We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
I will be marrying a German guy this September. His birthday is August 28, 1970, at 6:20 pm. My date of birth is May 5, 1975, at 3:00 PM. Our wedding is scheduled for Sept 23, Sunday. We've been going out for 1 yr and 2 months and overcome our language barriers. We finally decided to get married. However, what I'd like to know is...should I marry him?
When I first met him, I was attracted to him. He spoke to me first in poor English and that's how he took my heart away. He's tall and good-looking. He's always nice to women so I'm always worried. Also, he doesn't tell me what he thinks. We have been living together for about one year. Since both of us are working, when we get home, he just stays in his computer room. About sex, I always have to ask him because he doesn't take initiative. We have sex about 4 to 5 times a month. Sometimes, I want to have it but it seems that he doesn't care. I feel like I'm asking too much. And I'm worried...
However, I saw him browsing through porn sites several times. Plus, when we need to make a decision, he always lets me do everything. It doesn't matter whether he likes it or not. In the beginning, I thought that he was nice so he let me do whatever I want. But now, I'm sick of this... When he said that he had to go to workshops for his company, I'm always worried too. He always says that I'm pretty but he doesn't take initiative for sex, I 'm afraid that some other beautiful women might ask him out. Sometimes, I can't sleep because of this but it seems he doesn't realize my situation. Our wedding day is coming soon but I'm still worried. I don't want to lose him, but I'm afraid that I may give up because I'm too tired. If possible, please give me some advice.
At Odds
Dear At Odds
I don't know why either one of you is pushing to get married. It is apparent that you have issues to resolve before you decide to step into matrimony. The comparison does indicate a lack of sexual attraction. His chart denotes sexual confusion at an emotional level with his natal Moon square his natal Jupiter in his eighth house. With his natal Venus in his eighth house as well sextile to his natal Mars I would imagine that he definitely has sexual desires. The question is how they manifest themselves with his natal Saturn and his natal Neptune squaring his natal Mars. He needs to determine what turns him on and whether or not you can provide him with what he desires and vise versa. I suggest that you get into sexual counseling as a couple before you take the next step. Communication is required in order to sort through your problems. It doesn't mean that your relationship can't work but like any other relationship nothing is perfect and it's best to sort out what you can before you decide to make a life long commitment to one another.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
Hope from one girl. Eugenia, please take a look at my letter. Many people have told me that I'm too fat. I was fat even when I was very young. I tried every method to keep fit but I failed all the time. Now, I'm too tired to keep dieting. I want to do one career that requires me to lose weight. Dieting is compulsory. I don't want to tell anyone about my dream because I am too fat. Even my parents don't know. They are now planning to send me off to study abroad. If I don't do the job I like, then my life will be meaningless. What should I do now? Do I have the power to achieve my dream? Is it impossible to get slim? I have started to hate myself. Will my dream come true? Do you have any advice to me?? I was born October 26, 1984, at 4 PM.
Dream Girl
Dear Dream Girl
Your chart does indicate that you are a bit of a dreamer but that doesn't mean that you can't achieve your goals. I feel that you have been going about it the wrong way. All these diets are only good if you are in a serious and regimented exercise routine. You will have the discipline over the course of the next two to three years to lose weight if you are smart and combine proper eating habits with regular exercise. I suggest that if you are really serious about this you start by joining a fitness club when you go away to school. Ask your parents to hire a personal trainer for you. Regarding your future profession. I do believe that you will do well with your professional goals and although they may not be exactly what you are dreaming about doing right now you will enjoy the position you end up in. You are still very young and if you start to think about nutrition and eating smartly now you will probably be well on your way to getting trim and fit in no time.
EugeniaDear Eugenia
I recently broke up with my boyfriend of five years. I broke up with him mainly because he was not doing much with his life and my waiting around for him caused me to lose interest (in all aspects). At the same time that I broke up with him a really close friend from the past (who had disappeared for five years) showed up out of the blue. Feelings that I had once felt for my friend have also appeared. I feel in my heart that I made the correct decision in leaving my boyfriend, but at times feel a doubt. Was my decision a mistake? Also, it seems that my friend and I picked up right where we left off five years ago. We share all the same qualities, interests and personality traits, topic starters, etc. My feelings for him grow stronger everyday, but I feel as if there is something he is not telling me. Should I question his motives or trust the things he tells me? What is his reason for coming back into my life after 5 years? My ex-boyfriend's birth date is: 10/27/81 and my friend's birth date is: 11/25/81. My birth date is 7/27/82 at 11:55 PM. Please help!
Leo
Dear Leo
No you did not make a mistake regarding your ex. You simply don't match up well and nothing is going to change that. You have different values. You are more of a doer than he will ever be. He may be born under the sign Scorpio but his chart is definitely more Libra. He is willing to coast along and that is just the way he is and always will be.
On the other hand you don't match up any better to your old friend so I believe he is telling you what you want to hear and being who he thinks you want him to be. He falls in an area of your chart that deals with dead ends therefore not likely to go the distance. However if he helped you make your decision not to get back together with your ex he has filled his purpose so it's time for you to move on to bigger and better relationships.
This year you should be focusing on getting your life back on track. Securing your position and setting your finances in order - even considering purchasing a house if at all possible or at least making a move that is more conducive to saving or getting ahead financially.
You will be in a much better cycle regarding love as the year comes to a close and throughout the first half of next year. That doesn't mean you won't meet someone before that time but I suggest that you take your time, socialize and get to know potential partners better before getting involved in another intimate long term union.
Eugenia
