We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I am in a long distance relationship with a man 5 hours from me (Oct. 24, 1979) and I am wondering how we can make it work or if it really could work since I don't have the time (nor money) to waste on unworthy causes.
I feel very strongly about him. We've met twice & the first time we were both out of sorts. Last time we had a great time! I've never had an online relationship but I do understand that a lot of work is involved. Commitment, sacrifices & compromising are the top 3 things I can think of. I'm afraid that I won't be able to provide my part of the bargain as well as he could. I'm afraid that after some time we'll be too tired to continue this relationship & feel that we have -really- wasted our time & money. I haven't been able to find someone as compatible with me as he in my own town. I've been single for over a year now. I'm afraid I might only be interested in him because he's interested in me too, just because I've been single for so long (I don't think that's very truthful though).
The only way that an online relationship can work is if both partners plan on being together down the line. We're not dating yet but we both want to move back to BC in the near future. I have so many fears. What about my education? My career? What if we're only compatible with distance between us, & then we rip each other to shreds once we're together-together? ARGH!!
Could you offer me a bit of astrological advice? I do know that all but 2 of his & my astro houses are located under the same sign. Any words of wisdom would be really appreciated!
Wrapped up
Dear Wrapped up
The comparison was okay. Keep in mind that in order to have a relationship work it takes work. People always think that if they fall in love that's all it takes but unfortunately a relationship probably takes more time, effort and work then anything else you do in life. I believe that he is someone who can help you achieve some of your dreams, hopes and wishes, however that doesn't mean that you will end up together forever. More so than having a long term or everlasting union a relationship should be based on how much you learn from one another, enjoy one another and compliment one another. You have time to kill right now as the next time you are in a really high cycle for love is next year. As for now you should be enjoying whatever time you do get to spend with one another. Just because you live a distance doesn't mean that you can't do things on the cheap. You'd probably spend just as much cash staying at home as you would staying at his place or vise versa. If you really enjoy one another's company you'll find ways to spend more time together while you discover each other's likes, dislikes, needs and desires. Don't be impatient love and relationships take time.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
Help please! I am 33, 26.05.67, at 9:00 AM, my boyfriend is 16, 05.06.84, and we knew each other before we got together. We are so good together except for the age difference. I believe we are soul mates and that we will be in each other's lives forever. I also know that I have to let him go to get on with his life. I love him so much and so much want us to be together, my heart breaks at the thought of losing him. Is it possible that he will get a life then we can get back together in a few years time? We have such a powerful and strong relationship but I know he must go and get some life experience, I feel so confused by what my head and heart say. He has had a hard life and is too mature for his years, but we have so much in common and this is part of the strong bond that we have together. I know that he loves me. However, we both agree that we should end this relationship, but we are finding it difficult to let go.
Older Woman/Younger Man
Dear Older Woman/Younger Man
Let's get real, the comparison was not that great. I feel that what has happened between you is that you both filled a void in one another life for a brief moment in time. Both your charts indicate that it's time to move on. If you can maintain a friendship fine but you are best to cut it off and go your own way. Don't get me wrong, I have no problem with older women and younger men or vise versa but in this case there is an element of emotional deception and really the comparison is more like a friendship that has gotten out of hand. Now I'm not saying that it can't work or that it won't some day in the future but I am saying that right now you both need time to move on and experience new people, places and things. Your chart indicates that you are moving into a high cycle regarding love and romance during the second half of next year. Currently and until that time you will be in a cycle conducive to meeting people who can help you get ahead. You should be focusing on your work, getting ahead and meeting new people. As for him it is apparent that he is in a high cycle regarding love and romance even now and that it is important for him to grasp the moment and enjoy his teenage years. He is highly changeable right now as well as vulnerable to your needs so it will be left up to you to force the issue. If you don't I'm afraid he will find someone new and try to appease you at the same time and this could lead to an emotional disaster for both of you.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I have been dating this guy name Rickey for almost 3 years. We started out seeing each other on Friday and Saturday nights sometimes during the week. He has 2 kids and a sick mother that he has to take care of and a job that he has long hours and for the past year we have only seen each other on Fridays when he did not have to work late. I just want to spend more time with him and see if what we have is true and if he really has feelings for me or just using me. His birth date is Jan. 1, 1962 my birthday is April 2, 1950 what do you see for us please help me should I hang in there or just be friends.
To be or not to be
Dear To be or not to be
The comparison was not all that great. There was definitely some deception involved regarding his status, direction in life and future goals. I believe that if either one of you were really interested something would have happened by now. If you really wanted to spend more time with him over the past three years you would have been offering to help him with his children as well as with his mother. If you did offer and he denied you the right to pitch in and help I would take that as an indication that he doesn't really want you in his life. Your chart indicates that you will be in a high cycle for love and romance beginning in the spring of next year and that you should prepare yourself by getting out of this situation and joining organizations that offer opportunities to meet new people who have similar interests. You can easily remain friends with him but you should probably consider cutting out the intimate aspect of your relationship. You should be putting your efforts into your professional accomplishments over the course of the next two years in order to take advantage of the opportunities that are coming your way in this area of your life.
Eugenia
