We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
Thank you for taking time to read my letter, despite your busy schedule. I really think it is wonderful that you are taking time out to help other people.
The reason I am writing this letter, is due to the fact that I am extremely frustrated with my love life (among other things), because I have not had any "real" relationships in my life, and I am on the verge of giving up hope. I did meet one man (born January 8, 1980- (don't know his birth time) who is friendly and kind. He is a really nice person, yet I can't tell if he is just being nice, or if he will return my affections if I tell him that I am interested in him. I used the Romance Compatibility feature and it says that we have a good comparison, yet nothing has happened for the past 6 months. Will he ever feel the same as me? Or should I move on? I did write to you once before, and unfortunately I didn't receive a response- hopefully this time you will be able to respond. I was born March 24, 1980 at 6:36pm.
Unlucky in Love
Dear Unlucky in Love
The comparison was okay however there was an element of emotional deception that could cause problems for you regarding family, friends and communicating with one another. This doesn't have to be a problem but if either one of you refrains from talking about the way you feel it isn't likely that the relationship will get off the ground. You are being too hard on yourself. You are young and have your whole life ahead of you to find love and settle down. As for now you should be focusing on education, career and following your dreams. I believe that at this stage of your life your Capricorn friend falls in an area that is conducive to being friends, socializing with one another and basically building a solid base for what could eventually turn into a long-term relationship. As for now, be open and honest but don't move too fast or you may just frighten the young man off.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I am in a long distance relationship with a man 5 hours from me (Oct. 24, 1979) and I am wondering how we can make it work or if it really could work since I don't have the time (nor money) to waste on unworthy causes.
I feel very strongly about him. We've met twice & the first time we were both out of sorts. Last time we had a great time! I've never had an online relationship but I do understand that a lot of work is involved. Commitment, sacrifices & compromising are the top 3 things I can think of. I'm afraid that I won't be able to provide my part of the bargain as well as he could. I'm afraid that after some time we'll be too tired to continue this relationship & feel that we have -really- wasted our time & money. I haven't been able to find someone as compatible with me as he in my own town. I've been single for over a year now. I'm afraid I might only be interested in him because he's interested in me too, just because I've been single for so long (I don't think that's very truthful though).
The only way that an online relationship can work is if both partners plan on being together down the line. We're not dating yet but we both want to move back to BC in the near future. I have so many fears. What about my education? My career? What if we're only compatible with distance between us, & then we rip each other to shreds once we're together-together? ARGH!!
Could you offer me a bit of astrological advice? I do know that all but 2 of his & my astro houses are located under the same sign. Any words of wisdom would be really appreciated!
Wrapped up
Dear Wrapped up
The comparison was okay. Keep in mind that in order to have a relationship work it takes work. People always think that if they fall in love that's all it takes but unfortunately a relationship probably takes more time, effort and work then anything else you do in life. I believe that he is someone who can help you achieve some of your dreams, hopes and wishes, however that doesn't mean that you will end up together forever. More so than having a long term or everlasting union a relationship should be based on how much you learn from one another, enjoy one another and compliment one another. You have time to kill right now as the next time you are in a really high cycle for love is next year. As for now you should be enjoying whatever time you do get to spend with one another. Just because you live a distance doesn't mean that you can't do things on the cheap. You'd probably spend just as much cash staying at home as you would staying at his place or vise versa. If you really enjoy one another's company you'll find ways to spend more time together while you discover each other's likes, dislikes, needs and desires. Don't be impatient love and relationships take time.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I grew up alone and lonely, but didn't mind, as it was all I knew. After 18 yrs of a (almost) happy marriage he left and again I have been alone for 18 yrs. I could have gotten married twice, but they both smothered me and wanted to just follow me around all the time. I raised one kid who is an attorney. Everyone thinks I am a happy, fun person, but really I am so tired of battling life alone. Will this ever change? I listen to co-workers who have families or husbands to cook for and I envy them so much. Also financially I just hang on and worry about a roof over my head and food on the table. I refuse to be a burden to my kid. Will this ever change?
Lonely
Dear Lonely
You will have the opportunities to change things and the timing will be right but it won't happen unless you take the initiative and do something about your situation. Even as I write to you, your chart indicates that favorable transits have begun in an area that deals with work and money. If you aren't being paid enough for your services consider picking up extra work on the side or starting your own small business on the side. The possibility of a raise or moving to a better position is also available to you. I believe that if you can put some cash aside that your son can probably help you invest it ins something that will make money for you over the course of the next year and a half. Regarding love that too is moving into a high cycle this fall and will remain with you for the next year. You must however get out and meet people. The possibility of meeting someone through work related events or an organization you join is likely. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo Sagittarius and Aquarius.
Eugenia
