decide to leave things until a later date it may be more difficult a healing process. Please do not waste any more time. Get checked out and get on with your life.
Regarding your future prospects for marriage, your chart indicates that you are not one to commit easily and that you should take your time until the right person comes along. If you marry too young you are likely to have trouble keeping the marriage together for one reason or another.
Your direction in life could go either way. I can see that the military would be of satisfying, however long term I feel that your chart shows greater interest in medicine. You would do extremely well in neurological or psychological studies.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
Please help me. From January 1999 to January of this year, I had a relationship with my teacher who was born 24/11/1960, I was born 09/08/1983. The relationship was secret for obvious reasons, but then one night, my best friend told me that for the last two years he had been coming on to her, buying her things, and generally making her uncomfortable. I told her my secret as well and since then my life has been awful. I was really depressed and after a lot of soul searching I decided, with my friend, to tell our headmaster and get him thrown out of school so that I could get on with my life. Well, we told the head and a lot of things have happened that I didn't want to. Firstly, he made me tell my parents, secondly, I had to speak to social services, and thirdly, I had to speak to the police. The police want me to give a statement so that they can arrest him and hopefully sendhim to prison. I told them that I didn't think it would be worth it, but they said I had to think of all the other girls if I didn't. Anyway, I was adamant that there hadn't been any other girls in his past, nor would there be in his future, so I decided not to give a statement. However, today I found out that in his previous school, somebody accused him of doing something (which he didn't do, he says) and now I am so confused. My question is, should I make a statement and run the risk of ruining his life, or should I let it go, and run the risk of him doing this to somebody else?
Please help me, I don't know who else to turn to...
A Leo Lost
Dear A Leo Lost
Dear Leo Lost
You need to ask yourself some serious questions regarding this incident. Your chart indicates that you weren't just an innocent victim, that perhaps you had an attraction to this man as well. That doesn't make it right for him to take advantage of you considering your age and vulnerability but there is also the possibility that you may be exaggerating just a little regarding what he was up to. If you feel that he was the only one flirting and caring on by all means do what you can to make sure that this will never happen to another student. However if you were just as much to blame you must tell the whole truth and let the authorities make the decision regarding his future. He will probably not be allowed to teach if he has been accused in the past. I believe that he is capable of twisting the truth and that he probably did do what he was accused of in the past. The unfortunate thing is that you probably told your friend partly because you were feeling a little jealous that he would pay attention to someone else. I believe that you were just as caught up in this whole affair as he was. It's time to tell the truth so that you all can get on with your lives.
