We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: A Marriage Push

Dear Eugenia

I will be marrying a German guy this September. His birthday is August 28, 1970, at 6:20 pm. My date of birth is May 5, 1975, at 3:00 PM. Our wedding is scheduled for Sept 23, Sunday. We've been going out for 1 yr and 2 months and overcome our language barriers. We finally decided to get married. However, what I'd like to know is...should I marry him?

When I first met him, I was attracted to him. He spoke to me first in poor English and that's how he took my heart away. He's tall and good-looking. He's always nice to women so I'm always worried. Also, he doesn't tell me what he thinks. We have been living together for about one year. Since both of us are working, when we get home, he just stays in his computer room. About sex, I always have to ask him because he doesn't take initiative. We have sex about 4 to 5 times a month. Sometimes, I want to have it but it seems that he doesn't care. I feel like I'm asking too much. And I'm worried...

However, I saw him browsing through porn sites several times. Plus, when we need to make a decision, he always lets me do everything. It doesn't matter whether he likes it or not. In the beginning, I thought that he was nice so he let me do whatever I want. But now, I'm sick of this... When he said that he had to go to workshops for his company, I'm always worried too. He always says that I'm pretty but he doesn't take initiative for sex, I 'm afraid that some other beautiful women might ask him out. Sometimes, I can't sleep because of this but it seems he doesn't realize my situation. Our wedding day is coming soon but I'm still worried. I don't want to lose him, but I'm afraid that I may give up because I'm too tired. If possible, please give me some advice.

At Odds

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Dear At Odds

I don't know why either one of you is pushing to get married. It is apparent that you have issues to resolve before you decide to step into matrimony. The comparison does indicate a lack of sexual attraction. His chart denotes sexual confusion at an emotional level with his natal Moon square his natal Jupiter in his eighth house. With his natal Venus in his eighth house as well sextile to his natal Mars I would imagine that he definitely has sexual desires. The question is how they manifest themselves with his natal Saturn and his natal Neptune squaring his natal Mars. He needs to determine what turns him on and whether or not you can provide him with what he desires and vise versa. I suggest that you get into sexual counseling as a couple before you take the next step. Communication is required in order to sort through your problems. It doesn't mean that your relationship can't work but like any other relationship nothing is perfect and it's best to sort out what you can before you decide to make a life long commitment to one another.

Eugenia

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Article: Just Not Sure

Dear Eugenia,

I have this huge problem regarding my sexuality. I think I'm a gay as I like watching handsome guys. This has happened for years and I'm really ashamed. I have no one to talk to. I am really worried about my future and my marriage later. Am I truly a gay? Or is it just a phase. I have tried to build relationships with girls but I keep failing. Please tell me what to do. I'm really confused and tired of struggling all the time. Is this some kind of punishment because I hate my father? For your information, I have never been close to my father since my childhood. I have read magazines that this could make someone a gay. Please help me because I think you're the only person who can help me. I was born August 19, 1981, at 2:00 AM. Thank you very much.

Swimming both ways

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Dear Swimming both ways

Your chart does indicate that many of your problems stem from your relationship with your father as well as other factors that were present in your upbringing. You do have your natal Venus, Saturn and Jupiter opposite your natal Moon and this can be extremely confusing regarding your emotions as well as your sexuality. I feel at this point that you are just a late bloomer and that you will change your mind regarding your sexuality many times over the course of the next few years. You are coming into a high cycle regarding love and therefore the opportunity to experiment a little should help you move in the direction that is best suited to you. I do feel however that the right partner will help you determine that you are straight not gay.

Eugenia

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Article: Advise Me?

Dear Eugenia

Today, I clicked on the "Community" Section for the first time on a whim, and saw the report on Steven Spielberg, which I greatly enjoyed. I would be very interested to know what the stars have planned for his sister Anne Spielberg. Anne is a talented screenwriter who earned an Oscar nomination for her screenplay "Big." I also have a specific question about odd coincidences, or synchronicityand my career.

I am a screenwriter, and I am planning to politely approach Mr. Spielberg for his advice on a mystical TV series I have created. I have never met him, but he has popped up now and then in my family's social circle (which is political, not Hollywood) in recent years. Very recently, I met someone who is a colleague of his sister Anne! And then, today, I came across your report on Steven Spielberg.

My question specifically is: Is there something to be gained by approaching these prominent and important people for advice on my project?

I enjoy your site tremendously. It is only in the past year that I have discovered what wonderful tool astrology is.I am a Virgo born September 12, 1963, at 11:56 AM. Unfortunately, I did not clue in to the significance of the Jupiter transit through my house of career and in time to make the fullest use of it. Timing, as you say, is everything. By the way Anne was born December 25, 1949.

Thank you,

Verging Virgo

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Dear Verging Virgo

Jupiter is transiting your eighth house of contracts and agreements so it's not a bad time to do deals however that is usually if they are already in the making. Consider the fact that Jupiter will be well aspected to your natal Mars in the eleventh followed by your natal Neptune in your twelfth and this can be a good time to do some behind the scenes investigating and diplomatic approaches to those who are in a position to help you get ahead. With the continuing movement of both Saturn and Jupiter over the course of the next several years you could actually do quite well. The groundwork you lay down now will help you reach higher levels later on. You are up for sudden changes especially where travel, communication and publishing is concerned so don't hold back now. You will have to be careful from a legal standpoint and make sure that your work is well protected before you decide to divulge your ideas.

Regarding Anne, she is going through a very creative cycle at the moment and with the type of chart she has I believe that she will probably reach another accolade in her life over the course of the next couple of years. Without her birth time it is difficult to be specific but she does have a marvelous chart and although there do appear to be some setbacks personally and emotionally while transiting Saturn is moving through Gemini I believe that she will still achieve with the aid of Jupiter moving through Cancer over the course of the upcoming year.

Eugenia

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