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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
I will be marrying a German guy this September. His birthday is August 28, 1970, at 6:20 pm. My date of birth is May 5, 1975, at 3:00 PM. Our wedding is scheduled for Sept 23, Sunday. We've been going out for 1 yr and 2 months and overcome our language barriers. We finally decided to get married. However, what I'd like to know is...should I marry him?
When I first met him, I was attracted to him. He spoke to me first in poor English and that's how he took my heart away. He's tall and good-looking. He's always nice to women so I'm always worried. Also, he doesn't tell me what he thinks. We have been living together for about one year. Since both of us are working, when we get home, he just stays in his computer room. About sex, I always have to ask him because he doesn't take initiative. We have sex about 4 to 5 times a month. Sometimes, I want to have it but it seems that he doesn't care. I feel like I'm asking too much. And I'm worried...
However, I saw him browsing through porn sites several times. Plus, when we need to make a decision, he always lets me do everything. It doesn't matter whether he likes it or not. In the beginning, I thought that he was nice so he let me do whatever I want. But now, I'm sick of this... When he said that he had to go to workshops for his company, I'm always worried too. He always says that I'm pretty but he doesn't take initiative for sex, I 'm afraid that some other beautiful women might ask him out. Sometimes, I can't sleep because of this but it seems he doesn't realize my situation. Our wedding day is coming soon but I'm still worried. I don't want to lose him, but I'm afraid that I may give up because I'm too tired. If possible, please give me some advice.
At Odds
Dear At Odds
I don't know why either one of you is pushing to get married. It is apparent that you have issues to resolve before you decide to step into matrimony. The comparison does indicate a lack of sexual attraction. His chart denotes sexual confusion at an emotional level with his natal Moon square his natal Jupiter in his eighth house. With his natal Venus in his eighth house as well sextile to his natal Mars I would imagine that he definitely has sexual desires. The question is how they manifest themselves with his natal Saturn and his natal Neptune squaring his natal Mars. He needs to determine what turns him on and whether or not you can provide him with what he desires and vise versa. I suggest that you get into sexual counseling as a couple before you take the next step. Communication is required in order to sort through your problems. It doesn't mean that your relationship can't work but like any other relationship nothing is perfect and it's best to sort out what you can before you decide to make a life long commitment to one another.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I was born on April 4, 1986, at 8:30 AM. I have a great interest in astrology so I have been surfing all the related astrology sites, checking personality, romance, career, etc. However, it never matches with me. My star is Aries and it says people with Aries have leadership and they are passionate. Some of the readings are correct and similar but some of them are not. Therefore, What I like mostly to know is, does one's fate vary according to when he/she is born and zodiac signs? If yes, I'd like to know how it varies...Please will you answer my question?
Curious Aries
Dear Curious Aries
A chart is as unique and personal as your fingerprint. It is based on your day, month, year, time and place of birth. Your natal chart is derived from where the planets were situated in the sky at the precise moment and place that you were born. In your case you were born under the Sun sign Aries. However, only your natal Sun is positioned in that sign. Therefore, although you will have some characteristics of that sign they will not be strong and will probably be more recognizable in areas of your life that deal with your dreams, hopes and wishes and when you are working or contributing to worthwhile causes or dealing with acquaintances. You have Gemini rising and this will influence the way you view things. With your natal Moon in Aquarius you will be less passionate and with your Mercury and Jupiter in Pisces probably not so much a leader but more inclined to the unusual and or doing your own thing. With your natal Venus in the sign Taurus well aspected to your natal Neptune and Mars in Capricorn you will be creative but practical and will also have a greater desire to reach monetary goals. Wise investing will be a key to your future success. You have your natal Uranus and Saturn in Sagittarius in an area that deals with your partnerships both business and emotional and that means that you aren't likely to want to commit at a young age. If you do it will have to be in a relationship that does not constrict or confine you in any way if it is going to last. Your natal Pluto is in the sign Scorpio in an area of your chart that deals with work and how you will get along with your colleagues as well as matters pertaining to minor health. It is well aspected therefore you will probably do just fine as long as you enjoy what you are doing for a living. I hope this helps you understand a little bit more about how astrology works. So many times people get locked into the whole Sun Sign aspect of the subject and therefore disregard the benefits that it can offer you.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
First of all I would like to say thank you. Astro Advice has gotten me through some real bad times. Your insight into the problems in life based on sound scientific principles has helped me weather some real stormy situations, recently. Yet I still have some unanswered questions concerning my relationship. My wife was born on April 1954; I am not sure what time. I was born on March 8 1949, at 3:43 a.m. I know that we have some real problems understanding each other's philosophies some times, and that some times I don't understand how to be sensitive to her emotionally and vice versa. Why is this? She is a Taurus and I am a Pisces, shouldn't we get along a lot better. By the way we have been married 21 years, so all is not lost. What I want to know is, I mean can you tell me where our weak points are and can these problems be fixed or because she has her Saturn in Gemini and I have my Saturn in Virgo we can never get closer, doomed to live out our lives in this intolerable state of affairs. Please help me find an answer in astrological terms, because I am sort of disillusioned by the information that I find in the "ROMANCE COMPATABILITY" section of "ASTRO ADVICE". Almost everyday it tells me that I should seriously consider the why I am in this relationship. The "LOVE THERMOMETER" states that I love my wife 83% and she only loves me 72% please clarify. Thanks for your time and consideration.
Kindest Regards,
Concerned Husband
Dear Concerned Husband
Wish you thought to give me your wife's complete birth data. It's kind of hard to give you a well-rounded answer with only half the equation. Based on your chart however I can tell you this. You have been going through personal changes regarding love, partnerships, your home environment and your position in society. Now you might say, not really and that's where your wife's data would have helped me to clarify what is at the route of the problem. Often I find that when these types of transits are going through someone chart they don't always see things clearly. In other words, your wife may not be content and she may feel as if she is talking to a brick wall. Fact of the matter is that she may be the one who should be reevaluating the relationship if you haven't been giving her what she needs emotionally. In your case however, I doubt that is the case. I feel that the percentages that the love thermometer indicates the problem is probably more an issue that relates more to remembering the reason you and your wife fell in love with one another in the first place and trying to rekindle the flame that once burnt so passionately.
Eugenia
