We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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I have decided to put more time and energy into my research. It’s been a pleasure to answer your emails and to help you through some of life’s tough journeys. Everyone who has participated in my Dear Eugenia column has enriched my life and I hope I have improved yours as well.
For those of you who wish to contribute birth data to my research, please enter your information to my medical astrology research listed on my home page. This research is explicitly dealing with cancer and mental health – addiction illness. The focus is on early diagnosis and preventative medicine.
I want to stress how important it is to submit complete and accurate birth data – the time and place of birth.
The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
I have a friend who is dating a girl diagnosed with schizophrenia. She has been on and off medication for several years now and has been hospitalized several times. I have looked at her birth chart and read what your web site says, but I can find nothing, in your site or others to indicate that this would be a problem in her life. Is there something I'm missing? I also am very concerned about my friend. This is his first long term relationship. They have been seeing each other for 14 months now. His relationships before always lasted 2 months at the most, although he was interested in someone for several years (born Sept. 27, 1980 at 12:47 pm in Vermont). He says that he plans to spend his life with this girl and I am concerned he doesn't really understand what that means for him, taking care of her long term medical and emotional needs. Can you tell me what you can about this relationship? He was born on May 17, 1981 between 11:00 am and 1:30 pm and she on June 6, 1978. I don't know her time of birth. Thank you. I love your site and go to it every day for guidance.
Concerned
Dear Concerned
Without her accurate birth time it isn't likely that an illness such as schizophrenia will show up and even if the actual birth time was available it would probably show up as emotional and mental disorders bordering on delusion. You must give your friend more credit. He is bright, articulate, and quite capable of taking care of himself and her if necessary and obviously he is in love with her. Being schizophrenic doesn't mean that she can't function well in society. It means that she must take medication the same as a diabetic needs insulin or an individual with poor sight needs to wear glasses. Her chart matches up well to his and there really isn't any apparent sorrow in this connection. The biggest problem that your friend appears to have is in the form of relatives and friends meddling in his affairs instead of supporting his decision to love someone that touches him deeply.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
I really would like some advice on how to get ahead in life and to really let myself shine. I seem to always be putting others objectives before my own but feel that I?m shooting myself in the foot and not letting myself reach my best (which I feel could be something great). My two main important queries are with my career and love. I've studied acting through university and just moved countries from Australia to the United Kingdom after graduating. Since then my career path has changed from acting to singing/songwriting and it has really lit a 'flame in my belly'. My main concern is how to get ahead by using my talents and what future trends may be hindering or helping me astrologically.? My second is love, which always seems to be somewhat of a minefield for me - e.g. I like people who don't like me or there is no chance with and keep going back convincing myself there is 'something' there - plus not being able to be myself with them, or friends I care about turn out to like me (and I don't in that way) and in some instances I've surrendered to them to not lose them. The other thing is my sexuality is quite open-minded which is quite confusing in itself.
At the moment I?m in a really positive place feeling like I?m on the verge of something brilliant - but I?m just not sure how I?m going to get there. Motivation hasn't always been my strongest attribute - I'm better at ambition and imagination. Any help Eugenia is greatly appreciated! I was born February 10, 1982, at 8:09 AM.
Aquarius
Hi Aquarius
You are in a high cycle where your career is concerned until the fall of this year so you have no time to waste. You must be approaching the record publishing companies and promoting and performing as much as you can between now and the fall ? and if that means putting in a lot of time and doing freebies so be it. I wouldn?t worry too much about relationships right now. It is apparent that come August you will be in a much better position to meet someone more to your liking. Part of your problem has been the fact that you were born with a Venus Saturn square in your chart in an area that deals with relationships and your status in society with regard to partnerships. This can make it awkward for you to feel at ease with someone during the early stages of your relationship making it difficult to make the kind of impression that will seal the deal. I believe that you are coming into your own in that regard and during the latter part of this year and most of next you will meet people who are more inclined to see you for whom you are and recognize your talents as well. During that period you should be able to reach out and get the help and favors required to get ahead as well as meet potential partners both in the industry as well as at a personal level. Hang in there my friend you are young and you have some wonderful transits coming your way that should help you solve the problems you?ve been facing in the past as well as help you make headway in an industry that is very competitive.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I have an on going struggle with what I should do about my relationship with the man in my life. He is a Leo 1937. I was born February 8, 1946 at 10:16 AM. Here is the problem. We can get along so beautifully and then I do, or say something to upset him. It appears my independence and detachment, upsets him. I try to reassure him that I love him, but I often feel he wants more of me than I can give. He wants to be first and most important in my life. Sharing me with friends is taboo to him. This makes me feel pulled between him and my other pursuits in my life. How can I get around all this? I truly love him, but there is a part of me that I can't control. I MUST have my independence. We have been in a serious relationship for a year. I hope you will answer this letter. I am desperate for some help soon. Thank you for this opportunity to let this out.
Connie
Dear Connie
You neglected to give me specifics regarding your Leo partner however you did include his year of birth so I can assume that his natal Neptune doesn't play too much havoc with your natal chart. Being polar opposites I can definitely see the attraction. With your strong Aquarius traits you would need a certain amount of freedom to come and go as you please in order to be happy. If he can't allow you this freedom you may have to move on. You are coming into a high cycle during the second half of this year and the first half of next year that will help you where love and romance is concerned. It should allow you to meet someone who may be more in tune to the lifestyle you require and who you can relate to better regarding such matters. If you do decide to stay with your Leo friend this period can also be a favorable time to tell how you feel and that he has to allow you to see your friends and to do the things that you enjoy or you will move on and leave him behind. Unfortunately he appears to be possessive and this is something that will always stand between you if he can't come to terms with it. It is also apparent in your chart that you do attract the type of man who does want to possess you and control you. Therefore you must be very careful who you choose and how you set the standard for your relationship.
Eugenia
