We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Cannot control myself

Dear Eugenia,

I admire the members who receive replies from you. I have sent you numerous letters and got no reply. I cannot solve the problem in my relationship and that has almost driven me crazy.

I like a male friend who frequently called me in the past. When we were in a group of friends, he always talked with me. At that time, I liked someone else so I didn't show affection to him. But recently, I find that I love him and cannot control myself. I know that he has a girl he likes. I didn't care about this in the past, but now I feel jealous when he talks about her. Every time we go out, we go out with a few friends. I feel unhappy if he does not talk to me or if he talks to someone else. I always become angry because of him. He seems not to care whether I am feeling unhappy or angry. He doesn't call me as frequent as before. Is he selfish? Why did he show concern for me in the past? Now I love him but it seems that something has happened to him. Why? If someone tells me that he doesn't have any special feeling to me, I will certainly go to die. I cannot control myself any more. Can I tell him about my feeling?

He was born in November 7, 1984 at 10:38pm, I was born March 19, 1985, at 4 AM.

Oyster

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Dear Oyster

The comparison was good but the timing might be poor for both of you right now. Instead you should be focusing on school and your future professional direction this year. You and your friend will both be in a good high cycle where love is concerned beginning this time next year and providing that neither one of you is involved with someone else it may be the perfect time to get together. As for now build on the friendship. Don't be obvious about the way you feel. Even better start to pay more attention to some of the other guys you hang out with. Who knows you may just fall in love with someone else. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra, Scorpio, Sagittarius, Aquarius and Pisces. Your chart indicates that you will have plenty of opportunities for love and that you will not end up all alone.

Eugenia

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Article: A State of Flux

Dear Eugenia,

I have this wonderful friend in my life that I share so much with. We travel together, make art, shop, talk for hours, go on midnight adventures, love the same food, find each other hilarious, hug every time we say goodbye, and can't spend two days apart. I haven't had a man in my life, long term, for over three years. This guy seems to have found his way into my life, and my heart, but is it more than friendship? What are the possibilities for us? My birthday is Feb 12/76 (4:15pm), his is June 27/75 (4:15am). I was told that my moon is Cancer (his sun), and his moon is Aquarius (my sun). Is that right? What does that mean for us? We both seem to be in a state of flux right now. Will we still be close over the next year? Thank you for all your insights.

Hopeful Girl

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Dear Hopeful Girl

The comparison does show a definite admiration between the two of you. I am a big believer that you have to be friends before you become lovers. That doesn't mean that you won't have chemistry. The stronger the chemistry is the more important it is to go slow and build the friendship first. In your particular case you do have your Moon in Cancer and he does have his Moon in Aquarius and this is a start. The problem I feel that you are facing is that even though he was born under the warm Cancer sign he has a few elements in his chart that tell me he is not going to want to settle down at a young age. If for some reason he does I fear it won't be lasting. He is not always honest with himself or with his partners and this can lead to problems. You are best to remain friends for now. He is going through changes this summer as well as throughout next year and it would be sad if you jumped into a hot intimate relationship only to lose the friendship that you both enjoy. He is going to have to be the one to make the move and if he should do so especially over the course of the next year I think that it will end in disappointment. As for you, you are in a high cycle where love is concerned until the end of January. Therefore, don't miss out on opportunities with other potential partners because you only have eyes for your friend. Get out and meet like-minded people. You match up to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Capricorn and Pisces.

Eugenia

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Article: A Major Problem

Dear Eugenia,

You must be busy replying to so many letters to those people who need your help.

My life condition at the moment is really hectic. I'm a 25 year old male born May 25, 1976, at 11:40 PM, who just broke up with his girlfriend, and very sad about it. Meanwhile, I am also confused about my future. I've been thinking I have been lucky throughout my life. However, as I get older, so many bad things continuously happen. For example, condition at home is not stable. I'd like to continue my studying but I don't put enough into it. I'd like to transfer to a better university. Then I will try my best. I don't know what kind of job will suit me nor do I know what I want to major in. These days, I don't feel like living. I'd like to make a success so that I can help my parents'...will I get accepted?? What kind of major should I take? I'd like to hear your advice Eugenia ...any suggestion will do.

Lost

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Dear Lost

I understand your quandary however your chart indicates that you will continue to be confused regarding your educational pursuits. You have had transiting Neptune adversely aspected to your natal Moon, Mars, Saturn and Uranus in an area that deals with education for some time now and unfortunately it will remain there until the end of 2001. This can also be what has caused your lack of trying to do well scholastically. Now this doesn?t mean that you should forget about trying or that you should quit school. What it does mean is that you may change your mind several times throughout this period regarding your future direction. My suggestion is that you do one of two things. Continue to study general courses that will leave you as much maneuverability as possible so that when you do decide what you want to major in you will not have to back track. Or, you may want to take some time out and get a job. That way you can help your parents financially and get a better idea regarding what direction in life you would eventually like to pursue. According to your chart you show abilities where communications, teaching, horticulture, sales and the travel industry are concerned. Regarding love you are in a high cycle the rest of this year and into next so don?t despair. You will be back in love before you know it. You match up well to those born under the signs Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces.

Eugenia

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