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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Hi, Eugenia!
I have been using this wonderful site even before its Japanese version opened! I would like to ask your opinion on two men who are currently in my life. My birthday is 7/8/1973, and I was born around 7. I have been with this Gemini guy (6/15/1975) for five years. We maintained a steady, comfortable, and very fun relationship since meeting each other in college. But about a year ago, I found out that he cheated on me. He deeply regrets hurting me and promises me that he would never cheat on me again. I still care about him and hope that we could be a happy couple again. We have been trying to work things out but I still feel insecure. I fear that he will hurt me again in the future. Then, there is another guy, a Leo whose birthday is 8/5/75. We work together in a design office. Not only he is an attractive young man, but also he has been a great inspiration for me in my design work. We are pursuing the same career, so we share the same interests naturally. He is breaking up with his current girlfriend (don't know her birthday) and I am still involved with a Gemini guy, so we don't have anything going on at this moment. We often go out for lunch and talk about each other's love problems, art, philosophy, religion, music, and much more. I truly enjoy his company and I believe that he is feeling the same way, too. What I would like to find out from you is do I have any chance with this Leo? Or, should I keep trying with my Gemini man? I am seeking a partner who can truly love me, commit the future, and gives me an opportunity to grow as a person. Your help will be very much appreciated! Thank you for reading.
Twisted Love
Dear Twisted Love
You do match up well to both men in question however your current Gemini boyfriend's comparison to you does indicate emotional deception. In the case of your Leo friend some sorrow is evident. I believe that you are sitting between a rock and a hard place. For the time being I feel that you have to give your Gemini partner more time to build a strong friendship with your Leo. After all lovers come and go but friends are with you forever. The only other alternative that you have is to back away from both and take some time for yourself. However, if you do so you may lose out on both counts. Your chart indicates that you are in a high cycle where work and meeting important and influential people are concerned, building friendships and pleasure travel. It is obvious with transiting Neptune sitting opposite to your natal Venus for the past couple of months that you will be confused regarding love and although you will get some relief from July until mid January it will come back to haunt you at that time on and off until the early part of 2004. Now that doesn't mean that you can't have a good relationship it just means that you will go through periods of confusion as well as temptations regarding secret affairs or the person you are with cheating on you. It can be a highly creative period and a great time to expand where your professional goals are concerned.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
I am in my early forties, 2 children, married for 19years. For some reason I am in a very reflective state. I reflect on my past and become very depressed, I never had any career success, although I worked very hard, never made much money, however I continued my education, but I never got a "break" I was always past over, finally in my early thirties I became ill with MS and had to go on long term disability. So that was the final blow. I have come to terms with my situation and have gotten involved with the local MS Society as a Board member. I still yearn for some little professional success. Why can't I let go of the past and just relax and enjoy my children, and happy marriage? Will these feelings lift? I was born October 12, 1959, at 10:42 am.
Little lost Libra
Hi Little lost Libra
What you are doing right now with the MS Society is important and I feel certain that someone you recently met through this organization will help you find your way where your profession is concerned. It is never too late and you are never incapable of achieving as long as you have the desire. You have just experienced your second half-life Saturn and this is why you have been so reflective. It is a period in your life that makes you reevaluate what you've done up to this point in your life and in turn it should help you realize whatever changes are necessary in order to make your life better. Your chart indicates that you have the spunk and desire to achieve and I believe that there is something very significant that you need to do. It will be something that will make a difference to other people. It can have to do with communications, creativity or your desire to help those who are experiencing similar disabilities. It's your spark, enthusiasm and need to achieve that will inspire others. Perhaps writing a book about your inner thoughts dealing with MS. I believe that if you work really hard towards a personal goal that you set for yourself that you will receive the recognition you are searching for beginning late next year and throughout 2005. You have what it takes to move mountains my dear and I do not believe that you have or ever will let your disability stop you from trying to move forward. This is about you right now - it's your turn to put yourself first, choose what it is that will bring you the satisfaction you are looking for and make it so.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia!
This is kind of a long story, and question, but I'm really truly at a loss for what to do. I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 2 yrs (a Cancer man 22/6-68), and feel good about it! The relationship turned into a friendship, and we decided to call it quits. I'm now single and loving it, most of the time anyway, but there is a guy (Scorpio, 29/10-67).. I met him when I was still together with my ex, but I couldn't really do anything with him at the time. I ended up staying a night at his house, and loved every second I was with him. But I was in a relationship, and hadn't seen the light yet, so we lost touch. I never really stopped thinking about him, and he was always playing in the back of my mind. But suddenly after 4 months he calls me, and we end up having the best phone conversation ever. It's like we never lost touch, and I realize as we're talking that "shit I really really like him." But as it seems I'm prone to bad luck in love, I tried hitting the breaks with my self emotionally. I know he likes me too, we have a chemistry that blows me away, we talk on the phone for hours, about everything between heaven and earth. And the sexual chemistry I experienced with him in September (we didn't have sex, but we did get very intimate) knocked me to my feet!!! But, his life is very very complicated now, his father just died, and their relationship was strained, and there seems to be a long lost sister trying to get her share of the estate left after his dad. And he is so focused on doing the right thing all the bloody time, always, that I know there's no room for any emotional/relationship thing at this point. I am not a very patient person, but I find myself, for the first time, willing to wait for his life to settle back. I've offered him my friendship and he seems to want it, and appreciate it! But, what is this thing with us? What does this "thing" have in store for me? Is friendship all he wants forever? I'm falling slowly, and it's basically for his personality (haven't seen him in person for 4 months..) and he just intrigues me, he makes me wanna get a grip of my life.. I really do hope you can help me understand this guy and what he thinks. I've never felt this unsure about myself or the future of my feelings for this Scorpio man. Thanx,
Anett.
Dear Anett
There are a lot of oppositions in your comparison with your Scorpio friend and although this can make the pull between the two of you very dynamic it isn't always the best when it comes right down to everyday life. The major sign of sorrow does show up in your comparison and this worries me. I do believe that he is very attracted to you but I also feel that he is extremely practical having his natal Moon, Venus, Jupiter, Uranus and Pluto in the sign Virgo and is probably questioning the age difference between you. People with a lot of Virgo in their charts do tend to marry later in life. They want to be one hundred percent certain that they have chosen wisely and he probably fears that at some point you will move on. You on the other hand are a very strong Taurus and they are usually true blue beginning to end but you also have three planets in Libra and one in Sagittarius and this can cause problems when your partner's looks depreciate. Offer your friendship but unless you truly believe you can go the distance and do life with this very serious and loyal man I suggest you let him go. As I mentioned the comparison has a real push/pull to it and I'm afraid that you will probably hurt him in the end. I know that your ex was also quite a bit older and your comparison to him was comparable to that with your Scorpio friend. This really isn't an age thing on your side right now but it certainly could be in the future. Some people do well with those much older when they are young and those much younger when they are old. Think about it.
Eugenia
