We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: A Marriage Push

Dear Eugenia

I will be marrying a German guy this September. His birthday is August 28, 1970, at 6:20 pm. My date of birth is May 5, 1975, at 3:00 PM. Our wedding is scheduled for Sept 23, Sunday. We've been going out for 1 yr and 2 months and overcome our language barriers. We finally decided to get married. However, what I'd like to know is...should I marry him?

When I first met him, I was attracted to him. He spoke to me first in poor English and that's how he took my heart away. He's tall and good-looking. He's always nice to women so I'm always worried. Also, he doesn't tell me what he thinks. We have been living together for about one year. Since both of us are working, when we get home, he just stays in his computer room. About sex, I always have to ask him because he doesn't take initiative. We have sex about 4 to 5 times a month. Sometimes, I want to have it but it seems that he doesn't care. I feel like I'm asking too much. And I'm worried...

However, I saw him browsing through porn sites several times. Plus, when we need to make a decision, he always lets me do everything. It doesn't matter whether he likes it or not. In the beginning, I thought that he was nice so he let me do whatever I want. But now, I'm sick of this... When he said that he had to go to workshops for his company, I'm always worried too. He always says that I'm pretty but he doesn't take initiative for sex, I 'm afraid that some other beautiful women might ask him out. Sometimes, I can't sleep because of this but it seems he doesn't realize my situation. Our wedding day is coming soon but I'm still worried. I don't want to lose him, but I'm afraid that I may give up because I'm too tired. If possible, please give me some advice.

At Odds

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Dear At Odds

I don't know why either one of you is pushing to get married. It is apparent that you have issues to resolve before you decide to step into matrimony. The comparison does indicate a lack of sexual attraction. His chart denotes sexual confusion at an emotional level with his natal Moon square his natal Jupiter in his eighth house. With his natal Venus in his eighth house as well sextile to his natal Mars I would imagine that he definitely has sexual desires. The question is how they manifest themselves with his natal Saturn and his natal Neptune squaring his natal Mars. He needs to determine what turns him on and whether or not you can provide him with what he desires and vise versa. I suggest that you get into sexual counseling as a couple before you take the next step. Communication is required in order to sort through your problems. It doesn't mean that your relationship can't work but like any other relationship nothing is perfect and it's best to sort out what you can before you decide to make a life long commitment to one another.

Eugenia

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Article: First Half-Life Saturn

Dear Eugenia

I'm not trying to complain about my life but I really don't know what to do.

My unemployed dad drinks everyday and my poor mom is working as a domestic maid. I hate my dad. I am not studying well and always get poor results. I don't want to do anything. I think everyone dislikes me but I don't know why. I don't want to go out. Eugenia, will my life be going like this forever? I want to have some changes. How can I change my life? I was born January 16, 1986, at 12:45 PM.

Thanks for your advice...
Need to Know

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Dear Need to Know

You are currently going through what astrologers refer to as your first half-life Saturn. This can be a depressing period for you. It is important that you take the time to decide what would really help you turn things around. You should talk to your mother and let her know how you feel. Ask her how she feels about your dad and if she is willing to get outside help through counseling. Chances are good that she isn't any happier then you are about your father's bad habits right now and perhaps if she goes for help he will as well. Regarding your education you should find it easier to focus on your work next year, for now you should ask your teachers for additional help if needed. You are bright and there is no reason why you can't turn things around if you want to. The most important thing to remember is that it is up to you to make the effort as well as the changes. Although you are experiencing uncertainties regarding your future it is apparent that with hard work and determination you will be able to succeed. You didn't mention when your mother and father were born so I am not able to tell you if either one of them are strong enough to do what's necessary in order to turn things around. Your best bet as I mentioned is to discuss your concerns with your mother and suggest that she try to get some help from a professional or even from relatives who may be able to talk some sense into your father.

Eugenia

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Article: From Troubled

Dear Eugenia,

Lately I have been through a really depressing time six months ago I was forced to drop out of high school to be able to work. The reason why is because my family has picked up and left without me. And they also took my ten-year-old younger brother whom I miss a lot. I am currently without a job or a home, I have applied for social assistance and I am waiting on a reply. I am staying with my girlfriend's family until I can sort things out. I would like to know if in the next six months I am going to be able to find a place to live and if I will be able to return to high school to finish my education because social assistance will help me. I would greatly appreciate if you answered my e-mail because I am in desperate need of your help. I was born January 8, 1987 at 5:37 pm.

Thank You,
Troubled

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Dear Troubled

You are going through a lot of changes right now and although it doesn't seam fair that you are forced to handle the cards you've been dealt it is also very apparent that you can and you will get through this period. You will find your way and get what you want early next year. Social assistance will be awarded shortly if it hasn't already been approved. It is apparent that you will do well where getting help and part time work is concerned during the first four months of next year. That will enable you to get back to your education as well as make some money on the side to help assist you further. With the help of your friend's family you will be fine. You should be able to get back into school next year. Although the opportunities are apparent it will still require hard work on your part. Studying, working and taking care of yourself at your age isn't easy but it can and has been done by many. You have a good strong chart and I do believe that you can become whatever you strive to be. What your parents have put you through could very easily be a blessing in disguise. Be brave and the lessons you learn at such a young age will help you excel in the future.

Eugenia

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