We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
I will be marrying a German guy this September. His birthday is August 28, 1970, at 6:20 pm. My date of birth is May 5, 1975, at 3:00 PM. Our wedding is scheduled for Sept 23, Sunday. We've been going out for 1 yr and 2 months and overcome our language barriers. We finally decided to get married. However, what I'd like to know is...should I marry him?
When I first met him, I was attracted to him. He spoke to me first in poor English and that's how he took my heart away. He's tall and good-looking. He's always nice to women so I'm always worried. Also, he doesn't tell me what he thinks. We have been living together for about one year. Since both of us are working, when we get home, he just stays in his computer room. About sex, I always have to ask him because he doesn't take initiative. We have sex about 4 to 5 times a month. Sometimes, I want to have it but it seems that he doesn't care. I feel like I'm asking too much. And I'm worried...
However, I saw him browsing through porn sites several times. Plus, when we need to make a decision, he always lets me do everything. It doesn't matter whether he likes it or not. In the beginning, I thought that he was nice so he let me do whatever I want. But now, I'm sick of this... When he said that he had to go to workshops for his company, I'm always worried too. He always says that I'm pretty but he doesn't take initiative for sex, I 'm afraid that some other beautiful women might ask him out. Sometimes, I can't sleep because of this but it seems he doesn't realize my situation. Our wedding day is coming soon but I'm still worried. I don't want to lose him, but I'm afraid that I may give up because I'm too tired. If possible, please give me some advice.
At Odds
Dear At Odds
I don't know why either one of you is pushing to get married. It is apparent that you have issues to resolve before you decide to step into matrimony. The comparison does indicate a lack of sexual attraction. His chart denotes sexual confusion at an emotional level with his natal Moon square his natal Jupiter in his eighth house. With his natal Venus in his eighth house as well sextile to his natal Mars I would imagine that he definitely has sexual desires. The question is how they manifest themselves with his natal Saturn and his natal Neptune squaring his natal Mars. He needs to determine what turns him on and whether or not you can provide him with what he desires and vise versa. I suggest that you get into sexual counseling as a couple before you take the next step. Communication is required in order to sort through your problems. It doesn't mean that your relationship can't work but like any other relationship nothing is perfect and it's best to sort out what you can before you decide to make a life long commitment to one another.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
Pleeeaaassse help me!
I just moved into a new place with my boyfriend but I'm not sure he's the one. Some days I convince myself that everything is okay then other days I wonder if I can handle all the issues he has with his ex wife, children and him not wanting anymore kids. (his b-day is: Jan 11/62 at 3am and mine August 26, 1964, at 6 am). We have been arguing so much more ever since we moved in and I'm ready to walk. Should I stay and give it a chance or is it best to leave now?
Thanks,
Torn!
Hi Torn!
You and your partner match up very well astrologically. It's times like these that you discover how strong your character is as well as his. His chart indicates that he has difficult transits regarding divorce settlement, legal matters, financial agreements and so forth but this will continue to haunt him for the next two years and like it or not he does have to be responsible to his first family regardless of how his ex is responding. All that being said he should probably try to put a stop to any harassment that he may be subject to by coming to a suitable arrangement that both he his ex and his children stick to. Once that is done things at least have a chance to settle down. Your chart indicates that you are moving into a period of uncertainty and you must try to curb any desire to overreact or to make changes suddenly that you might regret later on. Regarding having children of your own you will be feeling the urge especially over the course of the next year and I do believe that the chance of getting pregnant is likely however it may not be the best thing to do when your relationship is going through so much turmoil. I have seen many comparisons that are good where the end result was separation. Right now your timing is bad and it likely that you will get fed up. You are both going through a fair amount of stress over the course of the next 18 months. To add to that if you should get pregnant, fly off the handle or get upset about things that are out of your control will not help matters. This is a relationship worth nurturing but with the transits you both are experiencing I have my doubts that you will make it. Should you decide to walk, and you probably will, I believe that you will meet someone new before year-end. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces. Without having your partner's ex-wife's date of birth as well as his children's birth data I can't be sure what he will do should you walk but his chart indicates that he could very easily return to his family should that be the case.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
First of all id like to say congratulations on your readings. In the past 7 years I've printed out and received countless self-analysis and birth charts. A lot have been good but didn't really fit my way of thinking and seeing astrology, I'm an Aries and so a lot of astrologers or society in general just see us as dynamic fast talkers, sex bombs, baby screaming his lungs out not stopping until he gets fed and there might be some truths to that, but it kind of lacks depth. I find what you've done is mix my ascendant Sagittarius, with my moon Libra both mercury and Venus in Pisces & mars in Aries into a great overall picture, I even think you've added Chinese astrology yr of the sheep into it, it would be great to get some advice on more writings and web pages that have similar thoughts and ways of descriptions, cause as you pointed out in your analysis file of me, one of my biggest traits is the continuing search for knowledge & and id love to get your birth details, to see a profile on you. My details are 11 April 1979, 21:30. thanx and keep up the good work.
Aries
Dear Aries
Thanks, I am so glad that you have enjoyed my websites. Many people have asked for my particulars so I might as well list them for you. Asc. 1:45 Capricorn, Sun 5 Aries in the 4th, Moon 28 Aquarius in the 2nd, Mercury 19 Pisces in the 3rd, Venus 28 Pisces in the 3rd, Mars 3 Aries in the 4th, Jupiter 27 Capricorn in the 1st, Saturn 0 Virgo in the 8th, Uranus 26 Gemini in the 6th, Neptune 14 Libra in the 10th, Pluto 14 Leo in the 8th. As you can see there are similarities between your chart and mine. My daughter was born on April 11th and we have grown to become best friends over the years. There is nothing wrong with Aries or any other sign for that matter. Each sign contributes to society and if we were to miss one of them the world would definitely be lacking so for those who say they don't like this sign or that they should learn to appreciate what each sign brings to the table. As a rule we do not get along as well with whatever sign falls on our 8th house because of a lack of interests as well as the fact that these relationships do not usually lead anywhere. I have tried to add as much data from as many astrological backgrounds as possible on my astroadvice.com website and it's nice to have one of my members recognize the effort that has gone into making this site so spectacular. I am very proud of what my partner and I have accomplished. He is the Sagittarius mastermind who pulled together all the technology to support all the little extras that I wanted to give to our members. Once again thank you for your support.
Eugenia
