We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Family Matter

Dear Eugenia,

Many years ago I consulted an astrologer about my chances of marrying happily, and he replied, "Do you really want to know?" He seemed so evasive and reluctant that I didn't push it. A year or two later I met my husband (9/17/53) and we have been together for nearly fifteen years. I have since learned a little about astrology and decided that the reason the astrologer was so reticent is that I have Neptune in Scorpio in the seventh house. I think this has manifested mostly in my husband's struggles with alcohol; about three years ago he finally made a major effort and got his drinking under control. Unfortunately at the same time-- I wonder if it was the catalyst-- I reconnected with an old friend (11/11/61) who is in the same line of creative work I am. Although this relationship upset my husband I did not give it up. I realize that this person is a friend and not a suitable candidate for husband/father (we have three children) but I cannot convince my husband that is the case, even though I have been faithful to him and the other relationship is somewhat tenuous. Is it that my husband is being super controlling or am I not being honest? If I give up my friend will my husband go back to drinking? The astrology books are not very reassuring on the Neptune in the seventh house thing, so I wonder if I am stuck with relationship weirdness no matter what, or if I would just be better off being a nun. My birthday is 4/4/65, at 6 AM.

Thank you--

"Doomed by Neptune"

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Dear "Doomed by Neptune"

First of all your Neptune may be in your seventh house but it is well aspected to your natal Saturn and Pluto and yes it does oppose your Moon and Jupiter as well but don't lose sight of the fact that the Moon is well aspsected to both Saturn and Pluto as well. This should give you an overall positive skew on your relationship capability. Now you are right regarding partners being of an escapist nature but that doesn't mean that you can't have a successful relationship and that your current partner can't pull his act together. This set up can be highly creative sexually if that's where the energy is put and obviously you and your husband did just that, the result being your three children. With your Neptune Jupiter opposition and of course Jupiter being in your first house you can tend to overreact a bit and may not be totally honest with yourself or your partner at an emotional level. I feel that your past acquaintance is really not the issue as you do not match up to him well. As a matter of fact it is more like a sister brother connection and a strained one at that. Your Scorpio friend falls in an area of your chart that deals with dead end projects. As for your husband your comparison was okay but sorrow does prevail especially with regard to his drinking problem. With his natal Neptune in an adverse position to his natal Uranus I believe that he could fall off the wagon from time to time. However, it probably won't be the result of your friendship with your Scorpio friend. Your Scorpio however should only be someone that you deal with as a direct result of work and nothing more. If you want your marriage to work you and your husband will have to work together in order to keep his problem under control. If he can't handle it and continually gets inebriated you will have to make a decision based on what's best for you and your children. Your husband falls in an area of your chart that deals with children and partying and that is probably how things started out some 15 years ago however times have changed and he's going to have to pull up his socks or expect to lose his family.

Eugenia

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Article: Delving too Deeply

Respected Eugenia,

I am a Sagittarius (born on 25th November, 1956 at 19hrs 50min. One and half months ago I came across a girl (about 24 yr. old) in the bus I travel regularly to reach my office. I am deeply attracted to her. I have come across a number of beautiful girls in my life but none could touch my heart like that. I took it as a minor disturbance and felt that I would be normal soon.

SHE SMILES AT ME AT THE FIRST LOOK OF THE DAY AND IGNORES ME THEREAFTER TILL NEXT DAY.

We get down from the bus at the same stop. She follows her own route as if no one is around to notice. Gradually, I developed a strong desire to talk to her and make a proposal for friendship (? I don't know). She could read my feelings through my eyes (I believe) and completely ignored me for a week but continued the usual practice of smile and ignore. I am just not getting any chance; I could not dare to talk to her. I BELIEVE I WOULD BE EASED OF THE MENTAL PRESSURE ONCE I TALK TO HER IRRESPECTIVE OF THE OUTCOME FROM THE DISCUSSION. One day, I followed her on getting down from the bus in order to know what is on her mind.

She walked at an unusually brisk pace on noticing me following her. After a while, she turned back, looked at me and almost ran away.

I COULD CLEARLY SEE FEAR IN HER FACE and thus the pressure further built upon in me.THE PROBELM IS THAT I find it impossible to keep my mind off of her. Since my efforts express myself and to know her ideas failed, I became restless and reckless towards my duties at office and at home. Though I know, it is extremely dangerous for my survival in this materialistic world, I find it impossible to concentrate on my work. My best efforts to keep her away from my mind have failed. I planned to take a different bus in order to avoid her but as the day falls on I fall back, become weak and take the same bus.

In Asia the relationship between opposite sexes are sensitive and restricted. I fear loss of prestige, social boycott and thrashing if I chase (?) her.

I am married. I am fortunate to have a very caring and beautiful wife.

We are blessed with two cute kids. I have no regrets at domestic life. Everything at home is cordial and I love my wife very much. That girl is married too and I don't know about her married life

AFTERALL WHY SHOULD SHE SMILE AT ME WHEN SHE DOES NOT LIKE TO TALK AND FEARS AS I APPROACH HER?

What is going to happen? I am going insane. Please advice ASTROLOGICALLY.

Going Insane

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Dear going Insane

Not knowing when this young female was born I can't tell you what she is thinking but by looking at your chart I do know how confused and mixed up you are right now. Your chart indicates that you are reading far too much into her smiles. You are going through a period that indicates sorrow where love and romance are concerned. It represents one-sided romantic infatuations and these can only lead to depression. You need to pull yourself together and get on with your life. If you follow your desires you will end up in trouble and that might not only be with her but with your family and the authorities as well. You must back off and focus on what's important, your wife, your children and your job.

Eugenia

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Article: Independence

Dear Eugenia,

I am a 43-year-old woman born February 24, 1957, at 3:45 AM, and my parent's are still trying to tell me how to run my life. They broke up my last marriage of 13 years, Now I am remarried again, and they don't like the husband I have now. They have a lot of money they inherited, and they hang this over my head all the time. Saying if you don't do what we say we will take you out of our will. I think they are being so foolish, they act like children. I am very happy with the marriage I have now, but afraid they will try to break us up also. Why do they act this way? Should I stay away from them? Why do they want so much control? They have never helped me in anyway I have always taken care of my children and myself. So what's the deal?

Controlling Parents

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Dear Controlling Parents

You didn't submit your parents or your husbands birth data so I will have to base my answer on your chart alone. From what I can see you are an independent person who should not be in this position. Others can only control you if you allow it to happen. Tell your parents that you don't care about the money, instead you care about your immediate family and you wish that they would accept you and your loved ones for who you are. Unfortunately, it is not up to you to make the adjustment so you will have to leave it in their hands to do so. Until that time keep your distance.

Eugenia

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