We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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I have decided to put more time and energy into my research. It’s been a pleasure to answer your emails and to help you through some of life’s tough journeys. Everyone who has participated in my Dear Eugenia column has enriched my life and I hope I have improved yours as well.

For those of you who wish to contribute birth data to my research, please enter your information to my medical astrology research listed on my home page. This research is explicitly dealing with cancer and mental health – addiction illness. The focus is on early diagnosis and preventative medicine.

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Single for So Long

Dear Eugenia,

I am in a long distance relationship with a man 5 hours from me (Oct. 24, 1979) and I am wondering how we can make it work or if it really could work since I don't have the time (nor money) to waste on unworthy causes.

I feel very strongly about him. We've met twice & the first time we were both out of sorts. Last time we had a great time! I've never had an online relationship but I do understand that a lot of work is involved. Commitment, sacrifices & compromising are the top 3 things I can think of. I'm afraid that I won't be able to provide my part of the bargain as well as he could. I'm afraid that after some time we'll be too tired to continue this relationship & feel that we have -really- wasted our time & money. I haven't been able to find someone as compatible with me as he in my own town. I've been single for over a year now. I'm afraid I might only be interested in him because he's interested in me too, just because I've been single for so long (I don't think that's very truthful though).

The only way that an online relationship can work is if both partners plan on being together down the line. We're not dating yet but we both want to move back to BC in the near future. I have so many fears. What about my education? My career? What if we're only compatible with distance between us, & then we rip each other to shreds once we're together-together? ARGH!!

Could you offer me a bit of astrological advice? I do know that all but 2 of his & my astro houses are located under the same sign. Any words of wisdom would be really appreciated!

Wrapped up

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Dear Wrapped up

The comparison was okay. Keep in mind that in order to have a relationship work it takes work. People always think that if they fall in love that's all it takes but unfortunately a relationship probably takes more time, effort and work then anything else you do in life. I believe that he is someone who can help you achieve some of your dreams, hopes and wishes, however that doesn't mean that you will end up together forever. More so than having a long term or everlasting union a relationship should be based on how much you learn from one another, enjoy one another and compliment one another. You have time to kill right now as the next time you are in a really high cycle for love is next year. As for now you should be enjoying whatever time you do get to spend with one another. Just because you live a distance doesn't mean that you can't do things on the cheap. You'd probably spend just as much cash staying at home as you would staying at his place or vise versa. If you really enjoy one another's company you'll find ways to spend more time together while you discover each other's likes, dislikes, needs and desires. Don't be impatient love and relationships take time.

Eugenia

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Article: From In Need of Help

Hi Eugenia

First, I enjoy your website and read the daily scope every day. I am married for the second time to a Sagittarius [12/5/1946] who is incapable of returning my love. As we approach retirement, I find that I am unable to look forward to any happiness while I am with this person. He is at the same time, dependent on me financially, ignores me in public, blocks all emotion and has an addiction to alcohol and he refuses to deal with it. I am wondering if I were to cut the ties, let him go, will he be able to recover? He is so good at hiding his emotions, I am not sure whether he has them or not. Additionally, I have not had a fortunate family life, either as a child, or as an adult. If I were to divorce this man, is there any hope of finding happiness with anyone else? I look to you to let me know. I was born November 13, 1950 at 11:23 pm. Thanks,

In Need of Help

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Hi In Need of Help

The comparison was not that great however there were signs that when you originally got together there was some passion and good times. Your husband does not have an addictive chart in the sense that he can't recover but he does have some strong psychological problems that I believe will require serious counseling. This is probably why he is drowning his sorrows or poor me syndrome in alcohol. Unfortunately for him this is his problem and he is the only one who can solve it. I suggest that you get out and do so now. Make sure that you cover yourself legally and don't be afraid to use the word abusive relationship when you go to your lawyer. Your husband has been abusive by ignoring you to the point that you don't have a loving or even caring relationship. This is a lonely situation to end up in. You will be in a high cycle regarding love next year so I suggest that you get yourself out of this situation as soon as possible so that you have time to reorganize your life, discover what like to do, who you are as a single person and what you want in a partner. You match up to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio and Capricorn. Get moving and good luck.

Eugenia

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Article: Talent Doesn't Always Lead to Success

Dear Eugenia,

I was born on February 26th 1979 in Split, Croatia,20 minutes past midnight. I am really concerned about 2 different aspects of my life and I need your help. I would like to know if my career choice-becoming an actress-is the right one for me. I am very ambitious and also interested in the financial aspect of my work and sometimes I am uncertain if this is the right choice for me. For some time I`ve been involved in fashion business, but I didn`t have the success I expected although I had worked hard. Sometimes I just feel that I will never be able to realize myself professionally and I do not want to end up being frustrated. Please help me with these career problems. 2.I`m having problems with my relationship which lasts for almost 5 years. He was born on August 13th 1961 in Kotor, Yugoslavia at 5am. We have a wonderful 7 months old son and deep down I know I love him, but I`m getting more and more unsatisfied with my relationship. I need your advice about this very much. Also, can you just very briefly tell me about his health. I know these questions may be to long, but I would really appreciate your time and effort. Also, do you send your answers

Family Matters

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Dear Family Matters

Regarding your career, I do believe that you have talent. This however, does not always equate to being successful. The problem appears to be more to do with self-deception and disillusionment. This often is the case when you are born with your natal Neptune adversely aspected to your natal Mercury as you were. I believe that you are quite attractive and this has always attributed to your success in the past. Most professional gains stem from frustration, hard work and more importantly dedication and good timing. You should be striving to go on as many auditions as possible if that's the career path you want to pursue. I do feel that much of your talent lies in an area that deals with fashion and design. You may not have given this career enough time. Success does not happen over night. The relationship with your husband was actually quite good. I feel certain that you can provide greater opportunity for one another. Your husbands chart indicates that he is moving into a high cycle where his career is concerned and that is where he should be putting his greatest effort this year. He is going through many changes regarding his attitude and his likes and dislikes. His chart does not indicate major health problems. At least nothing that can't be controlled. The past few years due to transiting planets illness may have occurred. If this is the case I feel that he should continue to follow a healthy lifestyle as reoccurring transits could cause future problems. On the whole his chart indicates that he usually lands on his feet.

You did not submit your son's birth data and that is unfortunate considering how much a child's chart can reveal about his parents.

Eugenia

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