We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Ms. Last,
This is not the first time I have written you, but I do understand that you have received an incredible amount of mail. I would like some astrological advice on your part. First, I was born March 21, 1972 at 12.50 am. In 1997, I decided to return to college and do my Masters Degree. I am currently writing the thesis and it feels never ending. I suffered from a depression last year with suicidal tendencies, although I did not go through with my actions. I have gotten help, but I've the feeling the cycle is not over. Recently, my car was crashed into and declared a total loss by the insurance company. I cannot afford a new one, as my debt is already quite large. I lost my reading glasses yesterday and don't know how I will afford a new pair. I do work, however the stress of my job has compounded as I have become my boss's "go to" person, even though I am only a part time office clerk and he has at least 5 full time girls on staff. I have started crying a lot again, and tend to be depressed and oh so overwhelmed. I feel I will never finish my thesis that is due in the fall, after 2 extensions. I try to remember the reasons I decided to return to school, but at present, I do not see the positive aspect.
In addition (like it had to get worse) I have been single a long time, and I am falling in love with my boss. We don't mention it, but we spend a lot of time together, and he's married. I know he is confused in his marriage. He was born December 8, 1959. Hence, my question is, will things get easier for me? I read my astrology regularly on your site, but I still feel I need to know that I have made the right decision, because at present, nothing seems right.
Thank you for your time and congratulations on a wonderful site. The regular additions are always fun.
What to Do
Dear What to Do
You have just been hit by your Saturn return. This is not only depressing but it makes you reevaluate everything that you have done up until this point of your life. Don't worry; some people have it sit with them for a long period of time. In your case it will only be there for another couple of weeks. Now that doesn't mean that it will be smooth sailing for you. Life doesn't work that way, but you should be able to start focusing on the more positive aspects of your life. The work and money area of your chart is in a high cycle and that means that you could probably find a new job that would be less stressful. You may have a thing for your boss but it probably isn't healthy for you to have to put up with him using you as his "go to" person and whatever else you allow him to use you for. You should be experiencing opportunities to meet someone new, preferably someone who isn't already attached. Regarding your thesis I suggest that you get working on it and get it out of the way once and for all. By the middle of the summer you are not going to want to do it. Later this year and well into next year you will be in a high cycle regarding romance again so you won't want to be sitting at home working trying to get your thesis out of the way. It's time to take control and set your game plan. Look for a new job, get the thesis out of the way and keep yourself available for potential relationships. You match up well with those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Libra and Aquarius. The problem with your Sagittarius is that he falls in an area of your chart that deals with secret affairs.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I am very confused and concerned about my current relationship. I was born 11-30-77 at 11:38am and my boyfriend was born 12-14-75 at 1:08pm. We have a very strong physical attraction for one another, but our fights are often and our comments are brutal. He has a very quick and explosive temper, but treats me very well otherwise. He is not jealous or controlling, but very sensitive. What type of connection do we have that makes us so inseparable? We cannot spend more than two days without one another, almost as if we are the same person. We are both becoming very dependent on each other and neither of us have ever had that type of personality. We both were "bachelors" of the zodiac breaking hearts left and right and partying all the time until we met each other. Is this relationship healthy? What is it about our signs that have made us completely different people enthralled by each other? But almost TOO passionate?
Two Archers
I like same sign relationships. I believe however that you are both going through the rush of love and that the physical connection is so powerful that neither one of you can get past it at the moment. The rest of the comparison isn't too bad. I feel that you both tend to evade issues and neglect to be completely honest with one another. The fact that you fight a lot doesn't surprise me either. It isn't unusual for people to point a finger at their partner especially if they themselves are guilty of similar things. Your Sagittarius partner, like yourself, will always be a bachelor even if you live together, get married and so on. Over the course of the next two years you will both experience a need to settle down and this could help the relationship progress positively. Keep in mind however that it is impossible to curtail, confine or restrict an Archer without causing problems. Your Sagittarius partner does have a temper and that should concern you. I believe that he is intense and that you can bring out the worst in him when it comes to arguments. The combination between the two of you can become quite volatile at times. Take your time and try to build a closer friendship if you really want this union to last.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I feel very, very lost. I work in the hospitality industry, which does not suit me at all. I make a decent living but hate my job and am thinking to go back to school to get certified to teach. Do you think that is a good choice? I fear it a little bit because I am very emotional and very unhappy. Although most of the time I can hide it well sometimes it comes to the surface and I find myself almost dysfunctional with grief. My mother (Nov 17) may be dying. She has been married to my father for nearly 60 years and she had a heart attack in December, which led to a stroke, which led to her lying in a hospital bed trying to learn to move and speak again. My father (Oct 22) sits at her side all day every day holding her hand and telling her everything is going to be okay. They are my models of what a marriage should be. I have been married for four years and separated for 2 and a half-he started walking out on me after our first anniversary. I finally went to a lawyer to draw up divorce papers and get my freedom and my husband (Nov 17, 76) is now trying to stop it. I feel that he has used me and deceived me numerous times although he says he loves me. If he loved me wouldn't he want to let me go and be happy rather than using our marriage one more time for his own ends? I had been celibate for one year after a failed 8-month relationship with a man who just wanted to be "friends" (Sept 11, 70). Then I ill advisedly got into a relationship with a very confused man (Oct 1, 77) for about two months that left me crying when he went back to his jealous Virgo ex-girlfriend earlier this week. Does my life sound like a soap opera? I feel like I have had my life on hold for several years and now everything has fallen on me at once and I can hardly bear it anymore. Family is the most important thing to me and I thought at 31 years old I would have a man as faithful and loving as my father at least if not children as well. I have not lost hope but it is running thin and I am so incredibly sad. Please, help give me direction and tell me what to look for and what you see in my chart - I was born January 6, 1976 at 10:02 AM.
Thank you,
Capricorn
Dear Capricorn
The comparison with your ex Scorpio is actually quite good. Yes there is emotional deception present but it appears to show up in an area of both charts that deals with the way you view one another as well as yourself leading me to believe that neither one of you may have tried hard enough to make it work. Marriage isn't easy and although I do believe with where his planets fall in your chart that you aren't like to forgive, forget and try again.
I think that you moved on emotionally when you let your heart be captured by your Libra friend. At that point you lost the ability to reconcile with your Capricorn husband. I do not feel that your Libra friend is right for you either. His inability to make up his mind will always be a problem plus he falls in an area of your chart that deals with dead ends. In other words it isn't likely to last even if you did get together again and marry.
I think teaching is a good thing for you to pursue however you should have started taking the course you required at least a year ago. The transits for educational pursuits are fast running out therefore your timing is off. Now that doesn't mean that you can't proceed but it will require more work on your part. The areas of your chart that deal with work and money are however in a high cycle until early next year so you may want to switch jobs this year. You can also excel in the travel industry, real estate, sales, your own business or something that involves physical activity of some sort.
Without your parents year of birth I cannot tell you much about them, however according to your chart your mother appears to be undergoing limitations and health issues for the next
