We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
This is the first time that I read you letters to the members who have troubles. I am now facing a question and wish you could advise me how to make my choice.
I broke up with my first boyfriend about two months ago. Soon after, I knew a guy (Paul) from the internet. He told me that he wanted me to be his girlfriend after we talked over the phone for the first time. I knew that he has just broken up with his girl friend. I didn't believe in him.
It has been one month now. We have never seen each other, but I found that I do like him. I feel that he cares and supports me, but I am afraid that we haven't built up any foundation in this relationship. I told him that I didn't want to fall in love so soon. And he said he would wait for me.
I met an ex-colleague Sam today. We knew each other when I took up a temporary job. He had a first sight love feeling towards me in the past, but I was shy to accept him. (I am not a confident girl.) After I finished my temporary job, we both went back to school and did not contact each other any more. Three months later, he called me saying that he loved me. I didn't give him a definite answer although I gradually felt that I also liked him. After a while, he didn't call me but I always think of him. I met him again today and told him that I would call him. I prepared to tell him all my feelings.
On the other hand, Paul moves me. I feel that Paul treats me better than Sam, but I have no confidence in someone known from the internet. I am afraid that I will make a wrong choice. Eugenia, can you tell me who suits me better?
Here are their birth information: Paul: January 10, 1981 about 1am, Sam: March 4, 1983 (don't know his birth time), myself June 5, 1983, at 1:55 AM
Best regards.
Can't decide
Dear Can't decide
There is no contest; you match up much better to Paul. The only problem with your relationship with him is that there is some emotional deception regarding involvements with other people. In other words one or both of you may also have someone else that you are talking to. As in your case it would be Sam. I think that you should safely meet with Paul. Take a friend along or make arrangements to meet for tea somewhere that you feel comfortable. I don't believe that you have anything to fear but it's always good to be on the safe side. As for Sam well the comparison wasn't that great. I believe that you are attracted to one another but you don't appear to have as much in common as you and Paul. You will be in a high cycle regarding love and romance for the next twelve months so don't be too quick to get into a serious relationship. You will have plenty of opportunities to meet potential partners. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Libra, Capricorn and Aquarius.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I know it's the third time I'm writing this letter and I hope I really don't disturb you but I want to know if the relationship I have with a good friend of mine is going to last. His birthday is 6 December 1981, 15:30 pm and mine is October 9, 1980, at 11:50 am. We have been friends since we were 6 years old and lately, he showed me that he wants something more than friendship. I wasn't in love with him but I had very strong feelings for him and so we had a relationship for a year. I am sad because it didn't work since I couldn't open up to him; I felt he didn't let me. Now he holds grudges because I asked him to break up because I thought that that was better for him and for me. I want to make things work again because I think that if we both want it we can make it work although it seems difficult and we hurt each other sometimes. I really don't want to lose him and I'm ready to fight for our relationship. So do you think it will work? Is it worth trying for? Please tell me because it's really very important to me.
Libra
Dear Libra
The comparison with your Sagittarius friend was really quite good. I believe however that you both need more time. You obviously hurt his feelings and he is definitely a very proud man. You must get your friendship back on track first and then let nature take it's coarse. You will both be in a better position to readdress your relationship in 2004/2005. Considering you've known each other since you were kids you should be able to talk things through and get your priorities straight regarding the way you feel about one another at that time. Physically and mentally you match up well but emotionally there are some problems. Your inability to open up especially regarding the way you feel about being intimate with him must be dealt with and the only way that will happen is if you communicate. I do believe however that the timing has not been right for this relationship as of yet and that if you wait for another year you will both be in a much better frame of mind to deal with the problems that you face.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I am very confused and concerned about my current relationship. I was born 11-30-77 at 11:38am and my boyfriend was born 12-14-75 at 1:08pm. We have a very strong physical attraction for one another, but our fights are often and our comments are brutal. He has a very quick and explosive temper, but treats me very well otherwise. He is not jealous or controlling, but very sensitive. What type of connection do we have that makes us so inseparable? We cannot spend more than two days without one another, almost as if we are the same person. We are both becoming very dependent on each other and neither of us have ever had that type of personality. We both were "bachelors" of the zodiac breaking hearts left and right and partying all the time until we met each other. Is this relationship healthy? What is it about our signs that have made us completely different people enthralled by each other? But almost TOO passionate?
Two Archers
I like same sign relationships. I believe however that you are both going through the rush of love and that the physical connection is so powerful that neither one of you can get past it at the moment. The rest of the comparison isn't too bad. I feel that you both tend to evade issues and neglect to be completely honest with one another. The fact that you fight a lot doesn't surprise me either. It isn't unusual for people to point a finger at their partner especially if they themselves are guilty of similar things. Your Sagittarius partner, like yourself, will always be a bachelor even if you live together, get married and so on. Over the course of the next two years you will both experience a need to settle down and this could help the relationship progress positively. Keep in mind however that it is impossible to curtail, confine or restrict an Archer without causing problems. Your Sagittarius partner does have a temper and that should concern you. I believe that he is intense and that you can bring out the worst in him when it comes to arguments. The combination between the two of you can become quite volatile at times. Take your time and try to build a closer friendship if you really want this union to last.
Eugenia
