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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Hi. Eugenia!
I still don't know why I'm writing a letter again. It's embarrassing to tell people that I haven't really had any romantic relationship with anyone. I have never said, "I love you" to anyone so far. I missed many opportunities in the past. However, I am interested in an American guy right now. He was born on Oct 25, 1965. He is running his business and I'm running mine. I'm afraid that I might not have a chance to tell him my true feelings. Maybe we both have sort of a fantasy about one another. I will be visiting him this July. I really want to fall in love with him. I'm too tired of being single. What will our future be?
Because of my personality, I have missed several chances to be with him. Well, I'm afraid that we might have to face a lot of problems because our cultural backgrounds are different. I'm afraid that I would be hurt in the end. What are your thoughts? I was born November 7, 1969, at 4:10 PM.
Perplexed
Dear Perplexed
I understand your dilemma but I do feel that your motives are questionable. The comparison is workable. I believe however that you are considering him because there is no one else in sight. Please back up a moment and think about what it is that you want in a partner. I can see that you have a physical attraction to one another and that he can offer you all sorts of opportunities. His Sun sign does fall in an area of your chart that deals with relationships and partnerships so it is possible. You are in a high romantic cycle this summer when you are visiting him but I want you to take it slowly and really give yourself as well as him a chance to get to know one another better. During this cycle you will also be open to other romantic connections. Don't rule out the possibility of meeting someone on your own turf with the same cultural background. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I am a Virgo born on Sept.16, 1970. I been married to a cancer born on July 9,1970. We've been married 3 1/2 years. We were dating for 8 years. Our marriage was going great. But then, I had an affair with a co-worker. I told my husband the truth. He said that he would forgive me and would not leave me. The co-worker is a Virgo like me born on September 14, 1955. He was very good to me. I was feeling lonely and he was also. My husband is military. So, sometimes he is gone. The problem is that my husband says he wants us to work things out, but in the process he gets upset for remembering my affair and starts insulting me a lot. He has never hit me, but once he did because he wanted to know who the guy was. I told him not to hit me and he didn't. He doesn't hurt me physically, but emotionally he does. So, now I am confused. The other guy is married, but his wife filed for divorce. He wants me to also get a divorce and go with him. I just don't know what to do. I am confused! What do you think I should do?
Confused
Dear Confused
I'm not surprised that you are confused. My dear girl, what were you thinking. You have such a good comparison with your husband except for the fact that deception and sorrow due to secret affairs could very well ruin this connection. Your husband is a proud man and it will be difficult for him to forgive you completely. The fact that he has his natal Mercury in the sign Cancer indicates that he will never be able to forget what you have done to him and to your marriage. As for your lover, well you didn't really match up very well. Emotional deception and disillusionment are evident. You have to make some quick decisions in order to get your life back on course. If you think you can salvage your marriage by all means do so, get counseling or whatever it takes. If you decide that it's too late and you must move on do so but not by moving from one hot bed to another. You need to give yourself time to discover who you are and what you really want. I do not believe that you really want your secret lover. I feel that you were attracted to him due to a void you were feeling. Your husband might not have been spending enough time with you or perhaps neither one of you worked hard enough to make your marriage work. A good marriage doesn't just happen. It takes plenty of patience, understanding and hard work on the part of both parties. Divorce does look like the direction you are heading. Whether you stay or leave you will be experiencing emotional difficulties due to the poor choices that you have made in the past.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
I know I'm a Leo born August 22, 1942, at 12:42 PM and for the most part I have all of the traits, however, I seem to lack self-confidence in-group and social situations. I seem to be fine in a one on one...is this an astrological issue that is happening with my sign at this time?
Secondly, it seems that I am having more difficulty in focusing on where I want to go in my life... I have been recently working as a consultant in the accounting profession. My contract ended in February 2003. I felt burned out, and decided to take some time off. I am now having these anxiety attacks as to what my future holds.
Do I sell my current Condo home and move to a retirement park setting (Mfg. Home) this is all for financial reasons.. Do I continue to work on a consulting basis (assuming I can find a job)? What does my future hold as far as real estate, job, and investments, health... I know I'm all over the map, but thanks for your help.
Aussie
Hi Aussie
Yes you are a Leo in Character, looks, and love etc. but you think and act like a Virgo especially when dealing with groups etc and especially over the course of the past couple of years while transiting Saturn was adversely positioned to your natal Virgo planets. To top it off your natal Saturn is also adversely positioned to your natal Virgo planets as well making this even more significant as of late. The good news is that Saturn is moving off mid to late June and it will give you some relief in this area of your life. You just went through your second Saturn return about a year to a year and a half ago and this is why you are feeling the urgency for change in your life. You have been re-evaluating what you've done and you are looking to the future regarding what to do now. Changes in your home environment are present over the course of the next year and a half so you don't have to move immediately if you don't want to. As a matter of fact I believe that you will probably continue to take on contracts until the end of this year or even possibly the spring of next when you will feel that you are in a better financial position. During the second half of next year you will have a better chance to do well with real estate. Where health is concerned you may have some problems regarding your stomach, skin, bones and teeth or arthritis over the course of the next year especially if you are under stress. As long as you keep on top of any of these minor or chronic ailments everything should be just fine.
Eugenia
