We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: From Sagittarius

Hi Eugenia

I met a very special person (February 4, 1969) 4 years ago after having met her at work. Once we talked, we realized we had a lot in common between us and it was amazing how closely the pattern of each of our lives seemed so much alike from our childhood to the present. We knew from the beginning that we could be very good for each other and therefore, we became very close friends almost instantly as though we had known each other all of our lives. I discovered that I could open up to her, like no other person in my life, and tell some of my most intimate feelings and hidden fears that I had carried inside all of my life as she did with me. Ironically, I have always seemed to have the problem of letting myself get too close to people even though I have many friends, they are not intimate friends. As we became closer throughout the 4 years, I have felt myself becoming very scared of getting too close, being hurt and even left behind, without reason, so I in turn distanced myself from her more and more without an explanation. She became less interested in our friendship and it began to unravel for both of us due to the stress of it all. Since December of last year, we have not spoken at all and it has really been a very devastating experience for me. It has changed me as a person in so many ways. I wish very much that I could rekindle our friendship that I miss dearly, but I don't know what would be the right words to say or if we would be better to put this behind and both move on with our lives apart. I was born December 15, 1958 at 8:30 am. Thank you for guidance.

Sagittarius

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Dear Sagittarius

I believe that friendship is the operative word here. The comparison showed nothing more than that. It also revealed that there certainly is some mistrust, disillusionment or possible deception as well. Now that could have to do with the fact that you didn't even give her an explanation when you backed away. I fell that you have two choices and they are to move on and prepare to meet someone else who matches up to you much better physically and mentally or phone her up, be honest about your feelings and ask to resume the friendship. When I say friendship I mean just that. I believe that anything more would lead to trouble. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. If she isn't interested at least you'll know and can move on. You tend to match up to those born under the signs Aries, Cancer, Libra and Aquarius (she is not a very strong Aquarius). It is apparent that you do much better with people who are much older or much younger than yourself. You will be in a high cycle regarding love next year so don't waste too much of your time trying to turn what you have with your Aquarian friend into anything more than a friendship at this point.

Eugenia

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Article: Delving too Deeply

Respected Eugenia,

I am a Sagittarius (born on 25th November, 1956 at 19hrs 50min. One and half months ago I came across a girl (about 24 yr. old) in the bus I travel regularly to reach my office. I am deeply attracted to her. I have come across a number of beautiful girls in my life but none could touch my heart like that. I took it as a minor disturbance and felt that I would be normal soon.

SHE SMILES AT ME AT THE FIRST LOOK OF THE DAY AND IGNORES ME THEREAFTER TILL NEXT DAY.

We get down from the bus at the same stop. She follows her own route as if no one is around to notice. Gradually, I developed a strong desire to talk to her and make a proposal for friendship (? I don't know). She could read my feelings through my eyes (I believe) and completely ignored me for a week but continued the usual practice of smile and ignore. I am just not getting any chance; I could not dare to talk to her. I BELIEVE I WOULD BE EASED OF THE MENTAL PRESSURE ONCE I TALK TO HER IRRESPECTIVE OF THE OUTCOME FROM THE DISCUSSION. One day, I followed her on getting down from the bus in order to know what is on her mind.

She walked at an unusually brisk pace on noticing me following her. After a while, she turned back, looked at me and almost ran away.

I COULD CLEARLY SEE FEAR IN HER FACE and thus the pressure further built upon in me.THE PROBELM IS THAT I find it impossible to keep my mind off of her. Since my efforts express myself and to know her ideas failed, I became restless and reckless towards my duties at office and at home. Though I know, it is extremely dangerous for my survival in this materialistic world, I find it impossible to concentrate on my work. My best efforts to keep her away from my mind have failed. I planned to take a different bus in order to avoid her but as the day falls on I fall back, become weak and take the same bus.

In Asia the relationship between opposite sexes are sensitive and restricted. I fear loss of prestige, social boycott and thrashing if I chase (?) her.

I am married. I am fortunate to have a very caring and beautiful wife.

We are blessed with two cute kids. I have no regrets at domestic life. Everything at home is cordial and I love my wife very much. That girl is married too and I don't know about her married life

AFTERALL WHY SHOULD SHE SMILE AT ME WHEN SHE DOES NOT LIKE TO TALK AND FEARS AS I APPROACH HER?

What is going to happen? I am going insane. Please advice ASTROLOGICALLY.

Going Insane

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Dear going Insane

Not knowing when this young female was born I can't tell you what she is thinking but by looking at your chart I do know how confused and mixed up you are right now. Your chart indicates that you are reading far too much into her smiles. You are going through a period that indicates sorrow where love and romance are concerned. It represents one-sided romantic infatuations and these can only lead to depression. You need to pull yourself together and get on with your life. If you follow your desires you will end up in trouble and that might not only be with her but with your family and the authorities as well. You must back off and focus on what's important, your wife, your children and your job.

Eugenia

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Article: Sexual Discord

Dear Eugenia:

I have been married for six years. For most of that time, our sex life has been practically nonexistent, even though we seem to be quite compatible based on our charts. This is my fault, really, as early on I lost my desire to have sex with him; in fact, I am turned off by his touch. I've never told him this because I don't want to hurt him, but, obviously, the "sex" issue has caused some major discord in our marriage. I have tried to rekindle my passion, but I haven't had any success. I know the problem is not physical, as I often have sexual dreams and fantasize about other men (but I've never cheated). If I am unable to get past this, it most surely will lead to divorce. I was born 11/20/71 at 6:50 a.m., my husband was born 5/6/65, (time unknown). Thank you for your advice.

Passionless Wife

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Dear Passionless Wife

I don?t really see your comparison as being all that great regarding love. It lacks in areas essential to building a happy and loving relationship. It appears to be more like a brother sister connection that is definitely not built on passion. Your chart indicates that you are coming into a period that brings opportunities for you to meet someone who knocks you off your feet. This could lead to a secret affair if you aren?t out of your current situation. I suggest that if you don?t want this to happen and you truly want to try to rekindle your relationship, that you start communicating with your husband honestly about your feelings and let him know what?s lacking in your marriage. I am a believer that any relationship can work if both people are willing to put in the effort. However, unfortunately I have found that in most cases when it doesn?t work there is a lack of communication and it?s often quite one-sided with regards to who puts what into the marriage. In your case I feel that honesty and straightforwardness will be required. Although this may hurt your husbands feelings initially, if you are living in a loveless marriage I think he would agree that getting help or splitting up would be preferable to the nonexistent connection that you have right now.

Eugenia

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