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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Hello Eugenia,
This my second time attempting to write to you and to hopefully get some kind of feedback. I am a 21-year old female born 4-21-80 at 2:26 am, anyways, my question is relating to my status in the department in love; I have dated a lot of duds that never seem to live up to my expectations in love. I always settle for second best, I always stay with them when I know they are not being true to me, I always do all the phone calls to them and the "I love you's", and always in the end I get burned. I know it sounds like I'm complaining BIG time butI'm tired of falling in love with the wrong men. I get so jealous when I see happy couples around my age in love that I get bitter, depressed and angry.
But oddly, I'm in a relationship right now, a long distance one at that, but I'm not happy, but I'm holding on to it because I need to fill that empty space in my heart. So I guess what I'm asking is what path to take with this problem I have in love.
Confused (and Bitter) in Love
Dear Confused (and Bitter) in Love
You aren't alone. Many people pick the wrong person, stay in a relationship that isn't working for too long and so on. It usually has to do with a lack of confidence, self-esteem, fear of being alone etc. I must reiterate however that if you are involved with someone who isn't good for you it is hard to meet someone who could be. Your chart indicates that you are in a high cycle regarding love and will continue to be for the better part of the next year. You do need to get out and socialize and I suggest that when you do meet someone you have an astrological comparison done just to know what the pro's and cons of the relationship will be and how well you match up. You do well with those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Sagittarius and Aquarius. Part of the problem that you have regarding picking the right partner is due to your natal Venus being opposite your natal Neptune. This can cause sorrow, deception and disillusionment if you aren't careful. Please consult my compatibility feature at www.astroadvice.com before you give your heart to another loser.
Dear Eugenia:
I sincerely hope that you can find some order in my swirling mass of chaotic emotions. I am a Taurus woman (born May 6, 1971 at 1:36 p.m.) that was deeply hurt last year by a Cancer (July 10, 1968) whom I thought I was going to marry, and then by a Capricorn (January 14, 1971) who lied to me, yet still shows up in my life now and then and tells me how much he misses me (and he has a girlfriend now too - a Pisces). I don't mean to sound bitter, but I feel that my relationships are always doomed to failure, and every time I get knocked down (figuratively speaking, of course), it gets a little harder to stand back up again. I'm starting to feel a little better about myself, but I am still wounded by the fact that Mr. Cancer didn't want to marry me because of my medical condition (I'm diabetic), and it was his parents that forced him to break up with me. I want to feel good about myself again, and I don't want to be lonely anymore: I feel that I am ready to start a relationship - one that would hopefully lead to a future marriage. My question is this: should I actively pursue relationships at this time, or do I need a little more time to concentrate on myself and my well-being? If you could give me some insight into the next six months (if possible), you could help ease my troubled mind a little so I can focus on a positive direction in my life.
Thank you ever so much
Eternally grateful
Dear Eternally grateful
You are best to get the Cancer out of your mind. If he wasn't strong enough to stand up for you when his family discouraged him you have to know that he wasn't right for you. The Capricorn was really someone who was meant to be a social acquaintance. As for the signs best suited to you consider a Taurus, Virgo, Scorpio or Pisces. You are in a high cycle for meeting someone new right now however that transit will only be with you until late May. After that I suggest that you focus on yourself, your career and your home. You will be in another high cycle from mid July on for the next couple of years.
Dear Eugenia,
I am writing because I really need some help. I was born August 8, 1971, at 12:31 PM. Until about 5 years ago, I was just a normal person, until I started having an anxiety disorder. I have no idea why this began...at that time I was 32 years old. It has crippled my life....I can't travel more than 5 miles from my home without having a panic attack.....I never had thisbefore...in fact I traveled from Texas to Florida alone....some friends have said it is possibly related to hormones...at least this was the reason for the first attack...and now, I think, I just fear having the attacks...which cause the attacks....also at this same time five years ago, I started having dizzy spells.....but they didn't last too long and I no longer have them....I have managed to return to school and finish a teaching certificate....but it won't do much good if I can't attend the workshops which are about 30 miles from my home.....I am very distressed....on top of it all, my lover moved out and now I am financially in a bind....also....she wants to get back together....but I am unsure.....in the time while she was deciding to want to be together...I met someone else....I truly care for my new g/friend and I think we could have a good life together....but I feel guilty and like maybe I am not doing all I could have done in my previous relationship to make it work....I feel very indecisive....and have decided to take some time and not see either lady in hopes that I will have some insight as to which "path" would be my "highest path." I'm really having a hard time.....and insight that you have would be appreciated....
Thank you so much,
Out of Commission
Dear Out of Commission
Your chart indicates that you have been experiencing transits that could cause anxiety since 1996. The problem being that your chart also indicates that you are difficult to diagnose as well. These to factors coupled leave you in a vulnerable position. I do believe however that your chart although experiencing some of the absolute worst transits this year, will show signs of improvement throughout the summer months with even more significant results next year. You will have to do a little research on your own regarding your anxiety. I suggest that you begin by looking for alternative methods of medicine to rectify your problem. It appears to stem from deep-set emotional setbacks that you encountered between 1991 and 1993. Think back to the events that happened in your life at that time and you should be able to start the long process of getting back to living a normal life. Regarding your love life, it?s probably not a bad idea to take time out however, I believe that you will find yourself making a decision quicker than you expect and jumping into a relationship again late June early July. Concerning who your partner might be. You did not submit either candidates birth data so I suggest that you run a comparison with both using the astroadvice.com compatibility feature.
Eugenia
