We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
I am a Virgo born on Sept.16, 1970. I been married to a cancer born on July 9,1970. We've been married 3 1/2 years. We were dating for 8 years. Our marriage was going great. But then, I had an affair with a co-worker. I told my husband the truth. He said that he would forgive me and would not leave me. The co-worker is a Virgo like me born on September 14, 1955. He was very good to me. I was feeling lonely and he was also. My husband is military. So, sometimes he is gone. The problem is that my husband says he wants us to work things out, but in the process he gets upset for remembering my affair and starts insulting me a lot. He has never hit me, but once he did because he wanted to know who the guy was. I told him not to hit me and he didn't. He doesn't hurt me physically, but emotionally he does. So, now I am confused. The other guy is married, but his wife filed for divorce. He wants me to also get a divorce and go with him. I just don't know what to do. I am confused! What do you think I should do?
Confused
Dear Confused
I'm not surprised that you are confused. My dear girl, what were you thinking. You have such a good comparison with your husband except for the fact that deception and sorrow due to secret affairs could very well ruin this connection. Your husband is a proud man and it will be difficult for him to forgive you completely. The fact that he has his natal Mercury in the sign Cancer indicates that he will never be able to forget what you have done to him and to your marriage. As for your lover, well you didn't really match up very well. Emotional deception and disillusionment are evident. You have to make some quick decisions in order to get your life back on course. If you think you can salvage your marriage by all means do so, get counseling or whatever it takes. If you decide that it's too late and you must move on do so but not by moving from one hot bed to another. You need to give yourself time to discover who you are and what you really want. I do not believe that you really want your secret lover. I feel that you were attracted to him due to a void you were feeling. Your husband might not have been spending enough time with you or perhaps neither one of you worked hard enough to make your marriage work. A good marriage doesn't just happen. It takes plenty of patience, understanding and hard work on the part of both parties. Divorce does look like the direction you are heading. Whether you stay or leave you will be experiencing emotional difficulties due to the poor choices that you have made in the past.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia?
First I would like to tell you how much I enjoy the daily horoscopes. I go to your website every day to read them. I also enjoy the other sites that you have.
I have several concerns. One is I quit my job the day before Valentine's Day. I just had enough of my boss; nothing I did for her was ever good enough. I was wondering if I will be getting another job soon in the profession that I love or will I be opening up my own business with a friend of mine??
Two I'm worried about my marriage (12/07/67). My husband left me three years ago because of the problems we were having. It seems like history is repeating itself except for my husband leaving. I'm just waiting for him to pick up and leave again. Will he?? Three, my son (15/06/87). What is up with that child of mine? Why is he being so stubborn? Will he be coming back home again? Will he go back to school and get the education he so desperately needs? Will he be going back to jail? Thank you so much for taking the time to read my letter. God Bless you and I hope to hear from you soon.
Sincerely,
Rose
Dear Rose
The area of your chart that deals with work and money will be better towards the last quarter of this year however the reason it takes from now until that time could be due to the fact that you do open your own business. You may want to take whatever job comes along to subsidize you while you are trying to get your own business off the ground. Your chart indicates that you should be working for yourself or if you are working for a company you should be in a position that gives you the freedom to do your job the way you see fit, not under someone else?s regime. If you are to start your own business in conjunction with a friend you are probably best to have an astrological comparison done between you and that person before you move forward.
You match up well to your husband in many ways but there are problems as well. You are still going through a period that can cause uncertainty in your marriage and that will continue to move through your chart until the middle of next year. Between now and that time you may have to walk on eggshells. Without your husbands time of birth I can?t be sure what he will do but he is overreacting, going through depression and feeling an awful lot of anxiety.
You didn?t mention your son?s time of birth either and that limits what I can tell you about him as well. With regard to ending up back in detention - the possibilities are certainly evident. Your son is frustrated and angry and this will probably lead to him getting into trouble, facing danger or even problems with medications, drugs or other stimulants. Counseling may help.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia,
I have in the last several years come out of my denial as a person and become more conscious. In the past however, I have not always made the best choices in relationships. I either stayed too long or left too soon. I am attractive and interesting but am wondering if astrologically there will be better times in the future for relationships than the present. Things seem to be difficult for love and money at this time. In the past things seemed to happen more naturally but now I just seem to be sitting on the "fence of life" When will I jump off. I was born July 27, 1951, at 5:30 AM.
Fence Sitter
Dear Fence Sitter
You are going through a period that can cloud your perception especially where relationships are concerned and therefore sitting on the fence may not be a bad idea for now. You can however put your efforts into areas that are positive in your life. Consider making new friends by getting involved in organizations you believe in. Perhaps volunteering to help campaign for a political group. You need to be spending time with others and that doesn't mean looking for love. Building solid friendships is where it's at for you right now. That can be with either gender. You will be in a much higher cycle regarding love during the fall of next year and throughout the first half of 2002. You should also make some creative changes to your living quarters. Consider initiating a move or redecorating. This will lift your spirits. When it comes to finding love you match up to the signs Taurus, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces.
Eugenia
