We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: From Sagittarius

Hi Eugenia

I met a very special person (February 4, 1969) 4 years ago after having met her at work. Once we talked, we realized we had a lot in common between us and it was amazing how closely the pattern of each of our lives seemed so much alike from our childhood to the present. We knew from the beginning that we could be very good for each other and therefore, we became very close friends almost instantly as though we had known each other all of our lives. I discovered that I could open up to her, like no other person in my life, and tell some of my most intimate feelings and hidden fears that I had carried inside all of my life as she did with me. Ironically, I have always seemed to have the problem of letting myself get too close to people even though I have many friends, they are not intimate friends. As we became closer throughout the 4 years, I have felt myself becoming very scared of getting too close, being hurt and even left behind, without reason, so I in turn distanced myself from her more and more without an explanation. She became less interested in our friendship and it began to unravel for both of us due to the stress of it all. Since December of last year, we have not spoken at all and it has really been a very devastating experience for me. It has changed me as a person in so many ways. I wish very much that I could rekindle our friendship that I miss dearly, but I don't know what would be the right words to say or if we would be better to put this behind and both move on with our lives apart. I was born December 15, 1958 at 8:30 am. Thank you for guidance.

Sagittarius

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Dear Sagittarius

I believe that friendship is the operative word here. The comparison showed nothing more than that. It also revealed that there certainly is some mistrust, disillusionment or possible deception as well. Now that could have to do with the fact that you didn't even give her an explanation when you backed away. I fell that you have two choices and they are to move on and prepare to meet someone else who matches up to you much better physically and mentally or phone her up, be honest about your feelings and ask to resume the friendship. When I say friendship I mean just that. I believe that anything more would lead to trouble. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. If she isn't interested at least you'll know and can move on. You tend to match up to those born under the signs Aries, Cancer, Libra and Aquarius (she is not a very strong Aquarius). It is apparent that you do much better with people who are much older or much younger than yourself. You will be in a high cycle regarding love next year so don't waste too much of your time trying to turn what you have with your Aquarian friend into anything more than a friendship at this point.

Eugenia

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Article: A Bachelor at Heart

Dear Eugenia,

I have been in love with my husband for a very long time. Our relationship has weathered many ups and downs but the past few years have been particularly difficult. He has been unfaithful and is currently unable to make a decision between staying and recommitting to our marriage or not. I was born on april29/55 (@ 5:55pm). He is a Scorpio (November 17/55). With all that we have been through (on a variety of levels) my heart still hopes for an honest chance at happiness. I can't bear this pain.

Together or Not

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Dear Together or Not

I can understand your position. As a Taurus with a strong Cancer and Scorpio influence you don't really relish disruptions of any kind especially when it has to do with your home, family and security. The comparison with your husband was okay but it did lack some pizzazz. He may be a Scorpio but when it comes to love and romance he has his natal Venus in the sign Sagittarius and that is usually an indication that married or not he will always be a bachelor at heart. I think it's time to set him free and get on with your life. You have a lot to offer and can still find love and romance with someone more worthy of your loyalty, dedication and devotion. You need to start doing the activities you used to enjoy, get back into the swing of things. It may be frightening at first but you will be fine. Keep in mind that it can be extremely lonely living with someone who pays little attention to you. You deserve more and you can have it. Your chart indicates that it's time to focus on yourself and your future. I feel that if your husband saw you as a challenge he may want to reconcile, however if I were you, I'd think long and hard before I'd jump into that situation again. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces. Take note that the Scorpio in your husband's chart is what initially attracted you, not the Sagittarius. Another Scorpio with his natal Venus in Scorpio, Capricorn or Virgo would probably match up quite nicely.

Eugenia

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Article: Getting Harder To Get Up

Dear Eugenia:

I sincerely hope that you can find some order in my swirling mass of chaotic emotions. I am a Taurus woman (born May 6, 1971 at 1:36 p.m.) that was deeply hurt last year by a Cancer (July 10, 1968) whom I thought I was going to marry, and then by a Capricorn (January 14, 1971) who lied to me, yet still shows up in my life now and then and tells me how much he misses me (and he has a girlfriend now too - a Pisces). I don't mean to sound bitter, but I feel that my relationships are always doomed to failure, and every time I get knocked down (figuratively speaking, of course), it gets a little harder to stand back up again. I'm starting to feel a little better about myself, but I am still wounded by the fact that Mr. Cancer didn't want to marry me because of my medical condition (I'm diabetic), and it was his parents that forced him to break up with me. I want to feel good about myself again, and I don't want to be lonely anymore: I feel that I am ready to start a relationship - one that would hopefully lead to a future marriage. My question is this: should I actively pursue relationships at this time, or do I need a little more time to concentrate on myself and my well-being? If you could give me some insight into the next six months (if possible), you could help ease my troubled mind a little so I can focus on a positive direction in my life.

Thank you ever so much
Eternally grateful

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Dear Eternally grateful

You are best to get the Cancer out of your mind. If he wasn't strong enough to stand up for you when his family discouraged him you have to know that he wasn't right for you. The Capricorn was really someone who was meant to be a social acquaintance. As for the signs best suited to you consider a Taurus, Virgo, Scorpio or Pisces. You are in a high cycle for meeting someone new right now however that transit will only be with you until late May. After that I suggest that you focus on yourself, your career and your home. You will be in another high cycle from mid July on for the next couple of years.

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