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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Miss Last,
This is my first time writing to an advice column and I feel funny. But I'd really appreciate some advice. There's someone I met about a yearback. She's funny, sweet, and seems genuinely nice. I was falling for her in a big way then she told me that she was actually attached with a married guy. Needless to say, I backed off real fast and tried to cool off everything. Eventually she broke off with this other guy. Well, I really like her as a friend but she came on too strong. We parted for a while, but at a chance meeting, we felt the sparks between us and got back together. Our relationship went on for a while. Sexually, we're very compatible, she's fantastic. I guess we connect really well. She's very nice, always doing things for me, but she's erratic, compulsive, obsessiveand has this irritating habit of interrupting. And I find myself keep looking out for other women because I don't find stability with her. Late last year, she told me she's pregnant. After questioning her, it turned out that she's lying. I felt cheated. This sweet naive girl who never told lies, told me a big one so convincingly. I didn't intend to see her again. Then as it turned out, she got pregnant for real. Because of her lies, we didn't take precaution. I felt trapped and cheated. What's worse, she promised to keep it mum between us but ended up telling most of our friends. Well, we went together for the abortion. After that, I felt so stressed by all the questioning from our friends, I took some time out. Instead of understanding, she became so demanding and unreasonable, she'd call me every 10mins or so. When I ignored her, she attempted to commit suicide. This freaked me out. Anyway, during this time, I got to know another gal better, and she has been very supportive over the whole incident. And she made me happy. Though my ex and I are no longer together, I feeling uncomfortable when I see her scantily dressed flirting with other guys at the pub. She lost quite a bit of weight and has taken to wearing sexy clothing. I thought that she was leading a new life and is happy. But recently, she buys me an expensive wallet and through our friends, I found out that she is still in love with me. I don't think we can be together again because she has hurt me badly twice, and I will not let her hurt me a third time. But she has started calling me on and off again, even getting her friends to call me as well. It's affecting my work and my life. I'm so afraid of her that I've even avoided our usual haunts and pubs. Help! How do I resolve this situation? She's born on December 19, 1974, somewhere around midnight. I was born August 9, 1971, at 9:53 AM.
Cornered Leo
Dear Cornered Leo
The comparison was adequate with your Sagittarius girlfriend but you did have plenty of obstacles to overcome. Problems with emotional mind games and dishonesty were prevalent as were issues that dealt with every day life. I fear that you aren't over her yet or you probably would have mentioned your latest girlfriends birth date. My first suggestion would be to run like the wind, don't look back and avoid at all costs this so called innocent, na?ve, sweet girl. I found your description somewhat strange. Her chart indicates that she is the type of person who will take drastic measures in order to get what she wants. That she will overreact and that she isn't likely to settle down or commit completely to anyone. She doesn't have a bad chart however it is one that could be described as the chart of a playgirl. I fear she has been toying with you and it's time for you to completely put a stop to it. Get on with your life. You are moving into a high cycle where love and romance are concerned and although someone from your past could try to come back into your life you are best to look for new partners instead. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Leo, Libra and Aquarius.
E
Dear Eugenia,
I have dated. I have been engaged a few times but never married (I think I always took marriage too seriously -- and never could promise to do all that marriage entails). I had a loving relationship with a man who had a terminal illness, who died in '95. I have always kept the door open in my heart that I might find a life-long partner, but now I wonder: should I shut the door on this option? I'm not afraid of being alone. I am afraid of nurturing false hope in myself. I was born January 6, 1953, at 5:45 am.
Thank you.
Capricorn
Hi Capricorn
You should never close the door on love, romance, marriage, partnership etc. One of the reasons why you have gone the route but never crossed the line when it came to marriage is due to having your natal Uranus in an area of your chart that deals with relationships opposite your Sun in an area of your chart that deals with your personal outlook. This has probably caused you or your partners throughout life to back away or have a change of heart at the last minute. With transiting Saturn moving into that area of your chart there has never been a better time to find love and get serious then now. Also with your Moon in the sign Virgo it isn't unusual for you to find love or get into a serious relationship during the second half of life. In your case you are moving into a high cycle regarding love right now and you should be out meeting new people. This particular transit can also bring someone from your past back into your life so perhaps if there is someone you still think about you should readdress this relationship. In the past the timing was probably wrong with this person. This is a great year for you creatively, educationally and where growth is concerned. You should be expanding your circle of friends, getting involved in discussions or courses that will alter your philosophy, attitude, lifestyle and outlook. You are going through changes and that is part of the reason you are feeling somewhat concerned or restless about finding love or backing away from it completely. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, early Cancer, Virgo, Sagittarius, Capricorn and Pisces.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I feel so frustrated and unhappy at times. Nearly 5 years ago I moved to another province with my partner (March 13, 1951) so that we could be near his kids. We thought it was for the best; one of the children was having problems and it made sense to be closer. But problems with his ex-wife have never gone away and it's just never improved here. We don't get to see the kids and it's been at times a nightmare dealing with his ex. On top of that, we have had financial difficulties almost from the beginning. I couldn't find full time work for ages and he found work, was laid off and has been trying to do contracting since. I finally found work that I like but I am still not very happy. My partner gets work sporadically and we are just not doing well financially. I get frustrated with him and frustrated with this situation. Plenty of times I think about leaving. My head says go home, my heart says stay here. I don't feel that this is the right place for me. It seems a waste of time since we rarely see his kids anyway. My biggest concern is finding work; his is losing the kids even more. But I still feel the burning desire to move home. Do you see me (or us together) leaving here and returning home or moving someplace else? What is our financial outlook for the next year? I was born September 12, 1961 at 10:44 am. Thanks for listening.
Virgo/Pisces
Dear Virgo/Pisces
Without your husbands time of birth it is difficult to know what he will do. He is facing some changes and I do believe that emotionally he will be getting his life together over the course of the next year while he benefits from a Saturn transit that is moving through his chart. On the other hand he may also be questioning his personal direction as well. Once he has come to some decisions regarding his ex and his children he should be able to make a move. I believe that will begin to make more sense to him in August of this year. Your comparison was good but there are signs of emotional deception which means you probably aren?t communicating with one another the way you should be right now. It is time for both of you to talk openly and honestly about what you really want to see happen in the future. Your chart does indicate that you should stick it out together but also that it would be better for you to make a move back to where you have the support of friends and family. Once again without your husbands time of birth I can not tell whether he should make the move or if he will.
Eugenia
