We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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For those of you who wish to contribute birth data to my research, please enter your information to my medical astrology research listed on my home page. This research is explicitly dealing with cancer and mental health – addiction illness. The focus is on early diagnosis and preventative medicine.
I want to stress how important it is to submit complete and accurate birth data – the time and place of birth.
The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
I have a friend who is dating a girl diagnosed with schizophrenia. She has been on and off medication for several years now and has been hospitalized several times. I have looked at her birth chart and read what your web site says, but I can find nothing, in your site or others to indicate that this would be a problem in her life. Is there something I'm missing? I also am very concerned about my friend. This is his first long term relationship. They have been seeing each other for 14 months now. His relationships before always lasted 2 months at the most, although he was interested in someone for several years (born Sept. 27, 1980 at 12:47 pm in Vermont). He says that he plans to spend his life with this girl and I am concerned he doesn't really understand what that means for him, taking care of her long term medical and emotional needs. Can you tell me what you can about this relationship? He was born on May 17, 1981 between 11:00 am and 1:30 pm and she on June 6, 1978. I don't know her time of birth. Thank you. I love your site and go to it every day for guidance.
Concerned
Dear Concerned
Without her accurate birth time it isn't likely that an illness such as schizophrenia will show up and even if the actual birth time was available it would probably show up as emotional and mental disorders bordering on delusion. You must give your friend more credit. He is bright, articulate, and quite capable of taking care of himself and her if necessary and obviously he is in love with her. Being schizophrenic doesn't mean that she can't function well in society. It means that she must take medication the same as a diabetic needs insulin or an individual with poor sight needs to wear glasses. Her chart matches up well to his and there really isn't any apparent sorrow in this connection. The biggest problem that your friend appears to have is in the form of relatives and friends meddling in his affairs instead of supporting his decision to love someone that touches him deeply.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I have this huge problem regarding my sexuality. I think I'm a gay as I like watching handsome guys. This has happened for years and I'm really ashamed. I have no one to talk to. I am really worried about my future and my marriage later. Am I truly a gay? Or is it just a phase. I have tried to build relationships with girls but I keep failing. Please tell me what to do. I'm really confused and tired of struggling all the time. Is this some kind of punishment because I hate my father? For your information, I have never been close to my father since my childhood. I have read magazines that this could make someone a gay. Please help me because I think you're the only person who can help me. I was born August 19, 1981, at 2:00 AM. Thank you very much.
Swimming both ways
Dear Swimming both ways
Your chart does indicate that many of your problems stem from your relationship with your father as well as other factors that were present in your upbringing. You do have your natal Venus, Saturn and Jupiter opposite your natal Moon and this can be extremely confusing regarding your emotions as well as your sexuality. I feel at this point that you are just a late bloomer and that you will change your mind regarding your sexuality many times over the course of the next few years. You are coming into a high cycle regarding love and therefore the opportunity to experiment a little should help you move in the direction that is best suited to you. I do feel however that the right partner will help you determine that you are straight not gay.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I'm giving this one more try. I've sent an email to you in the past, however even though unanswered I wasn't really getting to the point. So here goes. When I met my husband in 1993, I thought for sure that he was my soul mate (his dob: 4/21/65/ my dob: 6/15/63). Before I met him, I met a palm reader who told me many things that came true, including that I would meet my soul mate. Things were going well, however this year I find myself questioning if he is the "one". I never gave it a thought a few years ago, but now I'm wondering. I've also found much interest in a man that I work with (4/10/66) and am trying very hard not to think of him other than a friend and co-worker. But I'm having such a hard time. It's not just a feeling of attraction, but a very strong feeling of a connection with this person for some reason. Am I totally out of line feeling this way or could there be something there.
Thank You,
Looking for true love
Dear Looking for true love
You don't actually match up all that well to either of the men in question. The reason why you are in doubt of the relationship with your husband at this time is because the natal Venus and Mercury in your chart are conjunct transiting Jupiter while your natal Mars, Uranus and Pluto are being squared by Jupiter. This can cause confusion, a need to make changes in your relationship and erratic behavior on your part. I would guess that part of the reason you find yourself attracted to the Aries at work is because you are already dissatisfied with your relationship with your Taurus husband. I think that you have a lot of thinking to do and that you may want to seek counseling in order to help you work through your feelings. It appears to me that you will also be meeting many more potential mates over the course of the next two years and that you will face on going problems if you don't deal with your marriage quickly. Question your true feelings for your husband and start the communications rolling either with him, a counselor or both. You need to make the necessary changes in order to get on with your life. You actually match up well to those born under the signs Leo, Libra, Sagittarius and Aquarius. You do work well with Aries but it isn't wise for you to mix business with pleasure.
Eugenia
