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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Timing Confused

Dear Eugenia:

I have to travel overseas to the U.K. to scatter my mother's ashes. I have decided to make this trip late September of this year. As there were many family conflicts at her funeral and has resulted in only some of her family taking part in this farewell. Would you please advise me if this is the best time to do it as there are already some differences of opinions on the timing but as there are so many people, I can't get the timing to accommodate everyone. I want this to be as pleasant as possible for everyone with no more family squabbles. I was the one my mother asked to carry this wish out for her and also I am the only one traveling from overseas. Do you think the timing is okay? I was born July 1, 1949, at 1:20 AM.

Thanking you in anticipation.

Confused

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Dear Confused

Stop trying to please everyone else. You are the one doing the traveling and all the work to pull this off for your deceased mother. You have been through enough already. Late September is just as good a time as any if you are concerned about your relatives. You will never please them all regardless of the time you choose to scatter your mother's ashes. If you leave it until October you will be dealing with Mercury retrograde and that could create some problems. If you go the last week of September you are moving through better times but I do feel that fatigue and minor ailments may be present. If you leave it until around the middle of November you should find it a little less tiring and stressful.

Eugenia

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Article: Cancer's Romantic Profile

Dear Eugenia,

My sun sign is in Cancer, I was born July 7, 1979, at 12:15 AM, and I've read enough on astrology to know that I should be compatible with both Virgo and Pisces. My past two relationships were with each, and although lengthy, they proved difficult.I think it may have something to do with my Aries rising. I'm afraid the aggressive nature so common in the ram is a bit intimidating, especially when the aggressor is female. My last fling was with an Aries male, and although at first there were sparks, it quickly diminished. I realize that other aspects affect astrological matchmaking, but I'd like to get your opinion on the matter. What male sign can handle both the Aries stubbornness, and the crab's ultra-sensitivity? My moon is in Sagittarius.

Thank you.
Aggressive Crab

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Dear Aggressive Crab

Actually in your particular case the Sun sign match up doesn't work all that well. Normally you should get along well with both Virgo and Scorpio. However, the sign Scorpio falls in an area of your chart that deals with dead end projects so it's unlikely to work. To add to this your natal Jupiter and Mercury are in the sign Leo adversely aspected to the sign Scorpio. The sign Virgo falls in an area that deals with work not personal matters such as relationships plus you have your natal Mars in Gemini and your natal Neptune in Sagittarius and that would clearly play havoc with a strong Virgo. Having your natal Sun in the 4th house adversely aspected to your natal Pluto in the 7th leads me to believe that you will have difficulty with relationships. Now that doesn't mean that you can't have a happy union. Especially with your natal Moon, Neptune, Jupiter and Mercury well aspected to the Pluto in your 7th but it does mean that you will have to choose your partner wisely and realize that relationships don't just happen, they require work, dedication, devotion and perseverance. You match up well to those born under the signs, Cancer, Libra, Capricorn and Aquarius. I suggest that you always run a comparison before you decide to get serious and intimate with someone. Although a person can be born under one of these signs it does not mean that they will have a lot of their natal planets in that sign and this could result in difficulties once again.

Eugenia

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Article: Shady Characters

Dear Eugenia,

I am very concerned about my relationship with my daughter born on June 12, 1987 at 8:00 am. I was born on Sept 26, 1964 at 9:20 am. My daughter has been continually endangering herself for the past year and I am greatly concerned about her future, her relationship with me, her siblings and her estranged father. She has runaway from home repeatedly and her education is already jeopardized.Will we maintain the right direction for family life, getting her back to school and enjoying her childhood or must I be resigned to her making such drastic choices so early in her short life? My daughter and I are beginning to open up the doors to a strong bonding relationship but is it enough too late. Should I consider letting her be placed with family relatives or fight, as I have been to keep us together? I want my daughter to be strong where these shady characters don't play an influence in any further decisions she makes for herself but if a major part of the problem is me then I will do what is best for all of us. I realize you don't have a crystal ball but is there something in our charts that may help us understand, allow me to focus on some positive direction.

Out the door with negative

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Dear Out the door with negative

The problem isn't you. You actually have quite a nice connection to your daughter but that isn't always enough. You can't be with her every waking moment and unfortunately she is making some poor choices for herself that I fear will get worse before they get better. The influences around her that you are referring to will continue over the better part of the next couple of years. She is very sensitive and can be swayed easily. Her chart also indicates moodiness as well and this can spark all sorts of stupid decisions. I don't know that moving her out will do the trick either. She will attract poor company no matter where she's living. Your best bet is probably to build as close a bond as possible with her and hope that you can instill some of your wisdom in her so that she can attempt to make better choices for herself. Sending her to a different school might help. An all girls private school may be the answer if there is one in your area.

Eugenia

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