We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Hello! Eugenia
First of all I would like to say that it is very good that you use your talant to help others. I like your site very much. I even can say that it has helped me a lot. Unfourtunatelly my problem is connected with love life. As you can see I am born in 21st of July in 1980 (6 AM). It comes out that I am cancer. I really feel like this sensitive person when it comes to love life. I have been dating with three guy during my life. All these love relationships were very idealistic and romantic. I really loved (i guess i still do in some way) these guys. Especially the last one - Arnis (born April 2 in 1978, 12.10 AM), which i can call my dream boy. He really was it until the beginning of this year. He changed. He said he loves me but he doubts. Doubts whether we should be together or not. It hurt me so much - that there are no tenderness or interest left. Now we are divorced for almost 3 months. I was the one who initiated it but i hoped that he will change his mind and will come back to me. He still says he doubts. We are not seeing each other, only communicating via e mail. Even theoriticaly I am free , i feel that he is not letting me go. He does nothing but also somehow keeps me in control. What should I do? If you would ask me- what do you want. I would say that I want to continue this relationship. I would like to fight for our love and future. But I don't want to do it on my own. I want to feel that he also wants it and that he loves me. The pity thing is that all previous relationships also ended in a way like this - O was the one who wanted to continue, but other person did nothing. But i admired them so much. Arnis is so different from me and that's why i adore him. He is so elegent, clever, interesting, also - loving and romantic. i can't imagine better guy. But when he doesn't have interest in me it hurts very, very much. I was thinking maybe something is wrong with the fact that emotionally i am like scorpio - the most deepest and possesive sign. I want to love in more light way! can i do something about it? it seems to me that then i would be more easy going lover, maybe that i would gain more attention from my loved ones because they would see that i am not depending on them so much. Now i feel that i cannot think about anything else than Arnis. I want to have loving and long lasting relationship so very much! but it seems that life leads me in different direction. what should i do? is there possibility that i could be happy with arnis? what should i do or change to get beautiful love life? Hope to hear from you very much!
Anda
Dear Anda
There is nothing wrong with being sensitive, warm and loving you just have to find the right partner, the partner who will appreciate you for who you are. The comparison with your Aries boyfriend wasn't that great and although he may be charming and all, he is also a bit of a player when it comes to women. He would have a hard time dealing with any women who was too possessive or clingy. You have qualities that lots of men would absolutely adore. You are being too hard on yourself. You are just 22 years old and you have your whole life ahead of you. You are going through a cycle that is wonderful for getting involved in worthwhile groups or organizations that you believe in. This is your time to get out and meet all sorts of new people. You should be building friendships and deciding in your own mind what it is that you really want in a partner. I think that if you are completely honest with yourself you will realize that you want someone who will be just as warm, loving and affectionate as you are. There will be plenty of opportunities for new partnerships to develop over the next twelve months so for you to dwell on the past or sit around waiting for your Aries man to change his mind would be a mistake. Human nature is to always want what you think you can't have. Let him go a
Dear Eugenia
I am dating one guy, and I have feelings for my best friend. My best friend recently confessed his feelings for me. But my boyfriend and I have a decent relationship. Also I feel me and my boyfriend may be drifting apart just a little. I came to this conclusion because we use to just sit and talk for hours on end but now we rarely talk about anything. I need help on what I should do in this situation. Oh I also forgot to mention I have had feelings for my best friend since I met him 12 years ago, and that he is in the military and he confessed his feelings for me after he came back from overseas saying how he realized that he " has a great person who cares for him right in front of him." Thank you for your time and help! By the way my boyfriends birth data is: Nov 21, 1984 I am not sure of the time or the birthplace though. And my friends birth data is August10, 1984 I am also not sure of the birth time or place for him either. I was born September 25, 1983 at 11:25 AM.
Libra
Dear Libra
Quite the dilemma - you actually match up astrologically to both men. Your best friend a little bit better. Your best friend falls in an area of your chart that deals with your status, position in society and choice of friends. I've always believed that the best relationships are those that start out as a friendship and build. Your current boyfriend falls in an area of your chart that deals with hidden matters, secret affairs etc so I'm sort of wondering how you managed to turn this one into a long term relationship when it was probably meant to be a short but sweet love connection.
Your chart indicates that you are going through a period of change. Especially the way you view your relationships with others. This started to hit your chart at the end of last year and has probably left you somewhat confused. I don't know that you will ever feel totally satisfied in your current relationship especially now that you know that your best friend feels the same way you do.
Your chart indicates that you are moving through a period of change. That it may be time to take a break from your current relationship so that you can sort out your thoughts and discover what it is you really need when it comes to a one-on-one relationship. Don't feel bad but don't live a lie either. If you truly want to find out if your relationship with your best friend can be more you are best to end the relationship you are in first. I feel that given time your friendship with your Leo man will turn into a long-lasting relationship.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
About 7 years ago I fell in love with a man and got hurt very deeply. I have consulted astrologers, psychics, and have utilized every possible resource to find out what went wrong. I gave my heart to this man and I am not a person who trusts people in the first place. I am wondering how two people can be so close emotionally and yet drift apart so easily. He is 19 years older than I am but we were like soul mates. I thought about suicide many times but God and my family have helped me to get through my grief. I have never loved anyone this much in my lifetime. Will he ever get in contact with me again or was I just used by him? His birth date is 8/28/1948, mine is 8/03/1967, at 8:38 PM.
Betrayed
Dear Betrayed
You do match up quite well to your Virgo man. You have that sign in an area of your chart that deals with relationships. You are going to be going through a period in the fall that could bring people from your past back into your life however I have a feeling that the reason that your Virgo left the last time was due to commitment problems. He was born with his natal Moon in Gemini adversely aspected to his natal Mercury in Virgo and his natal Jupiter in Sagittarius. This can cause him to be emotionally unstable when it comes to settling down. This is not something that is likely to change. He could very well be a confirmed bachelor. I believe that you need to move on. Your chart indicates that you are very sensitive, loving and loyal and that you want to be involved in a long-term commitment. During the fall of this year you will have some opportunities to meet potential partners if you get out and do things that you enjoy. You match up well to those born under the signs Virgo, Capricorn and Pisces.
Eugenia
