We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I hope you will answer my letter. I beg you to. There is a man I have been seeing for 9 months. He works at the same office but in a different department. The problem is that he is still married. He keeps on extending the date to separate from his wife saying he has to do it because of his kids. I do understand his situation, but sometimes I feel like I am getting used unintentionally. I know he wouldn't purposely hurt me. I live alone. And it's so lonely without him. At work he is such a distraction, because I always think about him.
I love him very much, but my life was turned upside down because of him. I am emotionally very unstable. Could you please advice me if I should pursue this any more. I am thinking of finding another job, since it would be easier to forget him that way. His date of birth is 08/13/1954 6.45pm and mine is October 4, 1971, at 10:25 PM. Please I beg you to give me some advice.
Desperate
Dear Desperate
Yes you do match up to your Leo friend but he is in a situation that is not healthy for you. I believe that you should back away, change your job if necessary and get on with your life. If he is serious about you and leaving his family he will do so. As for you sitting around and waiting you should stop doing so immediately. Whether you think he is using you or not, he is. Right now he has two women in his life that he is hurting along with his son. You are going through your Saturn return this year and that will make you depressed as well as cause you to reevaluate your situation. This year is a make it or break it period for you. As for him, I would have thought that if he was planning to leave his family he would have done so a couple of years ago. If you continue to wait around for him he will have no desire or need to make the necessary changes. His chart indicates that he is extremely changeable regarding his feelings and his relationships. He is wishy-washy about love and can be a bit of a player. Be careful what you wish for. If he can cheat on his wife and son he will certainly be able to cheat on you.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia:
I wrote to you once before, but it appears my letter was overlooked. I'm beginning to feel a little stressed over a situation that appears to be inevitable in my love life. I'm a Sagittarius, born December 2, 1961 at 9:45 p.m. A few years ago I met a wonderful man at work. He's a Gemini; born June 2, 1960 (I'm not sure of the time). I have a wonderful connection with this man--when we talk we're so connected that we finish each other's sentences. I also feel a strong connection in that I can feel his energy around me when he's not there. I've never felt this way with anyone before---not even my ex-husband. He was going through his divorce about the same time I was (shortly after we met), and we've been friends since then. I would like a romantic relationship with him, and I feel he wants one with me too but he seems to take two steps forward and then hold back. I can only assume this is because he's cautious of being hurt again. He won't reveal the reason to me. About six weeks ago, I met another man (Scorpio, born November 9, 1964, I don't know the time). We've talked a lot on the phone and started to date. I don't feel the same attraction with the Scorpio that I do with the Gemini, but the Scorpio is more "forward" in his approach which I really like. He also is not afraid to talk about his feelings, which I think is very important. I like him a lot--he's very sweet, considerate, intelligent and fun. I intend to keep dating the Scorpio. Can you tell me if the Gemini will ever step forward the way I've always hoped he would?I dread making choices between men, but I can almost see how this will play out. I'll start getting involved with the Scorpio and the Gemini will finally step forward and I'll feel guilty and torn. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, but at the same time I want to be true to myself and follow my heart. The way I feel right now, I definitely want a relationship with the Gemini! Impossible, right? Can you help me with some insight?
Thank you.
Sag In Need of Help
Dear Sag In Need of Help
You are still going through a very unstable period where relationships are concerned. To try to make a decision at this time would probably end in a negative spin. Both comparisons were just adequate. I think that you can do much better. I get the feeling that you don't like to be single, that you truly want someone to love when really you'd be best to go it alone for at least a little longer. Opportunities to make changes in your home environment will be present until the middle of next year and you should be focusing on doing just that. Build your own base and do the things that you like to do. It's time to enjoy your freedom. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Libra and Aquarius. You will be in a much higher cycle regarding love and romance in 2002. For now you should be enjoying the company of friends and discovering whom you are and what you want in a partner. Don't jump into a new relationship too fast and for the wrong reason.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
Hi...I am born on the 20th of December 1982 at 4:30p.m. My girlfriend is born on the 4th of March 1983. I guess that you must be thinking that being 17 years old is too young to talk about love, but it is my wish to get married soon after I graduate from University due to a loneliness I have within me. Thus I hope that I may be able to find the one I love as early as possible so as to be able to enter into a closer relationship with her. In Singapore, after graduating from college, it is compulsory for all males upon reaching the age of 18 to be enlisted for compulsory National Service (NS) before they enter the University. And soon it will time for me to be enlisted. I have heard of many of my friends' relationships being shattered once the male enters into NS due to the lack of time the couple are able to spend with each other. Thus I fear for the continuity of my relationship with my girlfriend. Furthermore, what makes it worse is the fact that I can't help but feel that my girlfriend and I are not really that close to each other. She prefers to go out and be around her friends rather than spend time with me and is also unwilling to share her feelings with me. Is there an explanation astrologically, why I feel that we aren't that close to each other?? And is there a chance that this relationship may survive through till I graduate from the University (which is around six years from now)??
A boy
Dear A boy
The comparison was pretty good with your Pisces friend however it did appear to lack somewhat at a physical level. She is still young and wants to experience what life has to offer. Your chart indicates that you are moving through a period over the course of the next two to three years that is making you feel the urgency to settle down or at least prepare to do so. Although you truly feel this way right now you do have plenty of time before you need to concern yourself with this matter. For now you should enjoy the relationship you have but don't rule out that you might meet someone in the future who will match up even better to you astrologically. The signs that compliment your chart are Aries, Gemini and Sagittarius.
Eugenia
