We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: From Scorpio torn

Dear Eugenia,

I have written once with no response I know you are a very busy person and God bless you but I need your help if you can. About four years ago I was working for this accounting firm and one day I saw a new co-worker and I fell hard I mean the moon and stars the WORKS!! remind you I'm a married woman but I couldn't stop thinking about him and at the time I was going through some difficult times in my marriage. Me and this guy flirted a lot but didn't take it any further but I was the one who ended up hurt and confused because I had strong feelings for him. I just want to know why did this happen to me because at the time I wasn't looking for this and after all this time I still have him on my mind. I was born November 5, 1963 at 9:45 a.m. He was born on March 15, 1963 time unknown and my husband was born on October 12, 1966 time unknown. I want to know was this a silly infatuation or was I in love with this man. I appreciate any answer you can give me.

Scorpio torn

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Dear Scorpio torn

It is obvious why you were attracted to your Pisces friend and why your marriage wasn't doing too well. You and your husband didn't have a bad comparison however it did lack substance. It is almost as if you just have nothing in common putting a strain on the relationship. The comparison with your Pisces friend connected on a lot more levels however there was also a major sign of sorrow and this is usually an indication that it won't work or that it will be hurtful. Your chart indicates that you have been going through your own turmoil that has resulted in some depression and anxiety at work as well as with your fellow co-workers. You have also been overreacting where your relationships are concerned resulting in your most recent infatuation. You are in a high cycle regarding love and secret affairs and will continue to be on and off over this next year. I suggest that you tread carefully. It is never wise to start a relationship if you are still attached to someone else. Your marriage is coming into a make it or break it period and it will be important that you reevaluate what you really want out of life. Your comparison with your husband although it lacks on some levels is workable if you communicate and find some common ground. It won't be the most passionate or exciting but it can work. The relationship with your Pisces will probably bring you more sorrow but it will be more exciting and volatile. You are walking a fine line, if you find yourself pursuing your Pisces once again or you discover that you are becoming infatuated with other men as well you should get some counseling that will help you sort through your problems.

Eugenia

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Article: The Grass is Greener

Dear Eugenia,

Thank you in advance for responding and offering this wonderful website. My troubles for the past two years have been in regards to my partner. I am a Leo (11/08/76); he is a Libra (08/10/75). We met each other while quite young, and have managed to maintain a seven-year relationship through the worst of events. Since 2000 however, I have been drifting away from him, wanting more out of life and out of the relationship -things he does not believe he can deliver. I love him dearly, but I am confused as to whether or not this relationship has outlived its usefulness or if I am searching for qualities only found in a "dream-man"? The strain between us has become unbearable. My heart tells me one thing, my head says otherwise. What can be done?

Confused

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Dear Confused

Unfortunately I have to admit that you are in a brother sister type relationship right now and it is time to move on. You are feeling depressed and stressed about this because transiting Saturn is adversely aspecting your natal Venus and you know within your heart that it is time to move on. It is never easy to leave someone you care about but you can't stay for the wrong reasons either. Set him free. You are like birds of a feather but you both need someone different. Hopefully you will be able to put this behind you and save the friendship for that is what this union should have been all along.

Eugenia

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Article: From Stay or Leave

Hi Eugenia

My husband has a drinking problem. He has been able to control this problem for the past 5-6 years. Recently he has begun drinking again and there is starting to be the same kind of mental abuse as he displayed in the past. I am at the age where I do not feel I can repeat and repeat this sort of abuse and lifestyle. Money is also becoming an issue as he continues to drink. He continues to threaten to leave and I am at the point where if not for my financial position, I would put the entire relationship behind me and move on alone. Is this a good idea?.......Please help, he is born July 10, 1951 at 6:30 a.m. and I April 25, 1944, at 10 a.m.

Stay or Leave

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Dear Stay or Leave

I believe that your husband will become worse before he becomes better. The next year and a half will be filled with all sorts of limitations for him regarding health, authority figures, dealing with institutions and so forth. I feel that the past couple of years you have taken the brunt of his obvious lack of control and abuse and now is the time to give him an ultimatum. Should he leave he will go down hill over the course of the next couple of years. Should he seek help it will take him the next couple of years to reform. As for you I feel that the time for change is fast approaching. That you should be seeking help from women's groups and co-dependent organizations in order to get back on your feet and away from him. Your comparison did indicate that there has been love in the past with this man but that was probably a long time ago. There is also sorrow especially where substance abuse is concerned and because of this I feel that even if he does seek help that there will always be the potential for him to slip over and over again. I do not believe that you will ever be able to fully put his abuse behind you and that your reason for staying with this man has more to do with fear of being alone and lack of funds. Your chart indicates that you are youthful and entertaining and that you will be okay if you can only get yourself out of this situation. By all means - if he wants to leave let him go.

Eugenia

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