We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
Please help me. From January 1999 to January of this year, I had a relationship with my teacher who was born 24/11/1960, I was born 09/08/1983. The relationship was secret for obvious reasons, but then one night, my best friend told me that for the last two years he had been coming on to her, buying her things, and generally making her uncomfortable. I told her my secret as well and since then my life has been awful. I was really depressed and after a lot of soul searching I decided, with my friend, to tell our headmaster and get him thrown out of school so that I could get on with my life. Well, we told the head and a lot of things have happened that I didn't want to. Firstly, he made me tell my parents, secondly, I had to speak to social services, and thirdly, I had to speak to the police. The police want me to give a statement so that they can arrest him and hopefully sendhim to prison. I told them that I didn't think it would be worth it, but they said I had to think of all the other girls if I didn't. Anyway, I was adamant that there hadn't been any other girls in his past, nor would there be in his future, so I decided not to give a statement. However, today I found out that in his previous school, somebody accused him of doing something (which he didn't do, he says) and now I am so confused. My question is, should I make a statement and run the risk of ruining his life, or should I let it go, and run the risk of him doing this to somebody else?
Please help me, I don't know who else to turn to...
A Leo Lost
Dear A Leo Lost
Dear Leo Lost
You need to ask yourself some serious questions regarding this incident. Your chart indicates that you weren't just an innocent victim, that perhaps you had an attraction to this man as well. That doesn't make it right for him to take advantage of you considering your age and vulnerability but there is also the possibility that you may be exaggerating just a little regarding what he was up to. If you feel that he was the only one flirting and caring on by all means do what you can to make sure that this will never happen to another student. However if you were just as much to blame you must tell the whole truth and let the authorities make the decision regarding his future. He will probably not be allowed to teach if he has been accused in the past. I believe that he is capable of twisting the truth and that he probably did do what he was accused of in the past. The unfortunate thing is that you probably told your friend partly because you were feeling a little jealous that he would pay attention to someone else. I believe that you were just as caught up in this whole affair as he was. It's time to tell the truth so that you all can get on with your lives.
Hi Eugenia...
I sent you an email last spring, but I haven't received your reply.
I was born on February 3, 1977 (10:40 pm) and the guy whom I want to talk about was born in August 29, 1974 (2:00 am) In fact, we are not getting along very well recently. I told him that I wanted to break up with him but he didn't let me go. He told me that his goal in life is to live with me and he loves me. But I feel that he is obsessive or greedy. A few days ago, he yelled at me and even beat me. I got bruises all over my body.
I love someone else now. He was born in Feb 11, 1971 (5 am). I like him very much and want to marry him. But my boyfriend doesn't let me go.
I want to marry the second guy next year. Do you think it's okay? Will the first guy disturb my life in the future? Please give me an advice.
Nowhere to Turn
Dear No Where to Turn
You need to back up and take a look at what you are putting up with. I believe that you are leaning toward your Aquarius friend because he doesn't abuse you. He is in fact better for you then your Virgo partner but you need time to be on your own in order to know what your true feelings are. I believe that you should end your current relationship with your Virgo immediately. Move if you have to in order to get away from his abusiveness. This time next year (July/August) you will be in a high cycle regarding love and romance and you should wait until that time before you make a decision to be with your Aquarius partner. You may just meet someone new during that time that will be really good to you and for you. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Sagittarius and Aquarius.
Eugenia
Dear Ms. Last
I am almost embarrassed to ask for advice. Since I don't like to tell too much information about myself, I hope I can phrase the question right. I have a hard time in terms of my relationship with men. On one hand I want to love and be loved very deeply. It is a very spiritual connection that I crave. On the other hand, as soon as I am in a relationship, I feel suffocated, like the type of relationship society deems proper does not fit my personality. Is it possible for me to find someone who can give me the emotional intensity that I crave with the physical freedom I feel I need? Or are these two things so opposite that I must choose one way to be? I really need to know if I must make a choice, or if I should keep on looking. I am interested in someone right now mainly due to his personal integrity. I don't think he knows that he has caught my attention just yet and I am reluctant to pursue anything right now due to my conflicting needs in a relationship. I wouldn't want to hurt anyone. I was born 10/26/68 at 11:22 pm and he was born 05/06/61 at 4:15 am.
Embarrassed
Dear Embarrassed
There are lots of people who want to have their cake and eat it too. The main concern is honesty. The comparison with your Taurus friend was quite favorable and it didn't really show any major sign of sorrow therefore I see no reason not to pursue him unless of course you are also working with him professionally. I suggest that should you decide to move forward that you are right up front about your desires and needs so that you give him the choice to bow out if he can't handle the freedom you require. I don't believe that you can turn off a switch and become totally monogamous if that isn't the way you are. Therefore you are best to search openly and honestly for someone who shares your values and sexual needs. Don't be embarrassed; lots of people feel the same way you do. You are in a high cycle regarding love however I must stress that you should not mix business with pleasure.
Eugenia
