We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I am not sure if you will answer this question, but I will try anyway. I was born February 24, 1963, at 12:07 PM. I hope this will help you come to a conclusion. I recently lost my loving husband of 35 years of age to liver cancer, we were only married one year and 3 months before his death. At this time, I don't know which way my life is heading; I am lost, and very lonely. I miss him with all my heart; he truly was my soul mate. I was married before for 17 years to a Scorpion, this man is now back in my life. He says that he has changed, some things yes, he has others, no he hasn't. My question is, should I try and make this past relationship with my ex husband work, or move on? We have three wonderful children together, and he has helped me through some of the emotional problems I have had to deal with since my husband's death. I am confused about him, and don't feel the attraction as I once did. Will I ever find that loving man again in this lifetime, that I had with my great loss. My late husband, taught me many things about how a women should be treated, do I need to settle for less? I don't want to be alone the rest of my life. I also am worried about my late husbands father. This man lost his only son, and I care about him deeply, will he be ok? He says that I am the only thing he has left in this life, who was a part of his son's life. So, I do feel worried and concerned. As for my late husbands mother, she blames his father and me, for his death. Never did she come to see him in the hospital to the very last few days of his life. I was by his bedside 24-7, I was his nurse and his loving wife, until he took his last breath. So, why is she blaming me? This causes me great heartache also. No one can cause someone to get cancer. I don't understand why I had to loose the only man that I loved so deeply. Your time is greatly appreciated.
Thank you,
Lost Love
Dear Lost Love
You are going through a very confusing period in your life and you need some time and space to sort out your feelings. You don't have to settle for anything or anyone until you are good and ready. I believe that if you ask your ex-husband to be your friend, not your lover that you will feel much better about the connection. As for a new love, you will be in a much better frame of mind and you will also be in a high cycle regarding love and romance next year. You actually match up well to those born under the signs Cancer, Virgo and Capricorn. As for right now you should put your time and effort into travel, learning and your beliefs and opinions regarding your philosophy of life, love and future intentions. You are sensitive and you need to nurture yourself for the time being.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I am a 49-year-old woman who has sworn off men for the past six years; mostly to avoid a weakness I had four bad relationships with big blue-eyed country boys. Four months ago one walked into my house for a volunteer project and I'm losing it because this one also happens to be SMART. Problem is, he's a whole bunch younger and apparently pretty naive about women and sex in general. The compatibility thermometer gave us a 99%, and I'm pretty sure he's attracted to me--he's here all the time and we can talk away the night. But now I want to move it up to the next level, and I don't know how or when, or whether it's a good idea to ruin an almost perfect friendship.I'm born 3/3/52, 2:45 am, and he's born 5/31/65, 2:30 a.m. any advice on timing, or whether this is a good idea?
Perplexed
Dear Perplexed
You do have an amazing comparison with your Gemini friend. I would however take it nice and slow and let him make the moves. I don't have a problem with the age difference however at some point it may cause a problem with friends, family as well as with one another. I am basing this on your charts, not on your chronological age difference. It will depend on his maturity however I do believe that he has a strong sense of who he is and what he wants out of life. The only other question that might arise will be regarding children. That could be with children that either one of you already have or the fact that he may want a child and you may not be able to reciprocate. As for now however I believe that you should let things unfold naturally and try not to get too caught up in long term for now.
Eugenia
Hello Eugenia.
You have helped me in the past and I really appreciate what you do. This time I'm asking for and about my daughter. She was born 10/18/85 @3:44AM, and I love her with all my heart and soul, but something happened when she met up with this boy almost a year ago his month is April and year 1989, I'm not sure of the date the 13th sounds about right. He is a very very very smooth talker and has led my daughter down paths that I believe she never would have thought of. She started lying and sneaking around and quitting jobs or refusing them and lied to me about them.
So, due to this boy and his family she does not live at home with me anymore, left her fathers house and eventually ended up in a shelter. I've asked her and have even told her to come home with the condition that she work and the response I get is nothing. (My date of birth 7/14/63 7:30 PM.) She is now living with the boy's aunt that has a very big nose and mouth to match and has taken it upon herself to let me know what she thinks about me. (God only knows what my daughter has told this woman. My daughter has problems with her menstrual cycle and I have been very worried, as she had informed me that she "believes" the last one was in December. We have had a really major falling out and the aunt has informed me that my daughter is going to disown me... Eugenia, I don't know if my daughter is OK or if she's pregnant. She has told my younger daughter and stepdaughter that if she is pregnant the aunt is going to kick her out.
My heart is broken and is still breaking, she is very special in many ways and by rights should not have even been born, but she beat those odds. Please tell me what you see, for my eyes are very clouded with tears and fears.
God Speed Eugenia
Worried Mom
Hi Worried Mom
Without your daughters boyfriends exact birth information it is difficult for me to tell you much about him and the relationship they have with one another. I can tell you that he falls in an area of her chart that deals with dead ends so it isn't likely to go the distance if that is what you are worrying about. However, I believe the real problem is that your daughter is going through astrological transits that are causing a great deal of deception, disillusionment and sorrow when it comes to dealing with friends and relatives. She is extremely confused and has been for some time. This is probably why she isn't in school continuing her education like she should be. There is a good chance that she is pregnant as such transits have been with her since the fall of last year and will continue to be until mid to late summer of this year. There is a great deal of uncertainty in her home both your home and the home she is currently residing in. This does not stabilize for a number of years and your only hope at this point will be to let her go with the intent that you will be there for her when the bottom falls out of her world. She can be explosive at times and this only leads me to believe that you aren't going to be able to talk any sense into her and if you try she will only become more distant. It is apparent that she has probably over-indulged the past several years and gotten into things that you wouldn't approve of. She was born with the major sign of sorrow and the highest form of creativity and although this can be bad and good at the same time depending on what she does with it she is the only one who can choose to take the route that will lead her in a positive direction. Unfortunately you cannot do that for her.
The comparison between you and your daughter is typical but it does show some sorrow based around her relationships with other people and how you react to them. The saying keep your friends close but keep your enemies closer is something you should consider. Had you brought this young man closer instead of trying to get your daughter
