We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Beware of Scorpio

Dear Eugenia,

I am at a standstill in my life. For 2 1/2 years I dated a man born 10/3/60 10:30AM. He and I grew up in the same community and town. We had not seen each other in 15 years and were "fixed up" by mutual friends. The relationship had gone through many ups and downs, at times splitting for weeks and months at a time. I recently completed my M Ed. and needed to stay focused on my goals. He has been a toll collector for 18 years and has a 16-year-old son from a previous relationship that left him raising a son alone and with really crappy hours, the kid is both spoiled and neglected. I have tried nearly everything possible to stay with him, but once I was able to commit to the relationship, his inability to make decisions and be more conscientious of money and time began to widdle away at our relationship. I loved and still love him. In the last year we have lost a child, he has cheated on me twice, and basically lost sight of what was once a strong and vibrant respect for one another. I caught him both times and his wealthy family thinks that he is weak, and that I am too good for him and a tad bit too controlling. We dreamed of many things together. I helped him find and fix up his dream home. Prior to his cheating we were planning a family and life together. I know that I have difficulty letting go in a relationship and wonder if I will ever find someone with whom to spend my life. I thought he was my soul mate. I thought the balance of his laid back approach to life and my ability to solve problems and make things happen would culminate into marriage. We are both seeing other people 3 months after the split and recently were drawn together by finances and we ended up making love. I am confused and tormented by what could have but can never be. We often said that if he didn't have his son we would already have been married. He is the kind of man that can't be left alone, and I refused to live with him until he got a grip of his son's law breaking/disrespectful behavior (I have a 9 year old) before living together and being a family. We have had quite a dramatic relationship. The disrespect was making me miserable. Do you think he could my soul mate? Am I foolish to believe he could ever evolve into a stronger man and be happy with a good woman like me? I can't believe I still want him after everything we have been through. My head says run, but my heart says "maybe someday" My DOB is 9/11/61 at 11:59 PM. Will I ever find a soul mate, and does he exist? I am dating, but unable to find anyone who makes me feel hope.

An empty - Gypsyheart

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Dear Gypsyheart

I think you should focus your time and energy on your son, your own home, travel, self-improvement and socializing. You have latched on to a man who has no backbone and although he probably is an attractive package due to his family prominence you are best not to waste any more time on the prospect of spending the rest of your life with him. Your comparison indicates that this man will bring you sorrow. The past three years this mans chart has experienced all sorts of uncertainties and weaknesses that have resulted in his sons need to do whatever it takes to get some attention. This man is not likely to get his act together in the near future therefore you should get on with your life and forget about what might have been. Your comparison with him was not that great and I know that you can do much better. You do not need a weak man but instead one strong enough to balance your need to control. Although the sign Scorpio is definitely a sign that draws you, this particular Scorpio is not the one. You also match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Taurus and Gemini. You should always run a comparison through our compatibility service before you let someone new capture your heart. Your chart indicates that if you get out and do things that you enjoy over the course of th

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Article: Moving Forward

Dear Eugenia

On 19th April 2000 my husband committed suicide. He was undergoing severe depression because of his unemployment and his lack of means of supporting me and our 5 year old boy. We used to live with my family. My family wanted me to divorce him but I had decided to live separate with him so I could give my marriage a chance. The apartment was almost ready, and we were supposed to shift shortly. I had even spoken to my brother and had a job arranged for him. Yet two days before shifting, when I had gone to the apartment to set up things, I found my husband dead in the same apartment. What I need to know now is, why did he have to do such a thing when he knew that I am coming to live with him. His job was also fixed...This one question is really eating me up. I need to know the answer if I have to get on with my life. I was born September 5, 1968 at 9 AM and he was born March 20, 1962, at 9 AM.

Heartbroken

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Dear Heartbroken

Your husband?s chart indicated that he had been under great duress for the past several years. He was disappointed in himself and what he had become. This coupled with his uncertainty regarding his relationship with you due to his own paranoia pushed him over the line. I don?t believe that there was anything that you could have done to prevent his action. He felt that you and your son would be better off without him. In his mind he was trying to make your life easier for you. Your husband was going through extreme mood swings that were impossible for him to control. He was a deeply sensitive man that had trouble accepting what he considered to be failure. The last thing he would have wanted to do was hurt or you down. He was not thinkingclearly and with having a tendency to take drastic measures when he didn?t know how to handle a situation unfortunately the end result was fatal. You on the other hand have a strong chart. This is something that probably attracted him to you in the first place. You are coming into a much higher cycle and it is time to put the past behind you. You owe it to yourself and to your son to move forward in a positive manner. Your chart indicates that you will meet interesting people that will influence you in many ways over the course of this year. You need to get out and do things that are worthwhile. By doing so you will find it much easier to move on. New relationships are likely to develop this year however I suggest that you take your time and build a solid friendship first. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Scorpio and Capricorn. You did not submit your son?s birth data, however I can tell from your chart that he is confused and suffering right now and that he needs you to spend additional time with him. Try to join groups or clubs that include him as well. If you stick together you will both overcome the nightmare that you have been forced to endure.

Eugenia

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Article: From James

Hi Eugenia

I'm going to be 57 years old born November 22, 1947 at 6 AM, married twice, had a good life well yes and no, don't know what I want, still looking for some thing, why am I so mixed up, I still don't know what I want to be or what I'm here for, love traveling, but would really like a goal in life before it's over, I plan to live a long life could you point me in the right direction, I'm a very confused Cusp you said I'm a Scorpio but feel more like a Sagittarius ....please help me okay .I think your so very very good I read all your letters ,you must be very special great gift you have ...

James

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Hi James

I'm surprised you've only been married twice after viewing your chart. You do have just as much Sagittarius in your chart as Scorpio but the sign Leo appears to influence you even more. Having your natal Venus in Sagittarius well aspected I don't think you have a problem meeting partners nor do I think you are one to totally commit. The past couple of years and for the next couple of years you are being hit by a transiting planet that is causing great confusion and although this can make it difficult to find a direction it can also open doors and lead you down some very creative and unpredictable pathways that will help contribute to where you end up by around 2008. This can mean a complete lifestyle change but you must be careful not to let someone else be your guru so to speak. I believe when it comes to reaching or fulfilling your goals you tend to hold yourself back from what you really and truly want to do. You must travel back in time and think about your earliest aspirations and if you haven't gone down that road it may be time to take courses or do whatever is necessary in order to fulfill these desires. Love is in a high cycle between now and late summer of next year and you will meet potential partners if you travel or get involved in something that interests you or possibly by getting involved in a totally different way of life than what you are used to. You have a good chart but you are right about being confused. The only way to use this transit that is causing all your confusion positively is to get involved in a creative endeavor, a relationship or a different way of living.

Eugenia

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