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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
I will be marrying a German guy this September. His birthday is August 28, 1970, at 6:20 pm. My date of birth is May 5, 1975, at 3:00 PM. Our wedding is scheduled for Sept 23, Sunday. We've been going out for 1 yr and 2 months and overcome our language barriers. We finally decided to get married. However, what I'd like to know is...should I marry him?
When I first met him, I was attracted to him. He spoke to me first in poor English and that's how he took my heart away. He's tall and good-looking. He's always nice to women so I'm always worried. Also, he doesn't tell me what he thinks. We have been living together for about one year. Since both of us are working, when we get home, he just stays in his computer room. About sex, I always have to ask him because he doesn't take initiative. We have sex about 4 to 5 times a month. Sometimes, I want to have it but it seems that he doesn't care. I feel like I'm asking too much. And I'm worried...
However, I saw him browsing through porn sites several times. Plus, when we need to make a decision, he always lets me do everything. It doesn't matter whether he likes it or not. In the beginning, I thought that he was nice so he let me do whatever I want. But now, I'm sick of this... When he said that he had to go to workshops for his company, I'm always worried too. He always says that I'm pretty but he doesn't take initiative for sex, I 'm afraid that some other beautiful women might ask him out. Sometimes, I can't sleep because of this but it seems he doesn't realize my situation. Our wedding day is coming soon but I'm still worried. I don't want to lose him, but I'm afraid that I may give up because I'm too tired. If possible, please give me some advice.
At Odds
Dear At Odds
I don't know why either one of you is pushing to get married. It is apparent that you have issues to resolve before you decide to step into matrimony. The comparison does indicate a lack of sexual attraction. His chart denotes sexual confusion at an emotional level with his natal Moon square his natal Jupiter in his eighth house. With his natal Venus in his eighth house as well sextile to his natal Mars I would imagine that he definitely has sexual desires. The question is how they manifest themselves with his natal Saturn and his natal Neptune squaring his natal Mars. He needs to determine what turns him on and whether or not you can provide him with what he desires and vise versa. I suggest that you get into sexual counseling as a couple before you take the next step. Communication is required in order to sort through your problems. It doesn't mean that your relationship can't work but like any other relationship nothing is perfect and it's best to sort out what you can before you decide to make a life long commitment to one another.
Eugenia
Dear Ms. Last,
Thank you for your wonderful website and your free readings for members. You have the magic touch especially for me. I was born 6:20 am on 04/08/1975 and my husband was born on 10/03/71 I am unsure of the time. I am under a lot of stress and pressure at the moment. You see I am 36 weeks pregnant and my husband has been away for 6 months. He went to work in another part of the country and he has been staying with another woman. In the last 9 months of our marriage this woman has desperately wanted to rip my marriage apart. My husband had been playing games with me, saying that he was never cheating on me until I found out that he was. This woman was born on 04/01/1976. I thought that she had succeeded until I recently spoke to my husband this week. He spoke to me for 2 hours on the phone and on the ICQ chat room on the internet telling me what he had done was a big mistake and he wants to come home to his family.
We already have a little boy who is 15months old and he really misses his daddy. He adores his father. I would love nothing more than for my husband and I to reunite and start all over again but I am concerned that what he is telling me is all lies. This woman has played some very nasty mind-games with me throughout this time and she is now starting to call herself my son's mother. She has sent so many e-mails to me pretending to be my husband saying that "they" are both coming to my home to take my son away from me. She even went to the extreme of telling me that she was pregnant with my husband's child. She has 2 children of her own and is still married. She ran away from her husband so that he could not see his son grow up (one child is not his). She has wrecked 4 marriages as well as her own and is only out to chase men that have a lot of money. My husband and I have our own business and that's what she is after. She has never worked a day in her life, unless you count being a prostitute work, but she only wants money to drink her self stupid, as she is an alcoholic.
There are a lot of other things that she has done to me, including: trying to get me so stressed out that I miscarried our baby. A legal representative has only now told me that I can have her charged for stalking as well as causing mental anguish. All I would really like to know is should I trust my husbands word or is he just playing games with me too? We have been married for almost 3 years and even though my husband has done the wrong thing, I am still very much in love with him, and I always will be. He keeps telling me how much he loves and misses me, but if he does- he would not have done what he did in the first place and if he wanted his family back so badly he would have been back by now. 6 months is a very long time and I have had to raise my son and go through this pregnancy practically on my own. His parents live right next door to me, and they have been wonderful as they are supporting me 100% and they are not very happy with what he has done either. I guess I am lucky that I have his family here to support me.
Please help me Ms. Last, as you are my only hope left. I hope you can give me the strength and guidance that I need.May the stars be bright and beautiful and shining in your life.
Thankyou.
Nowhere left to turn.
Dear Nowhere left to turn.
Your comparison with your husband far outshines that of the comparison with the other woman. Your husband's chart indicates that he is coming into his Saturn return. What that does is it makes him reevaluate his life up to this point and make the necessary changes in order to turn things around. Although he is a smooth talker and extremely charming I do believe that he is sincere about wanting to be with you and the family. He isn't your most likely candidate however to be true blue and he doesn't do well in relationships that he finds confining or restrictive. My suggestion is that you with
Hello Eugenia.
You have helped me in the past and I really appreciate what you do. This time I'm asking for and about my daughter. She was born 10/18/85 @3:44AM, and I love her with all my heart and soul, but something happened when she met up with this boy almost a year ago his month is April and year 1989, I'm not sure of the date the 13th sounds about right. He is a very very very smooth talker and has led my daughter down paths that I believe she never would have thought of. She started lying and sneaking around and quitting jobs or refusing them and lied to me about them.
So, due to this boy and his family she does not live at home with me anymore, left her fathers house and eventually ended up in a shelter. I've asked her and have even told her to come home with the condition that she work and the response I get is nothing. (My date of birth 7/14/63 7:30 PM.) She is now living with the boy's aunt that has a very big nose and mouth to match and has taken it upon herself to let me know what she thinks about me. (God only knows what my daughter has told this woman. My daughter has problems with her menstrual cycle and I have been very worried, as she had informed me that she "believes" the last one was in December. We have had a really major falling out and the aunt has informed me that my daughter is going to disown me... Eugenia, I don't know if my daughter is OK or if she's pregnant. She has told my younger daughter and stepdaughter that if she is pregnant the aunt is going to kick her out.
My heart is broken and is still breaking, she is very special in many ways and by rights should not have even been born, but she beat those odds. Please tell me what you see, for my eyes are very clouded with tears and fears.
God Speed Eugenia
Worried Mom
Hi Worried Mom
Without your daughters boyfriends exact birth information it is difficult for me to tell you much about him and the relationship they have with one another. I can tell you that he falls in an area of her chart that deals with dead ends so it isn't likely to go the distance if that is what you are worrying about. However, I believe the real problem is that your daughter is going through astrological transits that are causing a great deal of deception, disillusionment and sorrow when it comes to dealing with friends and relatives. She is extremely confused and has been for some time. This is probably why she isn't in school continuing her education like she should be. There is a good chance that she is pregnant as such transits have been with her since the fall of last year and will continue to be until mid to late summer of this year. There is a great deal of uncertainty in her home both your home and the home she is currently residing in. This does not stabilize for a number of years and your only hope at this point will be to let her go with the intent that you will be there for her when the bottom falls out of her world. She can be explosive at times and this only leads me to believe that you aren't going to be able to talk any sense into her and if you try she will only become more distant. It is apparent that she has probably over-indulged the past several years and gotten into things that you wouldn't approve of. She was born with the major sign of sorrow and the highest form of creativity and although this can be bad and good at the same time depending on what she does with it she is the only one who can choose to take the route that will lead her in a positive direction. Unfortunately you cannot do that for her.
The comparison between you and your daughter is typical but it does show some sorrow based around her relationships with other people and how you react to them. The saying keep your friends close but keep your enemies closer is something you should consider. Had you brought this young man closer instead of trying to get your daughter
