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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
Please help me. From January 1999 to January of this year, I had a relationship with my teacher who was born 24/11/1960, I was born 09/08/1983. The relationship was secret for obvious reasons, but then one night, my best friend told me that for the last two years he had been coming on to her, buying her things, and generally making her uncomfortable. I told her my secret as well and since then my life has been awful. I was really depressed and after a lot of soul searching I decided, with my friend, to tell our headmaster and get him thrown out of school so that I could get on with my life. Well, we told the head and a lot of things have happened that I didn't want to. Firstly, he made me tell my parents, secondly, I had to speak to social services, and thirdly, I had to speak to the police. The police want me to give a statement so that they can arrest him and hopefully sendhim to prison. I told them that I didn't think it would be worth it, but they said I had to think of all the other girls if I didn't. Anyway, I was adamant that there hadn't been any other girls in his past, nor would there be in his future, so I decided not to give a statement. However, today I found out that in his previous school, somebody accused him of doing something (which he didn't do, he says) and now I am so confused. My question is, should I make a statement and run the risk of ruining his life, or should I let it go, and run the risk of him doing this to somebody else?
Please help me, I don't know who else to turn to...
A Leo Lost
Dear A Leo Lost
Dear Leo Lost
You need to ask yourself some serious questions regarding this incident. Your chart indicates that you weren't just an innocent victim, that perhaps you had an attraction to this man as well. That doesn't make it right for him to take advantage of you considering your age and vulnerability but there is also the possibility that you may be exaggerating just a little regarding what he was up to. If you feel that he was the only one flirting and caring on by all means do what you can to make sure that this will never happen to another student. However if you were just as much to blame you must tell the whole truth and let the authorities make the decision regarding his future. He will probably not be allowed to teach if he has been accused in the past. I believe that he is capable of twisting the truth and that he probably did do what he was accused of in the past. The unfortunate thing is that you probably told your friend partly because you were feeling a little jealous that he would pay attention to someone else. I believe that you were just as caught up in this whole affair as he was. It's time to tell the truth so that you all can get on with your lives.
Hi Eugenia,
I have been a creative person all my life and have a career as a Graphic Artist, but over the past few years my mind began to flow over with ideas for film and television projects. I acted in a friend's short film and have been teaching myself the craft of writing stories for a few years now. I am torn because my identity has always been as a Graphic Artist, but I see myself as a writer. Do you see anything in my chart that would support my making a career change in the near future?
Gemini
Hi Gemini
Yes I do see career change. It has actually been in your chart since the spring of 2003 and isn't about to move off until the end of this decade so get used to it. Your chart does indicate that you are highly creative and should work in a field that allows you to explore many different creative venues. In this day and age people change career direction more often and so you shouldn't be so worried about it. You can always fall back on graphic design or even keep working in that field while you delve into the performing arts and writing. My concern with writing is that although you do have your natal Mercury well aspected to your natal Pluto it does fall in an area of your chart that can sometimes make it difficult for you to get your work (writing) into the mainstream where it can be profitable for you. On the other hand you also have quite a build up of planets in an area of your chart that deals with communication and publishing so I believe that with a little extra effort and good timing you may be able to push your work into the hands of someone who can help you get ahead. You have been going through a transit that can help you with this the past couple of years and you did manage to work in the film and television industry during that time however that transit has moved on for now. Another transit similar will activate again in about four years but that doesn't mean you shouldn't start working in that direction now. After all the more prep work or writing you aspire to between now and that time the more polished your work will be as well as the more sellable when that transit moves into your chart. My suggestion to you is to continue your current work and do your writing on the side with your goal being to start trying to sell it in 2008/2009.
Eugenia
Respected Eugenia,
I am a Sagittarius (born on 25th November, 1956 at 19hrs 50min. One and half months ago I came across a girl (about 24 yr. old) in the bus I travel regularly to reach my office. I am deeply attracted to her. I have come across a number of beautiful girls in my life but none could touch my heart like that. I took it as a minor disturbance and felt that I would be normal soon.
SHE SMILES AT ME AT THE FIRST LOOK OF THE DAY AND IGNORES ME THEREAFTER TILL NEXT DAY.
We get down from the bus at the same stop. She follows her own route as if no one is around to notice. Gradually, I developed a strong desire to talk to her and make a proposal for friendship (? I don't know). She could read my feelings through my eyes (I believe) and completely ignored me for a week but continued the usual practice of smile and ignore. I am just not getting any chance; I could not dare to talk to her. I BELIEVE I WOULD BE EASED OF THE MENTAL PRESSURE ONCE I TALK TO HER IRRESPECTIVE OF THE OUTCOME FROM THE DISCUSSION. One day, I followed her on getting down from the bus in order to know what is on her mind.
She walked at an unusually brisk pace on noticing me following her. After a while, she turned back, looked at me and almost ran away.
I COULD CLEARLY SEE FEAR IN HER FACE and thus the pressure further built upon in me.THE PROBELM IS THAT I find it impossible to keep my mind off of her. Since my efforts express myself and to know her ideas failed, I became restless and reckless towards my duties at office and at home. Though I know, it is extremely dangerous for my survival in this materialistic world, I find it impossible to concentrate on my work. My best efforts to keep her away from my mind have failed. I planned to take a different bus in order to avoid her but as the day falls on I fall back, become weak and take the same bus.
In Asia the relationship between opposite sexes are sensitive and restricted. I fear loss of prestige, social boycott and thrashing if I chase (?) her.
I am married. I am fortunate to have a very caring and beautiful wife.
We are blessed with two cute kids. I have no regrets at domestic life. Everything at home is cordial and I love my wife very much. That girl is married too and I don't know about her married life
AFTERALL WHY SHOULD SHE SMILE AT ME WHEN SHE DOES NOT LIKE TO TALK AND FEARS AS I APPROACH HER?
What is going to happen? I am going insane. Please advice ASTROLOGICALLY.
Going Insane
Dear going Insane
Not knowing when this young female was born I can't tell you what she is thinking but by looking at your chart I do know how confused and mixed up you are right now. Your chart indicates that you are reading far too much into her smiles. You are going through a period that indicates sorrow where love and romance are concerned. It represents one-sided romantic infatuations and these can only lead to depression. You need to pull yourself together and get on with your life. If you follow your desires you will end up in trouble and that might not only be with her but with your family and the authorities as well. You must back off and focus on what's important, your wife, your children and your job.
Eugenia
