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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
I will be marrying a German guy this September. His birthday is August 28, 1970, at 6:20 pm. My date of birth is May 5, 1975, at 3:00 PM. Our wedding is scheduled for Sept 23, Sunday. We've been going out for 1 yr and 2 months and overcome our language barriers. We finally decided to get married. However, what I'd like to know is...should I marry him?
When I first met him, I was attracted to him. He spoke to me first in poor English and that's how he took my heart away. He's tall and good-looking. He's always nice to women so I'm always worried. Also, he doesn't tell me what he thinks. We have been living together for about one year. Since both of us are working, when we get home, he just stays in his computer room. About sex, I always have to ask him because he doesn't take initiative. We have sex about 4 to 5 times a month. Sometimes, I want to have it but it seems that he doesn't care. I feel like I'm asking too much. And I'm worried...
However, I saw him browsing through porn sites several times. Plus, when we need to make a decision, he always lets me do everything. It doesn't matter whether he likes it or not. In the beginning, I thought that he was nice so he let me do whatever I want. But now, I'm sick of this... When he said that he had to go to workshops for his company, I'm always worried too. He always says that I'm pretty but he doesn't take initiative for sex, I 'm afraid that some other beautiful women might ask him out. Sometimes, I can't sleep because of this but it seems he doesn't realize my situation. Our wedding day is coming soon but I'm still worried. I don't want to lose him, but I'm afraid that I may give up because I'm too tired. If possible, please give me some advice.
At Odds
Dear At Odds
I don't know why either one of you is pushing to get married. It is apparent that you have issues to resolve before you decide to step into matrimony. The comparison does indicate a lack of sexual attraction. His chart denotes sexual confusion at an emotional level with his natal Moon square his natal Jupiter in his eighth house. With his natal Venus in his eighth house as well sextile to his natal Mars I would imagine that he definitely has sexual desires. The question is how they manifest themselves with his natal Saturn and his natal Neptune squaring his natal Mars. He needs to determine what turns him on and whether or not you can provide him with what he desires and vise versa. I suggest that you get into sexual counseling as a couple before you take the next step. Communication is required in order to sort through your problems. It doesn't mean that your relationship can't work but like any other relationship nothing is perfect and it's best to sort out what you can before you decide to make a life long commitment to one another.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
Help! I need your advice. My life is a disaster, which actually is just a continuation of last year. My best childhood friend died suddenly from cancer in January. I have been out on disability since October of last year. My financial situation is dire. My employer made false accusations against me and has now stopped paying me. I know they have no intention of allowing me to return to work. I don't know how much more I can take.
I am a single mom and have to support my children, but I feel totally lost. Do you see anything positive occurring in my near future? Everywhere I turn for help or advice, I hit a brick wall. How much longer do I have to endure this gloomy situation? I'm usually a very lucky person. I don't understand what has happened during the past 10 months and I am at my wits end. I was born on 4/22/62 at 3:45am. Any advice you can give would be greatly appreciated. Thank you for your time.
Lost in the Desert
Dear Lost in the Desert
Under normal circumstances the area of your chart that deals with work and money is not too bad however there are indications that you can change your position or direction quickly. During the past couple of years however your chart has been experiencing limitations, frustrations and obstacles regarding your job. Currently while you are still off on disability I believe that this is the perfect time to start a small home based business or you may want to pick up some new skills that will help you find a better position when you are ready to go back to work. You are suffering from some emotional depression due to your financial situation however that is passing and you should start to feel better by mid July. The most important thing is to keep moving in a positive direction that will lead to a higher earning bracket. You have a pretty good chart so get motivated and everything else will fall into place.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
In regards to your Romance Compatibility scale, I don't know what it actually all means with the scale interpretation i.e. "popping stars ",sad/happy faces, or 2 hearts together at the end, etc. For example: based on the scale, if I score only 62% compatible with the person in question, I will have a happy relationship with that person, but our relationship never leads to marriage? Can someone score low on the compatibility scale, and still can be married to the other person ( or maybe for a short time ) with lots of problems during the union? Could you please explain. I was born August 20, 1960, at 11:36 PM.
Thank You.
semi-compatible
Dear semi-compatible
It?s too bad you didn?t mention the someone in your life?s birth data. I am a believer that any relationship can work if both people are willing to compromise, share, communicate and work jointly toward a common goal. Unfortunately some couples, even those with a high comparison, don?t try hard enough and therefore fail. 62% is not bad depending on what it is that you have in your comparison that is compatible and what isn?t. The pros and cons given in the compatibility analysis should tell you the low down regarding the probability of having a long lasting loving relationship. Nothing is etched in stone and no two comparisons will be the same regardless of whether or not you have the same percentage. Each comparison is as unique as the next. You are best to read the analysis that goes along with the love thermometer. The aspects between two peoples charts that red flag me are the negative interaction between Neptune and Venus, or Mars and Venus. These aspects can promote deception, sorrow, abuse, being partnered with someone who has substance abuse problems and so on and therefore precautions must be taken to protect your heart. Astrology is not as cut and dry as some people think. This site tries to give you as much information as possible. To date I have written some seventy thousand paragraphs in order to give each one of our members the most in-depth personalized view of the possibilities in all aspects of life including compatibility. Try to use the information in a positive manner in order to make the best decisions.
Your chart indicates that you are coming into a high cycle where love and romance are concerned over the next couple of months and between February and July of next year once again. Get out and socialize and you will probably meet someone who is good for you or work on the relationship you are already in, in order to make it the best that it can be. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra, Sagittarius and Aquarius.
Eugenia
