We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Hi Eugenia
I met a very special person (February 4, 1969) 4 years ago after having met her at work. Once we talked, we realized we had a lot in common between us and it was amazing how closely the pattern of each of our lives seemed so much alike from our childhood to the present. We knew from the beginning that we could be very good for each other and therefore, we became very close friends almost instantly as though we had known each other all of our lives. I discovered that I could open up to her, like no other person in my life, and tell some of my most intimate feelings and hidden fears that I had carried inside all of my life as she did with me. Ironically, I have always seemed to have the problem of letting myself get too close to people even though I have many friends, they are not intimate friends. As we became closer throughout the 4 years, I have felt myself becoming very scared of getting too close, being hurt and even left behind, without reason, so I in turn distanced myself from her more and more without an explanation. She became less interested in our friendship and it began to unravel for both of us due to the stress of it all. Since December of last year, we have not spoken at all and it has really been a very devastating experience for me. It has changed me as a person in so many ways. I wish very much that I could rekindle our friendship that I miss dearly, but I don't know what would be the right words to say or if we would be better to put this behind and both move on with our lives apart. I was born December 15, 1958 at 8:30 am. Thank you for guidance.
Sagittarius
Dear Sagittarius
I believe that friendship is the operative word here. The comparison showed nothing more than that. It also revealed that there certainly is some mistrust, disillusionment or possible deception as well. Now that could have to do with the fact that you didn't even give her an explanation when you backed away. I fell that you have two choices and they are to move on and prepare to meet someone else who matches up to you much better physically and mentally or phone her up, be honest about your feelings and ask to resume the friendship. When I say friendship I mean just that. I believe that anything more would lead to trouble. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. If she isn't interested at least you'll know and can move on. You tend to match up to those born under the signs Aries, Cancer, Libra and Aquarius (she is not a very strong Aquarius). It is apparent that you do much better with people who are much older or much younger than yourself. You will be in a high cycle regarding love next year so don't waste too much of your time trying to turn what you have with your Aquarian friend into anything more than a friendship at this point.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I hope very much that you can help me. I was born on 26 December 1963 at 3.35 AM and my ex-boyfriend was born 10 January 1967. We have been together for four or so years and he has just told me that we are finished. He has always been a 'closed book' as far as feelings go or showing them at least. He told me that while he misses me and 90% of the time he is happy with me, there are certain characteristics of mine that he cannot stand. The main being, and I admit this - I tend to overindulge in alcohol on occasions. He feels that I have a problem with this and will not tolerate it any longer.
We don't live together and I have always felt that I was the one giving a lot more than him. We live in a small country town where gossip is rife and unfortunately a lot of people have nothing more to do than embellish.My childhood was odd and I have recently lost my brother and I feel that these things influence my behavior at times.
I asked him if I had lost him forever and he replied that we both had a lot of thinking do.
Please help me. I am so lost and sad and while I believe in taking responsibility for my actions - is there any chance for us?
EllyMM
Dear EllyMM
Your comparison was certainly good enough to make it work however I worry that too much has happened for him to turn back. Your chart indicates that you are and have been going through a period of over indulgence that does need to be stopped. I believe that he is truly concerned for you and just can't take how you react when under the influence. It's time to pull your act together and hope that it's not too late to win him back. You do have a transit moving through your chart until the Spring of next year that indicates that people from your past are likely to come back into your life but you will have to work hard for it to be him. He will be experiencing a similar transit so the possibility if you take all the right steps is present. I suggest that you stop indulging all together in order to save yourself a lot of grief in the future.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia!
I was born on Feb. 6, 1975 at 7:00 p.m. (19:00). Recently, I have a headache just thinking of my job. I think the basic reason is my personality. I'm working for a trading company dealing with chemicals. My position is sales deputy manager. I want to be a salesman but I'm not interested in chemicals at all. My boss and I worked at the same company until this January. He set up his own company and he asked me to help him. So I started this new job from this January. Studying about chemicals is difficult. This is the first problem. I want something more active and fresh. But my boss is really friendly and good to me so I'm hesitant to leave.
I am thinking what I really want to do everyday. A few weeks ago, I went to a fortune-teller. He said that I had better do creative things like fashion design or whatever. He added that I should start as soon as possible and would be successful when I'm 30 years old. Maybe he is right because I'm bored of the routine at work already. I have changed my job two times in the past two years. I don't regret making the change because it was a sedentary job and I don't like it. I'm trying to think what creative work would be good for me. Fashion illustrator? But I don't have any talent working with my hands, but I do have a sense of style.
Anyway, this is the second question I have. I don't know what is better for me in the future. I only know that I do not like chemicals. Should I keep this job because I have to keep the promise with my boss? Or should I change my job? As you said, timing is important. Sometimes I think I'm wasting my time on something that is all wrong for me. Am I right?
Hard to decide....anxiously need your help
Helen
Dear Helen
You are headed toward a high cycle regarding your work however it will be more predominant beginning next February therefore you do have some time to make up your mind and to look around. Regarding sales, you can do quite well in that field, however what you sell will make all the difference in the world. There are a few options that you might find interesting however for some of them you may have to pick up additional knowledge or courses. I suggest that if that is the case you do so between now and the end of January if possible. You can do well in the fashion industry however I think it would be more in an area of buying not designing. Keep in mind that anything you do can be creative. You also show talent in the field of technology. That could mean selling ideas, concepts etc for a .com company that offers you options. You also show promise in the area of communications and that can mean working with computers, internet, radio, television etc. You have many choices to make and it will be dependent on your knowledge and your ability to jump from one field to another as to how well or how far you will go. The timing is right for you to pick your direction and signing up for courses that will bring you the knowledge required to help you get the position you want by the early part of next year.
Eugenia
