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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I am in a long distance relationship with a man 5 hours from me (Oct. 24, 1979) and I am wondering how we can make it work or if it really could work since I don't have the time (nor money) to waste on unworthy causes.
I feel very strongly about him. We've met twice & the first time we were both out of sorts. Last time we had a great time! I've never had an online relationship but I do understand that a lot of work is involved. Commitment, sacrifices & compromising are the top 3 things I can think of. I'm afraid that I won't be able to provide my part of the bargain as well as he could. I'm afraid that after some time we'll be too tired to continue this relationship & feel that we have -really- wasted our time & money. I haven't been able to find someone as compatible with me as he in my own town. I've been single for over a year now. I'm afraid I might only be interested in him because he's interested in me too, just because I've been single for so long (I don't think that's very truthful though).
The only way that an online relationship can work is if both partners plan on being together down the line. We're not dating yet but we both want to move back to BC in the near future. I have so many fears. What about my education? My career? What if we're only compatible with distance between us, & then we rip each other to shreds once we're together-together? ARGH!!
Could you offer me a bit of astrological advice? I do know that all but 2 of his & my astro houses are located under the same sign. Any words of wisdom would be really appreciated!
Wrapped up
Dear Wrapped up
The comparison was okay. Keep in mind that in order to have a relationship work it takes work. People always think that if they fall in love that's all it takes but unfortunately a relationship probably takes more time, effort and work then anything else you do in life. I believe that he is someone who can help you achieve some of your dreams, hopes and wishes, however that doesn't mean that you will end up together forever. More so than having a long term or everlasting union a relationship should be based on how much you learn from one another, enjoy one another and compliment one another. You have time to kill right now as the next time you are in a really high cycle for love is next year. As for now you should be enjoying whatever time you do get to spend with one another. Just because you live a distance doesn't mean that you can't do things on the cheap. You'd probably spend just as much cash staying at home as you would staying at his place or vise versa. If you really enjoy one another's company you'll find ways to spend more time together while you discover each other's likes, dislikes, needs and desires. Don't be impatient love and relationships take time.
Eugenia
Hello again Eugenia,
I wrote you last year in May, telling you about the problems with my husband (born January 31 1959, 2.50am) and my situation with the immigration status in US. I tried to follow your advice and go with him to marriage counseling, but the things were not very good. He didn't want to go first, and when he went, he said that the counseling it doesn't work for him because nobody will come to tell him that he is wrong, when he knows that he is right.
In December, last year, I found 4 email accounts full of emails back and forth with a lot of women. Many of them were very in love with him. He promised them marriage and a good situation in US. A women from Mexico called at the house and she was very upset when she found out that he is married. Nobody from his women in Internet knew that he is married. He recognized everything he did, but in the same time he doesn't want to be with me anymore. Its like: "I don't want you because you know too many things about me now."
Eugenia, I tried everything with this man, I tried to play by the rules in this marriage, but he deceived me so many times that I don't trust him anymore. He lied to me from the beginning, he controls me in every way you can think about it, and he abuses me mentally very hard. My main problem is the immigration situation in this moment; he keeps me stuck in the house, like a slave. From more than 6 months, I am trying to apply for getting a legal status in the country, together with my daughter, with a law who defends women and children who live in abusive relationships with their husbands, but because I don't have money to pay a lawyer (my husband controls all the finances), I was not able to find somebody to help me apply, even if I went to all the places where you can receive free legal services. I wanted to leave him many times in the last year, since I wrote you, but I don't have where to go and what to do. I cannot work and make a living together with my daughter without him. The situation is very difficult and I am really desperate.
My first question is if you see something about this situation in my chart, and when do you think that I will be able to resolve something?
Trying to find more things about my husband activity in Internet, going in chats and other sites where I found out he was all the time, I met a man, 2 months ago. He is psychologist and professor to a university, not very close to my city. Since February, we chat and emailed each other each day. We talked on the phone few times. We have good time together. We laugh a lot, and he is very considerate and nice...He was born October 15, 1957, at 12.26pm.He understood my situation, and we decided to take it slow because of my situation. He wants to meet me soon.
Sometimes I feel bad thinking that now I am doing the same thing my husband did with his secret life in Internet, but in the same time, I feel that I need somebody in my life to get through all this mess that I have to live, and mentally and emotionally I don't feel connected with my husband anymore. I don't think that he deserves my love and my respect after all the garbage he put on our life together.
Do I have any future with this new man in my life? I had so many bad experiences with my 2 divorces, now the 3rd husband is a real jerk, my horrible situation with the legal status and everything, and I am really afraid to suffer again. I don't want you to believe that I am jumping in a new relationship when I am still in such a mess.... but this guy seems to bring a lot of light in my miserable life....
Thank you a lot for all your help,
gabituca
Hi grabituca
You are taking the wrong approach by doing the same thing you are accusing your husband of doing. Think about your daughter not your physical needs right now. The man you have met on the internet does not match up to you at all in fact I do
Dear Eugenia,
I read my horoscope - Gemini. Today's date is 7/13/02. My Birthday is May 26,1991 at 4:37 PM. I know I seem young but I read my horoscope and it said (I'll break it down to my own words) It said to avoid any dispute with a family member even though one of them is hiding something, and don't make any money deals. Can you just tell me what that meant???
Gemini
Dear Gemini
First of all the caption means that someone in your family may try to pick a fight with you. That this person is probably also withholding information as well and is trying to divert your attention from this information by arguing with you about other things. At your age money deals refer to making small bets with friends, spending your allowance all in one place or borrowing from one of your friends when you aren't sure that you can pay him or her back. The daily horoscope is not that cut and dry. You may be a Gemini by sun sign but that's where it ends in your chart. You have your Moon and Pluto in the sign Scorpio in your 2nd house, Libra rising, Uranus and Neptune in Capricorn in your 3rd house, Saturn in Aquarius in your 4th house, Mercury in Taurus in your 7th house, the Sun in Gemini in your 8th house, Venus in Cancer in your 9th house and Mars and Jupiter in Leo in your 10th house. Your chart consists of many different factors. Because you have what I refer to as split houses you should be reading two different signs relating to different areas of your life when dealing with houses in your chart that do not have planets in them. In your case you should be reading the sign Libra/Scorpio in the daily horoscope column for the way you feel on any given day. You should be reading the sign Scorpio if it is an issue that relates to how you can make some money or your early childhood. You should be reading the sign Capricorn for issues relating to your lower education, communications with friends, neighbors or relatives and anything to do with mail, transportation pleasure trips etc. You should be reading the sign Aquarius for issues relating to your home environment and older family members, the sign Aquarius/Pisces regarding social activities, creativity, gambling etc. The sign Pisces/Aries when relating to how well you get along with people you work with, anything to do with a pet that you might have or minor health problems. You should be reading the sign Taurus when it comes to your love relationships. You should read the sign Gemini when it relates to chronic health, money or legal issues etc. The sign Cancer for issues relating to higher education, philosophy, religion, travel in order to learn something new, dealing with people from different backgrounds etc. You should be reading the sign Leo with regards to your position in society and how well you'll do. The sign Leo/Virgo for any issues dealing with worthwhile groups or having favors granted and the signs Virgo/Libra for issues relating to serious health, dealing with institutions, secret enemies, nightmares etc. So as you can see astrology isn't that simple and most people don't realize that they need to read all twelve signs in a daily horoscope in order to get it's true value. The signs that fall in the different areas of a persons chart are unique to that person based on his or her day, month, year, time and place of birth. I hope that this has helped. I will be publishing a new book, hopefully before the end of the year that will help people figure out how to read a daily horoscope column properly.
Eugenia
