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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: A Marriage Push

Dear Eugenia

I will be marrying a German guy this September. His birthday is August 28, 1970, at 6:20 pm. My date of birth is May 5, 1975, at 3:00 PM. Our wedding is scheduled for Sept 23, Sunday. We've been going out for 1 yr and 2 months and overcome our language barriers. We finally decided to get married. However, what I'd like to know is...should I marry him?

When I first met him, I was attracted to him. He spoke to me first in poor English and that's how he took my heart away. He's tall and good-looking. He's always nice to women so I'm always worried. Also, he doesn't tell me what he thinks. We have been living together for about one year. Since both of us are working, when we get home, he just stays in his computer room. About sex, I always have to ask him because he doesn't take initiative. We have sex about 4 to 5 times a month. Sometimes, I want to have it but it seems that he doesn't care. I feel like I'm asking too much. And I'm worried...

However, I saw him browsing through porn sites several times. Plus, when we need to make a decision, he always lets me do everything. It doesn't matter whether he likes it or not. In the beginning, I thought that he was nice so he let me do whatever I want. But now, I'm sick of this... When he said that he had to go to workshops for his company, I'm always worried too. He always says that I'm pretty but he doesn't take initiative for sex, I 'm afraid that some other beautiful women might ask him out. Sometimes, I can't sleep because of this but it seems he doesn't realize my situation. Our wedding day is coming soon but I'm still worried. I don't want to lose him, but I'm afraid that I may give up because I'm too tired. If possible, please give me some advice.

At Odds

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Dear At Odds

I don't know why either one of you is pushing to get married. It is apparent that you have issues to resolve before you decide to step into matrimony. The comparison does indicate a lack of sexual attraction. His chart denotes sexual confusion at an emotional level with his natal Moon square his natal Jupiter in his eighth house. With his natal Venus in his eighth house as well sextile to his natal Mars I would imagine that he definitely has sexual desires. The question is how they manifest themselves with his natal Saturn and his natal Neptune squaring his natal Mars. He needs to determine what turns him on and whether or not you can provide him with what he desires and vise versa. I suggest that you get into sexual counseling as a couple before you take the next step. Communication is required in order to sort through your problems. It doesn't mean that your relationship can't work but like any other relationship nothing is perfect and it's best to sort out what you can before you decide to make a life long commitment to one another.

Eugenia

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Article: From Thebullgod

Dear Eugenia

Greetings and Salutations!

May I borrow a cup of Insight? I am a young man, but not getting any younger from what I've seen... I had hopes that you might answer a question or two for me...

Contrary to popular belief, I'm somewhat introverted, and having difficulty finding the all-mysterious "soul mate" that I've heard that everyone has. Any possible chance that some of Us don't necessarily have one? Or, am I approaching this the wrong way?

Equally as important, I'm working towards becoming an artist, that is saying, a paid artist...Any possible chance that this is the correct career path for me? I greatly enjoy creating the pieces of work that I do, just not one hundred percent for certain that it's going to be profitable for me to try to continue on a professional basis.

So, what do you think? Do I need help or what? I was born May 16, 1976 at 12:24 am.

Best Wishes,
Thebullgod

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Hi bullgod

You have your Saturn return coming your way and there is no doubt that the questioning has already begun. Your first Saturn return is what we refer to in astrology as the maturing time in your life. You will reevaluate and consider your options as well as make decisions whether to stay put because you think you are too old already to make changes or you will stand up take the initiative and turn your life upside down in search of your goals. For you I believe the main area of change will be professionally. I consider the arts as my salvation as well and cannot imagine working in any other field but for many years I had to work a job that wasn't satisfying in order to support my addiction to my art. I do believe that you belong in the arts and that you are talented and will eventually make your way and be successful. However, if you must take on other projects in order to make money do so but try to keep them in the same venue. In other words if you are a painter try to work at a gallery, a musician - try to work at a recording company and so forth. That way you can and will turn your dream into a reality. You are in a high cycle regarding work for the next five years and yes you should be taking the road less traveled or the unusual route. As for love and having a soul mate I am of the belief that we each have at least 11 almost perfect matches on the planet but they are not always that easy to find. In your case I believe you match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces. You have been in a good cycle regarding meeting partners but I believe that you have also been going through a very self-deceptive period when it comes to what you want. Although this period can also contribute to your creativity it can also cause sorrow at a personal level. This has counteracted your chance to take advantage of the opportunity to meet the right persona. You will be in a high love cycle again beginning this time next year. My suggestion to you is to focus on work and developing what you want to do and by the time next fall approaches you will be in a much position to meet people who are likely to have similar interests. This will be when you can find love. You have a great chart that has gone through several years of confusion regarding your personal life. Don't be so hard on yourself. You will find love and you will reach your goals as long as you do so at the right time.

Eugenia

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Article: From Tired

Dear Eugenia,

I was born on October 17th 1946 at 6:20 PM in Toronto. The last few years have been difficult but I've tried to remain hopeful that things will work out. But lately I've read some astrology sites that state this is one of the best times my sign will have for the next 12 years. Since I have no job and little money, few friends, no social life and I'm married to a man I have to take care of because his fondness for alcohol has left him with brain damage, I find it hard to believe these are good times. If it doesn't get any better than this I don't know how I'll cope. Are these supposed to be good times for me?

Tired.

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Dear Tired.

None of us consist of just our Sun Sign and this is where astrology can be misinterpreted. You have actually had several years of tough times and although things are starting to improve you still have some problems to deal with. The first thing you have to do is to take the initiative to make the necessary changes in order to improve your life. Even if you feel that you don't want to get into the work force at this time the possibility to do so is present over this next year however you have to do the legwork. If you really don't want to work you should at least volunteer or join an organization you believe in so that you can get out and have some sort of social life and support system happening. Jupiter has just moved into an area of your chart that usually indicates a move or favorable change in your home. You are also in a high cycle where relationships are concerned and if you are sick and tired of taking care of your ailing husband it may be time to institutionalize him. He made the choice to drink himself into oblivion and it's time you stopped being the martyr. You still have a lot of living to do and as long as you sit in the situation that you are in nothing will change. Astrologically speaking I can tell you what you should be doing and when the time is right but you have to take the initiative and make it happen. Get moving girl; you've paid your dues.

Eugenia

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