We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Don't Stop Moving

Dear Eugenia

My birthday is May 30/75, at 10:40 AM, my boyfriend's is Aug.24/72 I just found out that I am pregnant with my third child. This is my fifth pregnancy, but I had previous miscarriages. My question is I am just finishing up my upgrading and will be graduating this June. My baby isn't due until January. The thing is my school counselor's thinks I should put off continuing into a trade for about a year. I am not so sure I would like to do that. You see I struggled to get this far, I don't seem to want to stop. I am trying to go forward and become a financial advisor, but first I need another year of schooling. Do you have ANY SUGGESTION FOR ME?

I have two boys and one on the way that I need to support financially. My boyfriend doesn't seem to want to realize that this is something I need to do for myself. For four years of our six year relationship we have been living with his mom, and I want to be able to move out and have our own place, going forward into getting a job I may be able to move us. That is one of many reasons I need a job.

Thanks for reading my complaint.
Struggling

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Dear Struggling

You should give yourself a pat on the back and keep on moving in the direction that will bring you the highest rewards. The more education that you can get the better. You have to put yourself in a position that will allow you to support your children and your boyfriend should understand that. If he is not able to support your desires and wishes you should question how much he truly cares about you. Your chart indicates that you should continue your studies however it would not hurt you to take time off until after the baby is born. The educational area of your chart will be in a high cycle for the next few months but by October you will move into a period that might be difficult to pursue your goals. You will find however that if you wait until the spring of next year that you will once again have the ability to do well in your educational pursuits. Set your goals and your priorities and don't look back. You do match up well to your boyfriend however emotional deception may be a problem. He might find your desire to improve yourself threatening and therefore you must compensate for this in order to put his mind at ease.

Eugenia

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Article: A Marriage Push

Dear Eugenia

I will be marrying a German guy this September. His birthday is August 28, 1970, at 6:20 pm. My date of birth is May 5, 1975, at 3:00 PM. Our wedding is scheduled for Sept 23, Sunday. We've been going out for 1 yr and 2 months and overcome our language barriers. We finally decided to get married. However, what I'd like to know is...should I marry him?

When I first met him, I was attracted to him. He spoke to me first in poor English and that's how he took my heart away. He's tall and good-looking. He's always nice to women so I'm always worried. Also, he doesn't tell me what he thinks. We have been living together for about one year. Since both of us are working, when we get home, he just stays in his computer room. About sex, I always have to ask him because he doesn't take initiative. We have sex about 4 to 5 times a month. Sometimes, I want to have it but it seems that he doesn't care. I feel like I'm asking too much. And I'm worried...

However, I saw him browsing through porn sites several times. Plus, when we need to make a decision, he always lets me do everything. It doesn't matter whether he likes it or not. In the beginning, I thought that he was nice so he let me do whatever I want. But now, I'm sick of this... When he said that he had to go to workshops for his company, I'm always worried too. He always says that I'm pretty but he doesn't take initiative for sex, I 'm afraid that some other beautiful women might ask him out. Sometimes, I can't sleep because of this but it seems he doesn't realize my situation. Our wedding day is coming soon but I'm still worried. I don't want to lose him, but I'm afraid that I may give up because I'm too tired. If possible, please give me some advice.

At Odds

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Dear At Odds

I don't know why either one of you is pushing to get married. It is apparent that you have issues to resolve before you decide to step into matrimony. The comparison does indicate a lack of sexual attraction. His chart denotes sexual confusion at an emotional level with his natal Moon square his natal Jupiter in his eighth house. With his natal Venus in his eighth house as well sextile to his natal Mars I would imagine that he definitely has sexual desires. The question is how they manifest themselves with his natal Saturn and his natal Neptune squaring his natal Mars. He needs to determine what turns him on and whether or not you can provide him with what he desires and vise versa. I suggest that you get into sexual counseling as a couple before you take the next step. Communication is required in order to sort through your problems. It doesn't mean that your relationship can't work but like any other relationship nothing is perfect and it's best to sort out what you can before you decide to make a life long commitment to one another.

Eugenia

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Article: Who's better???

Dear Eugenia,

This is the first time that I read you letters to the members who have troubles. I am now facing a question and wish you could advise me how to make my choice.

I broke up with my first boyfriend about two months ago. Soon after, I knew a guy (Paul) from the internet. He told me that he wanted me to be his girlfriend after we talked over the phone for the first time. I knew that he has just broken up with his girl friend. I didn't believe in him.

It has been one month now. We have never seen each other, but I found that I do like him. I feel that he cares and supports me, but I am afraid that we haven't built up any foundation in this relationship. I told him that I didn't want to fall in love so soon. And he said he would wait for me.

I met an ex-colleague Sam today. We knew each other when I took up a temporary job. He had a first sight love feeling towards me in the past, but I was shy to accept him. (I am not a confident girl.) After I finished my temporary job, we both went back to school and did not contact each other any more. Three months later, he called me saying that he loved me. I didn't give him a definite answer although I gradually felt that I also liked him. After a while, he didn't call me but I always think of him. I met him again today and told him that I would call him. I prepared to tell him all my feelings.

On the other hand, Paul moves me. I feel that Paul treats me better than Sam, but I have no confidence in someone known from the internet. I am afraid that I will make a wrong choice. Eugenia, can you tell me who suits me better?

Here are their birth information: Paul: January 10, 1981 about 1am, Sam: March 4, 1983 (don't know his birth time), myself June 5, 1983, at 1:55 AM

Best regards.
Can't decide

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Dear Can't decide

There is no contest; you match up much better to Paul. The only problem with your relationship with him is that there is some emotional deception regarding involvements with other people. In other words one or both of you may also have someone else that you are talking to. As in your case it would be Sam. I think that you should safely meet with Paul. Take a friend along or make arrangements to meet for tea somewhere that you feel comfortable. I don't believe that you have anything to fear but it's always good to be on the safe side. As for Sam well the comparison wasn't that great. I believe that you are attracted to one another but you don't appear to have as much in common as you and Paul. You will be in a high cycle regarding love and romance for the next twelve months so don't be too quick to get into a serious relationship. You will have plenty of opportunities to meet potential partners. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Libra, Capricorn and Aquarius.

Eugenia

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