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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
I will be marrying a German guy this September. His birthday is August 28, 1970, at 6:20 pm. My date of birth is May 5, 1975, at 3:00 PM. Our wedding is scheduled for Sept 23, Sunday. We've been going out for 1 yr and 2 months and overcome our language barriers. We finally decided to get married. However, what I'd like to know is...should I marry him?
When I first met him, I was attracted to him. He spoke to me first in poor English and that's how he took my heart away. He's tall and good-looking. He's always nice to women so I'm always worried. Also, he doesn't tell me what he thinks. We have been living together for about one year. Since both of us are working, when we get home, he just stays in his computer room. About sex, I always have to ask him because he doesn't take initiative. We have sex about 4 to 5 times a month. Sometimes, I want to have it but it seems that he doesn't care. I feel like I'm asking too much. And I'm worried...
However, I saw him browsing through porn sites several times. Plus, when we need to make a decision, he always lets me do everything. It doesn't matter whether he likes it or not. In the beginning, I thought that he was nice so he let me do whatever I want. But now, I'm sick of this... When he said that he had to go to workshops for his company, I'm always worried too. He always says that I'm pretty but he doesn't take initiative for sex, I 'm afraid that some other beautiful women might ask him out. Sometimes, I can't sleep because of this but it seems he doesn't realize my situation. Our wedding day is coming soon but I'm still worried. I don't want to lose him, but I'm afraid that I may give up because I'm too tired. If possible, please give me some advice.
At Odds
Dear At Odds
I don't know why either one of you is pushing to get married. It is apparent that you have issues to resolve before you decide to step into matrimony. The comparison does indicate a lack of sexual attraction. His chart denotes sexual confusion at an emotional level with his natal Moon square his natal Jupiter in his eighth house. With his natal Venus in his eighth house as well sextile to his natal Mars I would imagine that he definitely has sexual desires. The question is how they manifest themselves with his natal Saturn and his natal Neptune squaring his natal Mars. He needs to determine what turns him on and whether or not you can provide him with what he desires and vise versa. I suggest that you get into sexual counseling as a couple before you take the next step. Communication is required in order to sort through your problems. It doesn't mean that your relationship can't work but like any other relationship nothing is perfect and it's best to sort out what you can before you decide to make a life long commitment to one another.
Eugenia
Dear Ms. Last:
Although I have a million questions, this one is purely selfish but I have been searching for guidance and maybe a few answers for so long. I am 41 yrs. old. An Aries born March 24, 1959, at 3:30 AM. Thankfully happily married with a husband (Virgo) who loves me and two (arggh) pre-teen daughters. I am very independent in some ways which is great since I married a trucker who is gone most of the time. I have always wanted desperately to travel, meet people, to understand differences and learn from them. And yet I did not go into anything that would take me anywhere. My quest for adventure is aggravating and frustrating. I've often had the feeling that I am supposed to be doing SOMETHING and yet either ignore the signs or am deaf to them. I had two Aunts that were Rosacrucians who one Christmas told me about their lives and said that although I wouldn't understand then, I would use their information in the future. ( I contacted the Rosacrucians and they asked for $$$) I look at those who have obvious gifts and sometimes wonder IF I have missed the boat. There is something very important in my life that is missing and I need just a nudge if you could oblige. Spirituality has always been very important in my life. I find myself questioning old beliefs and some days I'm so sure of the answers and other days totally at odds with them. This I realize can be attributed to getting older etc but the same questions remain now as they did when I was young. Why this ongoing need to travel around the world I would give my eye teeth to give my children an international education)and my need for adventure so intense yet seemingly so unattainable. Have I been given any gifts in life that should enable me to find my path? This is not just an age thing but something that has plagued me most of my lifetime. I just feel like I am running around in circles. I do know that if I could find some answers as to why I was put onto this earth then maybe I would be much more content. Other than this aspect of my life...I have been given many other gifts of which I am thankful. Just one more thing that is going to sound sooooo stupid but over the years I have come to some tenuous conclusions in my life and in a nutshell this would be it. I was a black Jew who traveled extensively, Married not for love but for ?????, was very educated and learned and treated those without it unkindly and have always felt that If I ever got to the "British Isles" that I would be finally going home. It would take far too long to explain my reasons and I am babbling now. Thank you for any insight you may have to give me. I have asked others before and been shattered to find a price tag on spiritual matters can be very costly. Have a wonderful day in the life.
Searching for more
Dear Searching for more
You have a well-rounded chart. Full of spirit and depth. Your desire to travel and expand your knowledge, mind and soul is obvious and with the transits you have ascending on you I'm not surprised that you are hankering to get moving. There are a couple of ways to handle your problem depending on your financial position, (no I'm not asking for money, this is a FREE site). You can talk your husband and children into selling what you own, taking the girls out of school and embarking on that worldly education that you would love to experience with your family. You can make a move from one place to another and experience what it is like to be in a different location. (by the way your chart is hot for buying and selling real estate this year) You can get involved in cultural groups in your community that will help open your eyes to the traditions and beliefs of those from different backgrounds. You can put your children in boarding school and do your own whirlwind tour. You can take your family and move to the British Isles and see how you like it. The list goes on and on, however
Dear Eugenia,
I have been in a state of depression that I can't seem to get out of since my Gemini friend (16/6/78) died in a car accident on April 23rd 1999. My depression had lead me into a few problems at work and as a result I have lost my job. I am almost at the point where I could easily give it all up. However there is a nagging feeling in my mind that I know that if I apply myself just that little bit better I can get another job. Studying is another area that is looming in the near future of my life. I hate transitions like this. The future at this stage is so uncertain, when will I receive the stability and the security I know that I deserve? I was born March 15, 1974, at 4:10 PM.
Uncertain
Dear Uncertain
It's always hard to let go of someone we match up to so well but the fact of the matter is that you have way too much going for you to sit back a let life pass you by. Your chart indicates that it's time to get moving once again. You are coming into a high cycle regarding work over the course of the next couple of years. Your first career opportunity will be present mid May however it is a very short window. Beginning in August you will have better professional opportunities that will remain with you throughout next year. You may find that learning on the job will be just as favorable for you and if you can land an apprenticeship that would be even better. Love and romance will also be better for you this year and next. Life is beginning to pick up for you and it will be important that you strive to reach your highest potential. Your friend would want nothing less than the best for you however man's own will determines his destiny so it's up to you to make the changes and the moves that are necessary to bring you happiness and satisfaction.
Eugenia
