We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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For those of you who wish to contribute birth data to my research, please enter your information to my medical astrology research listed on my home page. This research is explicitly dealing with cancer and mental health – addiction illness. The focus is on early diagnosis and preventative medicine.
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Ms. Last
I am a 47-year-old single mom born 2/15/53 at 3:47 PM. About 26 years ago I met a young man his birth info is 11/10/52 at 8:41PM. We just clicked, at first we dated, but soon became best friends. We remained so for the next four years. He returned to the part of the country he grew up in and we lost contact. Seven years later he called me. We were both married and had children born 2 weeks apart.
Because we were both married I was reluctant to renew our friendship. I didn't hear from him again until this past Dec. when he called me one evening. I was quite surprised that he found me as I live 1,200 miles away from where we knew each other and I have a different name.
At first things were friendly, but soon became romantic. He has flown me to see him and has visited me 3 times since Jan. We speak long distance once or twice a day. My kids love him and would like for him to live nearby. He enjoys their company as well and has told me they need a dad, and the chemistry between us is amazing.
My question is can this relationship remain as a romantic one or is this just one of those things that will fizzle out. Being together means one of us needs to pull up stakes and move 1,500 miles and right now not being together means lots of money for phone calls and travel that neither of us can really afford. Not wanting to be a fool for romance.
At a loss
Dear At a loss
The comparison is quite favorable. You should be able to make this union work as long as you are both realistic. Many factors will have to be taken care of before you can make a permanent commitment. I feel that it would probably be better for you to make the move, not him, however that may not be possible. You have a great deal in common and the area that deals with home and family in both your charts will be in a much stronger and positive position next year. If it takes that long to sort things out that's fine. This is a relationship that is well worth the effort and you should both be willing to do whatever is necessary in order to work toward a strong and lasting commitment. You can both make sudden moves at times that will backfire. Therefore it is very important that you take your time and do things right this time. Whoever decides to move should make sure that he or she has a job lined up. The chemistry between you is such that you may not make the wisest decision due to passionate reasons. I believe that if you are well organized and patient you can end up having a very long and fruitful relationship.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I have written to you many times in hopes of a response from you. I desperately need your advise on a situation that seems irresolvable to me. Firstly, I would like to say that you are a wonderfully gifted person and I enjoy your website very much, and I wish you continued success with your new T.V. show.
I am a Capricorn female (please do not include any birth information date, place or time of any of the people mentioned in this email, thank you). Born XXX. XX, XXXX, XX X:XX pm. I am involved with two people, a Leo male we will call Leo born XXX. XX, XXXX. I am very close to this person and I am very happy with him. I am also involved with a Cancer male, we will call Gerald. The Cancer's birthday is XXXX X, XXXX. What do you see in my relationships with these two men. My heart belongs to Leo, but I feel responsible toward Gerald. How do you see them with regards to how they feel about me. Also my Leo is involved with a crazy woman, born XXXX XX, XXXX. She is an extremely jealous and insecure person. What do you see in Leo and Crazy woman's relationship? Please Eugenia, I am desperate for your help in this and I look forward to any advise you can give me. I sometimes feel very trapped in my own fears and desperate for some solution to this confusion. Please help me.
Desperate
Dear Desperate
I do not usually omit birth data because I believe that it is of interest especially for students of astrology. One of the best ways to learn the subject is to take the data, cast the chart and see if you come up with a similar answer to the one I have given. In your case however I am going to make an exception.
I can see your dilemma. You do match up to your Leo however when it comes right down to it your comparison with Gerald is actually a little bit better. Your relationship with Gerald may be tired and in need of some added spice of life but that is attainable as long as you rid yourself of the Leo in your life. Your Leo on the other hand, like it or not, matches up just as well if not better to his crazy woman whom I might add may not be so crazy if he were more trust worthy in his relationships. This Leo gets plenty of opportunities to flirt and so forth and he can be quite a woman's man. You are drawn to him for various reasons but I must admit there is some deception showing in your connection with him and I venture to say that is will lead to absolutely no good if you continue down this pathway. Your attraction to one another is physical and this is just not good enough. You will end up hurting two people that you are both well suited to if you continue to play this game. The crazy woman has just gone through two and a half years of suffering, limitations and depression and it is probably due to your playful way of dealing with her mate. Back off before you find yourself at a point of no return. I believe the end result will be a loss for you on all counts. Unfortunately according to what I see in the crazy woman's chart her Leo love is probably going to leave her or make a personal change in his life putting you in a position to turn your back on Gerald to be with your Leo love. Your Cancer, Gerald I believe has been in the dark and has trusted a little too much. His limitations ring out loud and clear especially after the end of May of this year. Times are changing for all of you and I fear that the end result may be you with your Leo leaving two shattered hearts by the wayside. The ironic picture is that I believe in time you and your Leo will discover that the grass really isn't greener on the other side of the moutain.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia,
I am now in a state of anxiety and emotionally unstable. I was born on September 9, 1973. I always fail when it comes to love and romance. I had one-sided love affair for 5 years. The guy was born in February 28. 1973. I have never told him that I loved him and he got married last year.
At the end of the year 2000, I fell in love with a guy born in October 6, 1966. We have a sexual relationship and I want to marry him. But I now found that he always tells lies and cheats on me. He is not serious. If I treat him well, he would feel annoyed and leave. If I am cool, he may pay more attention to me. Recently, I met my old classmate. He was a 1973 Taurus. He treats me very well. But I am a conservative girl. Since I have had a sexual relationship with my boyfriend, I don't know how to face this Taurus guy.
Although I visit your website every day, I still cannot find a way to release this feeling. I wish you could help and tell me what to do.
Confused
Dear Confused
I can see your attraction to your October partner however the comparison wasn't that good. I believe that you can do much better. Without your Taurus friends complete birth date I cannot really comment on your connection with him. I can tell you however that you do need to make some personal changes. You are in a high cycle where love and romance are concerned right now however if you are with your Libra friend it isn't likely that you will meet someone new. You need to reevaluate your motives. I believe you are with your Libra because you fear being alone. You must let go and move forward if you want to achieve happiness. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Sagittarius and Aquarius.
Eugenia
