We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I hope you will answer my letter. I beg you to. There is a man I have been seeing for 9 months. He works at the same office but in a different department. The problem is that he is still married. He keeps on extending the date to separate from his wife saying he has to do it because of his kids. I do understand his situation, but sometimes I feel like I am getting used unintentionally. I know he wouldn't purposely hurt me. I live alone. And it's so lonely without him. At work he is such a distraction, because I always think about him.
I love him very much, but my life was turned upside down because of him. I am emotionally very unstable. Could you please advice me if I should pursue this any more. I am thinking of finding another job, since it would be easier to forget him that way. His date of birth is 08/13/1954 6.45pm and mine is October 4, 1971, at 10:25 PM. Please I beg you to give me some advice.
Desperate
Dear Desperate
Yes you do match up to your Leo friend but he is in a situation that is not healthy for you. I believe that you should back away, change your job if necessary and get on with your life. If he is serious about you and leaving his family he will do so. As for you sitting around and waiting you should stop doing so immediately. Whether you think he is using you or not, he is. Right now he has two women in his life that he is hurting along with his son. You are going through your Saturn return this year and that will make you depressed as well as cause you to reevaluate your situation. This year is a make it or break it period for you. As for him, I would have thought that if he was planning to leave his family he would have done so a couple of years ago. If you continue to wait around for him he will have no desire or need to make the necessary changes. His chart indicates that he is extremely changeable regarding his feelings and his relationships. He is wishy-washy about love and can be a bit of a player. Be careful what you wish for. If he can cheat on his wife and son he will certainly be able to cheat on you.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
Where do I begin, I'm 28 yrs old and have been looking for love. I've been out of a relationship for almost 2 yrs in which I was engaged to be married. This almost tore me apart but somehow I SURVIVED. I still have good and bad days but I think everything happens for a reason which takes me to my next point. I met a gentleman (born: February 21,1971) almost a year ago in which I was very attracted to and we became friends although I long for so much more however I know that his career is his first priority and anything else is on the back burner. I think that coming out of a very long and serious relationship I lack the confidence that I need in order to speak up and express what I feel as I fear rejection and this is what I tend to do with him.
I know that I want more than to be friends, is this something that you see in my future? b/c I don't have the nerve to ask him straight out and I want to know what direction my love life is going if anywhere. I was born July 4, 1975 at 6:45 pm.
Please help!!!
Cancer
Hi Cancer
The comparison with your Pisces friend is okay but he does think like an Aquarius which means that he can be a little detached when it comes to emotional matters. He also has a strong Sagittarius influence and they are usually not all that interested in being tied down. You are very sensitive and the past couple of years you have gone through a difficult period regarding relationships and being able to trust. You are also going through your first Saturn return and this is making you reevaluate your life and what you have done with it up until now. Over the course of the next year you should be making changes that will better suit the direction you see yourself moving in. You did meet your Pisces friend at a good time so I?m not ruling him out but I do feel that you are probably a little more serious regarding your relationship and that you are also ready to start thinking about settling down where he may not have given it a thought as of yet. If you are going to approach him to see how he feels you may want to do so in July of this year. You will be in a high cycle again this fall where finding love is concerned so you have time to see where your current relationship is headed before you start looking for love elsewhere. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Gemini, Virgo, Sagittarius, Capricorn and Pisces.
Eugenia
?Dear Eugenia,
I'm only 12 years old. Most adults wouldn't take this serious, but I hope you will. This is my problem. I have two friends. They are both guys. One is my best friend which I will refer to as M, and the other one I'm dating and I will refer to him as R. I kind of had something going on with M, but it was a friendly thing. M doesn't like R, so that makes it hard. Recently M called to tell me I would have to choose. I don't know whom to choose. My birth date and time is May 1, 1988 6:45 p.m. M's birth date is July 8 1988. R's birth date is August 19 1988. Unfortunately I don't have the birth times. I would really appreciate it if you reply to this letter. Thank you for taking your time to read this letter. I hope you give me a reply and advice or clues. Thank you once again!!!
Taurus
Dear Taurus
Both M and R match up in similar ways to your chart. In the case of M he claims to be your friend but proceeds to put an ultimatum on you. A friend wouldn?t do that. Also in your comparison with M deceptiveness is present so it is obvious that he isn?t telling you how he really feels about you. Keep in mind that friends are there forever and lovers come and go. Regarding R the comparison shows sorrow, which means that it will probably end with one of you getting hurt. You have your natal Venus in Gemini and this generally means that you will attract plenty of romantic opportunities throughout your life. You will be coming into a high cycle next year that not only will bring such happenings but will also leave you open to unwanted pregnancy if you aren?t careful. You may be young but one thing can lead to another and before you know it you can find yourself in a whole lot of trouble. You are best to opt for friendship for now. If both M and R are willing to be friends with you, that?s great. If either tries to push for more it should be your cue to end the connection.
Eugenia
