We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I am in deep conflict over my relationship right now, and I would like to know if my chart can give me any insight into the feelings that I have right now, a course of action or whether this is just a temporary time of confusion.I have been in a relationship for over seven years. However, two years ago, about the time I turned 30, things seemed to change between us. I feel a restless desire to move on, that we are better off as friends than as partners, and that my relationship with him was a mistake. To complicate things, I cannot forget a past relationship (the person is not currently in my life) and the feelings of regret have been getting stronger over the same two years. The past relationship fell apart in late 1990 over a series of misunderstandings.I really don't know what to do. On the one hand, I feel terrible uprooting my partner's life. On the other hand, I just can't seem to give him what he needs in terms of love. While the past relationship was difficult, there was a passion and connection there that I miss intensely. It is getting to the point where both of us are unhappy due to my moodiness. I don't expect the person from the past to come back into my life, but I sometimes wonder if I would be better off alone than causing such turmoil.
My birth information is 8/21/69 3:30am, my current partners information is 12/10/69, and the past partners information is 10/21/66 (I don't know their birth times). Can you help?
Stay or Go
Dear Stay or Go
The relationship that you are currently in does compare more like a friendship or brother sister relationship and it probably is time to move on. I don't believe that this will be easy for you due to the friends and family connections that you have made over the past seven years. Next year you will be coming into a period that is great for both new romantic connections as well as hooking up with people from your past. My biggest concern however is that you will end up spending time with someone who may still be involved with someone else. If you can avoid this type of scenario I believe that you can find happiness and comfort with someone new. What you have been through is your Saturn return and that was the reason you reevaluated your life up until this point and have come to the conclusion that you are probably living a lie. Most people consider this a turning point in life. You now have a choice to make and it won't be all that easy. Do you stay or do you leave. I believe that you need to make the move even though it will be difficult. I also feel however that if done the right way you may be able to salvage some of what you've got. Communication, although not always easy to get a Sagittarius to talk about issues, is where you must start. If you can discover your relationship as being a friendship only you may be able to move on and yet stay in touch. There is never any harm in trying. If that's not the case get moving anyway. After all you do want to be free when your romantic opportunities start happening next year. By the way your comparison with the Libra from your past was quite good. You probably just met at the wrong time. I believe that when you are in your high romantic cycle that he will be in a cycle that is good for him mentally but not romantically or physically. Perhaps he will be in another relationship. If this is the case you are best to back off for the time being. There is a chance that the right time to get together with him will never occur however that is hard to tell without his actual birth time.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I am very confused and concerned about my current relationship. I was born 11-30-77 at 11:38am and my boyfriend was born 12-14-75 at 1:08pm. We have a very strong physical attraction for one another, but our fights are often and our comments are brutal. He has a very quick and explosive temper, but treats me very well otherwise. He is not jealous or controlling, but very sensitive. What type of connection do we have that makes us so inseparable? We cannot spend more than two days without one another, almost as if we are the same person. We are both becoming very dependent on each other and neither of us have ever had that type of personality. We both were "bachelors" of the zodiac breaking hearts left and right and partying all the time until we met each other. Is this relationship healthy? What is it about our signs that have made us completely different people enthralled by each other? But almost TOO passionate?
Two Archers
I like same sign relationships. I believe however that you are both going through the rush of love and that the physical connection is so powerful that neither one of you can get past it at the moment. The rest of the comparison isn't too bad. I feel that you both tend to evade issues and neglect to be completely honest with one another. The fact that you fight a lot doesn't surprise me either. It isn't unusual for people to point a finger at their partner especially if they themselves are guilty of similar things. Your Sagittarius partner, like yourself, will always be a bachelor even if you live together, get married and so on. Over the course of the next two years you will both experience a need to settle down and this could help the relationship progress positively. Keep in mind however that it is impossible to curtail, confine or restrict an Archer without causing problems. Your Sagittarius partner does have a temper and that should concern you. I believe that he is intense and that you can bring out the worst in him when it comes to arguments. The combination between the two of you can become quite volatile at times. Take your time and try to build a closer friendship if you really want this union to last.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
First of all, THANK YOU for the opportunity to receive advice based upon astrological information. My birth date is 4/22/61 @ 11:05pm, mysignificance's is 1/3/63 @ 2:05am, we are planning to marry on 9/9/00 but, we are having some communication problems. He is shutting me out, instead of dealing with disagreements. We have very few disagreements but one in particular seems to surface regularly, his female friend, with extenuated circumstances. We had been together about a year when she was introduced to our relationship as an old friend. With this "old Friend" came a revelation from my husband to be that he had participated in threesomes (news to me) & wanted to "be a friend to his lonely friend" & have sex with me involved also. This didn't go over really well, look at my chart! Anyway, it's been about 8 months since that event & she has not been present in our life until last weekend. I am still extremely uncomfortable when this woman is around. When he feels this uneasiness in me, he reacts negatively & shuts me out & pouts or whatever. This only creates more negativity & makes me feel that her friendship is more important than our relationship. Which in turn allows me to create more resentment & anger towards her. I am not going to be happy around a woman my husband to be has already stated he's attracted to, why feed that temptation? It's very hard to smile & be friendly when he's reaching out for her in our own home with me right beside him. Although I have no idea when her birth date is maybe something within our synastry could shed some light on how to deal with this situation. I really hate struggling within my relationship because of a bitch. Thank you again for this opportunity.
Lisa
Dear Lisa
Your synastry was okay however it does indicate that your relationship will take considerable work as well as open and honest communication. I feel that you do have some serious issues to resolve before you can consider moving forward toward your marriage vows. Your husband to be does not appear to be ready to commit to you if he continues to long for his female friend. It is obvious that you will be starting your marriage off on the wrong foot if you don't back up now and decide what you both want out of a partnership and a marriage. You are not likely to agree to get involved in a threesome and if you do you will regret it. Your chart is one that shows a certain amount of jealousy and anger regarding such going's on and I don't feel you will ever want to share your partner with another. Therefore, you are best to find out what your future husband really wants out of a relationship. It is apparent that he is being deceptive with you, this other lady that he wants to have sex with, as well as with himself. If he is willing to take a chance to lose you over this issue you have to consider whether or not he is the right one for you. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Sagittarius.
Eugenia
