We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I hope you will answer my letter. I beg you to. There is a man I have been seeing for 9 months. He works at the same office but in a different department. The problem is that he is still married. He keeps on extending the date to separate from his wife saying he has to do it because of his kids. I do understand his situation, but sometimes I feel like I am getting used unintentionally. I know he wouldn't purposely hurt me. I live alone. And it's so lonely without him. At work he is such a distraction, because I always think about him.
I love him very much, but my life was turned upside down because of him. I am emotionally very unstable. Could you please advice me if I should pursue this any more. I am thinking of finding another job, since it would be easier to forget him that way. His date of birth is 08/13/1954 6.45pm and mine is October 4, 1971, at 10:25 PM. Please I beg you to give me some advice.
Desperate
Dear Desperate
Yes you do match up to your Leo friend but he is in a situation that is not healthy for you. I believe that you should back away, change your job if necessary and get on with your life. If he is serious about you and leaving his family he will do so. As for you sitting around and waiting you should stop doing so immediately. Whether you think he is using you or not, he is. Right now he has two women in his life that he is hurting along with his son. You are going through your Saturn return this year and that will make you depressed as well as cause you to reevaluate your situation. This year is a make it or break it period for you. As for him, I would have thought that if he was planning to leave his family he would have done so a couple of years ago. If you continue to wait around for him he will have no desire or need to make the necessary changes. His chart indicates that he is extremely changeable regarding his feelings and his relationships. He is wishy-washy about love and can be a bit of a player. Be careful what you wish for. If he can cheat on his wife and son he will certainly be able to cheat on you.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I am a Pisces who doesn't know which way to swim. I am married to a Taurus DoB 05.16.59, but have just become involved with an old boyfriend who sought me out at a very vulnerable time in my life. I truly have the strongest feelings I've ever had for a man for him. He's an Aries DoB 04.10.59. We both feel that our reunion was definitely fated....meant to be, but he is also married to a much older Aquarian. I would truly value your opinion here as to whether this new relationship has a future, or should I try (once again) to prop up my failing marriage? I was born March 19, 1959, at 10:50 PM.
Undecided
Dear Undecided
I can understand why you are having such a difficult time with your situation. You match up to both men very well however the comparison with your current husband does indicate deception and some sorrow. This is probably due to the fact that you are in a sense mentally keeping information from him regarding your status with your old boyfriend. You didn't mention if there are any children involved, as I do believe that this should make a difference to your decision. You have been experiencing depression and difficulties with your relationship for the past three years while transiting Saturn passed through an area of your chart that deals with your marital relationship. This is still in effect and will be until late June. I therefore urge you to refrain from making your decision until after that time. Should you decide to make your move and I believe you will I do not feel that it will make your life instantly better. In fact I believe that you have been erratic since the spring of this year and I do not feel that this will change much until mid next year. Transiting Uranus has been and continues to play havoc with your personal life, your feelings and a change of heart will continue confuse you. If you do have children with your husband and they are still living at home or young I believe you should think carefully about what you are about to do. If your children are older or you didn't have any I believe that you will not be satisfied until you separate and spend some time with your old boyfriend. All that being said I also urge you not to jump into an intimate situation with your old boyfriend unless he too has left his current situation. It is the only way to give your new relationship with one another a fair chance as well as being fair with your ex's.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
My life has totally turned upside down the last 4-5 years; I hope that I am finally on the right course. I just landed a new job (was unemployed) for a while. A man that I thought cared about me totally up and left me (6/29/50) and I have kicked an alcohol addiction. I found out that nobody except one person was there for me. Am I on the right course now? I don't think I could handle any more setbacks; they have been too much for me? Why did Mr. Cancer leave? How does career/job prospects look for the future? Your advice would be most appreciated. I was born September 27, 1955 at 8:01 pm.
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Hi Libra
You have been through a rough time for someone who has as much Libra in her chart as you do. Although you are probably overreacting a little this year I do believe that you can but the past behind you. Job prospects continue to look good so if you are looking to advance or to change from one position to another or upgrade to help you move up the professional ladder now is the perfect time to do so. Focus on your work and you will tabularize your life even more. Regarding love you are in a high cycle right now girl so get out and do things you enjoy or answer personal adds in your local financial newspaper or consider joining a dating service and you will meet Mr. Right. Mr. Cancer on the other hand was not the right man for you. The comparison was bad and I believe that this connection was a hindrance to you not an opportunity. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra Sagittarius and Aquarius.
Eugenia
