We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Hi Eugenia...
I sent you an email last spring, but I haven't received your reply.
I was born on February 3, 1977 (10:40 pm) and the guy whom I want to talk about was born in August 29, 1974 (2:00 am) In fact, we are not getting along very well recently. I told him that I wanted to break up with him but he didn't let me go. He told me that his goal in life is to live with me and he loves me. But I feel that he is obsessive or greedy. A few days ago, he yelled at me and even beat me. I got bruises all over my body.
I love someone else now. He was born in Feb 11, 1971 (5 am). I like him very much and want to marry him. But my boyfriend doesn't let me go.
I want to marry the second guy next year. Do you think it's okay? Will the first guy disturb my life in the future? Please give me an advice.
Nowhere to Turn
Dear No Where to Turn
You need to back up and take a look at what you are putting up with. I believe that you are leaning toward your Aquarius friend because he doesn't abuse you. He is in fact better for you then your Virgo partner but you need time to be on your own in order to know what your true feelings are. I believe that you should end your current relationship with your Virgo immediately. Move if you have to in order to get away from his abusiveness. This time next year (July/August) you will be in a high cycle regarding love and romance and you should wait until that time before you make a decision to be with your Aquarius partner. You may just meet someone new during that time that will be really good to you and for you. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Sagittarius and Aquarius.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
Greetings and Salutations!
May I borrow a cup of Insight? I am a young man, but not getting any younger from what I've seen... I had hopes that you might answer a question or two for me...
Contrary to popular belief, I'm somewhat introverted, and having difficulty finding the all-mysterious "soul mate" that I've heard that everyone has. Any possible chance that some of Us don't necessarily have one? Or, am I approaching this the wrong way?
Equally as important, I'm working towards becoming an artist, that is saying, a paid artist...Any possible chance that this is the correct career path for me? I greatly enjoy creating the pieces of work that I do, just not one hundred percent for certain that it's going to be profitable for me to try to continue on a professional basis.
So, what do you think? Do I need help or what? I was born May 16, 1976 at 12:24 am.
Best Wishes,
Thebullgod
Hi bullgod
You have your Saturn return coming your way and there is no doubt that the questioning has already begun. Your first Saturn return is what we refer to in astrology as the maturing time in your life. You will reevaluate and consider your options as well as make decisions whether to stay put because you think you are too old already to make changes or you will stand up take the initiative and turn your life upside down in search of your goals. For you I believe the main area of change will be professionally. I consider the arts as my salvation as well and cannot imagine working in any other field but for many years I had to work a job that wasn't satisfying in order to support my addiction to my art. I do believe that you belong in the arts and that you are talented and will eventually make your way and be successful. However, if you must take on other projects in order to make money do so but try to keep them in the same venue. In other words if you are a painter try to work at a gallery, a musician - try to work at a recording company and so forth. That way you can and will turn your dream into a reality. You are in a high cycle regarding work for the next five years and yes you should be taking the road less traveled or the unusual route. As for love and having a soul mate I am of the belief that we each have at least 11 almost perfect matches on the planet but they are not always that easy to find. In your case I believe you match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces. You have been in a good cycle regarding meeting partners but I believe that you have also been going through a very self-deceptive period when it comes to what you want. Although this period can also contribute to your creativity it can also cause sorrow at a personal level. This has counteracted your chance to take advantage of the opportunity to meet the right persona. You will be in a high love cycle again beginning this time next year. My suggestion to you is to focus on work and developing what you want to do and by the time next fall approaches you will be in a much position to meet people who are likely to have similar interests. This will be when you can find love. You have a great chart that has gone through several years of confusion regarding your personal life. Don't be so hard on yourself. You will find love and you will reach your goals as long as you do so at the right time.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I know I've met my soul mate, but we keep having conflicts that end with me not wanting to deal with him. He's a Taurus born May 4, 1971 and I'm a Cancer born June 25, 1962. Nine months ago he came back into my life after a 5-year separation, and I believed he wanted a second chance and that he truly loved me. His actions say otherwise when it comes to my feelings. I've gone out of my way, once again, to make sure he is happy, comfortable, and to give all the support he needs. He's done nothing for me and he makes me feel that he has taken advantage of me again and only cares about himself.
I've just recently asked him to leave, because he had hurt my feelings again and that was the last straw for me. I miss him desperately, but I don't know if it's my self-destructive behavior that won't completely let go! I don't want to go through this back and forth emotional roller coaster with him forever. Am I lying to myself? My Cancer logic is slipping away...
Destined
Dear Destined
The comparison does lack some qualities that I would like to see and deception and disillusionment are present in areas of your chart that deal with the home and chores that you share with one another. The unfortunate thing is that once you do too much for someone it is hard to back off and stop doing without causing problems in the relationship. This person is taking advantage of you but you have allowed it to happen. Your chart indicates that you do have problems when it comes to relationships. Your natal Saturn opposite your natal Venus both adversely aspected by your natal Neptune can make it difficult for you to choose properly. It is important for you to have an astrological comparison done before you give your heart to someone. You are in a high cycle for romance right now and will also be during the first half of next year. It is important for you to move on and free yourself of this man who has little to offer you but grief. Keep in mind that as long as he is in your life it will be difficult to take advantage of the opportunities you have for meeting someone new. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Libra, Sagittarius and Aquarius.
Eugenia
