We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Losing The Faith

Dear Eugenia

This is my 2nd attempt to earn your analysis/insight. Close to 1 year ago, the relationship I had with my fiance began to crumble. Although we had known each other quite well since grade school, we did not become a serious couple until 5/97. My birth info: 3/27/76 at 1:05pm. His birth info: 3/20/76 at about 4:20pm- our breakup began 7/14/00 and he ended our relationship in a letter I got 8/14/00. We were to wed 11/18/00. We don't talk anymore. I am missing many answers as to why our solid relationship failed. It's like he just gave up. I do know he became involved w/ another girl 6/00. I discovered this after our relationship ended. I don't know her birth info, but have learned that their relationship recently ended.

I made a lot of changes after my engagement ended...new location/new job. I'm happy with my new job; esp. since I'm now earning much more money, however money is still tight, as I am trying to pay off my debts (credit cards).

My questions for you involve the outlook of my future. What do you see? My social circle in my new location is lacking. I haven't come close to dating since my engagement ended. This is partially due to me needing to 'heal' and partially due to not finding anyone who would go out with me. I'm thankful for my great job..but what about friends....romance? What do you see? Will my ex-fianc? and I cross paths again, or is there really someone else out there who's my soul mate? Will I succeed financially? I had so many goals that I wanted to have accomplished by now--be married...be debt-free (or close to debt-free) and I haven't accomplished them. Gosh, are things ever going to get better so I can be happy about all aspects of my life? I'm losing the faith. Please help.

~Searching...
Alone

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Dear Alone

The comparison between you and your ex wasn't that great therefore you should view your situation as a blessing in disguise. I wouldn't however be surprised if you did cross paths again during the course of the next year because both your chart and his indicate people from your past coming back into your lives. This can also mean new romantic ties so please look forward not back. If you get out and involved in worthwhile community groups you will meet some interesting people. Yes you will have to spend a little in order to have some fun or join groups that interest you but it will be worth investing in yourself, your future and meeting potential partners so get on with it. Investments will also be in a high cycle this year if you are conservative. If you rent you might consider trying to purchase a small home or condo in order to build some future security as well as to stop throwing money out the window on rent. You match up well to those born under the signs Leo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Aquarius.

Eugenia

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Article: A Marriage Push

Dear Eugenia

I will be marrying a German guy this September. His birthday is August 28, 1970, at 6:20 pm. My date of birth is May 5, 1975, at 3:00 PM. Our wedding is scheduled for Sept 23, Sunday. We've been going out for 1 yr and 2 months and overcome our language barriers. We finally decided to get married. However, what I'd like to know is...should I marry him?

When I first met him, I was attracted to him. He spoke to me first in poor English and that's how he took my heart away. He's tall and good-looking. He's always nice to women so I'm always worried. Also, he doesn't tell me what he thinks. We have been living together for about one year. Since both of us are working, when we get home, he just stays in his computer room. About sex, I always have to ask him because he doesn't take initiative. We have sex about 4 to 5 times a month. Sometimes, I want to have it but it seems that he doesn't care. I feel like I'm asking too much. And I'm worried...

However, I saw him browsing through porn sites several times. Plus, when we need to make a decision, he always lets me do everything. It doesn't matter whether he likes it or not. In the beginning, I thought that he was nice so he let me do whatever I want. But now, I'm sick of this... When he said that he had to go to workshops for his company, I'm always worried too. He always says that I'm pretty but he doesn't take initiative for sex, I 'm afraid that some other beautiful women might ask him out. Sometimes, I can't sleep because of this but it seems he doesn't realize my situation. Our wedding day is coming soon but I'm still worried. I don't want to lose him, but I'm afraid that I may give up because I'm too tired. If possible, please give me some advice.

At Odds

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Dear At Odds

I don't know why either one of you is pushing to get married. It is apparent that you have issues to resolve before you decide to step into matrimony. The comparison does indicate a lack of sexual attraction. His chart denotes sexual confusion at an emotional level with his natal Moon square his natal Jupiter in his eighth house. With his natal Venus in his eighth house as well sextile to his natal Mars I would imagine that he definitely has sexual desires. The question is how they manifest themselves with his natal Saturn and his natal Neptune squaring his natal Mars. He needs to determine what turns him on and whether or not you can provide him with what he desires and vise versa. I suggest that you get into sexual counseling as a couple before you take the next step. Communication is required in order to sort through your problems. It doesn't mean that your relationship can't work but like any other relationship nothing is perfect and it's best to sort out what you can before you decide to make a life long commitment to one another.

Eugenia

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Article: Emotional Deception

Hi, Eugenia!

I have been using this wonderful site even before its Japanese version opened! I would like to ask your opinion on two men who are currently in my life. My birthday is 7/8/1973, and I was born around 7. I have been with this Gemini guy (6/15/1975) for five years. We maintained a steady, comfortable, and very fun relationship since meeting each other in college. But about a year ago, I found out that he cheated on me. He deeply regrets hurting me and promises me that he would never cheat on me again. I still care about him and hope that we could be a happy couple again. We have been trying to work things out but I still feel insecure. I fear that he will hurt me again in the future. Then, there is another guy, a Leo whose birthday is 8/5/75. We work together in a design office. Not only he is an attractive young man, but also he has been a great inspiration for me in my design work. We are pursuing the same career, so we share the same interests naturally. He is breaking up with his current girlfriend (don't know her birthday) and I am still involved with a Gemini guy, so we don't have anything going on at this moment. We often go out for lunch and talk about each other's love problems, art, philosophy, religion, music, and much more. I truly enjoy his company and I believe that he is feeling the same way, too. What I would like to find out from you is do I have any chance with this Leo? Or, should I keep trying with my Gemini man? I am seeking a partner who can truly love me, commit the future, and gives me an opportunity to grow as a person. Your help will be very much appreciated! Thank you for reading.

Twisted Love

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Dear Twisted Love

You do match up well to both men in question however your current Gemini boyfriend's comparison to you does indicate emotional deception. In the case of your Leo friend some sorrow is evident. I believe that you are sitting between a rock and a hard place. For the time being I feel that you have to give your Gemini partner more time to build a strong friendship with your Leo. After all lovers come and go but friends are with you forever. The only other alternative that you have is to back away from both and take some time for yourself. However, if you do so you may lose out on both counts. Your chart indicates that you are in a high cycle where work and meeting important and influential people are concerned, building friendships and pleasure travel. It is obvious with transiting Neptune sitting opposite to your natal Venus for the past couple of months that you will be confused regarding love and although you will get some relief from July until mid January it will come back to haunt you at that time on and off until the early part of 2004. Now that doesn't mean that you can't have a good relationship it just means that you will go through periods of confusion as well as temptations regarding secret affairs or the person you are with cheating on you. It can be a highly creative period and a great time to expand where your professional goals are concerned.

Eugenia

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