We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Ms. Last,
This is not the first time I have written you, but I do understand that you have received an incredible amount of mail. I would like some astrological advice on your part. First, I was born March 21, 1972 at 12.50 am. In 1997, I decided to return to college and do my Masters Degree. I am currently writing the thesis and it feels never ending. I suffered from a depression last year with suicidal tendencies, although I did not go through with my actions. I have gotten help, but I've the feeling the cycle is not over. Recently, my car was crashed into and declared a total loss by the insurance company. I cannot afford a new one, as my debt is already quite large. I lost my reading glasses yesterday and don't know how I will afford a new pair. I do work, however the stress of my job has compounded as I have become my boss's "go to" person, even though I am only a part time office clerk and he has at least 5 full time girls on staff. I have started crying a lot again, and tend to be depressed and oh so overwhelmed. I feel I will never finish my thesis that is due in the fall, after 2 extensions. I try to remember the reasons I decided to return to school, but at present, I do not see the positive aspect.
In addition (like it had to get worse) I have been single a long time, and I am falling in love with my boss. We don't mention it, but we spend a lot of time together, and he's married. I know he is confused in his marriage. He was born December 8, 1959. Hence, my question is, will things get easier for me? I read my astrology regularly on your site, but I still feel I need to know that I have made the right decision, because at present, nothing seems right.
Thank you for your time and congratulations on a wonderful site. The regular additions are always fun.
What to Do
Dear What to Do
You have just been hit by your Saturn return. This is not only depressing but it makes you reevaluate everything that you have done up until this point of your life. Don't worry; some people have it sit with them for a long period of time. In your case it will only be there for another couple of weeks. Now that doesn't mean that it will be smooth sailing for you. Life doesn't work that way, but you should be able to start focusing on the more positive aspects of your life. The work and money area of your chart is in a high cycle and that means that you could probably find a new job that would be less stressful. You may have a thing for your boss but it probably isn't healthy for you to have to put up with him using you as his "go to" person and whatever else you allow him to use you for. You should be experiencing opportunities to meet someone new, preferably someone who isn't already attached. Regarding your thesis I suggest that you get working on it and get it out of the way once and for all. By the middle of the summer you are not going to want to do it. Later this year and well into next year you will be in a high cycle regarding romance again so you won't want to be sitting at home working trying to get your thesis out of the way. It's time to take control and set your game plan. Look for a new job, get the thesis out of the way and keep yourself available for potential relationships. You match up well with those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Libra and Aquarius. The problem with your Sagittarius is that he falls in an area of your chart that deals with secret affairs.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I have a question regarding a love interest. I am in an abusive relationship with my alcoholic husband and I am trying to get my life in order to leave him. In the meantime I met someone else that I have deep feeling for. I have been seeing him for over 3 months now but I have known him for 30 years. I just wonder if you can see what lies in my future. I am so confused as what to do. I know I need to get away from the abusive relationship and work on my self-esteem. My birthday is 12/23/59 at 2:30pm; my love interest birthday is 1/11/58. I do not know birth time. Any insight would be greatly appreciated, as I am very confused right now.
Need Help
Dear Need Help
In most cases I would strongly suggest that you get out on your own for a while until you really know what you want and you have a chance to work on your own problems. However, in your case I have a feeling that you will make the adjustment quickly. The comparison with your Capricorn friend is so good that I don't believe that you should hesitate to have him in your life. He has plenty to offer you and he will help to rebuild your confidence. There is a tiny element of sorrow that does appear in this comparison however it falls in an area of your chart that isn't to negative unless perhaps you work with one another. Should this be the case you may want to consider changing jobs. You probably should have made your move away from your husband a year ago but it's never too late so get yourself packed and out of there. No one should put up with an abusive spouse who isn't dedicated to getting help.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia:
I have written several letters to but to no avail. I realize you are really busy but I need some help. Please consider reading this letter. I have gone to others for advice but I am still confused. I am strongly thinking about getting a divorce. I have only been married for about a year and a half. I realize I haven't given my relationship much time but I can't take my husband anymore. He is a Scorpio born on November 17, 1964. I am a Leo born on July 26, 1973 at 7:40 PM. The problem is he a Jekel & Hyde. For the past several months all he does is drink and do drugs. He hasn't started abusing me but he's been close to it. I am really scared of him and disappointed in myself. I have had bad relationships in the past and feel as if I made a huge mistake with this one to. Is this relationship going anywhere?I am just not happy with anything anymore and feel as if everything else around me is falling apart. Please give me some guidance. Thanks for your help.
Lost and confused.
Dear Lost and confused
It appears to me that you are probably both dissatisfied with your current relationship. The comparison lacked in many ways and although you may have been able to be friends at one point too much has probably occurred for that to be the case now. If you want to try to make it work get counseling however it is apparent that you will probably leave, if not right now during the first half of next year. I do believe that your husband can be excessive in his habits and it is obvious that he does have a temper, however it is apparent that he will react much worse when he isn't happy. I believe that you both made a mistake and that you are probably best to walk away. If you are afraid of his reaction, I suggest that you get help from your family or friends when you move out.
Eugenia
