We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
This is my third attempt to connect with you. I think this is a wonderful feature that you offer, and your generosity is so very much appreciated!! I have been having some intense problems with my lover of almost 2 years. We are both passionate people, and fell in love with each other over night. We've been together ever since we met (Sept. 9th, 1999). Neither of us has ever experienced love like this before. BUT, I have never experienced such emotionally "brutal" fights in my life. This man that I love can also be cruel, merciless, and manipulative. I need to know what his chart says about this streak in him (I know it has to do with Scorpio) because I am now trying to be very realistic about what I am getting myself into over long term. You have said before that Scorpio men hate any sign of weakness....well, that is a tall order, seeing that every woman or man has their weaknesses. Piscean's tend to show their weaknesses even more so...or at least they appear weak to many people.
I am one of these Piscean's. I have had a very hard life, and in my 27 years have come a very long way from how I was raised. People often see me as angelic, youthful, darling, blessed, and sheltered. It is so ironic, because my background was one of deep sadness, nightmares, and abuse!! Many things happened, but one that I can say just a few words about and gain some understanding is that my mother went into a mental institution when I was six, came out shortly after, and raised me, herself an unmedicated paranoid schizophrenic until I was 11. I lived in a very different world until other adults got involved and took me out of that situation. Obviously this has a tremendous affect on my ability to relate to my peers. My father begrudgingly took me in to live with he and his new wife. They threw me into school (I had not been to elementary school in two years) and punished me for not doing well. My Dad and stepmother treated me like a leper (my stepmother was a very jealous young woman) for years. They made a great income, but did not buy me clothes unless they were from the goodwill or Salvation Army. I always felt like I should ask them to forgive me for imposing on their life. Truly.
Well, I never got past the ninth grade. I worked, starting at 14, in restaurants. I had great dreams of traveling the world, escaping my sadness, becoming something extraordinary. The idealistic dreams of youth always seem to elude us all. I just kept struggling, trying to go back to school and dropping out. It was awful, and by this time, my beloved mother was a homeless woman. Anyway (I am writing much more than I intended) I am now working in a high tech job. My personality is what got me in the door, plus some white lies on my resume. Looking at my current life, my job included, no one who would meet me now would ever even imagine where I came from. I think this is pretty good. I am sad that I have not gone to see the world yet. I would like to write books. I love to write, but self-discipline is very hard for me.
Ok, so my current love belittles me and says that I am weak (I do cry a lot) and that he does not want a weak woman. Other times he tells me I am the best thing that has ever happened to him. He is going to Europe (leaving tomorrow) for 3 months without me. I am incredibly hurt by this. Please tell me what our charts say about our ability to work through things. He is: December 22, 1967, 4:56 AM. I am: March 5th, 1974, 7:16 AM.
Pisces
Dear Pisces
You are actually only a Pisces by Sun sign having your natal Mercury, Venus and Jupiter in Aquarius, your natal Mars and Saturn in Gemini and your natal Uranus and Pluto in Libra. This gives you a strong air influence in your chart. To top it off the other remaining influences are definitely fire with your natal Moon in Leo and your natal Neptune in Sagittarius with Aries r
Dear Eugenia,
I must say that after reading through many people's questions and all your responses, you are one busy woman. Thanks for taking all that time to help people who need answers. I am a Leo, born August 16, 1978 at 5:55 a.m. Two years ago I enrolled in a college program that I knew was meant for me. My hard work and dedication paid off this summer because I was able to get a job in the industry I want to pursue. I know that I still have one year left to complete the program, but this job means a lot to me. Two partners own the business and I am the only employee. The problem is because one of the partners arrived at the company a couple of months ago and it was evident from the start that we did not get along. I'm sorry I don't know when her birthday is, but I can tell you that she is impatient, demeaning and at times can act hurtful. I know that the experience I'm getting here will help me when I graduate, but some days it's really hard to go to work and spend an entire day dealing with her attitude and her mood swings. I feel like I'm walking on eggshells and don't really want to confront her because I couldn't imagine her reaction. Can you give me any advice? What's more important: getting the experience or my self-esteem for a few more months? Thank you for looking my letter over.
The Lion
Dear Lion
You?ve got a promising chart and someday you will probably run your own business. For now, bite the bullet and put up with your boss?s bad attitude. Be thankful that you only have to work there for a short while and look at it as the experience you need to get you where you want to go. A clean slate and a good reference will be worth its weight in gold. I think that most people when starting in the work force meet one or two individuals who are impossible to work for. You have to feel sorry for these individuals who are so moody and hard to please. It?s obvious that they don?t lead very happy lives. As for you, your chart indicates that you may be over-reacting just a little and that you can be too sensitive with those you work with and for. You are born to lead and therefore it makes it difficult for you to take orders. Work hard now and you will be the boss later. You have what it takes to do well and you can make an excellent employer in the future. It?s too bad that you didn?t have her birth date, I may have been able to give you a couple of hints as to how you could handle her better and what she might be going through to cause such horrible mood swings.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I know I've met my soul mate, but we keep having conflicts that end with me not wanting to deal with him. He's a Taurus born May 4, 1971 and I'm a Cancer born June 25, 1962. Nine months ago he came back into my life after a 5-year separation, and I believed he wanted a second chance and that he truly loved me. His actions say otherwise when it comes to my feelings. I've gone out of my way, once again, to make sure he is happy, comfortable, and to give all the support he needs. He's done nothing for me and he makes me feel that he has taken advantage of me again and only cares about himself.
I've just recently asked him to leave, because he had hurt my feelings again and that was the last straw for me. I miss him desperately, but I don't know if it's my self-destructive behavior that won't completely let go! I don't want to go through this back and forth emotional roller coaster with him forever. Am I lying to myself? My Cancer logic is slipping away...
Destined
Dear Destined
The comparison does lack some qualities that I would like to see and deception and disillusionment are present in areas of your chart that deal with the home and chores that you share with one another. The unfortunate thing is that once you do too much for someone it is hard to back off and stop doing without causing problems in the relationship. This person is taking advantage of you but you have allowed it to happen. Your chart indicates that you do have problems when it comes to relationships. Your natal Saturn opposite your natal Venus both adversely aspected by your natal Neptune can make it difficult for you to choose properly. It is important for you to have an astrological comparison done before you give your heart to someone. You are in a high cycle for romance right now and will also be during the first half of next year. It is important for you to move on and free yourself of this man who has little to offer you but grief. Keep in mind that as long as he is in your life it will be difficult to take advantage of the opportunities you have for meeting someone new. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Libra, Sagittarius and Aquarius.
Eugenia
